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Whats been happening?

Did anything bad happen?

 

 

I see your profile dating status reads"non"

Uh yeah, we are not longer together. Weird huh?

I'm sorry...

I guess I don't know what happened...

I'ts ok. Im sure you are not the only one. 

Yeah... I'm only here on mindsay now...

So I'm information deprived

That's alright hehe.

Would it be okay if I asked what happened?

Well...i do not want to get personal, i want to respect his silence (if any)....all i can say is that it did not work out for more than one reason. 

I'm sorry. That's terrible...

You guys were so cute.

It's ok, but thanks though. ^.^

 

How you been?

I've been good.
I went through quite a bit the last few weeks... but I'll make it through.

Things, what kind of things if you dont mind me asking....i hope all goes well.

 

 

Ok,,...is it just my misunderstanding, but...are you enganged?!

Just me and my boyfriend... I'd rather not go into it.

Yes.. me and Davis are engaged

I wont push it ^.^

 

Oh my goodness!! My have i missed out on a lot here! Congrats girl! Hehe, so when is the wedding?  Hehe

Hahaha... It'll be a while. We wanted to get engaged so the next time we see each other we can get married.
He gave me his ring when I saw him last time.

Aww! So very cute >.<  I wish you two the best!!! 

Thank you

Hey Girl -
Miss hearing from or about you and hope you are doing well. 
Don't be a stranger. 
I'm on fb, too.

Hehe thanks ^_^

Long time no speak... you ok? We're here for you
I heard on facebook, but I'd like to do what I can to sort things out, sometimes there's horrible misunderstandings and people say things they don't really mean and good things get lost, and I'd rather sort things out so people can be happy, or at least I can be a place where you can vent

I thank you for your concern, truly *smiles*.

That was taken care of. We were ok after "that". Im sorry you had to see it though, i hate that he posted that for the entire world to see, that was not right.

We are taking slowly again, but it had seemed quite bumpy now, we'll see where we end up.

Thank you again! And it was very nice hearing from you again! I should come here more often ^_^

I hope you are doing well. Keep in touch!

You're welcome Sorry if I reminded you...

Good to hear! And don't worry I don't mind. And I think he was probably just distressed, shouting it out is like a way of crying out for support sometimes I think, it's a shame dialogue broke down but good it's better now

Yea... well you know each other anyway... probably know each other better now than you did before actucally

Welcome!
Am doing! (just got back from spain) Will do!

No need to be sorry. 

Things have just ended for me too... But I don't feel too bad because I kinda prepared for it.
And I'm sorry to hear : / Did it really have to happen? (forgive me - it's because of what I've just gone through).

It was nice! And hotter than here (england) but not unbearable, we (me and parents) stayed at a beach hotel in La Pinedas, Costa Daurada - and we got to visit barcelona by coach excursion! I have pictures, some on my profile from my camera

I asked him if there was anything he wanted to say to you...

"If there's anything you'd like to say to her, just let her know that I never wanted her to leave, and if she decides to at least call me back, she's more than welcome to."

*sigh*. No need to say anything

Im sorry about your end. I do not know what to say really....and no, the question is ok...yes it did..need i say more?

It's okay You don't need to say more. Mine said it had to, but, it didn't... she wouldn't try and didn't care , and if she had done either of those 2 we'd've been ok - but *sigh* I can't make her do that there was nothing I could do in the end : / - she didn't even say anything was wrong, I didn't get a chance when I didn't even know : / But *sigh* I guess no use dwelling over it
1 month...



I hope so too

I have facebook! I'll add you!

Cool.

That's a good approach , it is hard but it's pretty plain to me now... I don't accept it though because I wouldn't do that myself, I don't put myself first
You didn't want commitment? : / - that's what he believed was the reason anyway, but I won't press you to talk about it if you'd rather not

Commitment was not the problem. I obviously do not have touble with commitment in general, otherwise out relationship would not have laster two years....lets just say there were things about him i loved, like himself, but other things about him only made me push away from him....Does this even make sense? 

Ahhhh, does make sense He was unpleasent to you maybe?

I do not want to get too personal now...just things, or situations that made it difficult for the both of us...always brought up the question whether it was worth it. 

That's okay, And if it was long running like that, probably wasn't much of a shock/loss to either system - I mean like you say, you thought it was in his interests (or that's what I gather).

Not a word He added me to facebook a long time ago and me+him just noticed each other's breakups, that's all - that's the only real line of communication I really have left with him, and we've faded out, just made sure each other were okay and empathising with each other really, it's on my profile page if you really wanted to see (but it probably wouldn't do you any good).
I'm willing to be messenger for either of you but that'd only be if you wanted something passed on, which if not is fine!

No messeges need to be passed on, but i thank you. I also wont use you like that lol.

"I mean like you say, you thought it was in his interests (or that's what I gather)."---what do mean? O.o..me lost here hehe.

 

lol Okay! I don't mind though, I'd only be doing it to get both of you at peace with the past

haha it's okay, you said sometimes breaking up can be the best thing you can do for the other person. So it's like a choice for their benefit

Oh yes yes! I understand now. Hehe.

 

But right now, i think we are both better off with no communication...he wants it like that, and it does me good too. Perhaps in the future. ^.^

 

But i really do believe this was/is the best desicion for the both of us....at least i can say so in my part...i hope for him too.

Okilydokily, and doors always open I guess

I hope so, he may not realise it if it is though, but it may be, if there was no other way, I assume not though

Yep yep. 

Sure! I didn't see what drove you appart, but I think things broke down (like you two argued and there wasn't a way to really communicate). I think this did make him angry/frustrated on his end in the final days, which to you may've seemed like verbal abuse (especially after because ex's sometimes try to dislike the other to distance themselves from them)... and I think ultimately you'd just grown tired of the relationship as a whole, and wanted out anyway, I think you were pretty adamant of that in the end because you seemed adamant about it being the right decision to me, like no looking back. I think he was still emotionally bonded to you at the time you split, explaining both his upset and anger.

One thing every split couple should remember though - don't rate the whole relationship/ the ex (or even lost friends) on how it ended - you were probably both very happy for a time, as I was with my ex - even though I don't for a second like what mine did, and even if she hates me now, if only for a few weeks she gave me something no other woman had before.

Of course i will not rate it on the break up, it hurt...a lot....because i knew there was something there...i will never forget it, not neglect it, but i too have to think of what happened between us and what could be the best for the both of us, even if it evolves letting each other go.

 

My mind was made up because of his action towards me...or actions i suppose. Quite difficult.

As far as hate goes, strong word, strong emotion. The contrast from love...which, unless you did something really bad against her, i do not think she would come to that. Just after the break, and i speak out of experience, time can heal...and that means time away from the one we loved.

There was no other way? : /

I won't make you talk, but was it uncalled for whatever he did? - from his point of view (like he might've been brutal because he was upset or something)

It is hate unfortunately, she finds even thinking about me makes her sick, and unfortunately she's not one to always want to face her feelings. What I did was reveal that she was my ex after promising at the beginning of the relationship not to tell anyone, but to me any honour behind that promise was null-and-voided when she broke her promise to me and went off to fall in love with another guy (while still dating), who she eventually dumped me for. She sees 100% of the blame on me, like she has the right to do what she wants but I'm not allowed to react (sorry). Also I think, like why the hell should I honour that promise if she betrayed me? And it made it impossible to talk to anyone, and I couldn't talk to her because she wouldn't take in what I was saying, and that's the frustrating part. I feel she cheated me out of everything she promised.

You're right, time can heal, but I don't like leaving loose ends, like I always like to eventually reach an understanding and make up with people, so all the time it's like that it'll play on my concience, I'm not easily able to completely hate anyone back, so I can't disconnect

There was another way...me keeping my mouth shut and keeping it in...not being honnest.......i dont know if that even explains anything to you. I know we both might have our point of views about this, im not even sure he knew/knows why i decided on that decision.

 

His point of view? Like if he knew he did something wrong or "brutal"?...what do you mean?

 

...like she has the right to do what she wants but I'm not allowed to react  (sorry). Why do you apoligize?

 

I am sorry to hear that though. No one deserves to be cheated on. Have you asked her why she did what she did? And im sorry, but i misunderstood the promise both of you made...  

This is where it can be difficult, when in now broken relationships, people tend to see only their point of view...id like to understand his point of view on this...but i am not one to cinvince or just point finger, i have fault in it too.

 

I too do not like leaving loose ends either. I would like to have things at peace...(especially because i see him at my work place). But there is only so much i can do or say, i too do not want to push it if he wants that space. I always did say, i was and am willing to have a friendship...but of course, that is almost always difficult with exs...still...i too have my doors open for friendship for him....no hard feelings is how i see it. And hey, perhaps that friendship could even help us better ourselves by letting each other know where/how we did wrong to each other. I know i'd like to know my faults and wrong doings...otherwise how will i learn?.

^_^

I have no idea haha, but generally, I think it's always right (and ultimately necessary) to oommunicate, because otherwise it just builds up inside until it becomes unbearable and it just breaks anyway; I think that's part of what happened with my ex, she wouldn't talk to me about anything she felt uncomfortable about, so I didn't know. And it was just out of the blue for me, to her it built up to an unresolvable point, I never had the chance to sort it out, but if I had I would've done everything I could, stressful as it may be to do that, but by that point she didn't want that anyway because she'd already made up her mind and commited to someone else : /

 

His point of view... in that maybe to him he felt justified for whatever he did? Maybe there was a misunderstanding, or something not realised, not sure.

 

I appologise because I feel bad about showing too much emotion/ letting you see that side to me. I can get angry sometimes if I feel something's unfair for either myself or someone I protect (like how she was to me) but I try to keep the strength of feeling inside and say things so that I'm firm and stand my ground and make my point but without spilling too much. Like it can tear me up inside, but people generally (including my bosses) seem more likely to accept more of what I'm saying the more I control it

 

I think her heart was just more open to him, she never really switched out of single mode. The promises, were things like that we were only sweet for each other, that we'd meet, and snuggle and be romantic, I was so looking forward to it, almost dreaming about it, and it just got snatched out of my hand. It's getting easier now though, I think I am moving on, I'd still like to be romantic, because at the end of the day I'm a guy and it's my instincts, even if I'm not that experienced it's like a natural dream to me, but just without her now I guess. I'm starting to see things more clearly now I think, love can blind you, and I'm not sure quite what I 'loved' about her in the first place now, if she was like that.

 

Precisely, it's like that with me + her too, we see out own views. There are two sides to every story I guess but both sides have to be considered or answered for I think, you must've had some valid points and reasons that he should've taken on board even if you did have fault. I made mistakes with mine, and I didn't realise, but at least both of us recognising is a good sign I guess, it shows learning I guess and a new start, it takes one more problem out of the equation to whatever you do

 

Friendship could work, so long as you're both able to swallow an feelings, it could be hard, depends how much feelings were behind it and whether you can both move on, it could be hard to talk about problems without emotions spilling out, but it could be necessary to deal with the past, it's a very good (and mature) thing I think to take and learn from feedback, and it takes guts

Communication can be difficult for women. Like i mentioned, i had that problem, only i felt it blew up in my face when i did finally said what i felt...but that is a different story >.^

 

Misunderstaing is what it always turned out to be...always a misunderstanding, or just pride...

You do not need to apoligize at all for what you want to express. I am honored that you even trust me at all to tell me what you think and your opinion in things.

 

Yeah, you get to see things you did not notice while in the realtionship...and it almost makes you wonder how it lasted the time it lasted...but that, to me, does not mean there was nothing there...it still hurts, but i must keep strong right.

 I too am romantic, by nature, scorpio haha. Love is blinding...too blinding, which is why one should always think before we feel....most of the time at least.

I'd like to have it all answered, although sometimes things are better done unsaid....i dont fully agree with that though hehe. Recognition is better...like i said, ill rather know to better myself.

 

It would be really hard to be friends, but ill rather have friendship and somewhat good ties, than have anything against one another. That is why it is best we dont really communicate till we have cleared up all emotions...or most of them...wow...wonder how long that would take.

 

^_^   

 

 

 

I won't press you on that, but yeah, I think as long as you try, like try to identify what you feel and try to communicate them, and the lucky guy tries to listen, you should be okay. I think if it's severe enough we don't make the same mistakes more than once.

All too often (sigh)

aww Thank you! Well... I felt like I could. It's a good and (seemingly) rare thing, that you appreciate trust, rather than expect it like so many do. And a lot of people fight when they see emotion about anything, it's almost taboo, but to be able to feel I can express a bit, that's good!

Same here, I'd say actually that I only even got to see that side to her when we split. It would've been there all along though, in the shadows. And probably helped doom the whole thing. I'm Leo ! So haha quite an intense one too. I agree totally too, and it goes with what we were just saying about things you only see without love blinding them. I think it always has to be taken slowly and cautiously to be made sure it's right and it'd work, and like slowly find the things that you do/don't love, and so that nothing catches you off-guard when you do invest yourself (I've learned from that one! lol), so that when you do, you can be confident.

I went through a phase of wanting to know everything! haha, I couldn't bear not to I was so curious, but that's passed. I think know the things that are important, leave some things to mystery, and leave some things to be explained in ways that words cannot.

Understandable, and a good approach, if you could do that, I'm not sure I could in that situation, it is hard, that's normal. In this age of emails though I guess you could always talk some years down the line or something. How long it'd take - depends on you, I find being constantly reminded of something even when I don't want to, eventually it sort of dulls any effect that thing had on my mind, so I nolonger associate (for example) her name, or music, or personality with her, I'd end up just thinking of it for what it is; something that applies to lots of other people too.
Gotta have whiskers!

Well it makes me glad that you at least feel somewhat trusting to expressing your thoughts, and or, emotions to me. Hehe. And i hate when people shun that out, i dont like to be cold. 

Thankyou! And I know I can. It's a credit to you, to be a warm person

haha I have no idea! 100% agree, it's like trying to climb down a cliff face, there's more than one way to get down to the ground below, and one way is faster than the other...

I've heard that we get "life reviews" when we die, and we see all the details and effects and intentions, and feelings and everything I can't imagine how not knowing could be good, unless it was to affect how you'd live immediately after. I think whether you get the chance to learn it within life depends on things in life that are in other people's control - I don't know if I could really say everything is divine will, because some of it could be the random will of someone in life who just decides to not do something, and in life they will have some control/effect, but I think the divines would be absolute experts at guiding people and putting them in the right places at the right times, short of forcing their will.

mhmm! It all depends on how you look upon it, gotta think long term too

lol there ya go!

Hmm interesting way of looking at it. mhmm

Yea... and I think the reason why caution is needed, is that problems can exist in a heart (I still have some just for facing life really), and it's painful if 2 hearts connect when there's problems or darkness. Like it's only because of that that people have to be afraid at all. I can imagine a world where everyone is fully confident in everything, and nothing ever has to be held back, but that's only possible when they have no cause to fear anymore.

Yep, just a name really, I used 'divine' as a softer, broader term (if one/more exists), because some personify one "God" as a fixed personality, and because of that, already either love or hate him, and already have made their mind up about how he is or what his views are, which is why there's conflict. I need to see more really, I haven't seen enough myself to really be able to make a fair/accurate judgement or know what was/wasn't done by him, or why. Without knowing for sure what was done by him and why, I can't say either way.

Just playing a little catch-up here on MindSay. Buzzed by to say hi. Hope things are good for you & Rog.

Blessings,

MamaJo

Hello there! Nice of you to ask, nice to hear from you. Im not on as i use to be, been occupied. Rog and I are great. He really is a great guy tehe *blush*. How have you been my dear?

Like you I'm not on here much these days but gotta come say hey to my friends now & then. I'm doing ok. If I ever recuperate from moving. Didn't realize how much stuff I had accumulated in the four years I stayed with TorridGirl.
Please say hello to Roger for me. I saw the pictures from the latest RenFest TG took.  One of these days I'm going to go myself.
Good to hear from you.
Blessings,
MJ

Who is that in your profile?

Cause it looks like loveless and if it is.. I would officially love you.. That manga is so awesome.

 

 

 

I suppose it is hehe. Didn't even realize it. ^_^

I love that manga so much..

have you ever read it?

No i haven't. but will look for it now. It looks like it might be interesting.

It is!