Wedding @ MindSay

Wedding, the most anticipated day of a woman’s life takes sleep, as we are high on nerves by thinking about it. Woman draws a bead on many things for her wedding. Most importantly what matters to her are her looks. She wants to gander ilk ‘Queen of the world’ so that can cherish this moment throughout her life. And all these dreams are of full figured women too. They are no exception.

Wedding dress is the first step towards making all dreams true. For plus size women also there are no issues in getting a wedding dress. Shopping for plus size wedding dress is no different than any other woman shopping for her wedding dress. Designers have made this task much easier by knowing that all women cannot be of size 8. Full figured women can also be drop-dead gorgeous. Plus size brides are simply brides who happen to wear a plus size wedding dress. But still there are some important points that plus size women should keep in mind while selecting her wedding dress.

There are some styles that flatter plus size women a lot, seems made especially for them. An important consideration when shopping for your plus size wedding dress is to look for one that enhances your best features. The style of wedding dress that looks best on you will depend in large part on your body shape. So know your figure eloquently before purchasing. Take your time to shop carefully and choose wisely, and select a style that flatters your curves and camouflages your flaws.

 If you are a diamond freak then lets give you a diamond treat. Here in this article you will get a chance to know more about your precious and most admirable stones.

Diamonds are associated with divinity and are thought to bring good fortune. Formed by the nature’s most common element –carbon diamonds are the sources of fascination for all. These most valued and exclusively exorbitant diamonds are available in many colors.

White diamonds are mined all over the world and used most extensively as the jewel stones. Express your love to your beloved that is as pure as a white diamond by gifting her a diamond jewelry.

Pink diamonds are the most costly and rare ones, thus used in most of diamond wedding rings and diamond engagement rings.

Champaign diamonds are naturally colored and look exclusive fashionable when embedded in platinum or silver jewelry. Diamond promise rings are the symbol of your eternal love and trust for keeping your loved ones promises. Champaign diamonds are the most common shades for such rings.

Green Diamonds look elegantly beautiful when studded in gold, platinium or silver jewelry.

Blue diamond jewelry is appreciated mostly by the young generation as for its appealing looks and trendy color.

Yellow diamonds come with a brilliant color shine that makes them a perfect choice to be used in wonderful studded diamond earrings and diamond rings.

There are many other colors in which these diamonds are available. You can visit your nearby wholesale jewelry shop or any online jewelry store to get your favorite diamonds fitted in If you adore wearing your favorite diamonds on all occasions then choose the best one for you taking care of the purity and clarity of your diamond pick.

Diamonds are fitted in bracelets, bands, diamond wedding rings, diamond pendants, diamond necklaces and other men and women jewelry. Diamonds are your best friends if you want to acquire a dazzling grace and feel fabulously beautiful. Pacify you dreams by wearing these divine sparkling naturally gifted stones and have an awesome experience.

As our wedding approaches (78 days!)  we are starting to talk about ceremony, traditions, vows, songs, flowers and all the details.  We decided that it would nice to incorporate traditions from our parents and grandparents weddings. 

So now I would like to ask all you mindsayers:  What are some of the most memorable moments or interesting traditions that you incorporated into your wedding? 

I would love any advice on getting through the last stages of planning that include all the little details that I never really thought about.

Thanks!

Finally I'm able to just sit and let the words roll again...

This picks up from March 29ths posting.....

Backing up_

I met James(my husband now,then boyfriend!) when I was 15 and in the 10th grade. In those days, High school was split up into 2 years each,9-10 and 11-12, each at seperate places. It was the tail end of 10th grade and I was able to miss my last clas of the day because I was traveling on an activity bus to my Sr high school to try out for "Dancing Boots". There was a period of about 2 weeks where each afternoon I went to the Sr. high to try out. I made the team. More on this later....  Anyway, I decided to keep skippping my last class of the day which was, History! I made A's in there anyway...  I went and hung out on my bus instead. My bus driver was really cute and we had struck up being friends. Several bus drivers hung out on his bus while waiting for classes to let out, and we had a good time kidding around. At the time, I was dating James' best friend.I hadn't met James yet...  Anyway, it's late May, early June of 1979... The then boyfriend was becoming a pain...trying to ditch me.. He shows up at my house one afternoon to break a date with me and lo and behold, James is in the backseat of his car. He(the boyfriend) had several friends with him.  The boyfriend and I argued a bit, then James decided to say something... My very first words to him were" Why don't you just shut-up and mind your own business!" Well, great beginning huh? LOL- anyway the jerk and I broke up and then James started hanging out on my bus with the other drivers. He was a bus driver too. We picked on each other and kinda got to know one another.James was 2 years older than me and he was getting ready to graduate high school. Then James calls me one evening and asks me out. Our first date was June 15th,1979.  We went to see"Rocky 2" and then went to Hardees to eat. We went out just about every day after that first date. All summer long we went to tons of movies(they only cost us about $5.00 for the 2 of us to go!) and hung out. On July 10th, James gave me a promise ring. that was the thing back then. He said he had never met anyone like me and he was in love with me and I was "it", the ONE he'd been searching for. I felt the same way.  We talked for hours on the phone at night, usually my dad ran me off the phone at 2 in the morning! LOL Those were the days of one phone houses, and rotary phones! Ha!  We talked about nothing in particular, and just basically had fun. I turned 16 on July 12th and tried to have a sweet 16 party but it was planned for outside and it rained that day and evening, so there went my party, BUT James stuck by me all day and he took me out that night instead. One of the best birthdays I can remember! I started Sr high in the fall, and I quit the Dance team! Told ya I'd tell ya later about it... I wanted to be with James all the time so I quit! No regrets here! Anyway, we had  good year as we grew closer and closer. then I started my Sr. year. it's now mid 1980. Senior year was  a blast! Too much fun! Then Nov- Dec 1980 rolls around. James shows me these house plans that he drew up when he was younger and asks me if I llike them. I said I did. They were of a split- foyer with a full basement. Typical for that generation. I didn't think much of it.  Then James takes me to a wooded lot and says"This is where we are gonna build our house"    I'm thinking, Ok he's planning for down the road. We proceed to rope off an area in the woods to the size of a house.   next thing I know within the week, he has people out there digging out a basement and cutting down trees.....  Hummmm..... Anyway, James,his brother, and his dad all had two weeks off at Christmas... So they start building a house on top of the basement which has been blocked already...... the house gets framed out totally during those 2 weeks.... Now I can say that James took me for granted! LOL builing a house and I hadnt even said YES yet! LOL then Christmas Eve arrives and James is at my house for the evening. We steal some time alone in the living room.. he gives me this big box to open.... I open it and pull out a stuffed Panda Bear that is holding a fish velcroed to his paws. On the fish is a note. I open the note and it says in big letters"This is It! Will you marry me?"   I looked at him in surprise and he asks me, on his knees."Will You Marry Me,Tracee? I love you with all my heart."  I of course start crying and say "YES!"  Now I'm just 17 years old still at this point and still in high school, but I didnt care!  I had wanted to be a wife and mom since a little girl. I didnt care to go off to college.  I wanted a family to love! He slipped a ring on my finger and we kissed!   so we go to the den where my family is gathered and make our little announcement. Dad was a bit shocked, but he knew the day had been drawing near.... They gave us their blessing, but said I had to wait til  I graduated and til after I was 18. they weren't going to sign for me to get married because they didnt want me to come to them if the marriage didnt work and say you let me do this thing!  it was to be totally me!  more on this later!  

 Anyway, we got their blessings. now meanwhile, I had been going to church with James for a long time. I grew up in the Episcopal church, and my family didn't attend regularly. I believed in GOD, but I didn't KNOW GOD... I was basically a GOOD person... well, James was Baptist, and I had been hearing some things that I questioned him about alot. James was talking to me a lot and having me read verses. Well, on a Sunday night on Feb.8th 1981, I was with James at  his church for a revival meeting. James Ellis was the speaker. he preached Hell and Brimstone that night, but not in a condescending way... he explained things that were clear as a bell to me that night. my eyes and my heart were opened. Later that evening after lots of my questions to  my James in my living room at home, I accepted Christ as my Personal Saviour!  I was so giddy with happiness! my heart was overflowing... It does us good to remember the time and place we met the Master...   James was very happy too.  he had been working on me for a long time, and even though he had asked me to marry him knowing I wasn't saved, he had hope. he knew he was risking alot too. Believers should never yoke with unbelievers. the Bible tells us. His family had told him he shouldn't get involved with me, but when they heard that I got saved that night, they accepted me whole heartedly.   only thing was, I couldn't tell my dad about what I had done. Dad had a way of twisting things around and he would argue someone blue in the face, that there is no hell. so I kept this from my family for the time being. I knew God would let me know when the time was right  For Valentines day that following week, James gave me a scofield Bible, which I still carry and use to this day. that was a very loving present..   The months came on by and in late May of '81 we finished the house. it was ready.   I was busy planning my wedding and getting ready to graduate high school. Now is where I need to say that I did alot of the planning myself, bymyself. i didnt have my mother to turn to in this. She was there, but not really there. She is manic-depressive or bi-polar as the term better is known now. Since I was 11 she had been in and out of mental hospitals. I saw bizzarre behaviour during those yeaars and I had to grow up quick. I came home from school and took care of my younger brother. I got home before he did. I cleaned and cooked, and washed,etc... My brother is 6 years younger than me, and I hid him from a lot of what was going on.   anyway, It came down to the week before the wedding which by the way we planned for July 18th 1981. Dont think I mentioned that before now!  Those days you had to have your marriage license ahead of time. Well, guess what, the week before the 18th was the 12th which was my 18th birthday, and I had to carry my mom with me downtown for the license and SHE had to sign! we had to go on the 11th to get it, and being I wasn't 18 yet(just by a day!) and she had to sign! She was ticked!  anyway, got through that then the wedding. (At the end of May I graduated!) 

fast forward through those first years now...... Lots of things happened to us along the way, a son in 1988 and a daughter in 1991, along with the typical ups and downs of a marriage. It takes TWO. You both have to give and take in a marriage. IT CANNOT BE ONESIDED!!!  yes, we were young, and a lot of our friends said it wouldn't last, but it has, and it's almost 27 years strong....and going.....

anyway, some things happened in 1993 that werent good financially. So, my parents gave up their little apartment and moved in with us..... For 8 years they lived with us and got us back on our feet. During those years, Was when GOD opened the door and showed me how to witness to my dad. he was still stubborn... So I didnt talk, I SHOWED him Christian love... And he knew there was something differnet..... he saw it and felt it....  To this day though, I'm not sure about my Dad. I Lost him in March of 2007. I was able to be by his bedside alone with him and I was able to pour my heart out to him then. they always say the hearing is the last to go.... he was in a coma, and I have hope he heard me.... I cling to my hope everyday... I pray I see my dad again in Heaven one day... I do have a bit of peace about it. the Lord has given me that, but I dont know the truth about dad... as I said, I have hope....

There's still alot of blank spaces I could write and fill in, maybe one day I will. My moms battle still goes on. As she ages, it seems to get worse. That is a story in itself. All the horrors of a mental illness that I witnessed as a young girl, as an adult. They are too painful to write about. I still have humps to overcome with this myself. it took a long time to just understand that my mother wasn't doing those things on purpose, that she didnt know and couldn't control it. it took a long time to forgive..... mental illness hurts.. it hurts those who love you the most.... but she is my mother and I love her... sometimes its all I can do....

Dave and Sam came over yesterday to get an idea of how I wanted to design my website because he is going to be the one creating it for free!

Sam and Dave wanted to celebrate one year of being together, so we also did this 10 minute photo shoot.  We plan to have a longer one, but these guys are incredible!  They are very photogenic and relaxed infront of the camera.  We just walked out my door and took these pics!  They were totally unprepared for this, but they gave in to my desire!  I am so glad they were spontaneous!  It was so worth it!

It was so rewarding to see these amazing results because I know that I have the ability, but I haven't had many opportunities to see it.  I also loved how well I was able to relate with them.  I hope every photo shoot is this great!