Turn Ons @ MindSay

I almost asked what turns a woman on in a marriage but the couple that got me askign this question aren't married so I worded it this way!

 

A couple friend of mine are going on a 2 year relationship and are having issues.  Granted they both brought 2 kids from previous marriages.  Both of the marriages were bad in their own ways, ex spouses selfish lil assholes.  And granted one of the ex spouses is dead now but the effects of that marriage still linger.  They also had a child together.  So that makes a total of 5 kids in one house.  To make matters even more interesting to this relationship is the age difference.  D the woman is not yet 30 and M the guy is yet 43 years old.  D is very vocal and was popular in school and does what she wants and screw who ever doesn't like it.  M is very shy and was not so popular in school and does what ever the strong dominate female that takes precident in his life tells him to do.

 

I won't go into what the issues are because D is having a mutual friend pass on information to me so I am not getting things straight from either horse's mouth.  But I did have this mutual friend of ours pass on a message to D:  "Go right ahead and think and feel what your going to but just remember; your relationship isn't brand new anymore.  Now it is going to take comprimise and work.  You can't be expecting EVERYTHING you ever wanted in a man even though you deserve it.  It doesn't work that way."

 

After our friend passed that on, D is now willing to take a step back and work things out a bit more.  I am glad.  But one of her comments got me to thinking and now I am goign to ask the women in relationships out in Mindsay to answer a lil question!:D 

 

D stated that M isn't turning her on to much any more.  But if she ever walked in the house after work or on a weekend and saw M up in her bathroom working on the bathroom that is currently being remodled that would get her worked up and time for some nookie!  When that was passed on to me, our mutual friend and I bursted out laughing and said isn't that some shit! 

 

So the question is for those women out there in Mindsay in relationships that aren't BRAND NEW anymore what would turn you on seeing your partner do?  See I got to thinking and our mutual friend agreed when I voiced the comment to her...........Randy and I are going on 10 years together and in Febuary 9 years of marriage.  Our mutual friend is going on 12 years together with her friend and 11 years of marriage.  I said you know D has a point about what turns her one now!  I would get all excited if I ever came home from running errands and had dinner not only cooked for me, but dishes done and put away afterwords, Randy to do bath times and put the kids to bed!  Our mutual friend sat there for a minute and said you know if my ol man would give me a call at work and said hey I know you have been stressed out and running here and there for everything, I am taking off of work a few hours early.  You take your time doing what you need to and I'll pick up our daughter and meet our son's bus at home!  I won't cook but I'll order take out and bring it home too boot!

 

What would excite you women out there in relationships that aren't brand new? 

I know that between Josie and myself it seems we are turning into the sex blog (although we have nothing on you Callie!), but a conversation I was having with Josie about a past crush brought this to mind. So, what weird thing turns you on? For example, it used to really turn me on to watch this guy I had a crush on drive. Yes, drive. I would sit in the back seat and watch him drive. I don't know if it was the fact that I actually really like to drive and find it for the most part fun (some would argue I drive like a maniac, but that's a subject for another day), or that I liked to watch his hands on the wheel, or if I just found him hot anyway and the way he drove was an extra added bonus. Maybe I just wanted to do him in a car. But watching him turn the wheel, watching his hands, was really hot. At least to me.

 

If you like naked farm animals or whips and chains, I don't think I want to know. But I am throwing it out there. Be honest - were all friends here =)

yoinked from fyreph (who apparently stole this from MisterGhoulie)

 

ON OR OFF?
Girls & Guys: Fill out

Turns you ON, or OFF, or DC (don't care)

Is taller than you: ON
Wears a grill: Off. OFF
Cuts them self: dc

Has a blood fetish: on
Has green eyes: ON (especially if they have dark hair, too, omg)
Dresses Gangsta: OFF
Dresses Preppy: dc
Dresses Emo: dc
Sense of humor: ON
Has blue eyes: on
Drinks alcohol: dc (as long as its not in excess)
Wears glasses: dc
Smokes ciggs: OFF
Smokes weed: dc
Plays sports: dc
Smiles a lot: ON
Plays video games: on :P
Calls you just to say hi: ON
Compliments you: ON
Good dancer: ON
Wears jewelry: dc
Smiles when you walk in the room: ON
Has DREADS: off
Has Straight hair: on
Has Brown hair: on
Has Black hair: ON
Has Blond hair: dc
Has Red hair: ON

Loyal: ON
Drives a sports car: dc
Drives a truck: dc
Drives a piece of sh*t: dc
Laid back: ON
Plays guitar: ON
Plays for you: ON, ON!!! 
Gets you presents: on
Plays drums: ON (n e instrument including voice really, especially if they play it/sing for me, hehe) 
Has a tattoo: ON
Has a lip ring: dc
Has a tongue ring: dc
Nipples pierced: OFF!!! (ow :()
Hugs you: ON
Walks up to you and hugs you around the waist: ON, ON, ON!!

By Knut Holt

There is a widespread misunderstanding by many women, and surprisingly also by many men that boys and men only have sexual feelings in their penis, or even only in their penis head. The reason why many men also carry this misconception is probably that boys often are educated to suppress corporeal sensations and to be hard.

Many erogenous zones in men and boys are best activated when the body is relaxed, and the zones are stimulated in a gentle manner. Gentle stimulation of these zones in a relaxed state can give feelings of pleasure as strong as those in the penis, and can even result in some types of strong orgasmic reactions. Here is a survey of various erotic zones in the male body, and how to stimulate the sensations in these zones. You can stimulate yourself at these zones when masturbating, or your female or gay partner can do the stimulation work.

THE SCROTUM AND THE TESTICLES

The scrotal skin and the content of the scrotum, including the testicles, are sensitive to erotic stimulation. When stimulating these genital parts, take first hold of the scrotum with your whole hand, warming it inside your hand, and massaging it gently by gripping movements. Warming and handling the scrotum gives feelings in the whole genital region. Stimulation of the scrotum also increases the blood circulation and engorgement of all the genital organs around the scrotum. The testicles are best stimulated by gentle rolling movements with your fingers. Also tickle the scrotal skin with your finger tips. A part of the penis is actually hidden partly inside and partly behind the scrotal sack, by palpating with your finger tips between the testicles or at the side under the scrotum; you can massage this part of the penis. A sharp massage with your finger tips gives the most intense sensations to this hidden root of the penis.

THE BREAST NIPPLES AND THEIR SURROUNDINGS

The nipples of a man are important erogenous zones, and a man has tits just as a woman, although the tits of a man are smaller and flatter that those of a woman. Actually a man has all the structures that a woman has in his breasts, but they are not developed to have a milk producing capacity. This means that a man’s breasts have the same erotic capacity as the tits of woman. A man's nipples also have an erective capacity. They rise and get hard upon stimulation. When stimulating a man’s breasts, take hold of the breast with your whole hand, warming it inside your hand, and massaging it gently by gripping movements. To stimulate the nipples, massage gently around the nipples with a finger tip. Also squeeze the nipples with your fingers, varying the intensity from the very gentle nip to some harder pressure.

THE REGION BETWEEN THE PENIS AND THE ANUS

The visible penis is actually a part of a larger body beginning at the prostate region just in front of the anus, and reaches to the tip of the penis. The urethra also goes through this structure. The parts between your legs will engorge when you are sexually exited just as the penis, and when it engorges, the region bulges out between the legs. Upon mechanical stimulation, this area gives intense pleasurable feelings. You can stimulate this area by squeezing it between your fingers, pressing down against the urethra or massaging up and down along the urethra. You should change between gentle and a little harder handling, as these two manners give rise to different types of feelings.

THE NAVEL AND THE BLADDER REGION

The navel is an erotic point, and so are the structures in the middle of the belly between the navel and the penis. This structure contains a groove between the belly muscles. The structures in this groove are very sensuous, the so called linea alba. The naval can be stimulated by sticking a finger into it, and by tickling with your finger deep down in the navel. Also here you should alternate between light, gentle, slow tickling, and harder sharper tickling. This stimulation give sensations that radiate out form the navel to the surroundings, and spreads downwards to the tip of your penis, giving a very funny feeling in your penis. The groove between the navel and the penis, you can stimulate by massaging up and down with the tip of your fingers.

THE BUTTOCKS AND ANAL SURROUNDINGS

The inner sides of the buttocks in the natal cleft give rise to deep erotic feelings with a very special intimate valor. Move your fingers up and down between the buttocks from the spine to the opposite end between the legs, and gently massage the inner side of each buttock with your finger tips. You can also concentrate your attention to the region deep inside the cleft very near the anus and tickle these most intimate points with your finger tips. Further you can stretch each buttock to the side so that the butt cleft opens, and the rectal opening is also stretched. The result of these manipulations is erotic sensations that radiate to the whole pelvic area, flow deep inside you and rise upwards along your spine.

THE ANUS AND THE OUTER RECTUM

The anal region is in many ways the real central of feelings in a man or boy. By stimulating this area in the proper ways, you can create a process that spread waves of intense feelings of joy, pleasure and ecstasy up through the whole body, partly forward to the genitals and belly region, and partly along the spine up to the neck. You best stimulate the rectal opening by very gentle circulatory movements with your finger tips. Alternate between these circulatory movements and the stimulation of the insides of the buttocks. You can also stick a smeared finger into the anal opening and stimulate by gentle movements in and out. By sticking your finger further inside, you can gently massage the inside walls of the anus. By adding some pressure, your stimulation reaches deep into the tissue around the rectum. All these stimulation give rise to profound feelings radiating to the whole body.

THE DEEP PART OF THE RECTUM

 The perhaps most intimate and sensitive zone of a man, is the deep part of the rectum. This zone can be reached by gay intercourse or with a dildo or some other long object. When inserting something in the anus to stimulate this zone, it is necessary to be very cautious so that the intestinal walls are not hurt. However, this zone is so sensitive that even the gentlest stimulation gives an immense depth of feelings, both of physical and psychological kind. You can stimulate this zone by gently and gradually by inserting a thin smeared dildo, and when fully inserted, very gently move it a little in and out, a little around, or press gently to different sides with the dildo. The more you relax, and the longer you do this stimulation, the deeper and more intense will the feelings grow.

THE PROSTATE

The prostate lies just in front of the anus and the urethra goes through it. This gland produces much of the viscous fluid in the semen. You can stimulate it from the outside by pressing somewhat firmly with your fingers inward just in front of the anus. There is a deepening in this area, just like a little vagina. Press your finger into this groove and a little forward. You can also stimulate the prostate by inserting your finger into the anus and massage the prostate through the front wall of the anus. The massage releases prostate fluid. Feeling the fluid coming through your urethra and dripping out through you pee-hole, add to the physical excitement. Also the prostate have its own sexual feelings, and prostate massage combined with anal stimulation can induce a form of orgasm that has a much deeper psychological and ecstatic impact than ordinary penile orgasm.

About the Author:
From Knut Holt - K-holt2@online.no. Knut Holt is an internet marketer and author with a focus on health items and erotism. TO FIND health information, products to increase sexual pleasure and natural medicines against many common diseases, PLEASE VISIT:http://www.abicana.com

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About guys, Turned ON, OFF or DC (Don't care):

Is taller than you: onnn
Is shorter than you: off.. but it depends on how much shorter..
Wears braces: hehe off..
wears a grill: whats a grill? :( the thing u cook on? :( i hope he doesnt wear one. knows how to use it yes but wear it? :(
Dresses Preppy: eh dun care
Dresses Ghetto: hehe cute <3
Dresses Gothic: cute <3
Has blue eyes: mmmmmm YAAA!!!!!!!!
Has green eyes: yaa
Has hazel eyes: yaa
Has Brown eyes: hehe of course <3
Drinks alcohol: noooo
Wears glasses: dc
Smokes: NOOOOO
Plays sports: on but dc
Smiles a lot: YAAA
Calls you just to say Hi: hehe yesssssssssssssss
Compliments you: yaaaaaaaaa
Good dancer: on.. but dc..
Wears jewelry: dc
Smiles when you walk in the room: hehe who wouldnt love that <3
Has brown hair: eh..
Has Black hair: YA YA YA :D :D
Has blonde hair: eh..
Has red hair: ewie.. noooo =(
Makeup: goth makeup? lol eyeliner is cute.. <3
Can make you laugh at any given moment: YESSSSSSS
Loyal: YEESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS
Laid back: yaa
Plays guitar: ooo sexyyyyyyyyyyyy
Plays drums: almost as sexyy lol
Sings: HELL YAAA even if he sounds funny :P
He's buff: hehe ya but not TOO buff.. a lil scrawniness is okie dokie <3
He can draw: uh huh <3
Easily jealous: eh.. its cute but not if it gets outta hand..
Doesn't eat meat: dont they get hungry? =S
Is Bi: heh no.. bcoz he would date me and a guy.. the other guy would date him and a gurl prbly.. an it would feel like one big orgy O_O lmao *cough* dont want that.. so naw ill pass <3 bi guys r cute tho.. some of em.. :P
has a tattoo: yaaa
has a lip ring: YAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
has a tounge ring: YAAAAAAA
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AbOut girls: Turned ON, OFF or DC (don't care)

haha im not a guy but im going to fill this part out too lmao =D

dresses like a grandma: ewie =(
plays musical instrument: onnnnnnnn
is shorter than you: off
same height as you: on
is taller than you: on
Wears braces: ewie techno said on LOL i say OFF deff..
has chapped lips: ugh id buy her some chapstick an send her to the braces gurl..
has green eyes: on
has blue eyes: on
has brown eyes: on
has long hair: yaaaa
has med. hair: on
has short hair: eh.. naw off
drinks alcohol: OFF
smokes cigs: OFF
smokes weed: OFF
wears glasses: on
has blonde hair: dc
has brown Hair: dc
has black hair: mm yaaa
has red hair: noooooo
works out: on..
smiles: ON
calls you just to say 'Hi': ON
compliments you: on
shaves her legs: onnn lol thas weird if she dun O_O
wears jewelry: dc
has bigger feet than you: dc
has smaller feet than you: dc
smiles when you walk into the room: on
belly piercings: on but dc
virgin: on
laid back: on
doesn't party: dc
likes to party: eh..
wants to party: eh..
laughs a lot: yaaa
giggles: lol cute.. like techno said <3
snorts: haha yaaa esp if im da one makin her snort =D
pierced ears: dc
pierced: depends
tattoos: depends
Is bi: on but dc
honest and open: yaa deff
goes to church: ya but dc as long as she doesnt diss ppl who do..



hahaha i answered both parts lmao its funny how me an techno had da same answers for most of em on the girl part LMAO

hmm okie welp u all take it now :D or not :( i see how it is :( meanie heads :(