Stupid @ MindSay

On my list of "stupid thing I've seen people do" this one has to rate up high. this is a true story from this week just passed.

I was driving home from work at about 8 a.m. (I work the first watch), the traffic was peak-hour so it was continuous and stop-start.

As I neared my home, I happened to glance across the traffic to a car that was approaching me a little too quickly. I looked at the driver and was stunned to see that the driver was involved in the delicate art of putting on mascara WHILE SHE WAS DRIVING!

The two things that bothered me about this were:

 a) that she was driving with one hand on the wheel, holding her compact mirror, while delicately applying the gunk to her eyes with the other hand. God forbid a small bump in the road (like the bump one might feel driving over someone's unfortunate 5 year old.) might push the stick into her eye and cause her to panic and scream in pain.   

b) that she was looking into a small mirror balanced on the steering wheel, focusing her vision directly onto that small area making her able to see the road and the traffic around her, only peripherally.

It's okay though, she looked up every few seconds to make sure no small children had run out in front of her moving vehicle. She was actually driving like that!

Please don't any of you reply that you have done this, I will be forced to block you forever.

You know what bugs me?

I have a friend, you know, I care about the guy but in all honesty, he isn't the sharpest knife in the drawer. He is self-centered and self-absorbed as well.

He met this girl when they where in high school, in grade 10 and she falls in love with him and they start to date, and she gives her life to him. They seem like a perfect match, they are both attractive people, but she is much deeper than him, she is much more understanding and more thoughtful.

They spend a while together, 10 years and they are still going out. He cheats on her; she finds out and forgives him. Time goes on and he cheats again and she goes into denial, actually saying to me, if I tell her he did cheat, she would believe it. I basically tell her I can’t get involved but I did say to her I am pretty sure she knew the answer already anyway. She picked to not believe it, although, I think she knew it was true but it was just easier to deal with it this way.

At one point, I was having a conversation with him, and basically he was saying that he would never buy his girlfriend a dildo because he is afraid to LOSE her to it! He honestly said, “If she had that, what would she need me for?” I remember thinking, is this guy for real? I had to try and explain it to him why she would still want to be with him if she had a dildo. In the end, he still didn’t get it, he couldn’t see her still wanting or needing him if she just had a fake penis to play with.

He told me once to that he didn’t find her attractive at all. I mean, she is very good looking if you ask me, she is dirty blond and she has a slim build, she is a beautiful woman in the stereo-typical fashion but he doesn’t find her attractive and still just kept spending his life with her.

More time has gone on, and it is over 20 years they have been together, they are married now and have two kids.

I went to visit them yesterday and he wanted to go buy some stuff for his truck, I went with him and he spends $150 bucks on his truck for basically junk, and gets a $10 gift card and says ‘OH, yeah, it’s Nat’s birthday today and I haven’t got her anything yet” It is about 12 noon at this point. I am shocked, he has this woman that loves him no matter what, unconditionally, and he wants to give her this free reward card for her birthday, after spending a huge amount of cash on his truck.

I have to explain to him, the card says it has to be used in only 5 days, how is she going to feel when she sees all these posters saying ‘SPEND $150 dollars or more and get a FREE $10 gift card!” Fail? I think so.

SO, I talked him out of that, and he really has no idea what to get her. I have to say, dude, I am sure she has been talking a lot about something, woman usually drop hints when it is close to their birthday. OHHH YEAHH, then it dawns on him, she has been talking a lot about wanting a jewellery box lately!

Off we go to find one, and I see this cute little nick-nack store and we look in there. $120, $180, he says there is NO way he is spending that kind of money for something like that, for her. Remember, he just spent $150 on his damn TRUCK! I basically find this little one and he loves it, it is $11 bucks, perfect he says! It has a spot on top to put a 4x7 photo and I say, buy two romantic cards and cut one and put it in the photo frame on the top of the box. He is looking threw and is asking me to pick the cards for his wife who he has been with for over 20 years now.

I pick two, the one for the box has a picture of a flower garden and says. “Love is just the start” He says, I don’t get it? I say, just buy the damn thing and let put it in and wrap it up.

He asked me to stay for supper, I told him, this is suppose to be for the two of you, but he says that his kids will be there and stuff, so I stay. He gives her the gift and she totally loves it, btw, under $20 for it all with both cards. Money is not what matters, it is the thought that counts, too bad it is MY FUCKING THOUGHTS!

I have finally made a decision. Friends are pointless. They're good to have to hang out with, and not look like such an outcast. But really.,they can screw up your life. It really only happens when you have a best friend who has a boyfriend. One of mine, is my best friend Ange. She is constantly hanging out with her boyfriend, in-school,out of school, when ever she gets the chance to be near him. Always texting him when he is not in a class with us, and always gets ticked at him. I'm honestly getting sick of her. She's become a major bitch. She gets along with her boyfriend, but like any other teenage couple, or just one in general, they have their days of arguing. It seems like every day for Ange. She always seems to be mad at him for some reason. I ask her what's wrong, and all she says is "Nothing!" I ask her if it's her boy friend, and she's like "Yes! He's being stupid!" Sometimes she doesn't even answer me. When ever she's pissed I try to make her happy, change the subject, make her laugh, what ever. What do I get in return? A friend who is pissed,ignores me, or just acts like a total bitch. Sometimes when I ask her what's wrong, she doesn't tell me, BUT she tells another person. That happens most of the time. One of our friends comes up and asks her what's wrong, and she starts pouring out all the details, making me feel like total shit because she can't seem to tell me, other than "Oh he's being dumb!" Well what the fuck can I do if all I know is that he's being stupid, when really, he might be hurting her,cheating on her, doing stuff that he shouldn't do, etc. He doesn't do any of those that I know of. But how do I know? All I know is he's being dumb, so I don't know how the hell I can help when half of he  time she doesn't tell me, and it's usaully a tad more than stupidity. I just hate how boyfriends screw up friendships. She wonders why I never want to go some where with her. I don't feel like hanging out with her, her boyfriend, and like... 4 other people I don't know, or hate. But when I do hang out with her, which is pretty much never, except school, she barely talks to me. It's usually her talking to other people we are with. I don't really enjoy following her around, and feeling like she forget that I am with her. Hello? I'm fat!It's kind of hard to not see me! So I don't know if I should count her as an actual friend since I don't talk to her because she is too busy with her bf, or other people. Ahhh the joy of teenage relationships and lost friendships. I'l always have room in my heart to let her back in as a true friend, but currently, it's closed due to repairs. If only true friends didn't live in another town as you...  Hmm... Jaime you should move here, I will help take care of your baby when it's born. I love kids! I'll change those nasty diapers, feed it, do what ever. But please, tell your dick head of a boy friend to be nice to me, or else he will notice his balls are now coming out of his mouth. xD. Oh yes! I will kick him there REALLY hard if he tries to be a douche to me. But ypu wont let him! You love me. She always sticks up for me if people push me around or insult me. Jaime you rock <3! See mindsay users! I true friend sticks up for others, doesn't ignore them, accepts it when someone tries to help them, tells them their problems, what ever! Mahaha.