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And Randy's Family Wonders Why We EXTREMLY DISLIKE THMEM!......

*Shakes head*

 

Many of you know that Randy and I do NOT get along very well with his family. 

 

His mom and I have a somewhat strained truce.  She doesn't open her mouth about how I do things and I won't open my mouth about how shitty of a mom she actual was.  She and Randy's step dad don't bug us and we don't bug them.  We like his step dad.  Even if they are none seen grandparents to our kids, they still are the second set of grandparents to the kids.  Randy's mom knows the only way I keep the kids away from her and her hubby is if they do a 360 on us and start kissing ass to Randy's ex wife.  We know she will ALWAYS favoritize Randy's sister and her kids over us and as long as his mom doesn't open his mouth we get along fine.  Randy knows that I will go off on his mom in a heartbeat and she knows I will too if she downgrades him in front of me or  I find out about it.  Thus why she doesn't like me.  I am "too aggressive".  In otherwords, Randy married a woman who is somewhat like his mother.  I rule the roost. And I demand things MY way.  And she doesn't like that when she is around me and my family. 

 

Randy's sister.  She threatened me when she was in Germany the year Randy and I were preggie with DeLaney.  Why?  Because I went the FARK off on his mom about how shitty of a mother she actually was...Plus I said a few other hard truths to both Randy and his mom concerning what will be accepted towards my kids and what wouldn't. I made Randy's mom cry!  Boo fucking hoo!  Can't handle the truth then don't start shit with me. When Randy's sister threatened to come back from Germany on some of her leave time to "kick my ass" Randy started laughing at her and said: "Best bring the US Army with you soldier girl!  My wife will kick your ass and hand deliver it to my brother in law.  Your training doesn't mean shit to her because she is mean and can't stand how this family treats me." Once his sister realized what his mom had done (not going into that) she called back and said sorry to Randy.  Randy pointed out that she best apologize to me.  I did get my apology 6 years later at Randy's Grandmother's funeral. Randy and his sister do NOT get along.  They have our addy and phone number.  We have theirs. We keep up on our neices and nephews.  We support where ever they get staition by both Randy's sister and her hubby being 20 year carerr soldiers in the Army.  And we don't bother them.  They don't bother us.  Randy's sister and her family kling to her husband's family (even though he is an only child he has TONS of cousins) and we accept that. Just like they accept MY family is our rock.

 

Randy's dad.  He is an asshole PLAIN and simple.  He married a bible thumping bitch.  And lets just say, my kids have not seen that fucker in over 5 years. He wants to kiss Randy's lying sack of shit whory ex wife.  He caters to what ever husband she is married to at the time.  Places her son who is NOT his grandchild above even his daughter's children.  Every time we have turned around int he last three years we have been back in the home area, he is attempting to get me and Randy up in his town.  Why?  Because he wants to let Randy see his girls fromt he bitch.  We would lvoe to but we don't have legal rights to them anymore and as soon as Randy's ex wife finds out we saw them after his dad set things up even with OUT our knowledge she would have charges pressed. A judge even had to point out to Randy's ex wife that we gave up parental rights freely and since we all three are from the tri state area, we would eventually bump into the girls and no charges could be pressed if that happened. Randy's dad is closing on 70 and he wants to see his "grandbabies".  He has even stopped in at Randy's place of work trying to talk Randy into bringing the kids up to see him with out MY knowledge!  Randy has point blank told that peice of shit that I am their mother and I will know where my kids are at! And he himself does NOT want his children seeing his father because of his backstabbing perverted bullshit ways nor do we want our children around his bible thumping wife who rather kiss his ex wife's ass!

 

Well get this!  Last month the asshole invited all of us to his Legion Unit's Veteran's Day party.  Randy said no until you get it through your head my ex wife is NOT your daughter then you don't need anything to do with me or my family. His dad pulled out well I am old I want to see the only grandson that carries MY last name!  I'll sue you under grandparental rights...Randy started lauging at him and said you do that dad and you can finally see why the Bitch (that would be Randy's ex wife) is so scared of Jackie! I am not worried about it.  Because MY entire immediate and extended family will back me up.  Randy's sister got wind of the threat via their dad and she told off their dad off also.

 

According to his dad, he doesn't have much to do with Randy's ex wife anymore...That is why when messing around on the comp yesterday we find his dad on Facebook and has both the girls (which that is fine) but also Randy's exwife!  We have Randy's sister and brother in law.  His dad didn't even attempt to look his own daughter up on facebook! 

 

And that fucker wonders why we dislike him and his wife!  Constantly kissing Randy's ex wife's ass! And treating his own kids like shit!

 
 
   
 

he is finally back
I finally got my son back after him being gone a week with my mother. THANK GOD!!! Now we are still busy, but at least I have my baby back. I was in tears missing him night before last. You just don't know till you have had to give your kid over to someone else, no matter who it is, for a long period of time. I can deal with 4 days tops, but a week at a time? I need a sedative!
 
 
 

   
shots and xrays
Yesterday we went through the overhumiliating process of getting our son signed up for Medicaid for the next month and a half ... yes only a month and a half. We would have to go through MORE rigmarole just to get him signed up till the end of August (when we are leaving). I took him so he could get 2 more shots and an xray of this weird bump on his chest. They will be covering the xray, thank God. That's all worth the undue talking down and insensitivity of the staff in the place. I will be posting more about this while I eat breakfast, so head on over to Taz's site after a while and you will see it all.
 
 
   
 

Regression

Regression

 

I long to hold all my little ones in Mommies arms and rock them softly and hide them from the cold cruel world.

 

I long to take them into another world of pretty clothes and pretty colors surrounding us.

 

Trees shaped as lollipops, snakes that look like gummy treats, fluffy clouds that can be touched and snuggled upon.

 

I long to lie on the grass and just play the day away, with no pressures or time constrictions.

 

I long to just gaze up into the night sky and look upon the stars with no care of tomorrow or yesterday.

 

I long to escape into the magical mysterious world of Unicorns, Fairies, Castles and Majestic Beauty.

 

I long for the day of complete childish behavior and acceptance of who we are.

 

I long to see the stress of today melt away with a loving touch.

 

My child, my adult abies, we lay and imagine a world with no strife, a world of freedom.

 

Running around with our diapeys on, mud on clothes and our hands, soakey wet bottoms, candy sticky lips, with no care in the world.

 

Regression, it is a wonderful feeling and worth it every time I regress to that special place with my special someone to share it with.


Sara


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Eating Crow but Willing To Do It!
What would you as a parent do if one of your children were constantly harassed for every little thing they did via the same gender kids as they were at their school and in an after school sport?

You would probably do what I did.  I called and talked to the coach about it.  A coach who is a teenager who sees nothing wrong with harassing of one of his players by the other players.  A kid whose parents taught him right from wrong and who is NOT that bad of a coach even if his assistant coach is lax in his coaching of the kids.  The coach agreed with me that it is wrong and the older kids on the team are a big problem and he will take care of it.

And that is exactly what I did.  I called and talked to the coach about it.  I even made sure to disappear for tonight's practice of my son's.  I hung out at my daughter's practice.  The coach addressed the issue during my son's practice and even the last bit of the practice I watched went relatively well.  

I have no problem getting after my boy for not paying attention and I have no problem getting after the other boys.  Especially the ones that are harassing not only my son but other players.  I didn't get after anyone tonight but my boy for screwing with one of the light poles.  

Again things were going good, then the end of practice hit.  And the same two kids started in on Coltin.  Now Colt is gangly and very uncorridanated at the moment and I am letting a lot of things go that other parents wouldn't and other parents like myself would say he has to learn to deal with.  Which he does.  Always through life there are people that will harasse you just because you are you.  I teach my kids that.

I watched and watched as my son literally curled (no I am not kidding you-on the ground sitting and curling into himself and telling the boys to leave him alone!) into himself as the boys were harassing him.  Part of it was his own fault for not listening to the coach but not the harassing part.  Now the main coach was finishing the drill and the second coach was standing there with a thumb up  his ass and NOT paying attention to the boys.  

I did a parent no no.  I blew.  Instead of waiting till the end of practice and letting the coach know what I think of those particular boys.  I made a scene (I am good at those).  The coach started yelling so therefore I started raising my voice even more.  I point blank told him to get the kids undercontrol or I would start calling parents and making his life a living hell.  The coach informed me that harassing is apart of sports and Coltin needs to learn to deal with it.  And I said you know I have played sports and we were NEVER allowed to harass our own teammates to the point they were wanting to quit!  When he said that I blew even further and named two of the kids names and told him to get the bratty kids undercontrol.  

I shouldn't have done that.  Thus the parent no no.  Not what I said but when I said it and making a general judgement on all the boys.

Well one of the kids I named, their mom was there.  She is an ex class mate of my sisters and thinks her shit doesn't stink and she married into a family that thinks the same way.  She informed me Colt was the issue here and he is jsut as bratty.  She didn't know what to do when I said yes he is and you haven't been at practices, I have and I get right after him.  Since the coaches WON'T get after ANY of the boys.  

Well the coach had the boys come over and apologize to Coltin while we were walking to leave and I went walking over to the mom since she was walking over all pissy to the field.  I attempted to stop and talk to her about her bratty little son and how he is just fine when he isn't around the other bratty kid.  She had the never to tell me that I should let Coltin handle this type of harassment himself and defend himself with hitting.  I pointed out to her also as she was storming away that we were NEVER allowed to behave the way these kids are on the field.  She ignored me.

I talked to Coltin about what happened, my parents, my hubby, and a friend.  They all agreed that I was in the wrong for not waiting for practice to end because it would have upset the kids who weren't being bratty.  But I was right for saying what I did about the two bratty kids and the harassement of my son.  

I called and ate crow to the coach on how I handled the situation.  He isn't happy with how I called him out on how lazy his assistant coach is, that I will NOT allow the harassing of my son.  Unlike other parents, I take after MY parents and will ALWAYS defend my child while pointing out what they could have done different themselves.  This little sixteen year old also didn't know what to think when I said I will eat crow and humble myself to a team of little boys on how I handled the situation.  I will NOT apologize for calling out the two brats, but I will apologize for not talking to the coach after practice, for making a general judgement on all the boys being brats, and admit that adults and parents can all be wrong at times.  I also informed him what the other mother said I should have my son do to defend himself.  And I said I don't play that game.  My kids are taught to NEVER hit first.  And if someone does hit t hem, put em down and do it hard.  Coltin lets a lot of things go thus why he literally curled into himself.  We have told him time and time again that people in general are good people but in crowds they are nasty and to be himself and watch his back.  He isn't the type to go off and hit someone nor is he the type to take on a crowd of boys his age.  He isn't stupid.  The coach wasn't sure what to make of me telling him what the other mother said.  Plus the coach was suprised that I informed him Coltin got his ass chewed for being a poor sport and to start speaking up with out moaning and bitching.  He will learn the sport in time.  

Thus I am eating crow at the next practice and I am willing to do it.  I am not a perfect parent and I reacted the way my own parents use to embarass my sister, brother, & I over injustices done to us in this small podonck town and surrounding towns.  But I am willing to admit my mistakes even if it is to kids.  

What I am NOT willing to do is have my kids beat down, harassed, and treated like shit because they are doing what everyone in this world should do and that is to be themselves.  I will never allow my kids to be victims to anyone especially at the ages they are. No matter if the people trying to victimize them are kids themselves. That is my job to become the person non grata as the parent.  I have no problem pissing off people for speaking the truth.  But I also know there is always a price to pay for speakign the truth and letting my emotions getaway from me.  I eat crow.

My only goal out of this situation even if the parents ask that Coltin be removed from the team is to show these small town people that not everyone thinks their kids are the greatest.  I think my kids are amazing but they aren't perfect because humans are not perfect.  And we as parents are not perfect.  
 
 
   
 

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