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Growing Up Old...
Does that mean anything anymore? When our grandmothers and great great fathers were getting married in their time age was irrelevant to thier situations. At that time you had to grow up immediatly to survive. Ethics, hard work and responsibility were given to the very young, therefore they were able to be a responsible married adult at 18 ... 16.... whatever!
Today life for many is much different. Crime is ravaging our home towns, drugs are infecting the minds of our future. How did the values of our ancestors get so lost so fast? More and more our society is becomhing home to children raising children. When you become a parent, your children are first in everything you do, their safety and happiness is on the fore front. However when you are just a child yourself, riasing one can be a daunting task. Now, I am not saying that all teenage parents and parents in their early 20's are terrible parents, but if you look at the statitics of our growing population and the stats of young parents then talk to a teacher you start to see a pattern.
I grew up in a small but quickly booming town. By the time I was a Junior in high school there were over 900 incoming freshmen. I think, for what ever reason, my classmates and I grew up a little too quickly. Some of us are mature enough to handle the effects of our changing lives, but others I fear will fall into the cracks of this age's stereo-typical society.
Granted I got married at 18 ( a month after high school) I am ticked, utterly peeved at the fact that everyone around me will soon be married parents at 21!!! My husband and I got to know eachother as friends for three years in high school, then as lovers for a year until we got married. Now we have been happily together ( and unhappily) for three years. We are childless and plan to stay that way for quite some time. Although we want nothing more than to hold our future children in our arms at this very moment. We have higher priorities so that we can provide for the family we are meant to have together with out fear.
I have counted over 20 women I graduated with just three short years ago that are on their way or are already mothers and wives. Most of whome are not with the father of their children, or were only married for less than six months, or even less than a week in one case, and most only knew their husband for a year, a year, before they got married. Is one year actually long enough to get to understand what someone is capable of?
Many of these past and present friends like to comment on the similarities between their marriage and mine.... News Flash.... THERE ARE NONE!!! I'm the smart one and ya
ll have ruined what is to be a very long, hard and tiring life.
Is it wrong to feel this way.
This is not to say that I do not think these beautiful women will not be good mothers, I am convinced they will be fabulous!!! However, what kind of life are they going to lead from now on? Their dreams are dead( I dont care how many times you say you are going to go back to school.... you aren't), their marriages are practically in shambles and their children are not going to be able to have all that they want to give them.
Back to a comment I mentioned earlier.... Your child comes before anything else in this world.... right?
So why is it that we consider this only once we have children... and not before?
If you know that one day you WILL be a parent no matter what, then why only put your child first after they are born?
If it is really all about the children, please, think of them before conception. There are too many unplanned pregnancies happening in the world today. Just wait.... You have all of your life, what difference does it make?
Please leave me some comments on your thoughts.... and give me some ideas for more topics!!!! (Can Be anything)
I have a few pet peeves (But that's another blog), but one that reins right there at the top is when someone cuts me off while I'm saying something. Major Grrrr!
This happened 2 times yesterday! I can't understand why people do this. Why can't these people simply wait til I'm fully finished with my point to speak, instead of jumping in and abruptly cutting me off!? I just think that is both rude and in a way selfish glory. Like "Oh Glen that's nice...but hey listen to this!...." Whatever.
I didn't say anything to either of the people that did this though. I took the quiet, non confrontational route as usual. But ooooh, it made me feel so unimportant. It always does.
The first of the 2 times I was given the 'title' of stubborn was at my friends birthday. He is the type who likes a loud band, playing in a small bar, with even louder people trying to talk over the loud band. I knew this and told him and his room mate that I'd be happy to meet them at their apt. and hang out for awhile before the others went to the show. Fair enough right? I have known both the room mates and the small group going to the show for over a decade. So they know me well! The time cames to leave, and suuuure enough, as I was giving out the farewell hugs, Jay (birthday boy) says "C'mon n join us Glen!" Which is a kind gesture of course. I politely say "No, not really my scene, ya know." and hoped that would be the end of that. ..Wrong! That started about a 3 min. exchange from each person there going "Ohh c'monnn" "Glen, you can't leave" Etc. etc. Finally Delaney (who is one of my dearest and long time friends) says "Guys, Glen is THE most stubborn man on the planet, he won't go to a bar, and will just get mad if you keep asking". True! I was glad she said that (though getting called the most stubborn...was a bit much. Lol! ) I just would be so completley miserable in a crowded, noisy bar! I won't ever like that scene either. If it were a Wedding party I'd make the exception. Really. That's a once in a lifetime event. But a birthday is every year. Maybe it's selfish of me, but I don't think I should be at a place and spend moneyand be irratated, just to be there with friends. I showed up early and gave my present as well.
Ok, the other time was last night. A new friend Pete, who is super cool and we get along great, is a huge, huge movie affecianado. To the point of having a certificate from a film study program of some kind. He is the type to be able (and loves ) to break down a movie of any genre to what the 'message' of the movie was, lighting, shot type, etc. So obviously he sees a film in a different way than the average movie goer. I love that too! I have learned many neat facts and gotten a great perspective on some movies we've watched. Well here's the stubborn part. Halloween is coming up and of course that means horror films a plenty are going to be watched. Again, this is something I don't like. I have watched a handful of horror movies and I just don't enjoy the blood, gore, tension and violence in them. I actually get a bit of a upset stomach in fact. Pete invites me to watch a horror film on Halloween ("you just gotta Glen, it's Hallowen!") I say no thanks, not my thing...and BAM! "Glen your just being stubborn ya know?!" Urrr..yes. Yes I do. But again, why should I go n watch 2 hrs. of blood, tension and violence if it's going to make me sick?! He pulls the "But you only have seen a few..who knows, I bet there's one you'll like!".
I just don't get it. Why can't some people just let a person be content with their choices and not try to change that?
Current mood:unnerved
Category: Life
Did I let him know it got to me?.....
Of course not...I simply brushed it off, laughed along, merely to save myself the embarrassment of getting publicly wounded by his offhand comment. I'm better than that, but verbal stab aside, it leaves me wondering...
Beauty...
What does that mean to the general society in this era? I ponder it myself, in the truest sense of the word, what does it mean?
Mr.Webster defines it as "1: the quality or aggregate of qualities in a person or thing that gives pleasure to the senses or pleasurably exalts the mind or spirit."
So, it is defined as the " quality that gives pleasure to the senses or pleasurably exalts the mind or spirit"
And so I come to, pleasing to the eye, soft to the touch, a general sense pleasing "beauty"; and then , it mentions "mind or spirit" rather than the physical senses. This solid definition leaves room for choice, for one to have the option to see that there are different types of beauty. However, in this day and age, I believe people choose to ignore the latter end of that definition.
So there it is, point blank, an explanation of the word. It states that one can find beauty in things pleasing to the sense, i.e sight, sound , touch. but then iterates that one can find beauty in things such as the soul, something pleasing to the mind.
So this brings me to , what is societies standpoint on beauty?
If I were to answer simply from what I observe in everyday life, I would say that societies definition has become drastically disfigured. They glorify physical beauty; they tell you how to look, what to wear, what is acceptable in the public eye. I question who are they to tell me what is "beautiful" or judge me against a mass of conformist clones, comparing every flaw as if they have none of their own. If only everyone knew their secrets, if everyone were to see what is really on the dark grisly interior of these so called socially acceptable " beauties". What would they find? Envy , jealousy, lies, deceit, hate, backstabbers?
Is that "beauty"?
Is ones exterior the sole base of what makes them beautiful?
Or has ones character become something completely ignored when it come to that particular judgment? I ponder when will the eyes of this misguided society be opened. Honestly, I must sadly admit, never. Beauty has been cut short , leaving only the half of the definition that speaks of it being "things that please the senses".
It just doesn't sit well with me, to think of existing in a world that has forgotten true emotion, character, kindness, compassion, love,the things that make someone truly beautiful. People have placed their ability to have an opinion or be an individual into the hands of a society that is should have their eyes taped shut.
Case in point:
It makes me sick, maybe you should actually think about the words you spew "inadvertently" at others. Get off your high horse and take a look at your unsightly ravaged opinions, fed solely from a general twisted definition.
Your not so perfect yourself... all looks aside.
Just something to think about. :)
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