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The narcissist is a slanderer partly to get attention. (Notice that the finger-pointer in the picture above has his other hand raised to get attention.) But he is a slanderer mainly because he must be one to create his phony image. He makes himself look good by making others look bad.
Yet narcissists are not the only people who create a false image of themselves. If you want to call it close, virtually everybody does, even that paragon of honesty, Prince Hamlet.
In a world that surrounds us with the prying eyes of fault-finders, we would be traitors to ourselves if we were not at least modest about the things we should be ashamed of. Especially insofar as they are none of anybody else's business. In fact, it's a virtue to keep what's private private. It is the moral equivalent of wearing clothes.
Yet narcissists are different: they are hypocrites = for looks only. They think a thing ain't wrong if they get away with it. In other words, they confuse appearances with reality. Consequently, they have no conscience — just an unconscience. That is, they repress their conscience. Hence, what they do in the dark is shockingly different than what they do in the light of day. These are the people who put make-up on their image a little too thick in spots. ....they confuse appearances with reality.
....they project instead of repent.
Since it's all about their image, as Hamlet's mother said, they view sin as some kind of taint instead of as moral illness, or spiritual dis-ease. This is what gives them the notion that it can be "washed away" or smeared off. No wonder that, to get rid of it, they project instead of repent.
Projection is the Oldest Trick in the Book.
Magicians call it "misdirection."
The Serpent pulled it on Eve when he accused God of being the liar. ("God told you THAT?") Stupid Eve should have looked at the other end of that pointed finger for the liar.
As St. Paul does when he says that if somebody condemns others of being [fill in the blank], you can bet your bippy that he is one himself. Sometimes in a different way, but always at least the moral equivalent of one.* Paul was in line with the ancient Hebrew scriptures. Their name for the spirit in which people do this is satan, which means the "finger-pointer," the "name-slayer" (slanderer), the "prosecutor/persecutor," or the "accuser."
In some places (e.g., the Book of Job) they also call him "the policer of the world." Which makes me wonder why religious leaders think that condemning these and those for this and that all the time is a good deed.
This trick still works great today: I know of one narcissist who was a pedophile and for many years kept people from noticing the glaring warning signs in his own behavior by spreading rumors about one single teacher after another at his school. (He, of course, was married.)
* An example of what I mean by moral equivalence: Mr. Self-Righteous union-busts to keep the workers in his shoe factory so poor they go barefoot — and shows moral indignation in loudly condemning his neighbor for "muzzling an ox trampling the grain."
The rules about projection are in the Book of Leviticus, prescribed in the ritual for the Day of Atonement.
Christianity has inherited them. The scapegoat must be the cleanest, most perfect potential victim available, the one with the most potential to do well in the world.
(Sloppy thinking has twisted the meaning a full 180 degrees: these ugly demonstrations of the human race in action, symbolically performed by abominable cruelty to an animal, were intended to shame us. Not to prescribe this travesty of justice as the way to purify ourselves and win salvation from justice.)
I'm sure that people who do this think they're clever, but it's childsplay. Send a muddy child into an unsupervised school yard and wait to see what happens. He will rub himself off on every cleaner, smaller child he can find, till they are all crying and he looks good by comparison.
Looks good by comparison. Those are the all-important words. The hypocrite makes himself look good by comparison with others. He does that the easy way — by making others look bad. This is the root of envy. Which is not a rare motive for what people say about others. It's a common motive.
In a moment of self awareness, the hypocrite says, "Well, I may not be perfect, but I'm not as bad as others are." Then he instantly looks for somebody to make himself look better than = somebody to rub himself off on. And he's certainly smart enough to pick somebody pretty good to look better than!
So, narcissists are by no means alone in doing this. It's just that they invest so much energy in doing it. They are fixated on their image to the point that it is uppermost in their mind 100% of the time.
In contrast, normal people project only when on the defensive. And then they're likely to shake themselves off on whoever happens to be near at the moment. So, their aim is poor, and sometimes they project a flaw off onto somebody who actually has it.
But a narcissist's aim is impeccable.
For example, whom does he call a liar? The most honest person around. Who does he say is dangerous? The savior of the group. Every single time.
His talent for farce is so great that you could mistake him for astute. Also, normal people have normal, human and loving relationships. So they don't smear themselves off on just anybody. They wouldn't dream of harming those near and dear. And they stick to slander (which has at least some degree of truth in it), rarely engaging in calumny (lies). When they do calumniate somebody, he or she is an enemy.
Even then they don't go hog-wild and calumniate somebody so badly and so widely as to destroy them and ruin their lives. Not so with the narcissist. He is a child with no sense of measure or moderation. He loves only himself. He has no normal human relationships. He relates to people as objects.
In fact, he is most likely to smear off on somebody he owes gratitude, because needing help damages his image. So he repays help as though it were an insult. He must devalue it by devaluing the giver of it, as if such a contemptible person is incapable of really helping somebody as grand as he.
He is most likely to smear off on somebody he owes gratitude, because needing help damages his image. So he repays help as though it were an insult.
(a PERFECT example of this HERE)
Since he is a little child, the only reign on a narcissist's behavior is what he feels he can get away with. So, the more he gets away with, the more repressed guilt he has to purge himself of. The bad thing about repressed guilt is that it is an unconscious puppet master. Scripture calls it "the demon lurking at the door." The door being the way out, the escape, through repentance.
This could be why narcissists get worse with age. The load of repressed guilt they keep trying to purge themselves of (in a way that only dirties them more) gets so heavy that the wild accusations they make get viciouser and viciouser. It's as though they get drunk on blood. They become living, breathing Projection Machines.
Projection becomes such a knee-jerk reflex that a narcissist accuses his victim of doing to him the very thing (or essentially the same thing) as he is in the very act of doing to the victim.
This creates bizarre scenes that make you wonder whether the narcissist is hallucinating or tripping out on psychedelic drugs. You feel like Alice in Wonderland. You have to pinch yourself and wonder whether "it's me or him that is crazy."
If you've ever thought that, congratulations. It means you're not. The narcissist never thinks that: he just accuses whoever he abuses of being the crazy one. (I said "crazy," not "insane." There's a difference.) The narcissist never thinks [he's crazy]: he just accuses whoever he abuses of being the crazy one.
Another big difference between narcissists and normal people when they're projecting on you is that narcissists expect you to share their delusion. Yes! You cannot help but perceive this as gaslighting.
Narcissists try to make you be what they say you are because, like a psychopath, they view you as an object, not as a human person with perceptions and a mind of your own.* They view you as an extension of themselves (like a tool) to control. It is the moral equivalent of the control a rapist thinks he has over the body of another, whom he views as but an object, an extension of himself, an executioner of HIS will.
Psychologists call this bizarre behavior projective identification, a defense mechanism. The narcissist wants you to identify with the image he projects on you. You are a mirror to reflect his fantasy, so he pressures you to behave as though it is real.
* A narcissist's need to conform you to his or her specifications can go to bizarre extremes. For example, I know of one female narcissist who, during an assault on her sister, habitually forced her up against a wall and then spent a long time moving and twisting her sister's arms about to position them grotesquely — thus forcing her sister into different "shapes."
Behave is the key word.
Narcissists do not connect with reality: appearances are all that matter in their world. So, you can lay out your grievances to a narcissist in a letter to let him know what you think, but if tomorrow you encounter him and act as though none of it happened, he is perfectly satisfied.
So, though the narcissist's projective identification seems like gaslighting and affects the victim like gaslighting, it is not gaslighting in the strictest sense of the word.
For the narcissist only cares how you behave; he does not care what you think. He doesn't think at all about what you think. In fact, you can crash his brain by asking, "What do you think I think about you?" The question does not even compute.
Bottom Line: Anyone who outshines a narcissist diminishes the glow of his glory. So, that person had better be somebody with power that he fears or had better lay low and get away.
ORIGINAL FROM THIS GREAT SITE
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In June 2007, our friends at EOPC re-ran the story of GRIDNEY/ aka YIDWITHLID - (please go read because this online predator's a piece of work aside from being a great education on how they ALL work.)
A year ago EOPC told us one of this online predator's victims was STILL being victimized by him (he called it "a falling out" ha ha ha) yet again and she wrote a blog with all the information on it called THE STUMBLING BLOCK. Its well worth a read because you can really see her devastation and emotional turmoil. Every victim could relate to her honesty!
Now readers -- compare this to the childish, rageful actions of someone you have told the truth about. Let's break it down; see how it compares.
1. "YOU STARTED IT!"... Even if You Didn't
GRIDNEY/ Yidwithlid wants this victim to control the internet and take down all posts about him - she tried. EOPC said no, we said no. Mostly because this victim (there was more than one) was not the INITIATOR of the exposes! But he's going to continue to give her a public beat down because beating up on defenseless people makes him feel like a big man.
She reports that she begged an MSN support site to remove her posts (the MSN Site REFUSED) about him when that site owner (femfree@yahoo.com) told her HE WAS SURFING HER NICKNAME AND COMING THERE TO READ EVERYTHING SHE WROTE!
Yet he's mad? Incredible!
This horse's behind names her and blames her for everything but global warming. He even says talking to her would "not be productive for either of them"... translation: she scares the crap out of me because she knows more about me than my wife & friends. So I have to smear her to keep my false personna intact!
Have you realized cyberpaths and predators smear & blame the person who probably scares them the most?
yidwithlid also committed copyright infringment against our old sites and EOPC. We had written to Blogger.com about it - so in response, this bully saids he's making a bunch of new hate sites about his victim. To RETALIATE FOR THE TRUTH BEING OUT THERE!
Why? Because he thinks: She is us. EOPC told us he thinks she is them too!
He's scared of her because she's that OMNIPOTENT? This is so funny because this victim does nothing for either us or EOPC. Nor was she the person who initiated his exposures.
But of course, anyone who exposes the almighty YIDWITHLID must be only her, right? (they all think they're almighty, don't they? Like Ed Hicks who tells everyone the wives he committed bigamy & fraud on set HIM up... LOL!)
This even after she asked everyone to stop bothering him. Unfortunately - can't control everyone now, can you?
Gridney/ Yidwithlid is also furious that we Linked to his website! Well, if he truly believes he's done nothing wrong & that HE is the victim - he should be glad for the free publicity!
CHECK OUT WHAT GRIDNEY/ Yidwithlid says to what apparently is one of his victim's friends on his hate blog about his victim:
Are you telling me that Elizabeth posted my picture on the internet including MSN newsgroups as NYC******.
Barbara signed the letter to the Rabbi At aish?
GRIDNEY/ YidwithLid TRULY IS CRAZY!
We have copies of what is on his victim's site:
the person at AISH he is talking about? The victim named ELIZABETH?
- She initially wrote this Rabbi at AISH
- GAVE the Rabbi this Barbara's email
- Barbara RESPONDED to the Rabbi's inquiry email about him.
Not initiated. RESPONDED.
GRIDNEY/ YIDWITHLID, like all cyberpaths - sees only what makes him look like the victim.
So Mr. GRIDNEY/ YIDWITHLID - Tell us - what were your victims supposed to do?: LIE & COVER MORE FOR YOU? ACT LIKE IT DIDN'T AFTER YOU DESTROYED TWO WOMEN? ACT AS COLD & UNCARING ABOUT WHAT YOU'D DONE TO THEM AS YOU?
Remember readers: To a cyberpath you are nothing but a hologram or an object, not a real person and certainly not entitled to feelings! You're there only to make them feel good. Like the porn babes so many of them are addicted to, their victims are supposed to GO AWAY with just a click. Cyberpaths look at you as a FREEBIE. They believe they owe you NOTHING. But you aren't nothing - you are SOMEONE!
(Reminder, that MSN group was a VICTIMS SUPPORT GROUP - so YIDWITHLID's just admitted HE'S a stalker!.
And that particular MSN support group? His picture is there - BUT HIS NAME IS NOT! So unless he has even MORE victims who might recognize him (he probably does) - he's angry over NOTHING!)
None of his targets EVER used that nickname he rants about on MSN. MSN however, knows he was SURFING and stalking his victims from board to board! Monitoring their every word and emotional pain. What a GREAT GUY!! (click here for more)
Try to keep this straight: This predator admits surfing a SUPPORT group. For one of his victims. When she was out of her mind with emotional pain, fear and trauma because of WHAT HE DID TO HER & other women (including his wife)?
And then:
HE's the angry one who wants his victims to JUST FORGET IT so he can lie, never apologize, smear them and continue duping his family & friends?
UNREAL
2. The Predator's Boundless Sense of Entitlement
How CRUEL can one Yid be? And he just wants his victims to FORGET about the trauma like it never happened? They are 'nutjobs' for having feelings and not being complicit with his untruthful version of things?
BALLSY, aren't these jerks!
GRIDNEY/ YIDWITHLID victimizes one innocent woman, slanders her, lies to her and when she figures his scheme out & that he's been using & abusing her for 2 years (the abuse sent her to the hospital more than once!!) -- he: GOES TO ONLINE SUPPORT GROUPS, FINDS & READS EVERYTHING THIS POOR TRAUMATIZED VICTIM IS VENTING ABOUT (WHAT HE PURPOSELY DID TO HER & HER FAMILY) AND LOOKING FOR SUPPORT ABOUT!
Be warned -- is yours doing this to YOU?
As a victim: you are 'out of your mind' looking for help and they are cyberstalking you reading EVERY WORD YOU ARE SAYING?
Gridney/Yidwithlid went so far as to post on one site (it was since removed because of the slanderous nature of the whole post by the site owners; who confirmed as much to The Exposer) :
"she tried to get me listen. No way bitch!"
So, Gridney/ Yidwithlid has proved he's a nasty bully. He doesn't even want to hear that Target #1 tried to do what he wanted. This liar had said prior to that, that he "didn't have time for hate." Now he's confirmed he's not just a bully - he's a pathological liar. He certainly made time for hate, when his Target #1 made time to attempt to make peace. (says alot about these cyberpaths, don't it?)
Gridney/ YidwithLid has gone so far as to accuse his target of being a PREDATOR (can you say PROJECTION?) and says she purposely put him on a porn aggregator (uh... Gridney/ Yid? Those are AUTOMATIC AGGREGATORS that troll the net for specific words... NO one PUTS you on one of those! You can't even JOIN one) Guess ole' Gridney/ Yidwithlid does an awful lot of ego surfing, huh?
GRIDNEY /YidwithLid even says the relationship was "her fault too" and she "played his game" with him. He neglects to mention that this victim genuinely cared for him while he LIED to her & had a hidden , destructive and malicious agenda towards her. (Don't they all?)
Is this starting to remind anyone of elementary school?
5. "I am the Victim Here"
His victim's site has a post which GRIDNEY/ Yidwithlid put on his own blog which whitewashes what he did. He never talks about his addiction to hookers, porn, phone sex, cybersex babes, etc. And twists what happened to make his victims look bad. "Mr. Innocent" paints himself as the victim. (playing victim is part of the profile of a sociopathic person)
6. Half-Baked Accountability
This narcissist even created a new profile on TECHNORATI (click here) to keep the hits to his hate site comin'!!! He removed his post of twisted reality from his blog and went right back to business as usual. Did we forget to mention he has NEVER taken down the hate site. hmmm.....
Like all emotional predators/ cheaters & womanizers - he targets the most vulnerable person for everything - even when she has clear, hard evidence what she did and didn't do.
Don't make a cyberpath THINK about what they've done!! Goodness no! They are beyond reproach.
No "I'm Sorry", no attempt to speak to his victims (got PLENTY of lame excuses not to) - just rage. He tells his victims to MOVE ON or GET OVER IT because he has. (of course he has -- LOL, why apologize for destroying someone's life) (classic pathological trait - no empathy or remorse for anyone but himself and the people he needs [family] to keep up the facade)
By the way, "moved on" is predator paramoralizing for "shut up about the truth so I can go back to banging whores and picking up vulnerable women online."
Let's look at Gridney/ YidwithLid's version of "moving on" - here's a message we would guess is for his victim.
Like many exposed cyberpaths - Gridney/Yidwithlid says we are "hurting his wonderful wife." No one was comparing his wife to his victims - EXCEPT HIM! His victims are good people. His wife is probably a good person. Only predators make those comparisons to attempt to further tear down the credibility of the victims!
He also says he and his wife have "WORKED IT OUT". Wouldn't you just LOVE to hear the bullcrap he told his wife about these normal, vulnerable women HE preyed on and sent to the hospital?? Not the prostitutes - the NORMAL ones. (probably the same bull he was saying about his wife to these women... since he follows the classic predator pattern)
7. Copyright Infringement (Playing Stupid, but...)
YID asserts because he was part of the chats published on EOPC that he owns the copyright. He did own part of the copyright to the chat only - but not our or EOPC's comments or commentary on the chats (which are wall to wall lies & manipulation on his part).
Cyberpaths HATE when you have verifiable evidence on them! (And often they give you that evidence THEMSELVES because they believe they will never get caught! -- WRONG)
He can't revoke the copyright either because it was published a couple years ago originally by EOPC and they extended their copyright to us - and the permission of only one of the chatters or emailers is necessary - and EOPC got that.
In fact: The Exposer did a little checking and back in March 2007, Sammy (yidwithlid's pseudonym) posted this on someone else's blog (along with some other thin-skinned sarcasm):
Posted by: Sammy Benoit | Mar 16, 2007 5:01:07 AM
A copyright may be embedded into a bitmap or jpeg file with software on a Mac or PC. Also, there are several companies that can officially help copyright images so that it is documented.
If these two things are done, and a quiet agreement is made with whomever uses it, it should be pretty easy to please everyone, and misuse of it would be easy to spot and stop. Well, hopefully.
So he does know about copyrights! Well, well, well.
We filed on him with IC3.gov and ChillingEffects.org.
What did we get for filing? Nastiness - and childish emails like these:
To: cyberpaths@gmail.com
Date: Sun, 24 Jun 2007 16:33:58 EDT
Subject: Re: http://stumblingtchatzkahs.blogspot.com http://stumblingtchatzkahs.blogspot.com/2007/06/XXX-XXX-makes-threat.html __________________
From: Yidwithlid@aol.com
To: exposer@37.com
Received-On: 06/26/07 5:54 PM
Subject: Re: Remove Content Please
NO
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From Yidwithlid@aol.com by mo-m22.mx.aol.com for exposer@37.com Tue, 26 Jun 2007 20:54:21 -0400 (EDT) Yidwithlid@aol.com X-Eon-Dm: dm08 Date: 06/26/07 1:54 PM
From: Yidwithlid@aol.com
To: exposer@37.com
Received-On: 06/26/07 5:54 PM
Re: Remove Content Please
No
But thanks for asking
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From: Yidwithlid@aol.com
To: exposer@37.com
Cc: support@blogger.com
Received-On: 06/28/07 3:47 PM
Re: http://stumblingtchatzkahs.blogspot.com
cool two emails from you today thank you so much.. If you are publishing stuff that I wrote..then who gave you the copywite...I didnt. and I didnt write them say so take off all references to me and I will take down my site
By the way Are you enjoying the Nut job convention [victim's name]?
Tonight I am going to open up three new stumling tchatches sites.
***************
These immature emails bring to mind this quote:
Innocence seldom utters outraged shrieks. Guilt does.
~ Whittaker Chambers
8. This is MY Club, You Aren't Allowed
Gridney/ Yidwithlid says he supposedly has VERY LITTLE CONTROL over a blogging aggregator to which both he & his Target 1 belong. (He says she's "following him"... LOL)
We read on her blog she was hacked May 2007. She won't tell us who did it - but we think we know. Gridney/ Yidwithlid says he has no idea what is going on & is outraged he and his cyber posse are even suspected! This victim of his? Never said his name or that she suspected him. Sounds like GUILT, Yid!
And... hmmm, he should be more careful what he HIMSELF puts on the net. The Exposer actually checks!!
GRIDNEY/ YidwithLid's got lots of blogs out there. Sounds like self-admitted narcissist Sam Vaknin. Can't get enough of themselves so they fill up the net with their rhetoric. Also creates a wider net for them to lure more innocents in to their web.
This one's from yidwithlid.typepad.com January 2007:
"January 21, 2007
New Peoples Choice Category: Most abusive of system
From two different sides of the world we wondered ....Who was crapping on our posts and yours. We had our lists of suspects but couldn't prove who was giving the bad grades ten at a time ...and how they were working sooooooo fast. Still have no clear proof. We do have some suspects . We googled the posts of one and noticed that there was one who would put up 8-9 posts one day, get them up over a hundred points take them down and repost the same articles the next day.
Then Sherlock Bagel Blogger found the a gun that was smoking even more. He put it in a much nicer way than me:
The awards known as the People's Choice awards seem to be finishing a lot quicker than most people expected.
I was going to hold on to this information until the results of the People's Choice Awards' became known, but I feel that it is not being honest to not divulge what I know.
I've debated with my self, my family and friends, should I or shouldn't I?
I also don't want to be accused of 'bitter lemons'.
I wrote a letter to another blogger and in the course of the letter I presented/made a table, now that I have made the table I feel something is seriously amiss.
I wont say what it is.
I'll leave the plain facts speak for them selves.
I have a PDF of the Google cache of 17th of Jan of the Israel forum's blog_best [rankings] which is now no longer available. [I have a copy and a html back up]
and I have a PDF of the 19 th Jan 2007 Israel forum's blog_best
Thats less than two days apart
What's the main difference? Well check it out you should be able to see it, it occurred over less than two days.
The person is relying on no one seeing anything or saying anything. Well I won't say anything if you don't.
Well here it is in Table form:
Rank 19th Jan Blog Name Votes tally on 17th Jan Rank on 17th Jan Votes tally 19th Jan
Date last activity
Tally count difference
Up or DownPlaces
1 The Last Best Place 5224 1 5503 18th 279 0
2 Freedom's Cost 3676 2 3734 16th 58 0
3 Yid With Lid 5916 3 6066 18th 150 0
4 Samson Blinded 2359 8 3579 18th 1220 +4
5 Daf Notes 3993 4 4199 18th 206 -1
6 Bagel Blogger 4737 5 4949 19th 212 -1
7 The Maggid of Bergenfield 1092 6 1113 16th 21 -1
8 Simply Jews 6818 7 6978 18th 160 -1
9 Baleboosteh 2367 9 2422 18th 55 0
10 JoeSettler 2253 11 2255 17th 2 +1
11 Sarah's View 4317 10 4366 18th 49 -1
12 The Way I See It 3250 12 3279 16th 29 0
13 Divrei Chaim 1385 13 1404 18th 19 0
14 Orthomom 3016 17 3102 18th 86 +3
15 Chayyei Sarah 1592 15 1592 14th 0 0
16 Ask Shifra 1600 16 1616 14th 16 0
17 The Muqata 2078 14 2140 18th 62 -3
18 Slightly Mad 1425 18 1425 14th 0 0
19 Israellycool 4319 19 4440 19th 121 0
20 Lazer Beams 2230 20 2315 18th 85 0
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Here are snapshots of sections of the webpages in question:"
He took 'snapshots'?
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Seems he and this BagelBlogger are into watching who comes and goes from this 'supposedly' unbiased aggregator and 'totally fair' blog voting. CLICK HERE TO LOOK WHO'S AT THE TOPS ON THE AGGREGATOR!!
Bagel Blogger VOTES: 13649
If you click the link to the aggregator? Yid has MORE VOTES THAN ANYONE ELSE - almost DOUBLE! And the top blogger list has numerous bloggers who haven't posted in weeks according to the dates.
Yid and Bagel Blogger are CAREFUL not to make themselves #1 and #2 - there's some rigging going on? - this aggregator apparently a fixed race for FRIENDS or ASSOCIATES OF THESE TWO AND THEIR COHORTS? Looks like they DO have some 'power' and control over this aggregator.
So Target #1? You don't need to tell us who hacked you - we know.
Gridney/ Yidwithlid also takes out his frustrations when he is hacked with more cybersilliness: HERE
9. Rules Don't Apply to ME!
Here's a quote from GRIDNEY (YidwithLid's) on 8/14/07 - on his website:
Let us guess - if someone is exposing YID for the predator, bully and liar he is - they're a terrorizer.
Sure he loves the web's freedom - to prey on trusting women and dispose of them when they become inconvenient with no remorse! (sounds like all of them! blame-shifting and paramoralizing)
But when HE is called out on his predatory & manipulative actions towards the vulnerable women he targets; women who actually CARE about him - he's a victim.
And if you want to prey on, lie to and manipulate vulnerable women and use them as sex toys to be tossed away when you're done - to YidwithLid - That's FREEDOM!
The Exposer knows - FREEDOM isn't FREE. And where's your responsibility, YidwithLid? For what you did to innocent people?
Did we mention cyberpaths are hypocrites?
10. Terrorizing, Dominating & Control by Temper Tantrum
Cyberpaths, Predators and all Pathologicals are like most abusers - its about Control. Particularly the control of the flow of information and truth. Let's take a peak at how this cyberpath does some of it:
GRIDNEY (aka YidWithLid) has his blogs set so:
1. you HAVE to have a Blogger account to comment;
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In June 2007, our friends at EOPC re-ran the story of "J"/GRIDNEY - (please go read because this online predator's a piece of work aside from being a great education on how they ALL work.)
A year ago EOPC told us one of this online predator's victims was STILL being victimized by him (he called it "a falling out" ha ha ha) yet again and she wrote a blog with all the information on it called THE STUMBLING BLOCK. Its well worth a read because you can really see her devastation and emotional turmoil. Every victim could relate to her honesty!
Now readers -- compare this to the childish, rageful actions of someone you have told the truth about. Let's break it down; see how it compares.
1. "YOU STARTED IT!"... Even if You Didn't
"J"/GRIDNEY/ Yidwithlid wants this victim to control the internet and take down all posts about him - she tried. EOPC said no, we said no. Mostly because this victim (there was more than one) was not the INITIATOR of the exposes! But he's going to continue to give her a public beat down because beating up on defenseless people makes him feel like a big man.
She reports that she begged an MSN support site to remove her posts (the MSN Site REFUSED) about him when that site owner (femfree@yahoo.com) told her HE WAS SURFING HER NICKNAME AND COMING THERE TO READ EVERYTHING SHE WROTE!
Yet he's mad? Incredible!
yidwithlid also committed copyright infringment against our old sites and EOPC. We had written to Blogger.com about it - so in response, this bully saids he's making a bunch of new hate sites about his victim. To RETALIATE FOR THE TRUTH BEING OUT THERE!
Why? Because he thinks: She is us. EOPC told us he thinks she is them too!
He's scared of her because she's that OMNIPOTENT? This is so funny because this victim does nothing for either us or EOPC. Nor was she the person who initiated his exposures.
But of course, anyone who exposes the almighty YIDWITHLID must be only her, right? (they all think they're almighty, don't they? Like Ed Hicks who tells everyone the wives he committed bigamy & fraud on set HIM up... LOL!)
This even after she asked everyone to stop bothering him. Unfortunately - can't control everyone now, can you?
Gridney/ Yidwithlid is also furious that we Linked to his website!
Well, if he truly believes he's done nothing wrong & that HE is the victim - he should be glad for the free publicity!
CHECK OUT WHAT GRIDNEY/ Yidwithlid says to what apparently is one of his victim's friends on his hate blog about his victim:
Are you telling me that Elizabeth posted my picture on the internet including MSN newsgroups as NYC******.
Barbara signed the letter to the Rabbi At aish?
GRIDNEY/ YidwithLid TRULY IS CRAZY!
We have copies of what is on his victim's site:
the person at AISH he is talking about? The victim named ELIZABETH?
- She initially wrote this Rabbi at AISH
- GAVE the Rabbi this Barbara's email
- Barbara RESPONDED to the Rabbi's inquiry email about him.
Not initiated. RESPONDED.
GRIDNEY/ YIDWITHLID, like all cyberpaths - sees only what makes him look like the victim.
So Mr. GRIDNEY/ YIDWITHLID - Tell us - what were your victims supposed to do?: LIE & COVER MORE FOR YOU? ACT LIKE IT DIDN'T AFTER YOU DESTROYED TWO WOMEN? ACT AS COLD & UNCARING ABOUT WHAT YOU'D DONE TO THEM AS YOU?
Remember readers: To a cyberpath you are nothing but a hologram or an object, not a real person and certainly not entitled to feelings! You're there only to make them feel good. Like the porn babes so many of them are addicted to, their victims are supposed to GO AWAY with just a click. Cyberpaths look at you as a FREEBIE. They believe they owe you NOTHING. But you aren't nothing - you are SOMEONE!
(Reminder, that MSN group was a VICTIMS SUPPORT GROUP - so YIDWITHLID's just admitted HE'S a stalker!.
And that particular MSN support group? His picture is there - BUT HIS NAME IS NOT! So unless he has even MORE victims who might recognize him (he probably does) - he's angry over NOTHING!)
None of his targets EVER used that nickname he rants about on MSN. MSN however, knows he was SURFING and stalking his victims from board to board! Monitoring their every word and emotional pain. What a GREAT GUY!! (click here for more)
Try to keep this straight: This predator admits surfing a SUPPORT group. For one of his victims. When she was out of her mind with emotional pain, fear and trauma because of WHAT HE DID TO HER & other women (including his wife)?
And then:
HE's the angry one who wants his victims to JUST FORGET IT so he can lie, never apologize, smear them and continue duping his family & friends?
UNREAL
2. The Predator's Boundless Sense of Entitlement
How CRUEL can one Yid be? And he just wants his victims to FORGET about the trauma like it never happened? They are 'nutjobs' for having feelings and not being complicit with his untruthful version of things?
BALLSY, aren't these jerks!
GRIDNEY/ YIDWITHLID victimizes one innocent woman, slanders her, lies to her and when she figures his scheme out & that he's been using & abusing her for 2 years (the abuse sent her to the hospital more than once!!) -- he: GOES TO ONLINE SUPPORT GROUPS, FINDS & READS EVERYTHING THIS POOR TRAUMATIZED VICTIM IS VENTING ABOUT (WHAT HE PURPOSELY DID TO HER & HER FAMILY) AND LOOKING FOR SUPPORT ABOUT!
Be warned -- is yours doing this to YOU?
As a victim: you are 'out of your mind' looking for help and they are cyberstalking you reading EVERY WORD YOU ARE SAYING?
Gridney/Yidwithlid went so far as to post on one site (it was since removed because of the slanderous nature of the whole post by the site owners; who confirmed as much to The Exposer) :
"she tried to get me listen. No way bitch!"
So, Gridney/ Yidwithlid has proved he's a nasty bully. He doesn't even want to hear that Target #1 tried to do what he wanted. This liar had said prior to that, that he "didn't have time for hate." Now he's confirmed he's not just a bully - he's a pathological liar. He certainly made time for hate, when his Target #1 made time to attempt to make peace. (says alot about these cyberpaths, don't it?)
Gridney/ YidwithLid has gone so far as to accuse his target of being a PREDATOR (can you say PROJECTION?) and says she purposely put him on a porn aggregator (uh... Gridney/ Yid? Those are AUTOMATIC AGGREGATORS that troll the net for specific words... NO one PUTS you on one of those! You can't even JOIN one) Guess ole' Gridney/ Yidwithlid does an awful lot of ego surfing, huh?
GRIDNEY /YidwithLid even says the relationship was "her fault too" and she "played his game" with him. He neglects to mention that this victim genuinely cared for him while he LIED to her & had a hidden , destructive and malicious agenda towards her. (Don't they all?)
Is this starting to remind anyone of elementary school?
5. "I am the Victim Here"
His victim's site has a post which GRIDNEY/ Yidwithlid put on his own blog which whitewashes what he did. He never talks about his addiction to hookers, porn, phone sex, cybersex babes, etc. And twists what happened to make his victims look bad. "Mr. Innocent" paints himself as the victim. (playing victim is part of the profile of a sociopathic person)
6. Half-Baked Accountability
This narcissist even created a new profile on TECHNORATI (click here) to keep the hits to his hate site comin'!!! He removed his post of twisted reality from his blog and went right back to business as usual. Did we forget to mention he has NEVER taken down the hate site. hmmm.....
Like all emotional predators/ cheaters & womanizers - he targets the most vulnerable person for everything - even when she has clear, hard evidence what she did and didn't do.
Don't make a cyberpath THINK about what they've done!! Goodness no! They are beyond reproach.
No "I'm Sorry", no attempt to speak to his victims (got PLENTY of lame excuses not to) - just rage. He tells his victims to MOVE ON or GET OVER IT because he has. (of course he has -- LOL, why apologize for destroying someone's life) (classic pathological trait - no empathy or remorse for anyone but himself and the people he needs [family] to keep up the facade)
By the way, "moved on" is predator paramoralizing for "shut up about the truth so I can go back to banging whores and picking up vulnerable women online."
Let's look at Gridney/ YidwithLid's version of "moving on" - here's a message we would guess is for his victim.
Like many exposed cyberpaths - Gridney/Yidwithlid says we are "hurting his wonderful wife." No one was comparing his wife to his victims - EXCEPT HIM! His victims are good people. His wife is probably a good person. Only predators make those comparisons to attempt to further tear down the credibility of the victims!
He also says he and his wife have "WORKED IT OUT". Wouldn't you just LOVE to hear the bullcrap he told his wife about these normal, vulnerable women HE preyed on and sent to the hospital?? Not the prostitutes - the NORMAL ones. (probably the same bull he was saying about his wife to these women... since he follows the classic predator pattern)
7. Copyright Infringement (Playing Stupid, but...)
YID asserts because he was part of the chats published on EOPC that he owns the copyright. He did own part of the copyright to the chat only - but not our or EOPC's comments or commentary on the chats (which are wall to wall lies & manipulation on his part).
Cyberpaths HATE when you have verifiable evidence on them! (And often they give you that evidence THEMSELVES because they believe they will never get caught! -- WRONG)
He can't revoke the copyright either because it was published a couple years ago originally by EOPC and they extended their copyright to us - and the permission of only one of the chatters or emailers is necessary - and EOPC got that.
In fact: The Exposer did a little checking and back in March 2007, Sammy (yidwithlid's pseudonym) posted this on someone else's blog (along with some other thin-skinned sarcasm):
Posted by: Sammy Benoit | Mar 16, 2007 5:01:07 AM
A copyright may be embedded into a bitmap or jpeg file with software on a Mac or PC. Also, there are several companies that can officially help copyright images so that it is documented.
If these two things are done, and a quiet agreement is made with whomever uses it, it should be pretty easy to please everyone, and misuse of it would be easy to spot and stop. Well, hopefully.
So he does know about copyrights! Well, well, well.
We filed on him with IC3.gov and ChillingEffects.org.
What did we get for filing? Nastiness - and childish emails like these:
To: cyberpaths@gmail.com
Date: Sun, 24 Jun 2007 16:33:58 EDT
Subject: Re: http://stumblingtchatzkahs.blogspot.com http://stumblingtchatzkahs.blogspot.com/2007/06/XXX-XXX-makes-threat.html __________________
From: Yidwithlid@aol.com
To: exposer@37.com
Received-On: 06/26/07 5:54 PM
Subject: Re: Remove Content Please
NO
______________
From Yidwithlid@aol.com by mo-m22.mx.aol.com for exposer@37.com Tue, 26 Jun 2007 20:54:21 -0400 (EDT) Yidwithlid@aol.com X-Eon-Dm: dm08 Date: 06/26/07 1:54 PM
From: Yidwithlid@aol.com
To: exposer@37.com
Received-On: 06/26/07 5:54 PM
Re: Remove Content Please
No
But thanks for asking
____________________
From: Yidwithlid@aol.com
To: exposer@37.com
Cc: support@blogger.com
Received-On: 06/28/07 3:47 PM
Re: http://stumblingtchatzkahs.blogspot.com
cool two emails from you today thank you so much.. If you are publishing stuff that I wrote..then who gave you the copywite...I didnt. and I didnt write them say so take off all references to me and I will take down my site
By the way Are you enjoying the Nut job convention [victim's name]?
Tonight I am going to open up three new stumling tchatches sites.
***************
These immature emails bring to mind this quote:
Innocence seldom utters outraged shrieks. Guilt does.
~ Whittaker Chambers
8. This is MY Club, You Aren't Allowed
This cyberbully who is such an innocent victim? Pay attention to the infantile baloney a predator like him can pull:
Gridney/ Yidwithlid says he supposedly has VERY LITTLE POWER over a blogging aggregator to which both he & his Target 1 belong. (He says she's "following him"... LOL)
We read on her blog she was hacked May 2007. She won't tell us who did it - but we think we know. Gridney/ Yidwithlid says he has no idea what is going on & is outraged he and his cyber posse are even suspected! This victim of his? Never said his name or that she suspected him. Sounds like GUILT, Yid!
And... hmmm, he should be more careful what he HIMSELF puts on the net. The Exposer actually checks!!
GRIDNEY/ YidwithLid's got lots of blogs out there. Sounds like self-admitted narcissist Sam Vaknin. Can't get enough of themselves so they fill up the net with their rhetoric. Also creates a wider net for them to lure more innocents in to their web.
This one's from yidwithlid.typepad.com January 2007:
"January 21, 2007
New Peoples Choice Category: Most abusive of system
From two different sides of the world we wondered ....Who was crapping on our posts and yours. We had our lists of suspects but couldn't prove who was giving the bad grades ten at a time ...and how they were working sooooooo fast. Still have no clear proof. We do have some suspects . We googled the posts of one and noticed that there was one who would put up 8-9 posts one day, get them up over a hundred points take them down and repost the same articles the next day.
Then Sherlock Bagel Blogger found the a gun that was smoking even more. He put it in a much nicer way than me:
The awards known as the People's Choice awards seem to be finishing a lot quicker than most people expected.
I was going to hold on to this information until the results of the People's Choice Awards' became known, but I feel that it is not being honest to not divulge what I know.
I've debated with my self, my family and friends, should I or shouldn't I?
I also don't want to be accused of 'bitter lemons'.
I wrote a letter to another blogger and in the course of the letter I presented/made a table, now that I have made the table I feel something is seriously amiss.
I wont say what it is.
I'll leave the plain facts speak for them selves.
I have a PDF of the Google cache of 17th of Jan of the Israel forum's blog_best [rankings] which is now no longer available. [I have a copy and a html back up]
and I have a PDF of the 19 th Jan 2007 Israel forum's blog_best
Thats less than two days apart
What's the main difference? Well check it out you should be able to see it, it occurred over less than two days.
The person is relying on no one seeing anything or saying anything. Well I won't say anything if you don't.
Well here it is in Table form:
Rank 19th Jan Blog Name Votes tally on 17th Jan Rank on 17th Jan Votes tally 19th Jan
Date last activity
Tally count difference
Up or DownPlaces
1 The Last Best Place 5224 1 5503 18th 279 0
2 Freedom's Cost 3676 2 3734 16th 58 0
3 Yid With Lid 5916 3 6066 18th 150 0
4 Samson Blinded 2359 8 3579 18th 1220 +4
5 Daf Notes 3993 4 4199 18th 206 -1
6 Bagel Blogger 4737 5 4949 19th 212 -1
7 The Maggid of Bergenfield 1092 6 1113 16th 21 -1
8 Simply Jews 6818 7 6978 18th 160 -1
9 Baleboosteh 2367 9 2422 18th 55 0
10 JoeSettler 2253 11 2255 17th 2 +1
11 Sarah's View 4317 10 4366 18th 49 -1
12 The Way I See It 3250 12 3279 16th 29 0
13 Divrei Chaim 1385 13 1404 18th 19 0
14 Orthomom 3016 17 3102 18th 86 +3
15 Chayyei Sarah 1592 15 1592 14th 0 0
16 Ask Shifra 1600 16 1616 14th 16 0
17 The Muqata 2078 14 2140 18th 62 -3
18 Slightly Mad 1425 18 1425 14th 0 0
19 Israellycool 4319 19 4440 19th 121 0
20 Lazer Beams 2230 20 2315 18th 85 0
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Here are snapshots of sections of the webpages in question:"
He took 'snapshots'?
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Seems he and this BagelBlogger are into watching who comes and goes from this 'supposedly' unbiased aggregator and 'totally fair' blog voting. CLICK HERE TO LOOK WHO'S AT THE TOPS ON THE AGGREGATOR!!
If you click the link to the aggregator? Yid has MORE VOTES THAN ANYONE ELSE - almost DOUBLE! And the top blogger list has numerous bloggers who haven't posted in weeks according to the dates.
Yid and Bagel Blogger are CAREFUL not to make themselves #1 and #2 - there's some rigging going on? - this aggregator apparently a fixed race for FRIENDS or ASSOCIATES OF THESE TWO AND THEIR COHORTS? Looks like they DO have some 'power' and control over this aggregator.
So Target #1? You don't need to tell us who hacked you - we know.
Gridney/ Yidwithlid also takes out his frustrations when he is hacked with more cybersilliness: HERE
9. Rules Don't Apply to ME!
Here's a quote from GRIDNEY (YidwithLid's) on 8/14/07 - on his website:
I love the web's freedom. But with freedom comes responsibility. Certainly those who use the internet to harass or terrorize are abusing the freedom the internet brings.
Let us guess - if someone is exposing YID for the predator, bully and liar he is - they're a terrorizer.
Sure he loves the web's freedom - to prey on trusting women and dispose of them when they become inconvenient with no remorse! (sounds like all of them! blame-shifting and paramoralizing)
But when HE is called out on his predatory & manipulative actions towards the vulnerable women he targets; women who actually CARE about him - he's a victim.
And if you want to prey on, lie to and manipulate vulnerable women and use them as sex toys to be tossed away when you're done - to YidwithLid - That's FREEDOM!
The Exposer knows - FREEDOM isn't FREE. And where's your responsibility, YidwithLid? For what you did to innocent people?
Did we mention cyberpaths are hypocrites?
10. Terrorizing, Domination & Control
Cyberpaths, Predators and all Pathologicals are like most abusers - its about Control. Particularly the control of the flow of information and truth. Let's take a peak at how this cyberpath does some of it:
GRIDNEY (aka YidWithLid) has his blogs set so:
1. you HAVE to have a Blogger account to comment;
2. no anonymous comments. He "says" its for the integrity of his blogs! B.S. He wants to be able to track & smear anyone who calls him on his lies - just like a predator - always protecting their "image." CAN WE SAY HYPOCRITE!
Hold on! Gridney/ YidwithLid doesn't use his real name! So that makes HIS comments anonymous. Smells like a double standard there SAMMY!
Cyberpaths love to check the web for any evidence of their misdoings and try to erase it. NOTHING ever really disappears on the web. Nothing. If someone knows how to get into cache files - the internet is a FOREVER thing.
(Gridney/ Yidwithlid likes to log into the Exposer from an IP in Nashville, TN - wonder if his employer knows he does that?) as well as foreign IPs like Germany, Norway and so on.
12. The Use of 'Helpers' to Do Their Dirty Work
Also, Gridney/ Yidwithlid has made contact with an ex-client of his Target #1 (Target #1 is now a DV counselor). This woman - named "Judy" - has a lot of transferred anger against Target #1 because of her recommendationd "Judy" get professional counseling. And from 'Judy's actions below - she seems to really need it!
(gridney/ YidwithLid as "Moses"
can you say GRANDIOSE?)
Here's the slander "Judy" posted around the net after talking to Gridney/Yidwithlid about this poor victim (tell us, did your predator, ex and their buddies say similar crap about you when you told the truth? - they all seem to pull from the same 'slander pool')
Cyberpaths love to get others to either do or help the do their dirty work:
"BARBARA XXXX is sooo pissed off at the world that she has to bad mouth people. This phone sex whore has never meet me. She has never talked to me. I have NO idea why this BITCH hates me. We live across the country from each other. She is BI-POLAR and forgets to take her meds. (Barbara is not Bi-Polar or on any psychiatric meds)Cyberpaths love to use proxies (helpers)! (both the human & internet kind) Don't worry - its been reported to law enforcement by us, too!
She's very fat and very over weight. (Neglects to mention the fact Barbara's weight is due to chronic physical disability and that she has had multiple surgeries) In fact, BITCH BARBARA is a diabetic (No, she's not diabetic as far as we know) and doesn't take her metformin. (huh?)
She is into phone sex. She was giving phone sex to [Gridney/ Yidwithlid] until he tired of her. (she did? well -- at least Yid kinda 'admitted' to 'Judy' he used Barbara until he got bored) She begged him to give her another chance. When he wouldn't she posted his name all over the internet. (Barbara never begged him to give her another chance nor was she the one who posted his exposes anywhere! EOPC contacted HER not the other way around! LOL) Even called the cops on him. (Reported his verified death threats against her) Unreal! BITCH, what part of "He's just not in to you" don't you get? During all of this phone sex, her husband is in the next room. (and 'Judy' knows this how? when she started by saying she doesn't even know this Barbara... LOL) Unbelievable! I've heard that he has moved upstairs to get away from the BITCH WHO LOVES PHONE SEX BECAUSE NO MAN ON EARTH WANTS TO HAVE REAL SEX WITH THIS UGLY BITCH. (Barbara is divorced now, and she initiated the divorce. Her husband didn't want to divorce her. As for her sex life, again - how would 'Judy' or Gridney/ Yidwithlid know this??) It's the only sex she will ever get. EVER. She says she can't work because she's to fat to move. (Again, no mention of her severe physical disability - which has nothing to do with being um... fat)
So if your into phone sex, go ahead, give the bitch a call. (845)687-7706. If your in the neighborhood, go see how ugly she is: 372 Scarawan Road, Stone Ridge, New York. Or drop her a sickning card: 2 2 RR 2 Box 115 Accord, New York, 12402. E-mail this phone sex addict at: pedsilva@gawab.com or at BDC@yahoo.com Silva is her maiden name. (we only published all this information above because it's not only all incorrect, it was never valid... so where 'Judy' got this from who knows! wait she says where she got it from below... NOT!!)
She has harrassed me to the point of threatening my life along with my sons. I had to give her name to the FBI. They in return gave me her full name. (LOL - wow then the FBI got it wrong. Besides, the FBI would never ever give out personal information like that. Wonder if they know what Judy's saying about them? And 'Judy's' children are adults - how can they all be threatened?) This bitch has called me to harrass me at home. I had to change my number. (Barbara has never called 'Judy' and we are aware that a search of her phone records over the past 4 years would show this. A complete lie by one of Gridney/ Yidwithlid's new terrorizing assistant!!) Remember, she doesn't even know me. I have no idea whats up her ass. Probably her dildo got stuck and pissed her off cuz she can't get it out! I'd sure like to put her picture up her. Her birthdate is Aug. 9, 63 but if you saw her you'd swear she was born in 43! She has the most ugliest hairdo from the 60's that I've ever seen. (Again, completely fallacious information) I hope to God she gets back on her meds. (you do? below 'Judy' hopes she has a heart attack. hmmm) A total fucking fool! She needs to learn to let go! Yes Barbara the bitch! LET IT GO! I never did one thing to you bitch. Not one thing. (what would you call this, ma'am?) Leave me alone. Leave my family alone. The atthorities know all about you. They have the threatening e-mails you sent to my now defunked e-mail address. (We contacted some of our contacts at 'the authorities' - just to check - they have no such things. They don't exist) She has also been arrested many times for harrassment. (Barbara has never been charged or arrested. Ever.) She hates men to the point of trying to dystroy thier lives. If she only knew it's her life that she's destroying. It's eating away at her. Right now. As she reads this. Her blood pressure is soaring through the ceiling! I hope she has a heart attack. (again, 'Judy' would know all this how???? and who's making death threats/ death wishes here?)
(note: 'Judy' seems to be a serial cyber-harrasser)
So readers - when someone posts non-factual, nonsense made out of whole cloth about you on the web? All you can do is laugh!!! But if they DO post death threats or your personal information. Contact your police and the FBI office nearest you immediately!
13. How Dare You Tell the Truth!
Reminder: Cyberpaths HATE when you show a backbone & stand up for yourself. HATE IT!
Readers, you can see who's at fault here for yourself...
(You can also view this whole story @ EOPC: FINAL NOTES ABOUT "J")
THIS IS A STORY WORTH READING!!!
He profiles his old friend and once learning she's been abused for years in her marriage, Gridney/ Yidwithlid lures her using her shredded emotions into his sick game as a free cyber-whore, tries to start the same with no less than THREE of her friends, and creates a world of torment and confusion to a disabled mother already trapped in the vice grip of an abusive situation. And of course, like all of these predators - he then tries to blame her for everything.
As she shares a very detailed stage by stage journal of her experience, this author (his victim) exposes tactics used on her throughout the story that reaches into the very core of your understanding. She shares the insights she gained after months of trauma counseling, a stint in a clinic for the severe PTSD caused to her by Gridney/ Yidwithlid and through years of counseling now for the brainwashing done to her in these abusive mind games.
HER SITE IS: YES, I WAS THE STUMBLING BLOCK
The writer helps enlighten you and you find that most of questions you may have had as a victim yourself, or about victims of online predators are being answered within the various posts. YES, I WAS THE STUMBLING BLOCK
Now her victimizer (Gridney/ Yidwithlid) truly seeks revenge and is out with his own site to hurt her yet again & again. While he spins his 'true' version about their relationship, he again uses words like mental weapons to minimize his manipulative role and cast all blame on his victim:
See his original post: http://thestumblingblock.wordpress.com/2007/03/15/he-said/
Here's the old Link to his tantrum about this woman
(Don't click there though - this coward who said he "wasn't running anymore" removed this link!)
CLICK HERE TO VISIT GRIDNEY'S NEW SITE UNDER HIS NEW IDENTITY: http://yidwithlid.blogspot.com
While speaking from the heart with a honest attempt to set things right she includes her acceptance of responsibility as well as unedited documentation and hard proofs of what happened.
This writer shares her personal journal kept throughout this very painful time in her life and the profound sense of enduring loss of her "friend" with hope to allow them both to move forward in both their lives. She admits she will never "get over" something this devastating and amazingly, she leaves the door open for genuine dialogue between them in the future!
Why does he blame her when he was a sex addict for years prior to luring her into his deceit?
Why is he so adamant that he will NEVER speak to this hurting woman who was his supposed friend; using words like 'it wouldn't be good for either of us' or 'it would hurt my wife too much' as excuse?
Why did he tell her, just before she found out his game - that she was "just about sex" for him, knowing full well she & her children were being beaten and verbally abused because of him? (not the first time someone had beaten her up because of him - and with his knowledge this was happening to her he did nothing)
Why do these pathologicals run from true accountability, if they have really changed their lives?
What's he really mad about?
- That his victim finally did the right thing and told his wife (she said she told him rather than another of his online girlfriends because she wanted to take full responsibility for doing so) so his wife could finally help him?
- That she did it and even gave his wife her name and phone number; not to break up their marriage but save it?
- Admits that her ex-husband hacked her computer but now she has verifiable proof that despite the cybersex she pleaded with Gridney/ Yidwithlid to talk to his wife or seek cognitive behavior counseling numerous times?
- Is Gridney/ Yidwithlid mad that he can no longer feed his online porno and expensive lunchhour hooker habit? (he neglects to mention the latter in his story)
- Is he mad that his sick party; which started years prior to him looking up this victim online, profiling and using her; is over?
- That she finally stood up and refused to being some words on a screen to be clicked on & off at will?
- That she truly loved him enough to see to it that he and his wife & family get the truth and healing they deserved? While she lives with emotional pain and sorrow and Gridney/ Yidwithlid continues to blackball her?
Is he sincere? Only God knows.
For his family's sake, theexposer hopes so.
Too many times we have seen these predators smear and paint their victim as crazy, jealous, a scorned woman, a nut from a bad marriage or a stalker - when these victims are truly none of these things other than vulnerable, caring human beings.
(and by deleting his original post from his site, seems he's tried to cover up and end all discussion again.)
PLEASE READ: Yes, I was the Stumbling Block.
Thanks to the people at EOPC for alerting us to this story!
Hold them accountable, no matter how long it takes.
exposer@37.com
(We do not condone any of our posts being aggregated to pornographic sites without our express permission. Particularly since some of our readers have been hurt by pornography & sex addicts. Any aggregation is picked up by web spiders or crawlers over which we have no control.)
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