Single @ MindSay

Brett Gardner,

you are my little Joe Girardi (with your helmet on and from the side, I'd say you're the son of JEG).  You are going to do big things.   You proved that tonight.

I soooooooooooooooooooo get to wear my Cano shirt tomorrow to work :)

<3

I wanna fcuk. OMFG I wanna fcuk...

I haven't seen my man for more than a month now and I'm horny as fcuk! I'll see him this weekend though... and I dun think we're going to be doin anything, but fcuk all day N fcuk all night... food N sleep in between, but we're going to fcuk! I'll be there for a few days, but I miss him so much and I miss dcik so freakin much! This is starting to sound dirty, I know, but I can't wait!

Now I kinda know why guys get horny or think about sex all the time. Most girls do, too... but guys are so obvious about it. You can literally catch dudes checking you out. Looking at your chest, or your butt, or something! You know they are fcukin looking!

Anyway, so I never see my boyfriend, and from the last entry I posted, things haven't changed. He still hasn't been calling me all that much even though we argue about it all the time, and I think things need to change. I'm seeing him this weekend, and after I fcuk him, the relationship is over. Yeah, it's a bit wrong isn't it? I guess... but if it's not working out, it's not working out! I've told him about my problems, he said he was going to try, he made these promises, and basically, actions are much louder than words. I even warned him that I wasn't gonna look back this time, if I decide to leave, I'm going to leave! Maybe he isn't taking me seriously, but I'm getting tired of it. It gets old, ya know. It's not even like I'm asking for something HUGE, I'm just asking him to call me or text me. I mean, isn't that a given, in a relationship?

He knew I didn't want a relationship, but he kept insisting that things would be different, from the rest of my exes. I had bad relationships. I guess it is my fault, for not building enough will power to cut him off, but he was so sweet and we went through so much together, why not? Even though I "swore" off dudes before I went out with him... he knew about my situation, but he just kept insisting that it'll be different. We've only been together for 4 months? But within those 4 months, and BEFORE we got together, we went through a lot. I gave a lot of me to him, I let my guard down for him, and everything he wanted me to do, I've done for him. Things that I don't do for my exes... like LET GO of me?

Whatever, I'm over it. I can't wait to be single! Yeah, I might be lonely at times, but I already feel like I'm single! I haven't been single for more than a month since sophomore year, of fcukin HS! So I haven't been single for more than 6 years? I just have some what long term relationships... is it sad to say that I use them for sex? Emotions do develop, feelings are there, but most of the time, they are just there for me to fcuk. It's that over slutting myself around and trying to hook up with every guy in the room, when I can just fcuk one guy without even trying. I'm horny, he's there! I like to be physical, with my boyfriend... there has to be a connection, or chemistry, or attraction between us... or it's not gonna happen. I love to touch and feel.. I can't exactly do that with people I'm not attracted to, and I am pretty fcukin picky.

I know, someday, I would be taken, eventually, but as of now, I'm trying to enjoy life and keep my life on track. Maybe fix myself a little bit more instead of chasing dudes...? I just feel like all my relationships have been so fcukin retarded,  and I'm a little tired of guys right now. You can say it's the same with girls, too, but why is it when you meet a person, that person doesn't turn out to be who you thought he/she was? Not right in the head? A tad psycho? Somewhere around that area?

I'm not swearing off dudes totally, cuz I need some lovin, too. But NO MORE RELATIONSHIPS PLEASE! Keep it "classy" and keep the ho on the down low... I knoooooooooo... not all guys are the same, and I shouldn't give them a chance jus cuz of my past.. but I don't think it's even about that. I think it's just me, I want this, and I've been in relationships so long, that I don't know how to be fcukin single! FCUK it, yeah it's a lonely world out there, but it'll feel so fuckin good not to answer anyone, no obligations.. ohhhhh snaaaap! dun hate =p

I'm jus down to fcuk... and NO, I'm not a slut, I'm a man! hah!

=p

it's been a while since i've blogged

 

 i was too busy being happy and stuff.

 

but now, well, more like a month ago, spencer left me.

 

yep. so i'm single... again.

 

but i'm doing something different. i'm staying this way, at least for a while.

 

 

usually i'm all lonely and rebound. but this time, i'm gonna  have some time just for me. i need and deserve it.

 

 

so ya, the only thing that really sucks about this whole  ' single ' thing,

 

is the fact that he broke up with me because he didnt love me. so that hurts.

 

a lot.

 

but i'm moving on. i figure he dosnt deserve my time being sad about him. whatever.

 

if he dosnt love and adore me than thats his own stupid mistake. whatever.

 

 

 

yep. i feel strangely confident.

Nobody ever said single parenting is easy. As parents, we all learn with time. However, too often, the pressure of single parenting can be so overwhelming that it's easy to make mistakes.

Are you one of these single parents? Learn how you can avoid being one:

The Emotional Patient

Most single parents try to be a good friend to their children, which is a good thing. However, a problem arises when single dads or moms see their children as a source of emotional support. Children of single parents need stability and security. A divorce or the death of a parent can be a particularly traumatic experience for them.

No matter how mature or old your children are, avoid making them your confidante on issues such as how much money you have or what a lousy day you had. Don't rob them of their time to be children. It is unfair to burden them with issues that are difficult for them to handle. If you need to speak to someone, speak to your friends or a counselor.

The Guilt Tripper

As a single parent, it is easy to feel guilty about many things. Not being around when your children need you, not being able to help them with their homework, and so on. The danger with feeling guilty all the time is that some single parents tend to develop a lower self esteem that they may pass on to the children. Don't be hard on yourself. Learn to take the ups and downs in your stride. And, by all means, don't try to bolster your self-image by fishing for compliments about what kind of parent you are.

The Permissive Parent

Children need as much love and attention as you can give them. However, some single parents make the mistake of being too permissive and never correct their children when it's necessary.

Research has shown that the children brought up in overly permissive parenting styles may develop behavioral problems because they do not easily accept responsibility.

Be firm and know where to draw the line. Shower your children with affection but set clear rules and limits. This, of course, does not mean being harsh or too authoritarian. Perfect the art of saying "I love you but a NO means a NO."

The Martyr

Single parenting can be such an overwhelming experience that many parents simply forget to take care of themselves. With all the effort and sacrifice required to handle regular tasks such as meals and activities, it's no surprise that many single parents get burned out. Don't be a martyr. Your children require your time and energy and the only way to sustain it is by allotting some time for yourself.

Pamper yourself from time to time, be it writing in your journal, listening to music, or working out in the gym. Arrange for a babysitter or a trusted friend to look after your children when you are away. Look at it not just as time goofing off, but very important re-charging time so you can get back to the difficult job of being a great dad.

Whether this is all new or you have years of experience as a Single Dad, the pressures of solo parenting are constant. Though resources for Single Dads were historically scant, today (thankfully) there is a growing arsenal books, websites and organizations devoted to help you navigate through all the challenges of single parenting. Below you will find a comprehensive guide of resource that can help you navigate through life more effectively while caring for children on your own.
 
Best of Books
 
The New Father. The Single Father:  A Dad's Guide to Parenting without a Partner (Abbeville Press, 1999); Designed to help Dads foster the father-child relationship, despite constraints or changes in their circumstances. Author Armin A. Brott gives Dads the knowledge, skills and support they need to maintain actively involved role models.

Where's Daddy? (Bloomsbury Publishing PLC, 1996); An invaluable guide for mothers and fathers with broken families based on a questionnaire that was sent out to hundreds of separated and divorced parents. Where's Daddy helps answer children's questions concerning separation and divorce, and provides forewarning of the doubts and problems which may arise later.
 
Surviving the Single Dad Syndrome (PublishAmerica, 2004); Valuable information on how to be a great single dad, complete with ideas and strategies for building a home and a life for your kids whenever you're with them.
 
Quality Time for Dad: A Parenting Guide for the Single Father (Authorhouse, 2004); Simple, straight and to the point, Quality Time for Dad answers the questions single Dads need answers to.
 
Fathers' Rights: Hard-Hitting and Fair Advice for Every Father Involved in a Custody Dispute (Basic Books, 1998); Written by an attorney with extensive experience in Father's rights cases, this book walks custody battling Dads through the different phases, scenarios, and pitfalls of impending litigation.

Always Dad: Being A Great Father During and After Divorce (Nolo Press, 2006): Paul Mandelstein, founder of Father's Resource Network, shows Dads how to preserve family and self-esteem during and after divorce. The author provides clear guidelines on what to expect in a divorce plus a realistic plan for how to mitigate the pain and move forward with a positive frame of mind.

The Long-Distance Dad: How You Can Be There for Your Child-Whether Divorced, Deployed, or On The Road (Robert D. Reed Publishers, 2006); Steven Ashley, founder of the Divorced Fathers Network, teaches remote Dads how to stay connected to their children despite distance. This one of a kind book is complete with tools and techniques for long distance parents.

Cook Like a Mother, Clean Like a Pro: The Single Dad's Guide to Cooking and Cleaning (PM Wright Communications, 2002); This combination cookbook and happy homemaker manual, written by Peter Wright, is ideal for single fathers who need to quickly learn how to provide proper nutrition and a clean environment for their kids.

Best of the Web

SingleFather.Org: This online community lets single dads connect, share and learn from each other virtually. While some of the sections remain to be completed, the site also includes a comprehensive resource and articles list on single parenting.

DadsRights.org: A location-driven database which allows fathers to search for legal representation, child support or legal information in their particular state.

DadcanDo.com: A comprehensive portal for all Dads, but particularly single ones who need extra help caring for children. The site is neatly divided into cooking, making and doing sections, and provides tips and techniques for just about everything from homework to birthday party planning.

The Single Fathers' Lighthouse (www.lighthousedad.com); An inspiration website filled with an international resource directory, must read book list an plenty of humor and inspirational tips for single fathers.