Sexual Abuse @ MindSay 
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1. Sexual abuse of children usually occurs when children are not taught to avoid strangers.
2. People who sexually abuse children try to get to know the child first.
3. The most common age when children report that they have been sexually abused is between ages 8 and 12.
4. It is estimated that one out of every four children will have been sexually abused by age 18.
5. Children are usually physically hurt when they are sexually abused.
6. The psychological effects of sexual abuse are serious and permanent.
7. 75% of the children who come to need foster care have been sexually abused.
8. Children often lie or exaggerate about sexual abuse.
9. Children over the age of 12 who behave in a sexy way are at fault if they are sexually abused.
10. Most people who sexually abuse children are male, unemployed or gay.
11. Very few boys are ever sexually assaulted.
12. Sexually abused girls often take on the role of the "little mother".
13. The best thing a foster or adoptive parent can do to help a sexually abused child is to tell the child to forget about it and promise him/her that s/he will never see the offender again.
14. Sexual abuse is a learned behavior.
15. By the time a child gets adopted, s/he has forgotten about being sexually abused.
We need to teach children about safety. We, as adults, also need to educate ourselves about sexual abuse, the warning signs of sexually abusing behaviors and the risk factors that create situations that make children vulnerable. Then we adults need to act. Here are some things that you and your family can do to prevent the sexual abuse of a child you know and love.
Adults need to:
- Set and respect family boundaries.
- Speak up when you see behaviors that violate a child's personal boundaries or make children vulnerable.
- Watch for signs of sexually inappropriate behavior in adults, between adults and children, and in children.
- In your own life, demonstrate to your children that it is OK to say "no" when someone you know and care about does something you do not like.
- Practice talking about difficult topics such as sexual abuse with other adults.
- Be sure that you are comfortable saying the proper names of body parts before you teach them to your children.
- Teach children the difference between OK touch and touch that is not OK. As they get older, teach the more subtle differences between red light, yellow light, and green light behaviors. These three levels of behaviors are a clear way to describe the gray areas which include sexual behaviors that are clearly inappropriate, but are not legally sexual abuse.
- Teach children that secrets about touching are not OK.
- Set up a family safety plan that is easy to remember.
- List for yourself whom to call for advice, information, and help.
Report anything you know or suspect is sexual abuse.
Bring not every man into your house
For many are the snares of the crafty one
Though he seem like a bird confied in a cage
Yet like a spy he will pick out the weak spots
The talebearer turns good into evil
With a spark he sets many coals afire
The evil man lies in wait for blood
And plots against your choicest possessions
Avoid a wicked man for he breeds only evil
Lest you incur a lasting stain
Lodge a stranger with you
And he will subvert your course
And make a stranger of you to your own household
~Sirach 11: 29-34
Xanax,
A beer for thought
And she's determined
She's taking off
~Green Day
This is not how it's supposed to be. This is not how i imagined it. College, life, love, friends, all of it. It's just not the way I want it to be. I'm not the way I want to be. I think it's over for me. Yes, I really do. I think it's over. Nothing left to do or say. It's done, I'm done, You're done....................
There is no God or justice in this world so unkind
Days like today secure this further in my mind
You've made me bleed and caused cells in my brain and liver to die
Pumped my bloodstream full of poisons to cope with pain inside
Yet you feel no shame and I'll bet you still do
All those horrible things to others that you put me thro
You knew what you were doing, manipulating me to be with you
For the longest time I thought "no one will ever love you" was true
But I'm gonna prove you wrong you rapist son of a bitch
Unlike you I'm free of that codependent nitch
Remember who came begging and crying back to me?
And I'll bet you miss me and wish we were meant to be
You made it such a struggle for me to reach the age you are today
I can't count the number of times I wanted to take my life away
I still do most times but I'm not stopped by the sin
I'll never give your fat hairy ass the pleasure of knowing you win
You don't deserve the life that you raped away from me
You should be a hollow shell, a soul bound and no longer free
The insecurities your toxic seed implanted in me still blossom
I find myself closing my eyes to life and trying to play possum
My soul has been stained and I'll never be well
Fuck you you sick faggot, I'll see you in hell
But I'm gonna prove you wrong as best as I can
I was better off before this relationship began
I may have been "screwed up to begin with" as you said
But who came back begging to rejoin my arms and my bed?
I've made it this far on my own and I can make it the rest of the way
After all I some how made it to the age you are now today
And I'll bet you love how I'm still forced to think of you
Your retribution is too long overdue
I know how much you loved to force things on me
And I hope one day someone else will make you see
Cuz I guess you didn't get it after the cousin u cheated on me with gave you a taste
Of all of those disgusting and horrifying things that you forced me to face
But at least I know this much is true
Its much better to be single than to be with an asshole like you
I'm gonna prove you wrong you rapist son of a bitch
Unlike you I'm free of that codependent nitch
I'll never forget the tears in your eyes and the lies on your lips
When you realized you'd never again be near these hips
You're lucky that the legal system threw this case away
Because you should be celebrating ur 20th birthday in prison today
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