Serial Killers @ MindSay

Here is a book recomendation from me that doesn't have to do with serial killers or criminal behavior (my usual reads) I highly recommend: Lies My Teacher Told Me: Everything Your American History Textbook Got Wrong by James W. Loewen ISBN number 0-684-81886-8.

It may seem to many to be anti-American, but really it's just the truth...and isn't THAT what America is REALLY about? It is amazing how much we are lied to, and what we believe in order to prove to ourselves that we are the greatest country of all. Couldn't we still have a great country and tell the truth? Wouldn't that be better? Or are our sins as a country too horrible to forgive?

TG

Should you know if your spouse is gay?  That is the question brought up by Dina McGreevey, the ex-wife of former New Jersey governor, James McGreevey, who had to resign due to the threat of exposure of his homosexuality.  One would think so.  I would like to think that I'd be able to tell before I took that long walk down the plank of love, but is it actually possible for someone to lie that well for that long?  The scary thing is, I think it is possible for some.

 

A lot more people lead "double lives" than one might imagine.  Sometimes the secret is as big as an entire other family.  I mean, that is one big secret!  We all have our secrets.  It's just that most of them aren't quite as devastating.  Speaking of devastation, take Paula Rader, the wife of Dennis Rader, aka the BTK Killer.  They were married in May of 1971, and had two children.  One may ask, how could she have been married to him for so long, and not have known?  It's a good question; however, statistics show that serial killers are usually married with children.  Are these men brilliant liars, or are their wives just in complete denial?

 

Shouldn't one be able to tell if there spouse is hiding something so huge?  Shouldn't they at least be able to sense that something is off?  Again, I'd like to think that I would know something was going on.  Do you think you'd be able to tell?  I'm interested in your response.

 

Until Next Time,
Rose

A friend sent me this with the usual instructions to foward it.  I thought it to be important enough to post - could very well save a life!


A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women whose clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing.

3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5: 00a.m. and 8: 30a.m.

5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store parking lots. Number two is office parking lots/garages. Number three is public restrooms.

6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.

7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.

8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.  Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.

10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: "I can't believe it is so cold out here", "we're in for a bad winter." Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.

11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell STOP or STAY BACK! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes), yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY, VERY, HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it hurts.

14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble and he's out of there.

15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible! The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!

2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans. If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you.... chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit there (doing their check book, or making a list, etc. DON'T DO THIS!) The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.

If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.

B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out.

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; and even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, preferably in a zigzag pattern!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP. It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked "for help" into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last and she called the police because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her "Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door."

The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, "We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do, DO NOT open the door." He told her that they think a serial killer has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby. He said they have not verified it! , but have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby's cries outside their doors when they're home alone at night.

The Alienist is set in the captivating world of New York in the year 1896. Boy prostitutes are being viciously murdered. Police Commissioner Theodore Roosevelt (yes!) assembles a group of intelligent, unorthodox characters to ferret out the killer. Led by the infamous "alienist" (one who studies and treats the mentally ill) Dr. Lazlo Kreizler, the team desparately tries to find out the identity of the murderer before any more children are brutalized.

Why hasn't someone made a movie of this book? It is richly populated with characters both real and imaginary, the pre-1900's setting is historically interesting, and the main theme of how childhood shapes the adult mind is fascinating. Carr has constructed a wonderful historical thriller that comes alive in the mind's eye as you read it. This book is simply superb. Hello, any directors out there? Instead of remaking every horror movie from the 1970's, how about this story???

Here, I will help out by putting together a partial cast list, just to save you time and effort-
Dr. Kreizler- Daniel Day Lewis (dark, handsome, mysterious, brilliant, foreign)
John Moore- Colin Farrell (cad-ish, wealthy, jaded, likes to mix it up with undesirable types, smart)
Sara Hamilton- Claire Danes (shrewd, independent, fearless, carries pistols, beautiful)
Cyrus- Djimon Honounsou (cultured, menacing/intimidating air, fearfully well-built)
The Isaacson Brothers- David Schwimmer & Jonathan Silverman (quirky genius ahead-of-it's-time)
Stevie Taggert- Jamie Bell (tough, streetwise)

Now, that gives a good head start.

Book club members, our next novel is Century by Fred Mustard Stewart. I'm in a New York state of mind...