Protect @ MindSay 
There were times when she was disoriented, trying to figure out if she was being herself, or, what? She thought, everyone dreams of what could be, what they want to feel, or how it could be. He confused her. He didn't look like she thought he should. He didn't act like she thought he should, and yet he seemed to be able to devastate her, unpredictable. She'd given herself totally before and felt an old wave of anger hit her. The betrayal, the surprise, the hurt, fresh in that exact moment. She wanted to languish in happiness, she didn't want to be made feel that she'd betrayed herself being full, satisfied. She had relied on that, wrapped herself in it.
She reached for the water and focused on turning it on, looking around to find washcloths, whatever. She took a breath and wiped away tears, then felt his arms smother her from behind. She could hide within those arms. She couldn't smile or speak and took a long moment, holding one hand on his arms so he wouldn't take them away, the other reaching adjusting the water. He didn't release her, then kissed the nape of her neck and she let herself be brought back to the here and now, realizing that in this reality she had, she was required to focus, to serve, to please this man. She turned in his arms, avoided looking at him, and rested her head on his chest for a too-short moment.
She recovered and found herself, put him in the deep tub and sat across from him. She took the soap she'd opened earlier, worked up the washcloth and handed it to him. He washed from her waist up and leaned her to him so he could wash her back and shoulders. She turned on her knees and presented herself to him. He reached for the soap, and laid aside the washcloth. Soapy fingers, soft hands and a kiss, massaged her hips and thighs and the sensitive folds of her and she again turned her back on the past. She took her turn now and washed his chest, his back, legs and and arms. She soaped her hands and washed his cock, thighs and hips, caressing him and cupping the warm water in her hands to rinse away the soap. His cock grew heavy in her hand and she looked up smiling silently into his eyes, her confidence full now.
"Hmmm. How about we take care of this in front of the fire?" She beckoned him to stand, rinsed him and put his robe on him without toweling him. His cock stuck out from the robe and she giggled, and grasped it, tilting her head for the expected kiss. He had not spoken since he came in and she suddenly understood, she had him under her hand, her care. Her mind registered the moment and she took control. She ran her other hand over his arm, and waited for the next kiss. She could feel she was slipping away, knew what was next and beckoned it, summoned the pain, and released herself as he took her in his arms and carried her out nude, placing her in front of the fire on blankets. She spread her legs wide as he liked her, and reached between them, opening herself for him and held her breath. He examined her and opened her more with his fingers. Her eyes burned now, looking into his eyes, or when he stared at her, watching her cum as he fingers massaged her, examining her. Still watching him, she took his hand, moved his fingers deeper, quietyly came again and whimpered for him.
He put her legs over his shoulders and pushed into her fully. She swam in her thoughts and the liquid fire in her hips burned, as she waited for the next surge. He was gentle, he was relentless, he was gentle, he was relentless and she felt herself fade completely, suddenly full, suddenly spent and gasping for air. She curled under him and shuddered, terrified. He whispered to her and she felt adored, and ashamed, and rewarded for his pleasure. Another notch, deeper into damnation or salvation, she wasn't sure, but wished for hope. She had no choice, so she trusted. Another notch.
The cool air stole heat from her and she held her arms out instinctively, reaching to be embraced by the heat of his skin against hers. He slid his arms under her and the blankets, held her against his chest and whispered in sweetly in her ear. She whispered she didn't earn it, she didn't earn it. He whispered again and held her tighter, until she granted his kiss and took him back into her care. He held her and begged for another, cradling her against him. She breathed breath into him and heard him moan as she granted each request. She put her hand on his chest, her fingers caressing him, protecting him.
Listen up folks! Regardless if you read the news or not a few stories in the last few months to the beginning of this year should have caught your attention.
Women but I think Men need to start worrying also. Across the nation in various states, healthy women have been disappearing with no signs of struggle, dna, or real witnesses. A few of them have been found sure and cases drawn up against various people but what I find really interesting is the fact those that aren't being found are not in the news anymore.
Now we have a missing young woman from NY. An educated, strong, family orintated woman who studied criminal law and was down in FL visiting family. I have yet to read the other news article about the missing pregnant lady in OH. But it bothers me. So many women in this country on the east coast to the midwest are showing up missing. Women that wouldn't just up and leave their families and their lives. Sure life's ups and down get us down but none of us would willingly leave our lives unless we did something real terrible. And none of these women had anything in their past that was even remotely "skelotons" in the closet.
Sure I could start spouting conspiracy theories. I have an active imagination but I don't think it is anyone group or peoples harming all these women. I think it is just the sickness of human nature rearing its head because how sick our society and world have become.
I urge all women and men (they can be victims of every crime also) to take a self defense class and learn how to handle oneself if they are the victim of a kidnapping. We sit there and hammer it in to our children to yell, scream, run to a near by house, run to a store cleak. If they get thrown into a trunk kick out the lights and wave. And all sorts of other things. But we forget to take these things in also. Especially parents. Our first thought when someone comes at us and we have children is to protect the children. But we need to also protect ourselves.
Please keep these young women in your prayers and blessings. And their families.
When you threaten or take someone's life in your hands, it becomes our job to make peace or make an arrest. In a split second, the police officer on the scene can become a victim while attempting to contain and control a violent domestic situation or a hostile criminal who refuses to be arrested. In any situation we must always be alert, perceptive and ready to act. We know if we don't, we could lose our life in a split second - all in the line of duty. And what happens to our immediate family left behind?
I have told other people (new drivers in my world) not to drive with cruise control when it's icy.
Today was not precisely icy. So, I of course figure that I'll be fine with cruise control for my forty-minute drive back home from school.
When your car starts getting bogged down a little in the occasional snow drifts, that's an indication that you shouldn't have cruise control on.
When you have the feeling that you're not quite in control of your vehicle, that's an indication that you shouldn't be driving that fast (I'm not speeding, but going another 10 mph slower would have been prudent).
And when you look at a setup, and before you even arrive at it, you have this sense of impending doom, you should really listen to that.
I'm driving past the windmills outside a certain town, towards said town. Coming from said town, we have two cars, and a black Forester a bit further back.
By the way, I'm starting to suspect that Puck and Fate are getting together on these. Every time there's a mildly freaky incident on the road involving me and another vehicle, that other vehicle is usually the same model as that of one of my friends. It'll be someone that I know isn't on the road right then, or they never drive that road, but it's still freaky. Rogue, when he's home, drives a black Forester.
I get in the habit of estimating where ahead of me on the road I'm going to pass oncoming vehicles. This started with one of the flocks of sparrows. They like to hang out on the road, I suppose it's warmer or something. Anyway, I was guessing which car they would fly away from first. On a previous incident, they'd flown away from the other car first, and one of them seemed to catch a weird air current down instead of up...resulting in me nailing it. Whumph. Sigh.
Random note here: I've been seeing far more birds gathering on the drive since the storm. There are usually four or a half-dozen gatherings of sparrows, but there've been a lot of pheasants coming up to the road, too. And today, I saw three turkeys. One was crossing, and from a distance I couldn't figure out what it was, because it looked like it was about the size of a large cat, but it didn't quite move right. I've never seen them up by the road before.
Somewhere in the grey area of what I decided our passing would be, there's a couple big packs of frozen slush glued to the road. This is where the sense of impending doom came from - you can't tell at a distance what these are going to be like. Usually, they're no problem - either they're just powder, light enough that your car just throws it, or sometimes they're so hard that you just go over them. Some of them are deep enough and sticky enough to bog your tire down on the one side, so that you're unbalanced (really makes it interesting if you're on cruise control). And in the case of this one, it's long enough that a temporary loss of control escalates.
I also know perfectly well not to hit the brakes as soon as I start to spin or lose traction. I know this, I've been told this, I believe I've told my sisters this. But it's instinctive.
Fortunately, I started to wobble, and then the Forester blew by to safety, so I wasn't concerned about him anymore. But in the fishtailing, I somehow made it off the road enough that I was on the soft gravel shoulder. And that was the point where I started to get a little concerned (read: freak). While I don't have a pole immediately in my field of vision this time, that last one was on a subtle uphill. This road is rather built up, and if I go far enough to be going down that embankment, the only thing I know for certain is that it'll be interesting.
Somehow at that point I realized I was on the brakes, and I let up. Tires grabbed enough traction to pull us back onto the road, but by the time the car stopped, I had completely turned around. Didn't cross into the other lane, but I was looking back at the way I had come, just trying to calm down. Hyper breathing. Shaking uncontrollably. Once I could move again, went to the opposite shoulder to calm down (at least this way, I'm facing the same direction as traffic).
Thanked God several times. That I'd stayed on the road. That the Forester had gone through fast enough. That there hadn't been any more traffic until I was back on the opposite shoulder (at 3 p.m. on this particular road, that's a bit of a surprise). That I was okay. That the car was okay. That the two cars in front of the Forester (one of them had flung up several slushchunks the size of golf balls to splatter over me) hadn't been involved, and that the resulting splatter hadn't done damage (if there'd been a rock in there, it would have also been interesting). And that I recognized when I was being stupid. Hopefully this'll teach me for the future - I intend to let it.
It's been suggested that I spend some hours playing around in a parking lot, since this is the second time this winter that I've been having fishtailing fun. I informed the suggester that I will most likely have time in April or so.
However, I am puzzled at my reaction to this situation. I know I'm not afraid of death, because that's just going home. I know that it's okay when I'm not in control, because God always is. So, why is my response to freak out so badly?
Corporal punishment is still part of discipline policy in most schools in Uganda, in shear contempt of the ban of the practice by the government since June 16, 1997. The Ministry of Education issued a circular entitled “A Temporary Ban on the Use of Corporal Punishment in Schools and Colleges” which states that random beating must stop in schools and colleges and forbids it in nursery schools and infant classes. The circular instructed schools to review their discipline policy.
Research by Save the Children reported in 2004 looked at the problem of violence against children in Uganda and found that physical abuse was the most common form. More than nine out of ten children reported having experienced physical violence including caning, slapping and pinching both at school and at home. Of those who experienced physical violence, 16.1% said it occurred at least once a week, 15% said it occurred daily. (Dipak, 2004, “Raising Voices Uganda”, cited in Derib, A., 2005, Regional Report on Physical and Humiliating Punishment against Children, Save the Children)
Children are protected from abuse and neglect under the Children Act (2003) (which updates the 1996 Children’s Statute), the Constitution (1995) and the Penal Code (amended 1990). The Children Act states that it is the duty of a parent, guardian or any person having custody of a child to “protect children from discrimination, violence, abuse and neglect. Article 24 of the Constitution protects every person including children (spouses as well) from torture, cruel, inhuman or degrading treatment or punishment. Articles 219, 222 and 235-246 of the Penal Code cover bodily harm and assault.
Corporal punishment is explicitly prohibited by the Guidelines for Universal Primary Education (1998, article 3.4 iii), in principle should apply not only to government schools but also to private ones. This attempt proves the government of Uganda’s willingness to fully adhere to the Convention on the Rights of the Child, particularly in protecting “children from all forms of physical or mental violence, injury or abuse… maltreatment… while in the care of the parents, legal guardians…” This is a fundamental human right that must be observed by all citizens including the parents and the teachers.
Many parents were concerned about frequent cases of abuses and harms on children as the result of corporal punishment by those who are supposed to protect the children in their custody. For most Ugandan children, beating is a normal part of the school experience, and teachers find corporal punishment as a better and quick way of maintaining classroom discipline. The government intervention came as a relief to parents as well as children.
Some teachers assert that beating does serve as a means to awaken children who have poor academic performance and make them work. One wonders whether poor performance is always children’s fault and not the teachers’ failure to deliver properly knowledge taking into account children’s learning styles and intelligences. What makes the matter worse is the fact that corporal punishment is in most cases routine, randomly administered, and often violent resulting in cases of severe injuries and death sometimes. Such teaching methods interfere with a child's right to receive an education and to be protected from violence and are a violation both Ugandan law and international human rights standards.
According to the U.N. Committee on the Rights of the Child, school corporal punishment is incompatible with the Convention on the Rights of the Child, the world's most widely-ratified human rights treaty. Education experts and other human rights bodies have also found some forms of school-based corporal punishment to be cruel, inhuman or degrading treatment or punishment.
Confusion persists among teachers and parents about what discipline really is. Many do refer to discipline solely in term of punishment. Safer Child Inc. sees discipline as different from punishment. It is not only a method of correcting inappropriate behaviour, but also a way of teaching and guiding children. The word also includes praise, laughter, and fun. Discipline means to “teach” and involves giving children instruction, make clear what is expected of them and praise them for doing what they have been taught or instructed to do. It also involves correcting misbehavior by speaking to children in respectful ways.
Talking or counseling works better than hitting. Corporal punishment is not respectful for children. It does not work the way some think it does. It might stop misbehavior for the moment but it is not an effective way of changing behavior in the long term. The more children are hit, the more likely they are to become bullies, to hit friends and family members and to hit spouses and their children when they are adults. Researches have proven that corporal punishment of children often leads to injury, alienates caregivers and children, and contributes to the cycle of physical violence by teaching it is acceptable to hit people who are weaker and smaller.
Many who have passed through corporal punishment ‘school’ would argue that the ban on corporal punishment may cause a serious decline discipline in schools and homes. Children will become very disrespectful since they know they can talk to adults any way they want and get away with it. Detentions, deprivations, and suspensions will not deter them from bad behavior. Corporal punishment would bring back proper discipline.
Others would rationalize that corporal punishment did not do them bad. But nobody really knows the consequences of such method on their lives as adult. Just as it was justifiable and ‘legal’ for blacks to be slaves, women to be viewed as an inferior race or girls to be mutilated! We may be now socializing with many such victims who ignore their real mental status. Today children grow up in a totally different environment. They are exposed to all sorts of information and pressure that shape their spirit in different manner than was the case 20 or 30 years ago. Adding beating on top of these, one wonders we are making of the next generation.
Among the proponent of corporal punishment, many will agree that verbal attacks on the child's self-esteem, belittling children, denigrating their actions, shouting at them, insulting them, swearing at them, intimidating them, are no doubt highly undesirable because they constitutes psychological torture. But they may forget that the same is true regarding beating since in reality it affects them psychologically in the same.
Corporal punishment will never improve discipline in school or at home. It will not lead to any more respect from children than one gets from striking a spouse. Instead violent discipline opens the way to anger, humiliation, the desire for revenge, but not to respect. Many young people have not learned to respect authority and have not had good models for learning that social skill. Children need to be told what is expected of them. They need to be given concrete examples of what “respect” means in the society. We should remember that some of them have not learned this before.
A report in United States of America states that ‘more and more school districts are banning it with good results. Memphis TN City Schools banned corporal punishment a year ago. A recent report to the school board showed 91 schools that stopped paddling last year and relied more on counseling students who had discipline problems saw a drop in office referrals by roughly 30,000, and suspensions dropped by nearly 20,000 in 104 schools! Dallas ISD and Duval County Florida (Jacksonville) banned paddling in 2005. Both are among the nation's largest school districts.’ (New TX of 22/8/2005)
Corporal punishment of children is an at-risk behavior which can easily lead to child abuse. Billions of dollars are spent on child abuse prevention annually, yet child abuse rates continue to be high, and children continue to fall through the cracks of the institutions that were designed to protect them. There is no doubt we are failing children, not just by not curtailing abuse, but because we often not providing the kind of discipline that leads to self-disciplined, productive and caring adults.
Teacher, as well parents as, will do well to give a thought to this statement made by Desmond M. Tutu on the Global Study on Violence against Children: “I suppose the Global Initiative to eliminate all corporal punishment at home, at school, in institutions and community. This worldwide movement has gained prominence through the current UN Secretary General’s Global Study on Violence against Children. Progress towards abolishing corporal punishment is being made, but millions of the world’s children still suffer from humiliating acts of violence and these violations of their rights as human beings can have serious and lifelong effects. Violence begets violence and we shall reap a whirlwind. Children can be disciplined without violence that instils fear and misery, and I look forward to … communities working with other organisations to use the context of the study to make progress towards ending all forms of violence against children.” Desmond M. Tutu (Archbishop Emeritus) Another scholar added: “If we are ever to turn toward a kindlier society and a safer world, a revulsion against the physical punishment of children would be a good place to start.”- Dr. Benjamin Spock
Mukendi Kamwanga Willy
Human Rights Defender & Teacher
Email: wmukendi@amnesty.org
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