People On Mindsay @ MindSay

Ok, so the real reason I don't write on Mindsay anymore is because it just pisses me off. I agree with people having a place to write their feelings and connect and stuff, but I'm so sick of people getting big on these networks, and then making the most ridiculous statements. About 90% of the people on Mindsay mindlessly agree with everything someone says because they're hot, or popular. It's ridiculous, this isn't high school, so you all should just calm down.

Mindsay is a place for opinions and feelings, so get some of your own. Who cares what some person hundreds or thousands of miles away thinks of you. Does that really fill you up with whatever you're looking for? Or are you just mindlessly stuffing yourself with something worthless, that will just leave you more empty than before?

Its not even worth arguing with people about these things, just have some more respect! I'm so sick of hearing "fags shouldn't get married" and "abortion is wrong, if you got raped its your fault" or any racial crap that I don't even want to quote here.

Everyone's entitled to their own opinions, but if it disrespects anyone else, just keep it to yourself. The world is a crappy enough place as it is, so stop giving people crap that they don't deserve just because of who they are or what they believe.

Here on Mindsay we run into an awful lot of personalities.  We see people who are introspective bloggers who use Mindsay as a personal journal and we see people who like to blog about things in their community and about current world events. 

We also have people who are known by the type of replies they leave.  There are the encouragers, the political commentators, the people who leave brief comments with smilies and hugs and the people who like to leave long, thorough comments. Unfortunately, there are people who seem to get a kick out of leaving rude, obnoxious comments. I like to refer to these people as the know-it-alls.  Let's talk about the know-it-alls for a second.  The know-it-alls not only want to regale you with their arsenal of knowledge, they often assume that everyone they come across is intellectually inferior or their favorite word "ignorant".  The problem is, most of the knowledge in their arsenal is obtained by questionable sources and is terribly distorted by their marred views of the world.  They feel as if they have nothing more to learn because as their name indicates, they know-it-all! 

They commonly respond to a post they disagree with by using one or more of these generic phrases:  "I can't believe someone voted for this" or "I find your views on this matter laughable"  or "perhaps if you actually took the time to think logically...". These phrases are often used even before the conversation (if it can actually be called a conversation) turns into a debate. They just start insulting the blogger right out of the gate.

Now there's nothing wrong with disagreeing with a person's point of view, you are entitled to your opinions. However, not being able to respond to someone in a RESPECTFUL manner only makes you look like an asshat (if I may borrow a phrase from Snuggs).  What does it show? It shows IMMATURITY, POOR BREEDING and a LACK OF SELF- RESPECT.  My Big Mama would say, "Act like you've got some home training."  That means act like you were raised by a decent family and not a pack of wolves. Spewing venom wrapped in blanket of misspelled S.A.T. words doesn't make you look like an intellectual bad-ass, it just makes you look like someone who has an axe to grind and something to prove. That being said, I happen to like engaging in in discussions with people who have different opinions.  I also greatly admire the people who can respectfully agree to disagree. 

 I have been on Mindsay for just over two years. I don't even remeber why I started this blog (well actually this is my third reincarnation on Mindsay, I was first whoismsm  and then I was this name but I spelled orange wrong so I deleted it).

one of the thing this blog and my wikipage have become is a place for me to educated others on many of the misconceptions on handicaped, disabled, and defromed persons. I have a birth defect and it has made my life hard at time. I have been lucky that it has not cost me friends, jobs, etc. I do know and know of people hwere their disabilities have cost them so much. For this reason one on my causes in life is to help those with disabilities any way that I can.

I have place many links iwth information about my Syndrome all over my page. and I jhave gotten mostly generous and supportive outcomes.

I had no intention of useing this blog in that way but I now am glad that I am helping those I have always wanted to.

Recently I have made a new Mindsay friend, Tallyho . She has MS. we have had an ongoing discussion of life with a disability. She has a much bigger burden then I do. I am so glad she reached out to me.

Tally, mentioned how she is sometimes not thought of as having MS. She shared with me the example of people getting mad at her for parking in a handicapped spot, even though she physically appears not to be handicapped.

I wish people would not judge in that way. I myself live almost everyday with back pain that no one would know by looking at me.

Just because a person doesn't appear to be handicapped or disabled doesn't that is the case. I personally am not handicapped but do have a disability.

give people the help they need. that help may be just being patient and not judging. that could make the world to them.
I have a hard time lifting a carrying thing because my left hand is deformed. I am not asking for a medel of honor Ijust ask that people understand and be patient.

Tally, I'm sure agrees.    

Any way I'm rambling. My point is when you are fac to face with someone they may or may not be a person with a handicapp. If they are the best way to help in alot a cases is to look upon them with patience, understanding  and not to judge.

Thanks for Reading,

Mark M.

"politics, it's a drag
they put one foot in the grave
and the other on the flag
systems rotten to the core
young and old deserve much more
than struggling every day until you're done"

--Both Sides of the Gun by Ben Harper

This may be because of the fact that we are towards the end of a election year, or that ever since Bush was swore in to office the country has been divided, or the fact that liberals and conservatives will never see eye to eye, but there is alot of political (and general)  hatred on Mindsay right now.

Sure, my hands aren't clean of talking about the other side of the political spectrum. But most of what isn't mean.

Why can't we have a polite open debate? When these blog networks were started that was one of the things they had in mind.

Too many people are just on here being mean. Homophobes, racists, sexists. right-winger, left-wingers, religous-intolerants, they are all  here trying spreading their hatred. Mindsay deserves better. They call it a community for a reason. We are all here together and we all have the right to be. We cna either use this site to spread hatred or we can use it to try and better the world. I'd hope we would choose to try and vetter the world.

I know people sometimes think that people agree wiht their opinions, or that their opinions don't offend. I also know that when people write on this they can sometimes think that no one will read them.

Please think about what you are writing and the people who may read it. Too many people's feeling can get hurt.

Thanks for Reading,

Mark M.

I was bored this morning, and decided to browse through random people on mindsay. Alot of faces I had never seen, since I usually would like to think I've seen a nice chunk of mindsay people. And some profiles I thought were interesting, but had just never bothered to read. Laziness? not quite. more like their picture didnt interest me enough. I didnt even give someone's profile a chance because of it's "appearance". and I wondered if any of us have been turned down or missed oppurtunities to make new Mindsay friends solely based on that we judged their icon or they judged ours.

along with this I was reminded how cold I can be in person to people I don't know. I assume their character and just shut them down. When I'm at the gym I seemingly hate every guy because I assure myself that they're all meat heads with no brains and just want shallow insanely fit women. maybe if I opened up more with just a smile at the gym, I could show people I'm not a cold man hating bitch. I say I dont want people to judge me by my appearance, but I did it anyways to people I dont know.

your thoughts?

~Angel