Partners @ MindSay

If you are a single parent, you need not be alone. With the help of Parents Without Partners, you can be part of an international movement that is dedicated to the interests of single parents and their children.

What is it?
Founded in 1957 in New York City, Parents Without Partners is a non-profit organization that provides single parents and their children a platform to connect with each other and build their self-confidence and personal growth.

Jim Egleson and Jacqueline Bernard, the founders, felt isolated from society because of their marital status and decided to form an organization that would cater to the needs of single parents like them. After a newspaper advertisement titled "Parents Without Partners," several single parents showed interest. Today, the organization has more than thousands of members in the United States and Canada.

Why should I join?
Almost every single parent, at some point or the other, feels the need to connect with other single parents to discuss issues and seek support. Moreover, the strong sense of community that such organizations provide can actually be beneficial for children as well as the parent.

Members of Parents Without Partners come from all walks of life. Divorced, separated, or never married parents participate in a range of social and educational activities for parents and children.

How do I join?
To be a member, you must be a single parent. The reason for being single can be death of spouse, separation, divorce, or any special case that Parents Without Partners deems as acceptable. Visit the Parents Without Partners website for more information on how to join. parentswithoutpartners.org/join.htm

I don't have custody of my children. Can I join?
Parents without partners does not consider child custody as a factor for membership.

Relationships 101 Tune -up Tips Be at least as kind and forgiving to your partner as you would be with a houseguest Work at it every day whether you like it or not Fight with yourself before you fight with your partner- don’t make underhanded comments or hurtful remarks. Make time for warmpth , affection and sex becuase you wont find time for them Have regular discussions at least once a month and reconnect and see how things are going. make time for “us” time family time is not “couple time” Change things up even if movie nights is working, find some new and fun to do things Ocassionally, go all out with and adventuure of the ordinary Tell him expressions of admiration and reinforcement daily, like when you were dating. Give yourslef a time out when angry, address issues when caalmer so you dont say something , you will reget Dont be afraid to go to a marriage professional. Meanwhile, take a mini-marriage check Below with your mate and check the health of your relationship Were you often playful together? We just have fun the two of us. I feel comfortable telling most of my feelings to my partner /husband or wife. I feel understood when my partner listens to me. How we manage money as a couple is a strength in our relationship Sex is a strength in our relationship We understand and respect each others basic values. If you found yourself disagreeing with one or more of these statements ,then its time to investigate potential trouble spots. INCLUDING EMPLOYING PROFESSIONAL HELP TO AVOID A MAJOR BREAKDOWN The relationship you have with your partner needs work each and everyday, its not something that can come easy by any means. Each time your partnership comes into thoughts especially when the roles shift in the relationship this could be due to health or job or new baby or added stressors of caring for parents whose health is becoming fragile. Sometimes family has an influence on our Partners and it can become a battleground for arguing and name calling and having to take sides and make a choice. When you are feeling down inside and angry due to a habit or disagreement and it is becoming between the both of you, seek help before one of you turns to another person outside your marriage.

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I almost asked what turns a woman on in a marriage but the couple that got me askign this question aren't married so I worded it this way!

 

A couple friend of mine are going on a 2 year relationship and are having issues.  Granted they both brought 2 kids from previous marriages.  Both of the marriages were bad in their own ways, ex spouses selfish lil assholes.  And granted one of the ex spouses is dead now but the effects of that marriage still linger.  They also had a child together.  So that makes a total of 5 kids in one house.  To make matters even more interesting to this relationship is the age difference.  D the woman is not yet 30 and M the guy is yet 43 years old.  D is very vocal and was popular in school and does what she wants and screw who ever doesn't like it.  M is very shy and was not so popular in school and does what ever the strong dominate female that takes precident in his life tells him to do.

 

I won't go into what the issues are because D is having a mutual friend pass on information to me so I am not getting things straight from either horse's mouth.  But I did have this mutual friend of ours pass on a message to D:  "Go right ahead and think and feel what your going to but just remember; your relationship isn't brand new anymore.  Now it is going to take comprimise and work.  You can't be expecting EVERYTHING you ever wanted in a man even though you deserve it.  It doesn't work that way."

 

After our friend passed that on, D is now willing to take a step back and work things out a bit more.  I am glad.  But one of her comments got me to thinking and now I am goign to ask the women in relationships out in Mindsay to answer a lil question!:D 

 

D stated that M isn't turning her on to much any more.  But if she ever walked in the house after work or on a weekend and saw M up in her bathroom working on the bathroom that is currently being remodled that would get her worked up and time for some nookie!  When that was passed on to me, our mutual friend and I bursted out laughing and said isn't that some shit! 

 

So the question is for those women out there in Mindsay in relationships that aren't BRAND NEW anymore what would turn you on seeing your partner do?  See I got to thinking and our mutual friend agreed when I voiced the comment to her...........Randy and I are going on 10 years together and in Febuary 9 years of marriage.  Our mutual friend is going on 12 years together with her friend and 11 years of marriage.  I said you know D has a point about what turns her one now!  I would get all excited if I ever came home from running errands and had dinner not only cooked for me, but dishes done and put away afterwords, Randy to do bath times and put the kids to bed!  Our mutual friend sat there for a minute and said you know if my ol man would give me a call at work and said hey I know you have been stressed out and running here and there for everything, I am taking off of work a few hours early.  You take your time doing what you need to and I'll pick up our daughter and meet our son's bus at home!  I won't cook but I'll order take out and bring it home too boot!

 

What would excite you women out there in relationships that aren't brand new? 

i'll get to the rest of my inbox later. apparently my stalker is back, which is weird seeing as how i haven't had anything to do with her lover boy who actually wants nothing to do with her n she seems to think that stalking his female friends will make him change his mind. i hope that she's happy to know then that i'm finding myself in a depression again...i think that i just get depressed after i'm happy for too long. its like my brain just feels the need to feel sad. this has always happened to me as long as i could remember, i'll be happy n have no reason to feel shitty and yet i will. i can talk more about it another time, but right now i'm gonna watch Rush Hour w/ cyn, albert, n her dad. i'm also trying to get drunk...haha, nothing like trying to drink ur depression away! :D i hope ur all doin well.

apparently cyn and albert may be picking me up tonight to go over to their hometown so we can hang out tomorrow, and then on thursday me and albert are gonna leave for arcata. i have mixed feelings about this, such as getting to see them already and i'm nervous about meeting albert's family and various other things, but i'm starting to feel super unhappy here again and yeah...it was actually cyn's idea, lol. i figure if they want to do all that driving...

hopefully this won't be one of those things where we all get into a car crash n die on the way back, one of those, "oh if only their plans hadn't changed" kind of things. at least i'd be dying happy i guess. that's gotta mean something.

oh yeah n happy new year everybody. albert stayed on the phone with me until 5:21am after i got home and called him at 2:00am cuz i was feeling really shitty. i just wanted to party last night like last year, n i couldn't.