Oy Ve @ MindSay 
Spending the morning with a girlfriend who loves you is one of the best soul fillers I can imagine. Toni and I had coffee and bagels at this great little coffee house half way between our houses and we ended up spending four hours on the black leather sofa discussing God, families, yiddish, books, faucets and men. That's my idea of heaven.
and my little sewing machine arrived today. I am a chapter advisory board member for the American Sewing Guild local chapter... in charge of community outreach and that means if I want to participate in some of the activities I have to haul my machine with me. well my sewing machines are worth thousands of dollars, are heavy lunkers, set into custom made furniture and i am not lugging them anywhere. So I spent about 100 for a ten pound Brother machine ( all my accessories will fit it) that I can take on a community service sew.
So what's am I talking about? A community service sew could be going to a nursing home and doing alterations. or a hospital and helping sew memory quilts with families of oncology patients, or a women's shelter and teaching them to sew or making toys for kids. or to a ballet school and teaching the teens how to make tutu's. ( these are all actual projects we have done this year) Many community projects can be done at home and the stuff broght to a meeting. like chemo hats or walker bags or dialysis pillows or anti ouch bags for mastectomy patients. But many are group gigs where we spur each other on, socialize and sew. and now i have a lightweight machine to do that. and i stole a small piece of luggage from the storage closet for a rolling cart to hold my gear. Later I will fill a cosmetic roll with accessories etc and I am all set. One must be organized you know.
back years ago when i was a chat junkie this guy who is counsel to the ny mercantile exchange fell head over heels for me. ok I lead him on because I was in alabama miserable and depressed and desperate to be somewhere else and he was handsome and funny and sweet as hell and very sexy.
But I finally ended it with as gentle a way as possible and today I get a safe mail note from him that he wants to pay for 10 email consultatios via a web counseling site i am belong to. I wrote and explained how impossible it is for me to have a therapy relationship with someone with whom I have had a personal relationship. I mean it really makes me anxious to have this past jumping up. I have nehaved really badly so I guess I had better tell jim this guy popped up again in case the worst happens. and here I was over eight months totally on the wagon. Not even the sexy psychiatrist was given my phone number and i have not entered c chat room in over a year and blammo. this happens. oy oy oy. ok I will cope. big deal right?
yesterday jim gave me an early valentines day gift.a funky steel blue swetaer with pom-pomos hanging from it. sort of a gift for me and a plaything for abi. she likes it and chews on the pompoms when she lays in my lap. oh sweet heaven .