Nlp @ MindSay 
These techniques are used by Advertisers, Marketers, Politicians, even Con Men and Success Seminar Gurus. We are exposed to it every day - so much so that we no longer see it.
Here's just a few of the clickable links we hope you read to learn more about the science of everyday seduction that's readily available on the internet:
NLP = NeuroLinguistic Programming
Review of The Art of Seduction
Influence at work -- Site that explains the different tools of influence and how they're used. Based on Cialdini's 7 Principles of influence.
Encyclopedia of NLP -- Defines key terms in NLP, a collection of psychological influence and therapeutic techniques.
Neurosemantics.com -- great online resource for NLP, state control and modelling.
How to Become an Irresistible and Hypnotic Communicator.
Cognitive Dissonance - A definition and how it works. (Something we all do everyday)
PICK UP MASTERY
Influence Women With the Power of a Cult Leader! - sound like a joke? Then why do all the cyberpaths sound so much ALIKE??
Seduce Women Using Seduction Techniques
Don Juan Discussion Forum Yes, you were right girls - they DO discuss how to do it!
Make Any Woman Sexually Addicted to You
Life of Brian Not only does he blog about it - he makes a living giving how to seminars.
Erotic Hypnosis & Hypno-Seduction - "The state of arousal is created to overcome resistance or, even better, to lead the victim of the seduction process to apparently take control of the situation, by performing the physical action ultimately desired by the seducer or the seductress."
The Sage of Seduction are we starting to get the picture here?
Conditions for mind control:
Psychologist Margaret Singer described in her book "Cults in our Midst" six conditions, which would, she says, create an atmosphere where thought reform (online predators 'groom' their prey using thought reform) is possible. Singer sees no need for physical coercion.
-- controlling a persons time and environment, leaving no time for thought (sweeping you off your feet??)
-- creating a sense of powerlessness, fear and dependency ("need")
-- manipulating rewards and punishments to suppress former social behavior ("if you... then I will")
-- manipulating rewards and punishments to elicit the desired behavior (disappearing offline without warning or when you have trouble and need them the most? all TALK no actions to back it up?)
-- creating a closed system of logic which makes dissenters feel as if something was wrong with them (making you feel guilty or that you don't 'love' or 'care for' them if you go against the cyberpath's wishes?)
-- keeping recruits unaware about any agenda to control or change them (comments like: "I would never hurt you, I would never lie to you, I can't believe you think I am lying/ using you...." etc)
(sounds like abuse..... doesn't it?)
"The descendants of Casanova of our time are called Ross Jeffries, Major Mark Cunningham, Rob Johnson and David De Angelo. They organize seminars and then sell audio- and videotapes on which their techniques for the allure and capture of worthy specimen of the female gender are taught. For our purposes, especially the material by Ross Jeffries is interesting, since his "Female Psychic Attack" - techniques often tap into the power of NLP for eliciting states of arousal. One of the techniques used by Jeffries for states elicitation is the use of metaphors to stimulate images of sexual nature by bypassing the filtering of the conscious mind. [...]Our Speed Seducer has developed hundreds of patterns like the one mentioned before, all ready to be used by his students. But these scripts are not the only interesting aspect of Ross' work: Weasel phrases like "if I were to say to you", for example, tend to introduce a daring compliment or proposal while contemporarily providing a step-back path. Ross provides his students with many of these conversational tools. [...] A folkloristic note about Mr. Speed Seduction: the guy interpreted in Magnolia by Tom Cruise is based on the character of Ross Jeffries, though you will find in that movie no valuable information in regard of his taught material and his seminars (as well as his behaviour on stage) are much different than the one seen in the movie, though he surely is proud of his masculinity. [...] - [quoted from: Keys To Erotic Hypnosis]
Just keep all this in mind when dealing with a cyberpath or anyone online. And realize that while we don't believe in or espouse not taking responsibility - but how can anyone be themselves or make informed decisions when they are being coercively controlled & manipulated? - Remember this next time you say "I was so stupid to fall for it" or wonder what red flags you missed or didn't see. Like slight of hand - these predators are good at getting you sucked in before you know what hit you. - Fighter
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Dear Friend,
If you are frustrated with your current relationships with women, and you truly want to spend your time with real, desirable women who all approached you first, then this may be the most important message you will ever read. Here’s why:
My name is John Alanis, and up until recently, I was a complete loser when it came to meeting women (even ugly ones). Whenever I saw a beautiful woman (or even a “semi-attractive” one) I got so scared and flustered I literally made myself sick at the thought of approaching her. And then I walked away, wondering “what could have been” if I’d only had the “guts” to go talk to her. Maybe you’ve had a similar experience.
Here’s what was even more frustrating: on those few occasions when I was “lucky enough” to get a “date” I never got a second one…. instead she always told me what a “nice guy” I was, but that she “just wasn’t attracted to me,” and that "we should just be friends." And then she’d go moon over some “jerk” who cared nothing about her, and would dump her for her best friend at a moment’s notice.
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| Getting rejected by women always sucks |
Has that ever happened to you? It sucks, doesn’t it? But it gets worse, much worse… because, what would happen next is, one of these jerks would dump the woman I secretly lusted after, and she’d come crying to me with her problems, telling me what a great “friend” I was for “listening”… and then she’d move onto the next “jerk,” crushing my feelings like a grape. Maybe you’ve had that happen to you too.
The one time I did have a “steady girlfriend,” I discovered she was just using me for money, even though I really didn’t have much of that. She never had a problem taking what little I did have, though.
After awhile I got so frustrated, I quit talking to women altogether. I felt like such a loser. It was just easier to surf the internet, and look at pictures of women I wished I could meet, than it was to actually try to talk to a woman in person. After all, the women I looked at online never rejected me or stomped on my genuine feelings.
I was beginning to think I’d be “celibate for life,” when an unusual thing happened, a single event that literally changed my life with women forever, and put me on the true path to “male liberation” that literally allows me to attract any woman I want, on demand! And, I’m convinced any man can duplicate my success for themselves, no matter your looks, age or income.
Skeptical? I don’t blame you… if you had told me a few months ago I’d be able to compel desirable, beautiful women to boldly walk up and talk to me, I’d have called you a big, fat liar, right to your face.
How I “Accidentally” Raised Myself From Failure
to Instant Success with Beautiful Women
The one thing I’ve always been interested in is “how the mind works.” I’ve always been fascinated by psychology and human behavior, and the one big thing I’ve always had going for me is brainpower and the obsessive will to learn new things.
I routinely blow wads of cash on books, tapes, CD’s, courses, and high priced events. I’m what you might call a “seminar junkie”—if there’s an event that deals with psychology or human behavior in any way, shape or form, I’m there.
Anyways, I was at a seminar awhile back, listening to a short, fat, dumpy guy speak on the subject of advertising. What this guy had to say about what makes people “tick” was truly amazing… but what was even more amazing was the reaction of all the women in the audience to him after he was done speaking!
They all rushed to him, vying for his attention. And these weren’t ugly women…. they were intelligent, desirable, beautiful businesswomen… who all went “gaga” like little girls over this short, fat, dumpy guy! I watched him take the numbers of 3 drop-dead gorgeous women before he finally left.
I had to know this guy’s secret…. how could someone as ugly as this guy literally have women throw themselves at him?
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Luckily, I was able to corner him before he left the room, and I somehow talked him into having dinner with me. As we sat down to eat, I asked him, point blank: “Look, you’re not exactly the best looking guy in the world… in fact you look sort of like a basset hound. Yet, you have hot women throwing themselves at you… what’s your secret? What do you do? And, will it work for me?”
He laughed when I said that. Then he told me something I’ll never forget as long as I live: “John,” he said, “I’ve been in advertising for a long, long time, and I’ve been involved in amazing research into what makes people buy things.”
“The psychological processes that get people to buy things are the exact same things that get women to become attracted to you. I used to be a complete loser when it came to women, until I applied what I learned in my advertising career to my love life. And ever since then, the results have been phenomenal, as you just saw.”
What if Everything You Ever Thought You Knew About Women,
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“The truth of the matter is, everyone is already ‘naturally attractive’… it’s biologically programmed into us, much like it is with animals in nature. But, in our modern civilization we’ve gotten away from our natural instincts and are taught the opposite of what works.”
“All you have to do is “switch on” the biologically programmed “attraction triggers” all women have deep inside them, and then stand back and let them come to you. Looks don’t matter, age doesn’t matter, income doesn’t matter… all those things we’ve always been taught about ‘dating’ and ‘romance’ are just plain wrong. Stop dating, and start attracting… it really is that simple.”
Most Men Do NOT Attract Women Simply
Because They Were Never Taught How!
And then he told me step-by-step exactly how he attracted women to him, and how I could do the same. As he talked, I realized he had truly, “cracked the code” and that attracting women was nothing more than a paint-by-numbers, step-by-step, brain-dead simple process. It works for every man because you are already born with natural attraction that is genetically designed to “flip on” the biological attraction triggers in women. It can’t not work.
I put his secrets to work the very next day with one of the seminar attendees (an attractive real estate investor named Kat), and I was astounded by the results. We had an amazing time, and I still keep in touch with her to this very day. His secrets not only worked, they worked better than he said they did!
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Life is great when sexy women automatically approach you! |
After that day, I never looked back. Whenever I wanted to meet women, I just tapped into my “natural attraction” and let them come to me.
The funny thing is, I haven’t changed a bit. I still get scared and flustered whenever I think about approaching a woman (that’s why I let them approach me instead). And I’m still the same 5’7” slightly balding, sloppy dresser who drives a 1992 dark red Buick Regal (that has been “totaled” once).
Yet, I still date as many beautiful, desirable women as I want. And, all these women approached me first, and they all tell me how attractive I am! Not only that, when I'm finally ready to attract that one special woman, I'll be able to choose the one I want, NOT the one I just "settle for," like most guys do.
The same thing can happen for you, too. In fact you have to be careful not to use your “natural attraction” too much or you might meet too many women too fast… and believe me, that can quickly become a problem.
Look, once you understand this “natural attraction” formula, women will literally be chasing you down. Your life will change FOREVER when you discover these secrets I want to share with you.
Do you have a special woman you’d like to attract? If so, you can use these same “natural attraction” secrets to attract her, or almost any other women you desire.
Who Needs These Secrets?
 | Are you sick and tired of someone else always “getting the girl”, whether it’s at work, school or in a social gathering, like a party or bar? Would you like to know how you can guarantee she will choose YOU over every other man, every time? |
| | Would you like to automatically attract desirable women… even your dream lover… without even talking to her? |
| | Would you like to wake up every morning, excited about your day, knowing there are hordes of women who can’t wait to see you because just “being in your presence” will “make their day?” |
| | Would you like to have women give you things (valuable things like cars, money, and jewelry) for no apparent reason at all? |
| | Are you known as “dull and boring” and would like to lose that stupid label with women and be known as “funny and attractive,” even “hot?” |
| | Are you in a relationship where your “needs” are not being met, and would like to get them “taken care of” discreetly without harming your current relationship? |
| | Would you like to live out every single “male fantasy” you’ve ever had, with a desirable, “joyfully willing” woman who can’t wait to please YOU? |
| | Are you a man, just out of a relationship who has no clue about how to "get back in the dating game," and is worried about competition from younger men? |
| | Are you finally ready to settle down and meet that special, perfect woman for a lifetime relationship, but have no clue where to meet her, what to say, or how to go about attracting her in the first place? |
| | And, finally, are you a man who is just sick and tired of being lonely, or emotionally abused” by women? |
If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, then you should get your hands on these “natural attraction” secrets at once, and you should remember this: when you apply this “natural attraction” formula, and “flip on” the biological triggers all women have deep inside them…
…you must be careful not to attract too many
hot women too fast!
Now, before I tell you what these secrets are, it’s important you know what they are NOT. Look, there are a lot of goofballs out these selling books on how to “seduce” or “pick up women,” and like anything else, some of these are better than others. But one thing I’ve found is this: most “authors” try to make attracting women difficult when the reality, is you can easily attract hordes of women by simply unlocking your “natural attraction!”
Here’s What You DO NOT Have to Do:
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So what are these secrets, secrets that literally compel women to seek you out, and chase you down, begging you for “just one date?” Here are some of the remarkable secrets I want to share with you:
 | How to tap into your natural attraction to “magnetically draw” the most desirable women to you (they’ll come up and talk to you first, already “pre-disposed” to liking you) see page 10 |
| | The seven deadly turn-offs that will guarantee you instant failure with any woman (if you’re currently failing with women, it’s because you’re unconsciously broadcasting one… and probably more… of these attraction-killing turn-off’s) see page 7 |
| | The amazing “romance novel hero” secret that will have her thinking about you (and ONLY you) even when you’re not around (not one in a thousand men knows this simple secret, yet it’s incredibly powerful—never be cheated on again) see page 14 |
| | Just looking for a “casual encounter?” Here’s how to tell (within 15 minutes) if she’s open to being your “adventure partner” or “special friend” (and many more women ARE than you think) or if she’s only interested in a committed relationship (this secret lets you avoid giving a woman “false expectations” so you won’t “hurt” her like all those jerks out there do) see page 48 |
| | How to use a subtle “test” to discover if she’s even qualified to spend time with you (this is the ultimate “turning of the tables”—most women test men over and over…. now you get to test her to see if she’s “good enough” to spend time with you… and make sure she’s not a stalker, gold-digger or psycho-path ) see page 46 |
| | How to read little known female signals that let you know she’s attracted to you… and wants to “get with you” right now (and why you must act immediately when you sense these, or risk losing a woman who wants you, now) see page 31 |
| | The secret to controlling your body language for maximum “attraction effect” (the wrong kind of body language can actually turn women off, and make them dislike you, without knowing why… the right kind can have them flocking to you, like moths to a flame) see page 53 |
| | How to attract women by saying absolutely nothing at all! see pages 19-21, 23 and 28! |
| | Shy? Here’s how to use your “shyness” to literally force women to chase you (they won’t think you’re “shy” at all, in fact, they’ll think you’re “mysterious” and “challenging” and wonder what it takes to get you to “open up!”) see pages 20 and 23 |
| | How to “position” yourself so multiple women compete for your attention (you’ll never be competing with a bunch of guys for a woman again….. now they can jealously watch multiple women chase you, and wonder what your secret is) see page 17 |
| | How to never be nervous or flustered ever again when talking to women (believe me, when they approach you first, it’s remarkably simple to be calm, cool, and collected… after all you get to make the “rejection decision,” not her) see page 32 |
| | How to never spend more than $1.84 on a “first date” and have her thinking it was the best “date” she ever had (she won’t be able to wait to see you again… IF you decide she’s “your type,” not the other way around) see page 37 |
| | Secrets of “Speed Dating” success—ever heard about those events where you have ten “Eight minute dates” in one evening? This is the perfect environment to “flip on” your natural attraction… and I’ll tell you exactly what to do and say… and how to put all the “waldos” (other men who are NOT “in the know”) to work driving women to you see page 27 |
| | How to create an “automatic referral system” that compels your female friends to compete with each other to see who can bring you the most women see page 28 |
… and much, much more. Look, no matter if you want to meet a woman for purely “physical reasons,” or you truly, deeply want to meet that “special woman” to spend the rest of your life with these secrets have the power to…
Change Your Love Life Forever and Give You Absolute Power Over All Your Romantic Outcomes…
You’ll Never Feel “Out of Control” Again!
| OK, that’s it. You have just read a detailed description of these remarkable “natural attraction secrets” and what they can do for you. What I’ve done is “stuff” all these secrets into an easy use system, (including an instantly downloadable “e-Book”) called Secrets of Natural Attraction: How to Get Desirable Women To Chase You, that you can literally be reading (and using) within minutes. |  |
Are You Ready to Step Up to the “Big Leagues” and Take Total Control Of Your Love Life Once and For All?
If so, you should invest in this system before it’s too late. But don’t take my word for it-- here’s what others have to say about the results they’ve gotten with the secrets revealed in this remarkable system:
| Real Results with Real Women: What Other Men Are Saying About After a bitter divorce he finally attracted the woman he always wanted.. -S. Daniel, Real Estate Broker He's old, bald, and scruffy... she's young, blonde, cute... and can't get enough of him! “Wow, I wish I’d had this system in college, when I was 21! Better late than never, though. I’m 37 years old, balding, and kind of gruff looking—I never believed these secrets would work for me. But I decided I had nothing to lose, so I recently tried them in a popular local bar. Sure enough, a cute blonde named Amy came up and started talking to me… she even gave me her number. I was so stunned these secrets worked that I didn’t call her back. I couldn’t believe this was actually happening just like John said it would. She finally called me, and we decided to go bowling… funny thing though, we never made it to the bowling alley!” -J. Turner, Webmaster His marriage ended, but now he has the tools to attract other women... She drove from hours away to see him... and he's a cheap, nerdy engineer click here to read even more exciting success stories... (Note: this opens as a "new window" so you might want to turn off any "pop up" blocking software) |
| What Women Are Saying About John and -Carrie J., Business Owner “John is, hands down, the most amazing man I’ve ever met. Awhile back, we spent an incredible three days together in Reno, NV, an experience I will never forget until the day I die. It was like we lived a lifetime in three days—and we’d never even met in person before. In fact, I saw a newspaper article about him, and got in touch with him via the website in the article. I always told him he should write a book about attraction, and he finally did. If you’re a man who wants to have a great woman in his life, then you need to get John’s system. And I say that as a woman and a professional psychologist.” -Christine R., MA, Professional Psychologist Why they call him "the King"...
I first saw John, aka "The King," at an information marketing
-Ginger, Business Owner Tulsa, Oklahoma
“I’ve known John since 1986 (we went to High School together) and I can assure you he was fat, unattractive, and had no clue about women in High School. When I saw him again after many years, I absolutely could not believe this was the same guy. It was like that “geek” to “chic” thing they do on the talk shows. We did what he always wanted to in High School, much to my amazement. If you’d asked me in 1986 if I’d even consider touching the guy, I’d have laughed in your face. But when he showed me the system he’d put together it all made sense. I highly recommend it to all guys. Oh, and you should know this: I’m NOT just another ‘easily duped’ pretty face. I’m a highly educated woman with two Master’s Degrees, I speak three languages fluently, and I work in a sensitive US Government office (can’t tell you which one).” -Jennifer M., “Government Employee” “I know John from Toastmasters, and I can attest to the fact that he can attract women to him. The truth is, there are lots of ways to get women to approach a guy, but sadly, most guys are without a clue. John's not a bad looking guy, but he's short, a bad dresser, drives an ugly car, and is losing his hair. But, like he says in the system, none of that matter. Now, I don't agree with everything he has to say, but I do have to admit his methods work. I did invite him over for a glass of wine after seeing him at Toastmasters. So, if you'd like women to invite you out, John's system tells you how to do just that.” -Valerie M., Insurance Professional Austin, TX |
conference. In front of me was an intelligent, successful and handsome man sharing his story of business success. He informed the group on his new venture pertaining to getting women to approach men. I sat there thinking to myself, "this guy is intriguing and I want to prove him wrong and see if I can get him to approach me first." Well, my plan failed! We exchanged glances and flirtatious body language, but he did not fall for my devious plan. He acted too busy with other attendees, which drew me too him. Needless to say, his methods worked! I approached him first and things didn't stop there. He was such a smooth talker--he always had an answer for everything I said, which made me even more attracted to him. The rest of the details, of which there are many more, will have to remain a secret. It was a pleasurable conference, to say the least!
by Sandra Brown, MA
HORRIFYING! PLEASE GET INVOLVED IN STOPPING THIS
Ladies -- watch out for this:
There has been a growing field of books, e-books, seminars and training for men on how to seduce women using hypnosis!
This comes in the 'back door' of her defenses and creates the sensation of intimacy and connection where obviously none exists. Using mind control - sex can occur very rapidly without her being aware at to 'why.'
Today, hundreds of websites offer young men and adults the ability to come and be trained in person by 'seduction guru's.' If this isn't appalling enough that men are being encouraged to use 'false' ways of attaching to women, they are now teaching hypnosis and other forms of neuro linguistic programming to men all over the world.
This, in my opinion is not only emotional rape but it's the proliferation of pathology training in it's WORST form!!
To make matters worse, the sickest of all the Seduction Gurus's (who is mentally ill, bi-polar and has been hospitalized in psych hospitals) was the star of a Reality Show about seduction and his pick-up techniques hosted by VH1 called 'The Pick Up Artist.'
If you want this c*rap to stop, please write VH1 about this show at:
VH1
1515 Broadway
NY NY 10036.
They are owned by MTV Networks which is a subsidary of Viacom at the same address. So while you're at it, write to MTV Networks and Viacom.
Also, flood their phone lines at: 212-846-1753 or 212-258-7800. Let's give them an ear full!
Starve the Vampire
by Sandra Brown, MA
Author of "How to Spot a Dangerous Man"
(with some minor additions from The Exposer)
Pathological persons are energy and emotional vampires. They live off of your emotional content.
Part of their personality deficit is the lack of a stable and consistent inner core of a self concept so they need constant attention, distraction, and identity management from which they draw their identity.
Lots of their identity is acquired from their relationships since internally there is so little core self to draw from. This is part of the reason they are so exhausting.
In order to get their emotional 'blood supply' from you, they 'hook you' into conversations, arguments, or any other kind of response they can get from you. They live vicariously thru your own emotional expressions of love, frustration, confusion, etc. It doesn't always matter 'what' emotion is fed to the vampire (although narcissists like adoration) but just that there is SOME content is enough for them -- even your tears, or your screams, or your insults. It doesn't matter...they just 'need' something, anything from you in the way of content. If they don't get the blood supply/emotional content from you, they will seek it elsewhere.
(Remember Dracula? He just moved from town to town taking it where he could get it?)
When you begin to break up he will fear the loss of emotional supply. He won't fear losing you so much as he will fear not getting his identity and his sense of self from you and/or the relationship. He fears the loss of self or 'who am I without her?' This is a very fragmented ego state -- one which only exists thru relationships with others.
So when you try to break up, he may continue to contact you which is why they are hard to break up with. They are predictable in their approaches to get you to respond to them (you are feeding the vampire his emotional blood supply every time you talk to him).
These are some of his approaches and if you can get a bag of popcorn and just watch it like it was a LifeTime for Women movie and detach from it, you will see a whole movie pan out like this:
* One contact he's angry, blaming, shaming.
When you don't respond to that verbally or emotionally (think like you are lobotomized with no facial expression...that's what I want women to do with these men)* Then one contact may be sweet, loving, buy you things or sending you things.
When you don't respond...* He will promise to do what you've asked for years... go to counseling, church, take meds, be nice, go to anger managment.
When you don't respond...* He will get angry again--say you aren't working on the relationship which is why it's gonna fail;
When you don't respond...* He will quit calling for a while to make it look like he's moved on (They are boomerangs, they ALWAYS come back a few times.)
When you don't respond...* He will indicate he found someone else or had sex with someone else. (possibly one of your friends)
When you don't respond... (Are you enjoying the popcorn and movie about now??)* He becomes 'sick' -- he doesn't know what this mysterious illness is, or he has prostate cancer, leukemia, some other lethal disease.
When you don't respond...* He will just go back to drinking/ drugging/ dealing/ driving too fast/ seeing prostitutes/ etc.
When you don't respond...* He will threaten to kill himself, leave the area, never see you again.
When you don't respond...* He will take the kids (or try to), drag you through court, threaten to physically harm you.
When you don't respond...* He will tell you he's dating someone you hate or he's gone back to his previous girlfriend/ wife.
When you don't respond...* He will tell you he will kill your pet he has custody of if you don't talk to him.
When you don't respond...* He will go on the net and post about you on the exposure sites, making up the most outrageous lies and childish slander to get you to react.
When you don't respond...* It will come full circle and will begin again, at the top of this list.
When I do phone counseling, it's all the same stories. I know that women think that their experiences are unique.
But pathology is all the same. These people aren't very creative and don't deviate much from the strict internal structure that is associated with pathology. They ONLY react in certain ways so it's pretty easy to predict.
Once you are able to understand this, you can predict his sad/ silly/ stupid reactions to a break up (or exposure).
Since they live off of your emotion and NEED it, the sooner you starve him out by having no contact (unless you have to because of your kids but you adhere to no words exchanged and no emotional content on your face), the vampire will flee to the next available source to be fed.
When women don't disconnect once they understand the feeding and maintanence of pathologicals, they are doing it becuase SHE wants to remain. The ball is then in your court to figure out where you are still hung up so you can disconnect.
This is not a judgment about women not being able to leave. It is a POINTER to a place where the disengagment has hit a snag. Simply notice where the snag IS so that something can be done.
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