Monogamy @ MindSay 
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Our conversation changed topic at that point, I think because someone else joined in, but the whole thing really made me think. I agree and disagree with what hes saying. For me, monogamy is very natural, I have a horrible conscience and I am a terrible liar. I could never ever cheat on someone I cared for. And if you arent in a relationship with someone you care for, then what is the point? I think maybe that this nature could be a product of your upbringing, surroundings, beliefs, ect. But who really knows? I will agree that for some people it probably isnt a natural instinct, and not just for men, I know plenty of women who have trouble with monogamy. Society and religion put such an emphasis on it, and obviously it is morally the right thing to do.. yet it is something that can be so hard to achieve. But when you think about that, if monogamy was easy, would it be special? Would you be be grateful to have a faithful partner if everybody did it? Because if it was easy, everyone WOULD do it.. I think that, like marriage, it is a decision you have to keep making, over and over. And there are probably a lot of factors involved in what motivates someone to cheat on their significant other. But it is still a decision they make, fully aware of the consequences and fully aware it is morally wrong (natural or not).
But what do you guys think? Is monogamy natural? Is it natural to you? Once a cheater, always a cheater? Or are there other factors to consider?
While some men (and women) can be idiots, it seems that politicians are a very special kind of idiot. In saying that, I'm assuming that politicians more frequently engage in affairs than non-politicians; on the other hand, there's the scary possibility that their behavior actually reflects that of the general population, who may cheat just as often but are less likely to get caught. I've heard the "monogamy isn't natural"/men-are-biologically -wired-to-spread-their-seed justification, but I don't buy it. We are also equipped with brains and the ability to choose. Women are biologically equipped to reproduce at age 11 or 12, but does that mean that they should?
I have always thought that infidelity is one of the most despicable acts a person can commit, and something that I could never forgive. That said, I think that people, including myself, are capable of just about anything under the right (or more accurately, wrong) circumstances, so maybe I shouldn't be so quick to judge. Who knows? The whole thing makes my brain hurt.
"When I pushed inside of her, she felt love, while I only felt pussy."
-Coal Run, Tawni O'Dell
I suppose as many different personalities as there are floating around in this world, there are really only two types of women when it comes to sex.
Those who will fuck someone they don't give a shit about, and those who won't.
Most men will have sex with girls they don't care about just to get some pussy. But I think the difference between men and women comes because it's easier to be inside of a stranger than to let a stranger inside of you.
Mind you some of us have never had a problem with the latter.
I wonder if it's learned behavior, not caring who you let inside of you, or at least not being that picky, or if it's something we're born with.
I wonder if all of the men of the world are secretly frustrated with the origins of monogamy, because it's not supposed to be this way.
I wonder if love is this feeling I have where the thought of another man kissing me, touching me, inside of me, makes me cringe.
I also want to know if excessive amounts of milk will make you fat.
I'm currently watching this show on Discovery Health about sex. Now, I know what you're thinking, "Emily, why are you watching a show about sex? You already know everything!" True, I do know a lot, but being the humble individual that I am, I must consent that there are things that even I am not aware of.
The first thing that I found interesting was how our sex organs have evolved over time. Making the leap to walking on two legs re-arranged the pelvis so that the vagina tipped downward. I don't find this particular piece of information all that amazing, but the cool part is how males adapted to be able to actually have sex with women face to face, as a result of said tipping.
If men had a penis the same relative size of a gorilla, it would be 2/3 of an inch long. Yep, you read that right... teeeeeeeny tiny penis! Because of this new sex position, a thicker penis would have been needed to stimulate the women, and it would have to grow longer so sperm could actually have some kind of chance of reaching their final destination.
From an evolutionary standpoint, bigger is better. Sorry guys.
"What about the testes," you ask? Great question! The male testicles also evolved to better suit human reproduction. Compared to our body mass, the size of the male nut-sack is somewhere in between that of a chimp and a gorilla. Chimps, believe it or not, have really large balls, 3x the relative size of humans, whereas gorillas have testicles about 1/4 the size of humans.
Now, the question is what does testicle size have to do with anything, really? Well, according to the show, the larger the testicle, the larger the amount of sperm. Animals that are rather promiscuous, like Chimps, need a lot of sperm so they can successfully reproduce. Gorillas, on the other hand, are fairly (note fairly) monogamous... or at least the male gorillas don't have to worry as much about "getting some."
Ladies, the next time you're wondering why men in general can be monogomous, but uh... "slip"? One reason might be because the size of the male testy evolved in such a way so as to lead men to exhibit both traits of monogamy and promiscuity.
I'd like to note though that I am not trying to give excuses for why guys cheat... lord knows that girls do it to, and the last I checked I don't have testicles... so since I am a girl I would hope that my non-testicle genital region could be comparative to the genital region of other girls who do cheat. Yeah, I'm going to shut up now.
I might write more about the physical and chemical effects of being in love followed by what actually happens physically during sex, but not in this entry.
More next time.
Ah, alas! I've come upon revelations and wonderment of special fun!
Men
are
beautiful.
Gorgeous creatures, really and honestly. That is, if you handle yourself correctly and dont become silly laugh-a-daisy roundabout like.
I have thusly established my wonderful sekkstastic and fabulously fabulous rules to the MALE SPECIES, reguarding one Lana A, otherwise known as she who writes this currently and will also obnoxiously be reffering to herself in the third person henceforth, making herself sound extraordinarilly stupid, but not caring. They are as follows:
a) Monogamy and Lana do not get along. They look at each other with evil squinty eyes. SQUIIINTY EYES. They do not play well.
b) Lana will develop on a concept known as COMMUNAL LOVE. She loves to love. Alot. And also is, as someone who thinks that the body as a canvass is one of the most gorgeous possible things on this earth, keen on expressing physically her emotions for others. She does not think the confines of a monogomous relationship allow this. Hence rule a.
c) Lana will find a number, (this number, anywhere between 2ish and beyond, will be evermorhping as days and wind are, and it shall be vunderful in all of its morphic-power and sexiness) of people with whom she can be very much in love with, at the same time as not incorperating jeolosy into the mix of things, as when Lana is with this one person, they will concentrate on their love for each other. Outside of that, there should be other loves. Love is all encompassing, but that does not limit it to one only person...on the contrary, I'd say...
d) These people will feel at least vaugely as Lana does about the concept of love as a scattered and vast and sprawling thing, one that is diffrent and sexy and amazing in it's own way with each person that one experiences it with, though if they differ they will be aware of said feelings on Lana's part, and willing to embrace it, at least to the extent of acceptance.
e)There will also be those with which Lana has a set and mentioned relationship with that revolves soley around physicality, along the lines of a "one-night-stand". These will be exciting, but nothing more then that.
f) Lana should not be so presumptuous so as to think that love will mold itself around her silly little lettered list. But she'll hope.
*lana*
