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So after talking about stuff for many hours, my boyfriend and I have come to a conclusion. We know that we are good enought together to get married. So, we are planning to get married in october and we are going to be prepairing for that day by fixing stuff up around his house and saving money to be sure we can financealy make it. If we aren't totally sure that we can do it in october, well, we will just push back the date until we know we are ready and prepaired fully. We are going to keep it quiet around here for a while, but hopefully at the end of the summer we will be able to tell people that we are indeed engaged.
I know people like my mom aren't going to like the idea, mainly because she doesn't like any guy or any thing that keeps me away from home. But it's my life, I love the guy, so one day we are going to be married. Hopefully we can honor my grandfathers memory by getting married in october (October 1 my grandfather passed away and I turned to my boyfriend for support, and that all kinda got our relationship rolling). That's something else I don't think mom will like. Getting married in october and wanting to because of grandpa, not going to like it at all.
Anyways, I'm so excited and nervous with the idea of having to prepare and for that day to actually come. ^_^ but still I can't wait.
Looks like half the people I know from high school got married, and about 3/4 of them are now divorced or getting divorced. I KNEW A LOT OF PEOPLE. Most of them also have children. I cannot fathom the number of people in my little corner that are divorced or in the process. It is bugging me out. How in the world does this happen? I mean, for me, unless I am getting the snot beat out of me on a regular basis *mentally or physically* or he is bringing home diseases and/or babies, then why get divorced? What can't be worked through to find a new and common ground?
Sure, I have been married 5 years, but that is a LOOOONG time compared to the number of years that most of the people I know have been married before they call it quits.
Marriage is NOT easy. It is WORK every single day of your life. Loving someone is a choice after the first giddy moments of it all are long past.
Christians are fighting for marriage to stay man and woman, for what? Christians are the largest group of divorced people ON THE PLANET. Are they fighting for the right to marry and divorce as they please. They argue that God doesn't like homosexuality, but He explicitly HATES divorce. He HATES it!!! The Bible says you can't get divorced unless you have been cheated on. THEN it says that a woman can't remarry until her husband dies or it is called ADULTERY. What strict rules!!!
I don't know where my post is headed, but the point is that it is so crazy that so many young people are divorced. I don't know what to say except that if Christians really want to restore the sanctity of marriage they should work on STAYING COMMITTED TO THE VOWS YOU MADE TO GOD and your partner.
Many people get married in the summer. I got married in January. Why? We just wanted to get married ASAP. (Now I realize what a mistake that was!) Anyway, it wasn't that cold (thankfully)! We had a small ceremony with very few family and friends present. No big deal. It was the total opposite of what I always wanted, but then again...my whole life turned out to be the exact opposite of what I expected and wanted. (That's what happens when you get involved in a relationship when you're on the rebound!)
Anyway, after being proposed to several times and being presented with different engagement rings (which I didn't accept), I married the one that didn't even give me a ring! (Just a bunch of kids, lots of drama and many headaches!)
Today I wear the exact ring that I always wanted. Unfortunately, I may be giving it back. That is another post... long story. Anyway, my ring looks like this engagement ring, except it has a tiffany setting. It is a platinum ring with a marquise diamond. It think its gorgeous and many people have commented on its beauty. As much as I like the ring, I may be returning it. I keep praying for a miracle, but in order for that to happen..a person must WANT to change. Maybe if he realizes how serious I am he will change, but the question is ...will the change be permanent. I don't want history to repeat itself, AGAIN!
Only time will tell...
I've been soo bad with the whole writing in the blog thing. it used to be that i wrote everyday...sometimes even two or three times a day. now? i guess im losing interest. i dont quite know. i mean i want to write and i have stuff to write about but i get to the whole blog section and just go eh?
not much has really changed in the life of the butterfly...except the whole being married thing. but that shouldnt change a person. i havent changed. though i find myself more exhausted. too much to do and no time to do it. story of my life.
anyway back to the married thing....the one question people ask is how is married life?! i do get the occasional so when do you think you will have a kid? i fucking hate both questions. the latter question i usually respond with oh well we were going to have sex right now wanna come and watch?! ugh do people really want to picture me doin it with hubby? i mean people as in relatives. and the whole married question--married couples ask me that. at times i want to say tell me something mr x did your life change once you got married? did you find yourself in a whole other life that suddenly was for married couples? bc every night hubby and i hold hands while we skip to go off into that magical fucking land filled with roses and daisies. seriously i know people mean well but i havent felt any difference in my relationship. well except now i dont get to sleep in my own bed which i would prefer since i am a bed hog.
mostly though my life consists of me watching my little pug grow and learn. sure we dont have kids (maybe one day) but to me its the same. our pug is our kid. we love her as much as any parent loves their kid. just watching her look around as we walk outside or through the car window puts a smile on my face. shes soo eager to look at the world with these wide open eyes. i can tell when shes happy--she does her doggie smile and when shes laughing. i can tell when shes sad about something and all i want to do is throw my arms around her and give her a huge hug. shes such a great little creature. we are adding another pug into our lil family shortly. just cant get enough of them! i thought i wouldnt want another pug since i love my little one so much but i think she would be happier with a friend to play with during the day.
anyhoo starbucks is calling my name. plus im afraid to type more to see what other fun suggested tags i get 
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