I have been married longer than most mindsay bloggers have been alive and maybe that enitles me to say something about what makes a relationship work. I mean beyond the superficial things like one bed - two closets and two sinks.
marry a friend. friendship lasts longer than lust
communicate honestly but with heart. brutality isn't kind nor required to be authentic
be civil. it gets a lot and costs nothing
when you both feel crappy, see who can manage to be even a teensy bit nicer than the other
never discuss something loaded with low blood sugar
try to process a difference before bedtime
don't keep records or tabs, it's ugly and self defeating
let your partner influence you, stonewalling and inflexibility suck
if these things don't work. Read John Gottman's books. he is quite wise.
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now with all that out of the way I will tell you that Fences was dreadful, August Wilson is wildly overrated and he will go the way of clifford odets or John Dos Passos. he isn't oneil, williams or arthur miller. or stoppard or shephard. there I said it.
today we released some fish into the pond, lets hope the mammal wild life doesn't fish.
jim is making dinner tonight because tomorrow we have guests and I will cook. something mediterranean (sp?) I think. oh and and happy belated may day.
