Long Distance @ MindSay

Sometimes it's hard to talk to the people you know about stuff.  They have all these ideas that they want to tell you about, or stories like it, but that's not why you want to talk to them.  Or at least it's not why I want to talk to them.

 

I was traveling recently and had a week long love affair with the most amazing man I've ever met.  We had our first kiss in the ocean.  When we were in bed together for the first time that same night, he asked me if we were being reckless, since we'd just met and all.  All I could think to say is not as long as neither of us has any expectations.  I didn't expect anything, certainly not this.

 

In our every conversation, our ideas meshed completely.  Our questions were met with refreshing and stimulating answers.  I forgot what it was to argue or to feel sad.  All I knew was amazement, wonder, and admiration.

 

Since I've come home, I haven't been able to get him out of my mind.  I want to be next to him, listening to him talk, watching him watching me.  I can't sleep -- I want him to be holding me.  I don't expect him to feel the same way, but he mentioned me being like someone he's dated and how that was a good thing -- and he said he saw relationship potential.  But I'm half a world away.  He's a globetrotter, always meeting new people.  I couldn't ask him to keep himself for me, after spending only one week together.  But I can't forget him -- other men pale in comparison.  It's like standing in the sun for the first time, then going back into artificial light.  Every fibre of my being longs for him.  I feel myself withering, away from his light. 

 

Help!

Well, it's official, me and melinda are no longer together, the long distance thing just didn't work, it was fun while it lasted.  Oh well gotta move on.

Waiting for Josh to come online at his 9 p.m. EST time (I'm EST, he's an hour behind) has got me addicted to Solitaire.

Any who... I found out today (mom found out too) that we have free long distance.  ::Dances:: That so rocks.  Now I can call Josh once a week like I told him I'd do if it were up to me.  It made me so damn happy.  I can't wait to tell him.

Today was the Seatbelt Challenge at school (The Chinese seatbelt drill thing...) a quarter of the school stayed after just for that.  I stayed after for my skill training session.  Which I was the only one who showed up to.  It's a program to help me with getting jobs in the future.

Yesterday during Math Class (I take financial math and my teacher is a sports addict and a talker x_X;; he could talk to you to death, literally) I drew a picture.  If I had a scanner I'd scan it.  It's a face with scars on it and his head is ripped open and you can see some of his brain.  Around his face are the words "kill me" "torture me" "make me hurt" "I want to die".  Well, one of the two teachers I showed it to didn't hear me when I said that none of the sayings had to do with me, so she talked to my counselor, who then called me up to her office 12th period.

You know, I've been in this school for four years and that was about the 7th time that a teacher talked to my counselor because they were worried about me.  At least I know this school has teachers that care.  At my old school, my counselor cared, but the other teachers never actually paid attention to the students.

Any who... byes 'till tomorrow.

Taking a break my from the tour of Tokyo already, I thought of something today that may be of concern to a number of you considering studying abroad. As young people, you will have certainly by this time begun to develop relationships among your peers. Some of these may have taken a romantic turn. If you’re headed around the world, you may be worried about what your darling at home will do while you’re not around; if you’re that darling, you’ll certainly be all a-fuss about your new long distance relationship. This is generally tougher on the part of the team staying home, since while you’ll be out exploring day and night, they’ll be left with nothing to do but count the days. It’s not easy. What to do with this new arrangement?

Fret not! Cell phones and Internet are, in fact, everywhere. Failing that, the old school method of letter-writing is still an option—with the mail system today, a letter coming from New York City will reach Tokyo in a few days. Regardless of where you are, your school will take every measure to find you a way to keep in touch with your family and friends, as well as your smoochy-muffin.

I can tell you right now, the worst case scenario is mine, in which the time zones are so different that everyone I know and love is sleeping during the time that I am awake, and vice versa. You are literally on the other side of the world, where you don’t know anyone, and if you did, they probably don’t speak your language. You feel very cut off for a few days.

You will be lonely at first, and this is a part of culture shock that you just have to ride out. It’s not the end of the world. If you keep up your phone calls and e-mails, you’ll feel better quickly. It’s not as though you’re gone forever, and all that bull pippy about distance making the heart fonder—while not on anyone’s fun list—is generally true. You just have to stay up a little late to call home. Plus, getting cards and packages from home is extra cool.

As for your snuggle-bunny, do your best not to drive them up the wall. A vet of the long distance game, I can tell you, if you bother your significant other daily about how many boys/girls they talked to or why they were late calling, you are guaranteed to be ruining a relationship. Just relax. If your babykins is going to come home to you, they’re going to come home to you—there’s no sense in making them miserable. The universe will unfold as it should.

As for the condition of being in Japan, make sure you know that we have two Valentine’s Days. One is the actual day, February 14th, on which girls give guys chocolate or cookies. The other is White Day, on which the tables are turned. So if you forget, guys, send your gal the goods by March 14th, or you really won’t have an excuse. Don’t forget birthdays or anniversaries or any of that nonsense either, per normal relationships—but if you forget your lady while she’s in another country, you’re in so much more doo-doo than you know.

One last thing. Don’t fight with your significant other long distance. It’s the worst thing in the world to yell at each other across time zones, and the make-up is equally as painful, and twice as difficult. If you want to stick together, then save your qualms for later. Just make sure your loved one knows how much you want them to come home at the end of term, and you should do fine.

Until next time, and minus the shmoopy baloney, mata ne.

I've come to a pretty difficult conclusion as of late.  It seems that the friends that I once thought were so close to me are no longer so.  The last time I went up to the U.P. it seems like they just didn't want to spend time with me or had other local friends that they wanted to hang out with.  So I guess I just leave them alone then if that is all they want to do.  I decided this time since my last trip up there - that I would just wait.  I would wait to have them call me. 

 

What do you think my response has been?  I have received no phone calls and my best friend - who I had stand in my wedding and I in hers  -well, her phone is disconnected.  This 1000 minute phone card now seems pretty pointless and I don't have forever to use it.  If I don't use it after so long, I'm going to start losing the $40 I invested. 

 

Sometimes I wish people would just say - look, I'm not interested in being your friend, alright?  Stop calling me!