Life Change @ MindSay

Sometimes things can surprise you.  Sometimes you wake up and don't really recognize everything you see because the world you know has changed.  This change could be external but mainly its in your head.  Almost everything that happens to us, happens because of a change in our outlook.  Something blows our minds and suddenly things are different and will never be the same.  We exhibit a lot of faith by accepting the world as it is in our day to day lives.  But what if something comes along and shakes up your safe little world?  What will you do?  Deny that things are not what they appeared to be?  Accept and welcome the change?  Ultimately the choice is yours and can only be made when you feel comfortable in this new reality (which isn't really new to the world, its just new to you).  Sometimes when the world gets to be too much, we retreat inwards to a place we feel safe in and can control.  We create our reality to calm ourselves, to protect ourselves.  We intentionally deceive ourselves so that we can escape feeling whatever things the real world makes us feel.  Our mind then becomes our new world.  Isn't the mind a fascinating thing?

Bonus Tip of the Week: "Don't get into arguments that go nowhere and hurt your relationship. Just because someone else attacks you verbally, you don't have to respond in kind...Some things are better ignored or handled with a soft answer."

_{(Tip is from page 97 of *Keep Your Marriage: What to do When Your Spouse Says "I don't love you anymore!" * For more information, visit http://www.KeepYourMarriage.com)}

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The Keep Your Marriage Philosophy

The steps to creating an exceptional marriage include:

1. Accepting responsibility for your own actions
2. Minimizing blame and resentment
3. Focusing on how you need to change
4. Directing energy into becoming the kind of marriage partner you'd like to have

It is possible to create the marriage of your dreams if you're willing to work hard, love deeply, dream big, and persevere.

Quotes for Reflection

• “Some people wait all their lives for the outside to change their inside. But it never seems to happen because change comes from within us first, then the outside becomes different.”
  —Elliott Goldwag, Ph.D.
• “Resentment or grudges do no harm to the person against whom you hold these feelings but every day and every night of you life, they are eating at you.” —Norman Vincent Peale
• “Holding on to anger, resentment and hurt only gives you tense muscles, a headache and a sore jaw from clenching your teeth. Forgiveness gives you back the laughter and the lightness in your life.” —Joan Lunden
• “If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.” —Maya Angelou
• “When you blame others, you give up your power to change.” —Dr. Robert Anthony
• “Some people change when they see the light, others when they feel the heat.”—Caroline Schoeder

so today, or i guess yesterday, my friends came over (with burritos and almond dacquoise) kind of randomly at about 8ish. they left at around 2am.

it's great hanging out with them, though, so i'm ok with it. hooray for family!

i'm still going crazy over all the final project i'm doing. i was working a bit on my typography while they were here, but... i finished one thing. yeah... whatev.


i'm really tired. i woke up in the morning and my neck hurt. now i'm all itchy and i'm sneezing and it's not fun. so right now i'm just... wasting time writing this blog instead of working on the shitload of work i have to do.

I can not wait until school is over and the finals madness is over.

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I think i am going crazy. I think i am unhappy with my life. Unsatisfied. Well, perhaps that's too much--i'm not incredibly happy, but i'm not unhappy. i'm in that limbo where everything is just sort of there and i'm living life just to eat, sleep, work.

i want more.
something's up with me where I just want to let go of everything. i want a change. i'm not sure in what, but i want and maybe need change, and i'm not sure exactly where i'll find it.

funny, because the Indiana Jones Adventure song came on in my itunes on shuffle. I'm not sure where it came from, or why i have it, but maybe it's a sign. i need to go on an adventure. a quest!
i should discover more about myself. i don't know me very well. although i do know this about myself: i need to get some sleep. so good night.

Change is something that people often have trouble adjusting too.   Be it in love, work, family relationships, it all takes some time getting used to when things change in your life.  I don’t mind change so much but I’ll admit that some changes take more getting used to than others and these days I find that I’m learning more about myself and my potential in ways that I would never have imagined..

 

I find my life taking twists and turns that at times I’m not ready for but then again, that is all part of living.  Adjusting to change and growing as a person hopefully in that process of change.   Over the last year or so, I’ve taken chances.  Some have worked out and some have not.   That too is part of living and learning.   To remain stagnant in ones life is to perhaps die a little and what good is that?   

 

Recently I was asked to fill out a paper stating what my goals are regarding becoming an independent sales representative for the jewelry company I blogged about not to too long ago.   I found it very difficult to fill out this form because I realized that in my professional life, I had no goals.   Most of my working life has been for someone else.  Income to help pay the mortgage, buy food and clothes and nothing more than that.  Just putting in my time because I had no other choice.   Realizing that I had no goals really put me in a bit of a quandary and also made me a little depressed.   Have I been spinning my wheels most of my life, never really pushing myself to be something more?  Could I have been more successful in my life?  Things that used to be important just didn’t seem  that important anymore.  I had grown stagnant in my life and I could slowly feel myself dying inside.  

 

The chances I’m taking now will perhaps shape my future and hopefully make me grow as a woman both personally and professionally.   I would never in a 100 years have picked ME to be an independent sales representative for any company.   First, because I’m a little shy and second, the thought of doing a presentation just scares the hell out of me.  I never liked making speeches and nearly died when I had to take a speech class in college.  It was a fate worse than death but somehow I got through it.   However, with this jewelry company, there are no presentations. BINGO!  Now this I can do I say to myself. 

 

Well, to cut to the chase, last night was my first home show open house.   I’d spent days getting myself  prepared mentally for it and making sure I had all the display items I needed, all the supplies, catalogs and of course the jewelry I’d invested in.   It was a small party by most standards but I’m told that no party is too small.  Two hours were allotted for the open house which morphed into four.  Everyone was having great fun looking, trying on jewelry, and just socializing.   In the end, the hostess reached the goal of the maximum percentage (she receives 30% of the total gross sales in free jewelry) which is considered a successful party.

 

I was exhausted by the time I got home but I felt great and empowered.  For the first time in my life, I did something I didn’t think I was capable of.  I was my own boss on my own terms.    For the first time in my life, my success or failure rests on me and no one else.  Am I up for it?  You bet I am.  So whenever my boss breaks the news (which will no doubt be within the year) that the office will be closing, I will have my foot in the door of something that I like to do and not something I feel I have to do.

So yes, change is hard but it’s also wonderful at the same time.  I plan on giving this 100% of me and hope that in the end, I will be a better person for having taken the chance.