Hypnosis @ MindSay 
Gosh, I just realised it’s been two weeks since my last blog – it’s really flown by! More talk of exams has been buzzing through our house lately, as my son has been doing the dreaded SAT’s. Actually I think a bit the old block has chipped off, because he seems to be one of those people who finds exams easy – he’s got the exam knack. I was going to give him a bit of a boost with a couple of sessions of hypnosis, but in the end I never got around to it, and he was still fine!
The SAT exams have been in the news lately, because of suggestions that UK children are among the most ‘examined in the world’. I’m not sure if that includes China, where the pressure in education from primary to postgraduate seems to be ferocious, if various documentaries are to be believed. However, there is a growing concern in the UK that the frequency and extent of exams in schools are becoming more of a distraction from education than a contributor to it.
As I’ve said before, exams can have several functions – measure of potential, measure of achievement, predictor and motivator. However, exams, especially pen and paper ones, do only measure a small proportion of a child (or adults) abilities. And in the ‘industrial scale’ education system we have now there is a great tendency to measure what is measureable, rather than measure what matters. As schools find themselves under pressure to perform in league tables, they push (this verb could be anything from ‘encourage’ to ‘demand’) teachers to take time to prepare children for the test. And for what? To increase standards, we are told. And how are these standards judged – by test results of course. Mmmm – tautology anyone?
It feels as if you were awake, but you had no strength at all. You just stay there, eyes closed, with a relaxed mind. And you’ll only come back after a big while or a strong self-commanding thought.
So I was thinking. What if I could use hypnosis to treat procrastination and my lack of self-discipline? So there you go. I’m using my internet connection for something productive.. I’m downloading a bunch of self-hypnosis mp3s.
I hope I get something done tomorrow..
by Sandra Brown, MA
HORRIFYING! PLEASE GET INVOLVED IN STOPPING THIS
Ladies -- watch out for this:
There has been a growing field of books, e-books, seminars and training for men on how to seduce women using hypnosis!
This comes in the 'back door' of her defenses and creates the sensation of intimacy and connection where obviously none exists. Using mind control - sex can occur very rapidly without her being aware at to 'why.'
Today, hundreds of websites offer young men and adults the ability to come and be trained in person by 'seduction guru's.' If this isn't appalling enough that men are being encouraged to use 'false' ways of attaching to women, they are now teaching hypnosis and other forms of neuro linguistic programming to men all over the world.
This, in my opinion is not only emotional rape but it's the proliferation of pathology training in it's WORST form!!
To make matters worse, the sickest of all the Seduction Gurus's (who is mentally ill, bi-polar and has been hospitalized in psych hospitals) was the star of a Reality Show about seduction and his pick-up techniques hosted by VH1 called 'The Pick Up Artist.'
If you want this c*rap to stop, please write VH1 about this show at:
VH1
1515 Broadway
NY NY 10036.
They are owned by MTV Networks which is a subsidary of Viacom at the same address. So while you're at it, write to MTV Networks and Viacom.
Also, flood their phone lines at: 212-846-1753 or 212-258-7800. Let's give them an ear full!
Starve the Vampire
by Sandra Brown, MA
Author of "How to Spot a Dangerous Man"
(with some minor additions from The Exposer)
Pathological persons are energy and emotional vampires. They live off of your emotional content.
Part of their personality deficit is the lack of a stable and consistent inner core of a self concept so they need constant attention, distraction, and identity management from which they draw their identity.
Lots of their identity is acquired from their relationships since internally there is so little core self to draw from. This is part of the reason they are so exhausting.
In order to get their emotional 'blood supply' from you, they 'hook you' into conversations, arguments, or any other kind of response they can get from you. They live vicariously thru your own emotional expressions of love, frustration, confusion, etc. It doesn't always matter 'what' emotion is fed to the vampire (although narcissists like adoration) but just that there is SOME content is enough for them -- even your tears, or your screams, or your insults. It doesn't matter...they just 'need' something, anything from you in the way of content. If they don't get the blood supply/emotional content from you, they will seek it elsewhere.
(Remember Dracula? He just moved from town to town taking it where he could get it?)
When you begin to break up he will fear the loss of emotional supply. He won't fear losing you so much as he will fear not getting his identity and his sense of self from you and/or the relationship. He fears the loss of self or 'who am I without her?' This is a very fragmented ego state -- one which only exists thru relationships with others.
So when you try to break up, he may continue to contact you which is why they are hard to break up with. They are predictable in their approaches to get you to respond to them (you are feeding the vampire his emotional blood supply every time you talk to him).
These are some of his approaches and if you can get a bag of popcorn and just watch it like it was a LifeTime for Women movie and detach from it, you will see a whole movie pan out like this:
* One contact he's angry, blaming, shaming.
When you don't respond to that verbally or emotionally (think like you are lobotomized with no facial expression...that's what I want women to do with these men)* Then one contact may be sweet, loving, buy you things or sending you things.
When you don't respond...* He will promise to do what you've asked for years... go to counseling, church, take meds, be nice, go to anger managment.
When you don't respond...* He will get angry again--say you aren't working on the relationship which is why it's gonna fail;
When you don't respond...* He will quit calling for a while to make it look like he's moved on (They are boomerangs, they ALWAYS come back a few times.)
When you don't respond...* He will indicate he found someone else or had sex with someone else. (possibly one of your friends)
When you don't respond... (Are you enjoying the popcorn and movie about now??)* He becomes 'sick' -- he doesn't know what this mysterious illness is, or he has prostate cancer, leukemia, some other lethal disease.
When you don't respond...* He will just go back to drinking/ drugging/ dealing/ driving too fast/ seeing prostitutes/ etc.
When you don't respond...* He will threaten to kill himself, leave the area, never see you again.
When you don't respond...* He will take the kids (or try to), drag you through court, threaten to physically harm you.
When you don't respond...* He will tell you he's dating someone you hate or he's gone back to his previous girlfriend/ wife.
When you don't respond...* He will tell you he will kill your pet he has custody of if you don't talk to him.
When you don't respond...* He will go on the net and post about you on the exposure sites, making up the most outrageous lies and childish slander to get you to react.
When you don't respond...* It will come full circle and will begin again, at the top of this list.
When I do phone counseling, it's all the same stories. I know that women think that their experiences are unique.
But pathology is all the same. These people aren't very creative and don't deviate much from the strict internal structure that is associated with pathology. They ONLY react in certain ways so it's pretty easy to predict.
Once you are able to understand this, you can predict his sad/ silly/ stupid reactions to a break up (or exposure).
Since they live off of your emotion and NEED it, the sooner you starve him out by having no contact (unless you have to because of your kids but you adhere to no words exchanged and no emotional content on your face), the vampire will flee to the next available source to be fed.
When women don't disconnect once they understand the feeding and maintanence of pathologicals, they are doing it becuase SHE wants to remain. The ball is then in your court to figure out where you are still hung up so you can disconnect.
This is not a judgment about women not being able to leave. It is a POINTER to a place where the disengagment has hit a snag. Simply notice where the snag IS so that something can be done.
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I had made an appointment a week or so ago for a hypnosis therapy session on weight control. The choice was made to have this long before the breakup with John, so that is not the reason I did it. I consulted various medical professionals who I am friends with about hypnosis therapy and they said that I really didn't have anything to lose other than weight. It was a one time two hour session and I got a copy of the session and five reinforcement CDs as well. Granted, the session was only on Thursday, but I have already dropped five pounds. Before I went into the session I weighed 224 lbs and a goal weight around the 170s, only if my breast size stays the same...LOL! Usually when I would come home from where ever I would do the following: (1) go to the bathroom, (2) log into my messengers, and (3) head to the fridge. Since the session, I have not been at the fridge the majority of the day. I am a huge stress and boredom eater and do not find myself really wanting to eat while watching TV or on the computer. I do highly suggest hypnosis therapy for whatever the need is. The place I went to has sessions for smoking cessation, weight control, alcohol and drug abuse, gambling addictions, stress and anxiety, depression and phobias, emotional conflicts, financial/vocational success, assertiveness and self esteem, sexual dysfunctions, behavior modification, and insomnia. Fifty more pounds to go!
In other news...
The kid who had called me a cunt returned this past week after having two weeks off. His second day back he had bit the inside of my left forearm and left a bruise. I can't believe this child! That shit would have never happened fifteen years ago and if it would have, the kid would have probably had been beat pretty good by his parents when told about what he did. I cannot wait until he heads to kindergarten in a couple weeks. He will no longer be my problem.
Had a phone call from Wood County Head Start to set up an interview for a teacher assistant position. Unfortunately, there was no way I could make the interview times as I am being used for coverage in another classroom currently. Major bummer on that because I would be working the regular school year, get unemployment for the times off (winter break, spring break, and summer break), and I would not have to drive outside the city limits.
This past week I got an invite for me and a guest to my coworker's wedding. I no longer have a guest to go with and I really do not want to go alone. Maybe I can talk one of my friends into going, but I have to RSVP in like ten days. *EDIT* I had talked to my friend Todd and he said he would be my date if he is healthy enough. He was told today that he has mono!
Note from webmaster: One thing an actor has to have, walking into the audition room, is confidence and a sense of ease. This is your very first contact with the casting director and whomever else might be in the room, including writers, producers and directors. If you walk in looking nervous and insecure, you've already stacked the deck against you, no matter how brilliantly you then audition. Also, the first words out of your mouth are vital. If they don't come easily, if your voice is choked, over-enthusiastic or too low to be heard, you have already predisposed those with the power to hire you, to be concerned. A great tool for the actor, to become more comfortable in the room and in their own skin, is to attend a good public speaking class. I'd also recommend self-help programs geared toward creating a more genuine, relaxed presence in high-pressure situations because what they see then can color everything they see later. Recommended:
Cure your fear of public speaking
7 Public Speaking Survival Tips
I used to be terrified of public speaking - now it's natural and fun.
Dry mouth, fast heart, sweaty palms, blank mind - yeah I've been there! It's easy to fear public speaking. But I was never just content with overcoming fear. I wanted to be a great speaker. What I needed was a way of calming down and applying simple techniques and strategies to talk like a pro.
When I'd learned to relax (more of that later) I learned and applied the following four steps.
- Reassure your audience - they need to know you know your stuff and you are human!
- Hook them by being interesting and relevant. Tell them why what you are saying is relevant to them.
- Inspire them by giving them information and ways of seeing that are new and applicable.
- Leave them on a high by telling a story them encapsulates your central message.
How do you become confident enough to apply the four steps?
Here's some tips some of which are practical some of which are to do with the way you think about your public presentations and also how you can start to change the way you feel about them.
Public Speaking Tip One
Breath your way to calm. When you breath out you relax that's why people sigh when they're stressed.
Breathing in without breathing out causes hyperventilation and worsens anxiety. Just before your speech take five minutes breathing in to the count of seven and out to the count of eleven (quick count-not seconds!). On the out breath hold it a second before breathing in again. This will produce quick and lasting calm. Remember extending the out breath calms you down.
Public Speaking Tip Two
You have a responsibility as the presenter but relax you don't carry all the responsibility. Presenting is a team effort. Audiences are responsible for politeness, extending their attention and attempting to learn. It's not all you-it's a meeting of two halves. Never mind how they judge you. How do you judge them?
Public Speaking Tip Three
Use metaphor and stories. We all experience life metaphorically. The most technical logical person spends at least two hours a night dreaming! Talk detail if necessary but present patterns with metaphors. Folk from 4 to 104 love stories. Use em.
Public Speaking Tip four
Captivate attention by using words that evoke all the senses. Describe how things look, sound, feel, smell and taste. Paint pictures and sensations in their minds with your words.
Public Speaking Tip Five
Vary your voice tonality and speed of delivery. Keep them alert and engaged. Convey energy when need be and slow down when you need to 'draw them in close.' You are the conductor to their orchestra. And pepper your talk with humour. Your willingness to be funny shows personal confidence and confidence is contagious.
Public Speaking Tip Six
Tell them what they are going to get. What they are currently getting and then what they have got from you. Sell your sizzle!
Public Speaking Tip Seven
Watch and learn from other great speakers until compelling, relaxed speaking is a part of you.
Rehearse positively. You need to rehearse how your going to feel as well as what you are going to present.
Don't think about your forthcoming presentation whilst feeling nervous as this creates an instinctive association between fear and presenting. This natural negative self-hypnosis is very common with nervous speakers.
Hypnotically rehearse your speech whilst feeling relaxed. This produces the right 'blueprint' in your mind. In fact when you do this enough times it actually becomes hard to be nervous!
All great speakers know how to use great self-hypnotic rehearsal. Hypnosis changes attitudes and can bring emotion under control. I used hypnosis, to change my instincts around public speaking. Now I just can't get nervous whether it's 50 or 500 people. The world needs great communicators. Go for it!
Cure your fear of public speaking - if you want that extra boost of awareness and confidence the next time you have to speak in public, get the help you need with this fantastic hypnosis download.
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