Homophobia @ MindSay

Tuesday, April 7, 2009

 Nothing big to report AGAIN (in a good way). Day started out w/ a long talk w/ Nichole : ). She’s so… Nichole. I can’t describe her. I love her. Always very frank, very candid, and no matter what she’s threatening, loves the hell out of her kid(s) and wants what is best for them.

I was complaining that my NY counter-parts are on spring break starting tomorrow because NY gets a week and 2 days for break and we not only don’t get it, we get it a week later so I can’t even stay to visit people. So Parker says ‘So move back’. And I said, ‘I’m trying to’. Then he adds, ‘good, so Cathy and I can move in with you’. Apparently, he did not say ‘in with’ he said ‘next door to’. I told him I would not want to live next door to him because he smells, but he promised me he’d do ‘stupid human tricks’, so I’ll entertain the idea. I’d like to at least MEET Cathy before we share a bathroom, but aw he wants to keep me around. Needs to be able to pick on me at a moment’s notice. Anyway, the point of remembering this is because his offer of ‘stupid human tricks’ reminded me of living in Carlyle junior year and moving in the first day and that random boy across the courtyard doing that poking dance for me. I miss college sometimes.

Today was really pretty easy. They watched the end of Holes until about 9:40, and then decided to cash-in to watch BOLT this afternoon, so very little academically. E told us he’s not coming in on Friday because he’s going to dad’s for the weekend/Easter. He is SO CUTE when he’s excited about something. Love it. I also had a good time eating lunch (well, my banana) in the room with the 2 of them, talking about loose teeth. They’re so cute sometimes. I also have to say that E was amaaaaaaaazing today reading Captain Underpants to A for reading instruction.  He was really nice and encouraging ("you knew that one! Great!"  "what does this one say? look at the first letter") and patient and basically, he won.  There was no contest, but he won.

Yesterday they were ATROCIOUS with 'that's gay' or 'so-and-so is gay because_________', and D was swearing like a sailor (and not, say, a NINE YEAR OLD), but today we didn't have that issue. <3.  Also, A went to sit down on the beanbag where Parker was and Parker had to pretty much JUMP out of the way to not get smushed, and I laughed so hard I fell outta my chair.  In general, though, A was ADORABLE today, singing along to the movie (well, 50% the lyrics and 50% his own). 

1. Homosexuality is completely unnatural.
(like microwave ovens, polyester and erectile dysfunction medication)

2. Homosexual marriage would ruin the sanctity of marriage.
(oh, you mean like the rising divorce rate and polygamy?)

3. Homosexuals would raise gay children.
(because straight parents raise only straight children)

4. Children cannot grow up well-adjusted without a parent of each gender present.
(single parenting is illegal as well)

5. Gay People only impose their sexuality on others.
(and advertising campaigns don't do the same thing?)

6. If Gay Marriage is legalized, it will morally corrupt my children!
(Have another beer and beat your wife some more, I'm sure that won't corrupt them at all)

7. Gay people can't form lasting relationships?
(I know gay couples who have been together longer than my parents...)

8. All gay people get AIDS
(that's just stupid.)

9. Heterosexual marriage has never changed
(women are still property, whites can't marry blacks and divorce is unheard of)

10. Gay marriage is a gateway drug. Soon, people will try to marry their pets.
(yes, because my kitten can sign a marriage license, not to mention having legal standing)

11. Civil unions are exactly the same as heterosexual marriage.
(they are a "separate but equal" clause. the government has been successful with them for ages! blacks and whites don't attend the same schools and cannot marry. it worked fine for them)

12. The Bible says....
(i believe that's the old testament...you know, the same one that says it's okay to have many wives...and that women are property)



-kage jonas

Alarmingly, when people meet me, if they know my gender-status (aka, that i'm a transsexual) they think that gives them some right to ask and/or say certain things. Well, I figured I would be helpful and answer some of those questions for you right here in my blog.

1. Don't be offended when I ask you this...
-  Stop right there...it's obviously going to offend me.

2. What is your "real" name?
- Kage. idiot.

3. I know someone who is trans...so I totally get it.
- Yeah, so do I. That doesn't make you an expert, especially if you aren't. Now if you are lending me some support, sure. But don't pretend you know me specifically just because you know another transsexual.

4. How do you have sex?
- With my sex parts, moron.

5. Are you a boy or a girl?
- How flattering. Are you?

6. Do you date straight women or lesbians?
- Hm. what do you think?

7. I've seen "Boys Don't Cry"[or insert movie with a transsexual  main character]), I understand what you're going through.
- No, you probably don't.

8. Do you like boys or girls?
- Yes.

9. Are you a top or a bottom?
- We will not be having sex. EVER.

10. Are you a tranny?
- idiot. and don't say "tranny"...it's rude to some of us. (not me, of course)

11. What do transsexuals eat?
- babies. crunchy, human babies.

12. What kind of surgery are you getting to become a man?
- a tonsilectomy. what do you think?

13. How does it feel to be a transsexual?
- fabulous.

14. Where are your boobs?
- I'm a boy. So don't ask this. it's rude.

15. You're going to Hell.
- See you there, shitbag.

16. You are a lesbian, stop pretending to be a man.
- Only after you stop pretending to be a decent human being. Nobody has the right to evaluate me like that...especially not you.

there's more soon, but this is all i could think of.

k

I was thinking about talking about this yesterday but I got mildly to greatly sidetracked. Anyway, I felt some wild ambition to talk about the whole Tim Hardaway gay bashing incident that is being way overblown in the media this week. I heard the comments on Mike & Mike yesterday in their entirety. Yes, the comments were stupid and nasty and hateful and every other adjective to describe "bad". Were they wrong? Ahh...good question.

Wrong, to me, implies that under no circumstances is something valid. Tim Hardaway said that he hates gay people. So, is that wrong? To the best of my knowledge, he has never tossed on a black hooded sweatshirt, grabbed a tire iron and gone out for a night of beer, burgers and gay bashing with his pals in a minivan. One can make the arguments all day long that he's a spoiled rich guy who lives a charmed life or that he's ignorant or that he's insensitive or even that he violated some decency code somewhere but that fails to answer the simple question of "Is it wrong?".

First of all, Hardaway's initial answer was sketchy at best but the hosts follow-up questions almost seemed like an attempt to lead him into his eventual comments that have now caused him to become public enemy. Granted, nobody forced Hardaway to say "I hate gays" so there is always that angle as well. I guess my main gripe is the language police once again are ready to strike down thunder on someone for having an unpopular opinion. I've heard it said before - you cannot legislate morality. It's impossible. By making Tim Hardaway do the standard issue public apology and make him endure the lifetime of public humiliation, have we stamped out the real problem? No. Will homophobia ever be fully accepted across the board by all walks of life. I seriously doubt it. Not in my lifetime, at least.

I'm not saying it's a problem to be ignored. All you can really do is be mindful of those who take their fear and hatred to a point where they take it upon themselves to infringe on someone else's liberty and personal space. Beyond that, you can't make someone with deep religious beliefs or certain prejudices suddenly skip hand in hand with Cecil in the annual gay pride parade. At least, you'll never get someone to do it with any sort of sincerity. To me, that's the biggest annoyance in the world today - the absolute lack of sincerity. Rather than accept differences that we don't like and avoid them, we would rather get an insincere apology and achieve humiliation all in the name of "making a statement". To that I say "Boo".

OK, enough of that ranting. As for this weekend, movies, homework and a whole lot of slothing appears to be the agenda yet again. I've been forcing myself to go to the gym again, at least until the weather improves. I get paid today so that should help. Barring some amazing news, I'm probably out til next week. Try not to cry.