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Sometimes life has a way of slapping you in the face and saying, "Wake up and see the reality!" Yesterday was one of those days for me. This was not my first reality smackdown day, of course. I don't think this one was quite as profound as when my husband was run over by a truck while riding his bike 2 years ago, but it was significant nonetheless.
My oldest daughter graduated from fifth grade. It suddenly occured to me, as I watched her accept her diploma looking so grown up, that now everything would be different. I'd been perceiving her as a little girl, when in reality, she's a young woman.
It's during these times you realize you haven't been seeing things fully. This is partially because you're seeing what you want to see. It can also be due to seeing what you're conditioned to see. Either way, you're missing some of the pieces of the puzzle. Then something snaps you out of it, and you understand that things have not been as they seemed. You're noticing things you've never noticed before.
This happens to everyone to varying degrees. Reality changes depending upon your perspective. Perception is everything. What's more real? What's going on in the outside world, or what's going on inside of you? Can what's going on inside of you effect what's going on in the outside world? If the outside world can effect you, why shouldn't you be able to effect it in some symbiotic sense, especially based on the concepts of duality and balance? Is reality what you perceive, or is what you perceive reality?
Until Next Time,
Danielle
Well, here we are with spring upon us. My son is enjoying his break from school (is second grade almost over already?!?!) and, though I have mentioned it several times already, is ignoring the chores that have been set aside for this time. With the enthusiasm of his age, he has promised to do all manner of jobs in order to have more money and freedoms… but when the time comes, chooses to exercise his reward from yesterday and play on the Xbox instead. At some point he will have passed many levels, defeated many foes, and racked up lots of points, but will have no time to get all his chores done for the day – and not get the other privileges he wants.
He has also been asking about making changes to his chore chart. He’s a big kid of seven now, and wants to buy himself a Nintendo DS. Most of my family lives in another part of the state we live in. Too far away to visit often, so when it comes time for presents, they usually send a check to buy a toy. My son is lucky, and has lots of toys – so when he begged to have a DS (and was very disappointed that Santa had not brought one), I suggested that he save the money he gets from family for his birthday, Christmas, and other holidays.
At the beginning of last year, we marched into the bank with checks in hand. We got him started with a “Youth Goal Savings Account,” and deposited his Christmas hoard. He is now quite proud that he has over $100 in his account. We are going to adjust his chore chart to tasks appropriate for him (upon negotiation and agreement by both parties, of course) and come up with a fair amount of money each task is worth.
When we first started making a chore chart, I made a template on the computer, and we have been refining it ever since. Since he was only four when we started, we had items on there like: Get dressed in morning, Brush teeth, Put pajamas on. There were actual chores on there, however. Feeding the dog, sweeping, dusting, and picking up his toys, have all been part of his weekly responsibilities. Since I print out a new sheet every week, we let him mark his own progress. If he does a chore without being asked, he can put a star in that box; if we have to remind him, but it gets done, then he can put a check.
At the end of the week, we would count up all the checks and star and decide on a reward. A new toy, a trip to the ice cream shop or Chuck E. Cheese, seeing a new movie or something along these lines.
I’m thinking that for the more difficult tasks, I will offer fifty cents for completing the task without being asked, twenty-five for reminders. A quarter for simpler tasks and ten for reminders. This way, he can still have the same type of system, but also the money that he so desperately wants. I also appreciate the fact that we make him a part of the process by deciding together what chores he can accomplish and that he can see how much, or how little, effort he has put forth.
When I was 5 all I wanted was to live in the Kennedy’s mansion on the hill the house that cost over a million in 1991, I wanted to so bad to be rich I wanted to be the happy family. I was going to be a doctor and live there with my mum and my nana because hey I was doctor and no one could die!
Then somewhere along the lines I turn 15! You’re still a child and not ever close to being an adult, but yet you think you have the answers and everything is right. The only problems you have is school and being liked and the fact your still not a Kennedy you still live in you crappy little house you still have dreams but they have changed a little now you want long black hair you want to live in the city, you want to party and visit art galleries you don’t want children and you want a big fancy wedding! Just like the Kennedy’s would have done for the children.
Then you turn 18 and yell hell now your and adult and if you didn’t know everything then now you can drink and leave home and move out and live with your friends and the only dreams you have if not be hung over from work and the fact everyone else still thinks your cool and your still hot! Then you go clubbing and you get lost in the drugs the music and the mask of it all. You still want to be a Kennedy instead of a walker because then you wont have to work and you could party hard on daddies money! the only thing different now is the house is an ugly 90’s home and there children are so old and ugly, now you think thanks god I’ll never be 30 and that the real Kennedy kids should brake away from the family business and get real jobs!
Then oh god you 20 which you think on god not a teen anymore you can be sent to war and got o jail, no one cares what you do, then there 21 it’s a party you get way to drunk at then along come 22 the age of no importance’s you still have done anything that makes you a hero, smart or important to the rest of the world.
Then after that you look back and think wow I’m glad I’m a Walker I glad I had the shitty parents that wouldn’t let me do anything stupid, that you didn’t become a doctor, an that you didn’t become a Kennedy!
You’re happy to be old you, you look back and laugh at things that were so important to you like being hot and popular, you start to think you have it all… you still think you’re growing up, but it’s getting so much easier! Thank you to that Kennedy wannabe I’m glad I never got the be!
Because now I think I’ve been in that ugly 90’s home which is still an ugly 90’s home with it’s ugly 90’s carpet, I’ve lived in the city with long black hair, I’ve been way to hot and knew it, I’ve been lost in clubs and worried about being popular and what an amazing ride it was!
So hears to the new ride…. In which doesn’t look to bad, it’s not a roller coast or the giant slide! I think it maybe true you don’t get what you want you get what you need!
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