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Growing Up Old...
Does that mean anything anymore? When our grandmothers and great great fathers were getting married in their time age was irrelevant to thier situations. At that time you had to grow up immediatly to survive. Ethics, hard work and responsibility were given to the very young, therefore they were able to be a responsible married adult at 18 ... 16.... whatever!
Today life for many is much different. Crime is ravaging our home towns, drugs are infecting the minds of our future. How did the values of our ancestors get so lost so fast? More and more our society is becomhing home to children raising children. When you become a parent, your children are first in everything you do, their safety and happiness is on the fore front. However when you are just a child yourself, riasing one can be a daunting task. Now, I am not saying that all teenage parents and parents in their early 20's are terrible parents, but if you look at the statitics of our growing population and the stats of young parents then talk to a teacher you start to see a pattern.
I grew up in a small but quickly booming town. By the time I was a Junior in high school there were over 900 incoming freshmen. I think, for what ever reason, my classmates and I grew up a little too quickly. Some of us are mature enough to handle the effects of our changing lives, but others I fear will fall into the cracks of this age's stereo-typical society.
Granted I got married at 18 ( a month after high school) I am ticked, utterly peeved at the fact that everyone around me will soon be married parents at 21!!! My husband and I got to know eachother as friends for three years in high school, then as lovers for a year until we got married. Now we have been happily together ( and unhappily) for three years. We are childless and plan to stay that way for quite some time. Although we want nothing more than to hold our future children in our arms at this very moment. We have higher priorities so that we can provide for the family we are meant to have together with out fear.
I have counted over 20 women I graduated with just three short years ago that are on their way or are already mothers and wives. Most of whome are not with the father of their children, or were only married for less than six months, or even less than a week in one case, and most only knew their husband for a year, a year, before they got married. Is one year actually long enough to get to understand what someone is capable of?
Many of these past and present friends like to comment on the similarities between their marriage and mine.... News Flash.... THERE ARE NONE!!! I'm the smart one and ya
ll have ruined what is to be a very long, hard and tiring life.
Is it wrong to feel this way.
This is not to say that I do not think these beautiful women will not be good mothers, I am convinced they will be fabulous!!! However, what kind of life are they going to lead from now on? Their dreams are dead( I dont care how many times you say you are going to go back to school.... you aren't), their marriages are practically in shambles and their children are not going to be able to have all that they want to give them.
Back to a comment I mentioned earlier.... Your child comes before anything else in this world.... right?
So why is it that we consider this only once we have children... and not before?
If you know that one day you WILL be a parent no matter what, then why only put your child first after they are born?
If it is really all about the children, please, think of them before conception. There are too many unplanned pregnancies happening in the world today. Just wait.... You have all of your life, what difference does it make?
Please leave me some comments on your thoughts.... and give me some ideas for more topics!!!! (Can Be anything)
Tony Hsieh, CEO of zappos.com said, “We use it to help build our brand, not drive direct sales.” Tony gets it.
My bottom line thoughts are that twitter can help a business with a known brand grow, such as zappos. Companies like zappos have instant followers, whether they have helpful thoughts or not. People will give them a look just because of their brand.
Oh, just another reason to work on your professional brand.
However, if you are a small business owner … I just don’t get it. Taking a lot of time to try and get your new brand out there does not seem like a good way to spend your day. If you were going to hire someone, I would not spend a lot of time reading the different tweets of a potential employee. I would spend time and read their resume again and look at their professional portfolio at PersonaVita. Take time to call their references. These indicators will give much more evidence to potential employee possibilities, not a bunch of random 140 character (or less) statements. Just my thoughts.
In Math, I had a resource appointment to go over my IEP (Individual Education Plan - it's a system for students with disabiltires, or learning difficulties, to go over what different methods would help you learn better. Eg. allow them to sit by a buddy, or allow laptop use within the classroom, photocopy notes, etc. It's a bit of an advantage. :3)
ANYWAY; so I went, sat down beside Ms. VanKessel, and she started going over it with me and making the odd accommodation here and there. She asked me if I wanted to change my career path, and I told her I had backup options - which were Web Design, so I could possibly work at home (incase I get married and possibly suddenly have a family to raise), and I also said I had a small desire that's growing inside me to be a child and youth worker. I looked at her, and said:
"To be honest, I want to be the mentor that I never really had... It's one thing to talk to somebody, like a counsellor, and get advice or help - but I find it's a totally seperate thing to go to somebody like that, and actually have them relate to what you're going through."
She agreed with me, a hundred percent. I figure that I might put the ongoing pain in my past, and even present, and even future to good use. I want to let others know that they aren't alone, even if they may feel like they are - and especially the world that I'm going to be sucked into in the future. I can't imagine how it is now, with kids (let alone my own, when the time comes) going through the same things. I want that "avoided", by all means possible. I don't them going through the same things.
So, all in all, a final note - experience is good. It helps us grow, makes us stronger. I can say that I'm glad that God put me through the things that he put me through, because without that, I wouldn't be the girl who learned that she had to rise above everything and truly value who she is. (Okay, I'll confess, I have the times where I actually don't. But you get what I mean.)
She asked me how my semester was going for me; and that was when I brought up how tough English was for me - and how my hand couldn't handle the amount of writing I was doing in that class. I asked if I could bring a laptop in, and they, even my teacher in that class, agreed. I also said to Ms. VanKessel that I dropped Academic, and went back to Applied (College) level. She said that she would talk to my teacher, and then I went back to Math.
Oh, not much to say about that period. Although, I notice Randy has gotten "worse". He has obtained an obnoxious habit of touching me, now. He was squeezing my right side as I was leaning over to zip up my backpack. (And I'm very ticklish, so it made me flinch and squirm a bit). He's highly entertained by my reactions to things. I don't even want to KNOW what's going to come next.
The bell rang, and I finally reached English - but I ran into Ms. VanKessel on my way there, and she told me she talked with my English teacher.
"I talked with Ms. Gudall."
"Oh?"
"She told me that she's actually surprised that you're an Applied student. She thought you were an Academic student."
"...Oh."
"She says that you're handing in work that's expected from an Academic student. She told me that you're doing great in this course, and everything you have handed in has been great."
"Oh. That's great!"
Then it just ended there. Had to get in class before the bell rang. I'm staying in Academic this year; and I would LIKE to continue on with it for the next two years... But I'd rather ace the Applied level rather than not really "enjoy" the Academic level. To be honest, I feel like a bit of a failure. I feel like I've let everyone down...
In History, we did some review for our test tomorrow. I'm sure I'll do fine. I'm not too worried.
In Computers, it's always a riot in there. We started a new unit (remember how we were working on Microsoft Excel?). Now we're working with Microsoft Word; which is a program that I've used practically my WHOLE life. XD
I was so hyper in that class (I always act like I'm on crack with my buds. It's awesome. XD). And at the end of class, I was talking about how I didn't want to turn 16. The bell rang, and I headed out, only to find Chase catching up with me.
"You know; being 16 isn't a difference from 15 at all."
"Yes it is! It's got a SIX in it!"
"Well, do you wanna be stuck in a LITTLE body forever?"
That was when he had to go to his bus, and I departed to my Grandmother's car. I'll be seeing her tomorrow, too.
I have a bit of English homework to do, which I will, of course. Gotta get a shower tonight, too - do a bit of History review as well.
Oh, and I've also got two new ideas for 'Did I Ever Tell You How Much I Loved You?'. I keep daydreaming about it. (Dun' worry, it's a cute idea. :3 Not a violent one. XD)
Oh, and it's also Eating Disorder Awareness Weak this weak... I might write something regarding that; you know, something to dedicate to all those who have struggled, died, or are struggling with an eating disorder. Maybe I will, maybe I won't. It all depends.
Have a good day, peoples! 8D
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