Frustraction @ MindSay

Meeting girls online is probably the most asinine thing I have ever attempted. I don't know if it's good for some people but it's really not for me. That said, boredom and curiosity keep me coming back.

The site that I frequent - which is free, which explains why I signed up in the first place - features the following variety of woman:

-Uber-geek, cool chick who's into video games and other esoteric stuff I go crazy for.  Sometimes she's way into punk or metal, sometimes her musical tastes are more mild or broad like mine.  Usually with dark hair and piercings.
-Sports chick/party girl, usually way too hot for me and with a personality I couldn't stomach if I had to sit down and have a drink with her.
-Really driven, mature go-getter looking for same
-Young moms.

Most often, I contact type 1, get contacted by type 4, and have no interaction with type 2.  Type 3 and I have had a bit of a fling but nothing really material.

Now, when arbitrarily contacting a girl who has no initial desire to meet you - an uphill battle to be sure - what you need is a catchy opener.  Most of the girls specify "Don't just say hey whats up" and the rest just think it.  So I have to actually read the profile (which I was going to anyway) and come up with something witty/intriguing to say based on something they say there.  On the 50/50 chance they reply, I find myself having to lead the conversation.  I ask the question, she gives the straightforward answer and turns it back to me.  Which I guess makes sense because she need not put much effort in because they didn't ask for the conversation (apart from y'know, getting a profile on said website.)

This is, of course, because women are unaccustomed to making the first move.  According to a stat, women make first contact only 20% of the time, and my estimate is that it's all those aforementioned moms.  While I'm good enough when need be in person, I have a really damned tough time being clever and appealing in a first message online.  I get flustered and type stupid shit.  But enough about me.

Anyway, there are a number of crazy-ass observations I have regarding this process, but most of them are too depressing to make decent material.  It's just really frustrating and tough.  At the end of it all, my main problem is that it seems like most of these girls are looking for me...

"I'm looking for someone who's smart and sensitive and not afraid to let me show my goofy/dorky side.  Someone who can make me laugh.  Looks aren't even that important, I think it's more important to have a great personality although obviously there should be some attraction. I'm not here for a one night stand and if you can't spell or have pictures of yourself shirtless please don't even bother."

But anyway.  My frustration with the site boils down to the difficulty a guy like me - who has enough anxiety about meeting girls without having time to double-check spelling - has in actually successfully interacting with these lovely young ladies and not making himself look like a spastic weirdo.

Well maybe some would say I'm a spastic weirdo anyway.  The point is, my self-destructive exposure to this site has really highlighted my general boredom and loneliness, compounded by this frustration.

As always, it comes down to a sighing admission that Scotto wants a girl, but can't seem to get the attention of one, possibly because he's a mentally-degenerating overanalytical fool.

Oh well.  If I was any good with women, I wouldn't have much to write about.

Well, keep on rockin'
-Scott