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Blog #77

RAW CARROTS 

 

 

I awoke at around half 7 to start with. I was later told that I had my arms around Shelly's neck and she had to wake me up to get me off her. :)

I went back to sleep - then grandad woke us up at around half 11.

 

The clocks went forward today - so I've had to faff on with my phone and everything else.

I still need to sort out my Wii and my DS. I'll have to do my Gamecube when I get home.

Thank fuck my PC sorts itself out.

 

I didn't get a Sunday lunch last week - so I was quite looking forward to today's.

Shelly was surprised by my nana's Sunday tradition - coming in with some meat on a fork for a taste. She's always done it, and as far as I'm guessing - she always will. :)

 

Rofl - Shelly eats about a half to a third of what I do - yet my nana gave her a 'Dixie-sized portion'.

In effect, she got more than me because I don't eat as many vegetables.

 

Shelly now thinks I'm even weirder because I hate cooked carrots - so I have a few raw slices on my Sunday lunch. Yes, even with gravy. I don't care if it sounds strange - it be what I like. :)

 

All day I had to put up with her randomly exclaiming:

"RAW CARROTS!"

 

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After lunch, I ate some Vienetta ice-cream, then went back to CTR.

Nana and Grandad were watching films all day - so we took advantage of being left alone.

 

It's so difficult to concentrate on time trials when someone has their fingers inside you. :)

I had to pause it eventually.

 

I discovered something else that does it for me: watching someone finger me in a mirror.

I don't look at my face - though when I did see, I look proper mental when I'm aroused. :)

 

I also discovered that with hands the size of mine - it's a pile of piss to fist someone.

I managed to get all four of my fingers AND my thumb inside Shelly - easily.

She managed four inside me - but she did make me bleed again - and it did hurt a little.

 

I panicked later - as I'd bled on the sheets.

I decided I would keep that a secret - as I was a bit too afraid to admit it to nana.

 

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Shelly left at around 9, I showered, washed my hair with the raspberry awesomeness - then continued on with CTR.

I got it completed. :)

I never thought I'd be able to get all of the shitty purple tokens - but the purple gem cup was a pile of piss.

 

You have to race all of the bosses at once, on all four boss tracks.

It's weird - the first boss was the hardest, and the final boss was the easiest, as he kept coming 5th.

 

So aye, I have another gold completion on my Backloggery. Another shiny 100% completion.

I wish all games said 100%. It would be very nice to see. :)

 

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love is a losing game.

beginning nor ending in foreplay.

By Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed. © 2004

Reprinted with permission            

by Destiny

The importance of foreplay is often underestimated and minimized or even ridiculed. The informed experienced lover will know that not only is foreplay one of the most passionate ways to sweep his woman off her feet, but it also increases intimacy, develops trust and care, promotes emotional connection, deepens love and has the ability to enhance his satisfaction as well.

 

First and foremost, adequate foreplay is essential to a woman’s satisfaction and her ability to achieve orgasm. Women need extended stimulation to reach optimal arousal. Adequate foreplay consists of at least 15 minutes, but preferably 20 or more. This is very important for couple’s to know. Many women have difficulty reaching orgasm or experience dissatisfaction with their sexual adventures and often the only cause of these difficulties is the lack of adequate foreplay. Foreplay is physiologically necessary for women’s pleasure, not an unnecessary request she has created to make things more difficult for the male. You can never spend too much time on foreplay. It can only enhance the sexual encounter and the relationship even more.

 

Foreplay has many other important purposes to keep in mind. It shows your lover that you care about her and her needs. The way you touch your woman indicates to her how you feel about her and the way you feel about her impacts how she will respond to you sexually and how pleasurable the sex will be for her. It promotes emotional connection and deepens intimacy, which are two more necessary components for sex to be satisfying for the woman.

 

It is not only the female that benefits from foreplay. On a biological level foreplay induces lubrication for the woman and erection for the man. Taking time to sensuously explore and relish one another’s bodies can significantly help with male sexual problems such as premature ejaculation or impotence, creating harder erections, increased stamina and more satisfying sex for the male as well. As men grow older they may not get erect by sight alone as they once did in younger years, extended periods of touching, kissing and caressing can provide the necessary stimulation needed for erection. Foreplay also builds passion and generates fire making for a more electrifying sexual adventure for both male and female.

 

Foreplay can include much more than basic touching, kissing, holding and caressing. It can also consist of words and behavior that will enhance the excitement and passion. In addition to kissing, touching and holding you might try giving her a loving compliment, expressing affectionate feelings or giving her a gift such as flowers or lingerie. Foreplay does not always have to begin immediately preceding the sexual act.

 

For a very special treat and to really light her fire foreplay that begins in the morning and lasts all day will work even better by producing a loving seduction. The scenario might go something like this: you prepare your lover breakfast or bring her tea and present it to her with a big kiss, before you leave for the day place a sweet love note in a special place for her to find, when you leave for the day hold and kiss her with a deep passionate kiss, then call her later in the day from work and asks how her day is and tell her you love her, or in the call tell her how much you want her and you can’t wait to taste her, later that day send her flowers or when you come home from work bring her a beautiful gift, when you come in the door once again she is greeted with hugs and kisses, before dinner you give her a bath and caresses her feet or you take a shower together, after dinner you clean up the kitchen and tell her to go rest, then you join her in the living room and give her a full body massage and spend at least 15 minutes holding, kissing and licking. By this time her body will be aching with desire.

 

This little dance will reap many rewards for you. No, it’s not realistic that you would do all of these activities each time you want to make love, but once in awhile would make her feel real special and make her appreciate you so much. You will dazzle your woman and have her melting in your arms. The loving act would be remembered and generate a reciprocal effect in which she will want to please you and the relationship will grow stronger and deeper.

 

Sensuous undressing is another powerful form of foreplay that can stimulate and intensify sexual desire. Undress her very slowly with lots of soft gentle kisses on the exposed body parts. Focus on one piece of clothing at time. Look in her eyes while unbuttoning or unzipping. Let her take your shirt off. Let her feel your chest against hers. Hold and caress before moving to more action.

Another trick to prolong satisfaction and build even more desire is that once you have participated in some extended stimulating foreplay and both of you can hardly stand it anymore, then take the foreplay just a little bit further and escalate your hungers to new heights.

As always, communication is the ever-important factor in great sex. If your lover is not meeting your foreplay needs, then you need to speak up and let them know. Tell them what you need or what you would like to try. If speaking the words out loud is too difficult then literally show and guide him. Men, ask your woman what she needs. You can assume that some basics all women will love, but they will also have individual needs. You don’t want to do something she doesn’t enjoy.

 

The enlightened lovers participation in foreplay is not begrudging or the means to an end, they fully enjoy savoring their woman with long sensuous play and delight in bestowing her with pleasure as much as she enjoys receiving. Sex is more satisfying for both partners. They are astutely aware that all the benefits of foreplay put together are important components that will help keep excitement alive and prevent love from eroding or diminishing, thus creating a stronger more fulfilling relationship in every way.

 

 
 Reference Box: Cynthia Perkins, M.Ed., is a sex advisor/educator and author helping monogamous couples increase intimacy, be better lovers and keep the passion alive. She is also author of the hot new sex guide for couples titled, Smoldering Embers-Hot Erotic Stories and Sex Tips to Light a Couple’s Fire. Subscribe to her FREE Monthly Ezine, Smoldering Embers, and get hot sex tips, techniques and secrets guaranteed to keep your fire burning. http://www.smolderingembers.com/ or send any email to this address mailto:smolderingembers-subscribe@topica.com

Unfortunately for me, it was never just playful wrestling. It always led to something I didn't want.

 

"Remember playfully wrestling with your sweetheart when you were a teenager? Remember how horny it made you? If your answer is 'No- we boxed,' skip this section. But if you ever got a charge out of grappling and groping, you should ralize that you can still enjoy amorous wrestling as a particularly stimulating form of foreplay.

 

Fighting- even play fighting- causes a sharp testosterone spike in both sexes. And because it's not an everyday activity (for most of us, anyway), there's the extra excitement of novelty, a known jump-starter of the brain's pleasure centers.

 

You might want to begin while you're both wearing, well, something. Not your Sunday-go-to-meetin' outfits, but perhaps T-shirs and shorts, underwear, or sweats.

 

Your wrestling should just involve holding down hands or shoulders, but should include maximum full-body contact (free-style wrestling as opposed to Greco-Roman). This will get you hot in more ways that one. Even hotter if the woman makes the man say 'uncle.' Every man secretly wants to be wrestled into sexual submission by a lust-crazed Amazon!"

- Adventures in Sex: 365 Ways to Make Every Day & Night More Exciting by Mark Bricklin

I was relaxing between masterbation sessions, thinking of things to get me aroused once again, and as I pretty much always do now, i was thinking about times that I've seen my newest fuck buddy, (I'm gonna call him "J" for now on), particularly the most recent time, and i realized something- He has a tendency to grab my hands and put them where he wants them. This has never bothered me, and in fact has become kind of a turn on. I was thinking about when we were just making out and getting things started on Sunday night, (which was absolutely amazing. that's the longest the two of us have just sat there kissing each other, and it was so hot), and how he was playing with my tits and i was running one of my hands along his torso, and he grabbed it and put it on his crotch, which made me giggle as best i could with his tongue in my mouth, and I then proceded to unbuckle, unbotton, and unzip him all with one hand, something I'd never done before. I know, go me! lol :P

 

But wait, let's review what happened. he grabbed my hand and kinda made me touch him. Now, I don't think anyone who reads my blog regularly was reading it when the following incident happened, and for the sake of not reliving the pain too terribly I'm not going to go hunting for the link to the entry about it (if you're looking through my old entries and find it, please show me the link or at least tell me the date and i'll post it). anyway, incase any of the above hasn't gotten you thinking already, here is something that happened with Nam once :(:

 

We were playing around, I was tickling him, and therefore, as most people do when they are being tickled whether they like it or not, (and he very much so did), he was grabbing my hands and pulling them away from the sides of his body so I wouldn't be tickling him. One of these times he grabbed my hand and pulled it towards his crotch. He didn't even put my hand on it, it was just the same direction and my hand ended up about four or so inches above it. It wasn't even something he conciously did. At this point, though, I started screaming and crying, "Stop it, stop it, stop it!!" and started hitting his chest so he'd let me go. In that moment me and Nam weren't playing and having fun, i was with my ex and he was gonna force me to do something that i didn't want to. I started crying having realized what just happened. I'd triggered to the point that i started fighting when it wasn't neccessary and i could have hurt someone I dearly loved. Nam assured me that it was ok, and we kissed and he just held me for a while. After some time, he cheered me up and we did something else, though now I don't remember what. Maybe I said it in the entry that I wrote about that like a year ago...?

 

So now to the point- "J" has actually grabbed my hand and placed it on his dick, whether or not he was wearing something, and it has NEVER bothered me. At the most, I'll usually giggle or if I'm playing with his body, (you know, that special thing i do that made him say, "This is even better than cumming" the first night that we saw each other), i'll lightly and gently run my fingertips over his cock and then go back to playing. I didn't realize what had been happening until now. What I'm really wondering, though, is this, (sorry about all the breaks. i figure if anybody actually reads this thing that having so many will be able to help them get through it):

 

Am I not triggering because I've gotten somewhere, or is it because "J" isn't my boyfriend? With what's been going on these past couple of weeks, I'm almost 100% sure that it's the later, because I've never really triggered when I was with any other sexual partner, (except for Scott, but there were things about him that actually reminded me of my ex), and I think it's because they weren't boyfriends. I mean, really think about it:

 

My ex was, at one point, my boyfriend and someone I cared about a lot. Then I have Nam, another boyfriend, whom I loved dearly. The last boyfriend hurt me so, why wouldn't this one? I think because I've never been hurt by a casual sex partner I've never worried about it and therefore it would take more for them to get me to trigger than it would someone i was in a relationship with. Unfortunately, it's not like I can test this theory at all.

 

Anyway, that was just something interesting I figured I'd post about. I wonder why I didn't realize it until today. Perhaps because I wrote Nam a letter and sent it with his stuff? I dont know. Leave a comment if you read this.