Femme @ MindSay

I think the whole "butch" and "femme" thing is totally whack. Wasn't the whole point of "being your own person" by freely expressing your sexuality supposed to break stereotypes and boxes as opposed to repackaging our relationships with similar gender roles that we see in the majority of straight people?

It seems when being introduced in some circles of homos and non homos the first question is "are you butch or femme?" and I honestly think its very offensive. I like to wear guys clothes sometimes and prefer to take a more dominant role in the bedroom, but I love pink (the color, not vag :-p) and am very "girly" in many other stereotypical senses.

I have been told by some girls that I wasn't femme enough for them (although I think that was code for attractive) while others said that I wasn't butch so they would not give me the time of day.

I am aware that as long as humans exists, no matter what sexual orientation or mindset one may have, that we will continue to try to put everyone and everything in boxes.

My question is am I the only person that thinks "butch" and "femme" stereotypes in lesbian and straight relationships are totally bogus and should go away?

Why does life have to be so complicated? You know when i was served papers in June of '05 i never thought i would have to go through all the hell i'm going through. I love my son to death, and i don't know what i would do without him. You know what pisses me off is all these drug addicted women who do everything the wrong way, and treat their kids like crap, and the goverment allows them to keep their kids. But heaven forbid that a gay mom who does the best for both of  her kids be able to keep her little boy. If the judge takes my son away i promise to everyone here, i will not stop fighting to get him back.That's just wrong why would you take this kid  who loves his mom away from her? Not to mention, i would hate to know what's going to happen to my daughter, if they take him. I think she would go into a major state of depression due to the fact of how close they have been getting lately.

For a long time now, I've been struggling with my identity. I've IDed as everything from FTM transexual to Tomboi Femme. After much consideration, reconsideration, and discussions with Josh, I think I've finally become comfortable with the label of "Butch". "Butch Lite", or perhaps even "Fagboi", but still Butch. I've never really been comfortable calling myself "Femme", and in groups of Femmes, I always feel uncomfortable, like the one guy who's wife drags him to the Bridal Shower... So I think I'm gonna stick with "Butch." At least for now...

You wanna hear something both funny and kinda sad? It was Christmas with my first real girlfriend.We went to my dad's on Xmas Eve. My dad and his wife gave her a Sarah Michaels bath gel set, and I got the flannel shirt. What was really funny/sad about that was that in that relationship, I really was the butch one.
People who know me find this hilarious.