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We're scrambling to take care of everything we need to do in order to be ready to move. Today we met with our new apartment manager, and he seems really great. The complex is small and I feel like he's invested in the comfort of his tenants. We got the keys, and the apartment is all ours :) Michael is there right now writing up the things that are wrong with the apartment so we won't get charged for them when we eventually move out. We also went to the electric company to get our electricity switched over to the new apartment. We still need to get our mail forwarded.
We're fucking nuts for traveling to Carlsbad for a few days right in the middle of all this, but we haven't seen our families in like 5 months and they were itching for us to come home. It's all kind of stupid because we'll be back in just a few weeks for Christmas, but whatever. We're actually going to celebrate Thanksgiving on Wednesday so we can get back here on Thursday. Friday morning Michael is going to do a little Black Friday shopping (he's getting a netbook) and then next Friday and Saturday we're officially out of here. I'm currently working on straightening up the whole apartment and getting everything in its place so that it can all be quickly and easily packed up. Yesterday Michael got his oil changed and his tires rotated in preparation for our drive to C-bad in the morning. We both have all of our clothes/stuff laid out for the trip but I haven't actually packed it yet.
To top it all off, I have a ton of reading to do for sexualities over the break, and I also have a bunch of online Spanish that's due November 30th, which is pretty much the most inconvenient day ever. Then I have a psych lab report due on Dec. 4th, which is the last day of class *pulls out hair* Finals are from December 7th- 11th. I need to study my ass off for statistics and for sexualities. And of course I need to study to a degree for everything else. But I really just can't even think about finals yet...there's just so much that needs to be done between now and then.
All of that being said, I am excited to see my mom, sister, dad, and step-mom. It has been quite awhile since I've seen them, and I'm missing them all. Plus Thanksgiving food is going to be delicious.
*Shakes head*
Many of you know that Randy and I do NOT get along very well with his family.
His mom and I have a somewhat strained truce. She doesn't open her mouth about how I do things and I won't open my mouth about how shitty of a mom she actual was. She and Randy's step dad don't bug us and we don't bug them. We like his step dad. Even if they are none seen grandparents to our kids, they still are the second set of grandparents to the kids. Randy's mom knows the only way I keep the kids away from her and her hubby is if they do a 360 on us and start kissing ass to Randy's ex wife. We know she will ALWAYS favoritize Randy's sister and her kids over us and as long as his mom doesn't open his mouth we get along fine. Randy knows that I will go off on his mom in a heartbeat and she knows I will too if she downgrades him in front of me or I find out about it. Thus why she doesn't like me. I am "too aggressive". In otherwords, Randy married a woman who is somewhat like his mother. I rule the roost. And I demand things MY way. And she doesn't like that when she is around me and my family.
Randy's sister. She threatened me when she was in Germany the year Randy and I were preggie with DeLaney. Why? Because I went the FARK off on his mom about how shitty of a mother she actually was...Plus I said a few other hard truths to both Randy and his mom concerning what will be accepted towards my kids and what wouldn't. I made Randy's mom cry! Boo fucking hoo! Can't handle the truth then don't start shit with me. When Randy's sister threatened to come back from Germany on some of her leave time to "kick my ass" Randy started laughing at her and said: "Best bring the US Army with you soldier girl! My wife will kick your ass and hand deliver it to my brother in law. Your training doesn't mean shit to her because she is mean and can't stand how this family treats me." Once his sister realized what his mom had done (not going into that) she called back and said sorry to Randy. Randy pointed out that she best apologize to me. I did get my apology 6 years later at Randy's Grandmother's funeral. Randy and his sister do NOT get along. They have our addy and phone number. We have theirs. We keep up on our neices and nephews. We support where ever they get staition by both Randy's sister and her hubby being 20 year carerr soldiers in the Army. And we don't bother them. They don't bother us. Randy's sister and her family kling to her husband's family (even though he is an only child he has TONS of cousins) and we accept that. Just like they accept MY family is our rock.
Randy's dad. He is an asshole PLAIN and simple. He married a bible thumping bitch. And lets just say, my kids have not seen that fucker in over 5 years. He wants to kiss Randy's lying sack of shit whory ex wife. He caters to what ever husband she is married to at the time. Places her son who is NOT his grandchild above even his daughter's children. Every time we have turned around int he last three years we have been back in the home area, he is attempting to get me and Randy up in his town. Why? Because he wants to let Randy see his girls fromt he bitch. We would lvoe to but we don't have legal rights to them anymore and as soon as Randy's ex wife finds out we saw them after his dad set things up even with OUT our knowledge she would have charges pressed. A judge even had to point out to Randy's ex wife that we gave up parental rights freely and since we all three are from the tri state area, we would eventually bump into the girls and no charges could be pressed if that happened. Randy's dad is closing on 70 and he wants to see his "grandbabies". He has even stopped in at Randy's place of work trying to talk Randy into bringing the kids up to see him with out MY knowledge! Randy has point blank told that peice of shit that I am their mother and I will know where my kids are at! And he himself does NOT want his children seeing his father because of his backstabbing perverted bullshit ways nor do we want our children around his bible thumping wife who rather kiss his ex wife's ass!
Well get this! Last month the asshole invited all of us to his Legion Unit's Veteran's Day party. Randy said no until you get it through your head my ex wife is NOT your daughter then you don't need anything to do with me or my family. His dad pulled out well I am old I want to see the only grandson that carries MY last name! I'll sue you under grandparental rights...Randy started lauging at him and said you do that dad and you can finally see why the Bitch (that would be Randy's ex wife) is so scared of Jackie! I am not worried about it. Because MY entire immediate and extended family will back me up. Randy's sister got wind of the threat via their dad and she told off their dad off also.
According to his dad, he doesn't have much to do with Randy's ex wife anymore...That is why when messing around on the comp yesterday we find his dad on Facebook and has both the girls (which that is fine) but also Randy's exwife! We have Randy's sister and brother in law. His dad didn't even attempt to look his own daughter up on facebook!
And that fucker wonders why we dislike him and his wife! Constantly kissing Randy's ex wife's ass! And treating his own kids like shit!
Went to the gym, lighter workout. Still aching from previous kick-butt workout, but it feels good to push a little.
Got home before anyone else was up in the main part of the house. I don't know why, but this makes me feel good.
Had shower to myself. Didn't have to work around anyone else's schedule.
Had breakfast, cleaned up kitchen. I'm very much a breakfast person. I can skip any other meal of the day, but I'm rather cranky without breakfast. Also, the kitchen looks nice when it's clean, and makes my Mom a little happier when she comes down in her getting-ready-for-work mode, and that makes me happy.
Time to talk with Dad, made plans for lunch. Yay Dad, yay us-time.
Got to campus twenty minutes early. Yay having time to mentally prepare for class.
Fairly focused in class, (this is a new one)
save for occasional interactions with Scooter. (secretly suspect that instructor is happiest when I show up to this class either depressed or sleep-deprived, because at least then we don't talk. He doesn't care if I'm surly.)
Met with teacher, chatting over plans and paper. He's nice to talk to, and interested in my plans for the future. Pretty good about remembering who I am and what I'm doing, considering how many students he has.
Borrowed Scooter's Bible (mine went missing, but a lot of the camp staff carry one in their backpacks), read a bit, learned a bit. I'd been a little concerned, (I liked that Bible. It was small enough to fit in my pack, and had this nice soft leather cover that felt good in my hands, and it was a gift from a friend. Also, it was the last Bible I had left, and I really can't go through very much of my life without one).
Played a bit of piano. Piano always makes me feel better.
Driving with happy ska/white-boy-reggae. Warm day, windows down. I don't care if I'm wearing jeans and a sweater, I am a foxy babe. :P Or not. I'm actually almost everybody's Mom/Big Sister-figure, but I'm okay with that, and I still like being me.
Met my Dad for lunch. This is a very happy thing - Dad and Phirefly time.
At Noodles! (Nom nom Noodles.) Dad keeps introducing me to places that he likes to eat, and this was the first time I'd mentioned one that he hadn't had.
Came back on campus, tried to track down Sport. I have news, he has news, and we're both excited for each other. It's normal for us to meet up in the afternoon and go hang out under the oak trees for an hour or two.
Missed Sport (by about half an hour), but ended up talking on the phone for about twenty minutes (usually, our phone conversations are less than five). Made me smile.
Bright sunny fall day. Crashed around in the leaves under the oak trees for a bit, thinking happy-play thoughts.
Working on paper. Well, it's not coming so well, but at least I have time to work on it. This is good.
And, hopefully, for the rest of the day;
Getting time to go up on Quarry Hill (woods and trails time),
Having time with friends at Fusion tonight (only time during the week I get to see these guys. Also, doggies.),
Getting time for a proper workout after that (endorphins and being responsible!),
And maybe getting to share a few words with Mom (mmm, Mom is great)
Before getting to my own bed (snuggle warm soft safe).
My life is so blessed.
There are 5 different sides of my family. There is the Lamore side, Kuntz side, Pesquiera side, my immediate family and the Kansas side. All though this is a lot of family members, I don't have a relationship with every one of them.
On the Lamore side, I have 4 uncles, 4 aunts, many cousins, my grandparents, and my dad. This is actually the side of the family that I'm becoming distant with. I haven't talked to my dad in a few years. He's become a totally different person and my sister, Candice, agrees. I don't talk with my grandparents often. I haven't seen any of my aunts, uncles, or cousins in a long, long time. We used to only seem them 3 times a year: Easter, Thanksgiving, and Christmas. We would see them at family gatherings.
There is the Kuntz side which consists of my grandparents (may they RIP), my three uncles and aunts, and some cousins. My grandparents have passed away. My aunts and uncles, we do not talk with them at all. The last time I saw them I was like 5 years old.
On the Pesquiera side is Victoria( my step-mother), Arthur(half-brother), Jennifer(step-sister), and Olivia(Jen's daughter/my niece). We have a wonderful relationship. I don't see them as often as I should. I live like 10 minutes away from them... I know its ridiculous, I need to get up off my butt and go see them more.
There is my immediate family, my mom, Ray(mom's bf), me, Candice, and our pets. My mom, Ray, and me live in Walnut Creek with 2 cats, 2 dogs, and a parakeet. Candice lives up in Sonoma. Candice and I text each other often.
Finally, there is the Kansas family. I call them the Kansas family because everyone lives in Kansas...lol. This family is the result of my grandpa Kuntz's first marriage. So far I've met Toni, Kathleen, Sabrina, David, Ricky, and Jade. I've met them all online. We are getting to know each other and relationships are forming.
From all of this you can see that over time , relationships with certain family members have adjusted over time. Certain relationships are weakening or are gone and other relationships are strengthning and becoming stronger.
~A.M.L.~
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