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Should There Be Mercy in Any Game?
All the Texans I am sure read about the story of a Christian High School shutting out another HS girls basketball team 100-0 but for those of you who didn't know here is the story link http://highschool.rivals.com/content.asp?CID=904726
The coach who coached the girls to win was fired and the school and basically the School board Pres issued an apology for the way the game was won. They stated it wasn't "Christ Like".
The coach refuses to apologize.
On one hand I agree with the coach. The coach did his job. He coached his girls to play a clean game and do their best. They did their best!
On the other hand I agree with the school a bit. The coach had a shut out game at half time with 50 some points to 0 points. He could have played his bench warmers.
Now as a use to be Varsity HS Basketballer and one who was asked to play in college because the coach saw me playing on the intermuaral teams I also have some other observations.
First there is no mercy rule in basketball. In football there is and in baseball and softball there is. So players are going to do their dayumdest to rack up their stats as much as possible. Meaning points, rebounds, assists, and such. These girls and coach did no wrong. Every team across the US do this with a team they know they can rack up their stats with. Especially if the players, coaches, and parents are the ones doing the college recruiting to get scholorships!
Second if this was a boys team nothing would have been said about this shut out! Don't tell me different. I have seen similar stories out of Texas and other states. And coaches weren't fired. Statements were made saying that maybe we should have played the bench warmers but stats had a chance to get racked up and it was part of the game.
Third people are now making excuses for the other team. They came from a school they are known to have students with learning disabilities. Since when do schools yell at other schools for having learning disabled students? And if these "girls" were that disabled in their learning and corridination abilites why was a game scheduled for regular league play?
As a parent whose children will be playing ball next year; I am anti award giving for the loosing teams. It teaches our children NOTHING but they are up on a pedistal for EVERYTHING they do. Regardless if they deserve an award or not. The majority of the parents in my area are the same way. Schools have had parents go to school board meetings over this issue. Parents have yanked their kids from specific teams due to this issue of wanting to award players for doign nothing but showing up!
I am still up in the air about this game simply because I can see both sides. I do not feel the coach should have been fired though for doing his job. Maybe there should be a mercy rule in basketball. What do you think?
What are your thoughts on this?
The coach who coached the girls to win was fired and the school and basically the School board Pres issued an apology for the way the game was won. They stated it wasn't "Christ Like".
The coach refuses to apologize.
On one hand I agree with the coach. The coach did his job. He coached his girls to play a clean game and do their best. They did their best!
On the other hand I agree with the school a bit. The coach had a shut out game at half time with 50 some points to 0 points. He could have played his bench warmers.
Now as a use to be Varsity HS Basketballer and one who was asked to play in college because the coach saw me playing on the intermuaral teams I also have some other observations.
First there is no mercy rule in basketball. In football there is and in baseball and softball there is. So players are going to do their dayumdest to rack up their stats as much as possible. Meaning points, rebounds, assists, and such. These girls and coach did no wrong. Every team across the US do this with a team they know they can rack up their stats with. Especially if the players, coaches, and parents are the ones doing the college recruiting to get scholorships!
Second if this was a boys team nothing would have been said about this shut out! Don't tell me different. I have seen similar stories out of Texas and other states. And coaches weren't fired. Statements were made saying that maybe we should have played the bench warmers but stats had a chance to get racked up and it was part of the game.
Third people are now making excuses for the other team. They came from a school they are known to have students with learning disabilities. Since when do schools yell at other schools for having learning disabled students? And if these "girls" were that disabled in their learning and corridination abilites why was a game scheduled for regular league play?
As a parent whose children will be playing ball next year; I am anti award giving for the loosing teams. It teaches our children NOTHING but they are up on a pedistal for EVERYTHING they do. Regardless if they deserve an award or not. The majority of the parents in my area are the same way. Schools have had parents go to school board meetings over this issue. Parents have yanked their kids from specific teams due to this issue of wanting to award players for doign nothing but showing up!
I am still up in the air about this game simply because I can see both sides. I do not feel the coach should have been fired though for doing his job. Maybe there should be a mercy rule in basketball. What do you think?
What are your thoughts on this?
Excusing selfish decisions
A lot of the choices with any spiritual/emotional importance generally appear to be either a choice between ourselves and others - but we can face that choice in even the more trivial decisions like whether to bother to move something (in the way/that makes a mess) or to leave it - the selfish decision saves energy, but in that case there may be little or no consequence.
It's like I make the selfish decision not to give the money that I don't need away to charity, and I choose not to press myself hard to get a well paid job to give that money away. I am not doing all that I can, simple as that, and I have to either try not to think about it or somehow excuse myself to keep my concience at bay.
In our minds we sometimes have to provide excuses to our concience to stay at peace with it, excuses include;
- Needs - if our need is greater, that is a legitimate excuse, and it's right overall that it happen that way, however the decision is still selfish, and that changes what the person deserves. Percieved needs can sometimes be more than actual needs - the way to realise is to be without and be forced to cope without.
- Deserved - This is a perspective thing, and again a selfish choice alters this. It is right overall that karma is equalised for all, eventually. In this case a selfish decision can be just (and by contrast, an unselfish one can be unjust if the person giving stuff needs/deserves what they are giving more - I.e. Jesus should never have been made humanity's scapegoat of sin, because he deserved the opposite)
- Not aware - the most legitimate of all, since it isn't factored into a concious decision. Knowledge brings the burden of responsible choices. Knowledge brings oppertunities but also the expectation on ourselves to take them.
- Low consequence - percieved. Sometimes If you think a person will cope well, or if what you do (i.e. leaving something in a messy way) won't affect anything much - then it appears as not worth doing so much, and others will often rather the person rests than focusses unnecessarily on detail at cost of their ability to rest
- Low benefit (of the good option) - percieved
- Permission - The accepting will of another minimises consequences to them because they expect said thing to happen. This is usually quite legitimate, but can be abused if the person is too willing to be walked over
- Inability - Includes financial. Can be percieved, sometimes. If true it is legitimate, because it's the lack of opportunity.
- Ends justify the means? - If getting a high paid job to give money to charity involved hurting people, is it worth it? We simply don't know the scale of the costs and benefits, and it can be distorted by our perception and padded out with other excuses if we don't want to follow a certain path
It's like I make the selfish decision not to give the money that I don't need away to charity, and I choose not to press myself hard to get a well paid job to give that money away. I am not doing all that I can, simple as that, and I have to either try not to think about it or somehow excuse myself to keep my concience at bay.
In our minds we sometimes have to provide excuses to our concience to stay at peace with it, excuses include;
- Needs - if our need is greater, that is a legitimate excuse, and it's right overall that it happen that way, however the decision is still selfish, and that changes what the person deserves. Percieved needs can sometimes be more than actual needs - the way to realise is to be without and be forced to cope without.
- Deserved - This is a perspective thing, and again a selfish choice alters this. It is right overall that karma is equalised for all, eventually. In this case a selfish decision can be just (and by contrast, an unselfish one can be unjust if the person giving stuff needs/deserves what they are giving more - I.e. Jesus should never have been made humanity's scapegoat of sin, because he deserved the opposite)
- Not aware - the most legitimate of all, since it isn't factored into a concious decision. Knowledge brings the burden of responsible choices. Knowledge brings oppertunities but also the expectation on ourselves to take them.
- Low consequence - percieved. Sometimes If you think a person will cope well, or if what you do (i.e. leaving something in a messy way) won't affect anything much - then it appears as not worth doing so much, and others will often rather the person rests than focusses unnecessarily on detail at cost of their ability to rest
- Low benefit (of the good option) - percieved
- Permission - The accepting will of another minimises consequences to them because they expect said thing to happen. This is usually quite legitimate, but can be abused if the person is too willing to be walked over
- Inability - Includes financial. Can be percieved, sometimes. If true it is legitimate, because it's the lack of opportunity.
- Ends justify the means? - If getting a high paid job to give money to charity involved hurting people, is it worth it? We simply don't know the scale of the costs and benefits, and it can be distorted by our perception and padded out with other excuses if we don't want to follow a certain path
About Those Who Help or Sympathize with a Predator
by Kathy Krajco
...Since when is it good to be friendly with bad people? Since when is winking at their wrongdoing a virtue?
Perhaps someone can quote chapter and verse in the comments, because holier-than-thous really deserve to have their religion's true teachings show what frauds their twisting of religious doctrine makes them. In the New Testament, in Revelations, I believe, in one of the letters to the churches, some holier-than-thou Christians are read the riot act for that very same pretense.
The author unloads both barrels at them with this truth: "Good people are not lukewarm toward evil" it says.
Cowards are.
Loving good is hating evil. And vice versa. Love is an attraction; hate a repulsion. But that is too simple for complex people to understand.
Now I am not saying that we must reject everyone not perfect, for then we would reject everyone, including ourselves. But decent people need no instruction. There is a point at which behavior becomes predatory and malicious - a point at which one is morally obligated to separate themselves from that person.
You thus take away a bad actor's safety in numbers. You show disapproval. You discourage others from behaving the same way. You comfort the victim by showing him or her that the pain caused them by the bad guy matters to you.
Is any of that evil?
It's just a way of discouraging the harm the bad guy is doing others by showing that you want nothing to do with someone who hurts others like that.
Where is the sin in that, pray tell? Sounds like fine, upstanding conduct to me.
Jesus of Nazareth spoke of this when he said that "indecent conduct" is a special case and justification for divorce even. At the time, the terms "indecent" or "lewd" conduct simply meant "lowdown" or "despicable" conduct of any sort.
And that statement of his, qualifying his disapproval of divorce, is just common sense.
Why? Let's say you are married to a Mafia boss. Is it right for you live in his big fancy house, being waited on by his hired staff? Is it right for you to PROFIT from the crimes he commits and ther damage he does to people?
To the contrary: it is immoral for you not to divorce him when you find out what he is.
The same people who make a virtue of "accepting" abusive narcissists, relentlessly persecute anyone for any hint of racism or sexism. THAT they won't tolerate. They wouldn't DREAM of tolerating anything politically incorrect like that.
But though they know and believe that the narcissist has brutally abused you, they see no reason to show any disapproval of that.
Hmmm. Whom do they think they're fooling?
They make nothing of that narcissist's abuse of you. They countenance it.
If instead they rejected the narcissist, they would be doing the one small thing they could to get on the right side, the victim's side.
But they abandon the victim and smile in the abuser's face.
Not so holy as they pretend.
(note: Kathy Krajco passed away on May 9, 2008 - she will be DEEPLY missed)
...Since when is it good to be friendly with bad people? Since when is winking at their wrongdoing a virtue?
Perhaps someone can quote chapter and verse in the comments, because holier-than-thous really deserve to have their religion's true teachings show what frauds their twisting of religious doctrine makes them. In the New Testament, in Revelations, I believe, in one of the letters to the churches, some holier-than-thou Christians are read the riot act for that very same pretense.
The author unloads both barrels at them with this truth: "Good people are not lukewarm toward evil" it says.
Cowards are.
Loving good is hating evil. And vice versa. Love is an attraction; hate a repulsion. But that is too simple for complex people to understand.
Now I am not saying that we must reject everyone not perfect, for then we would reject everyone, including ourselves. But decent people need no instruction. There is a point at which behavior becomes predatory and malicious - a point at which one is morally obligated to separate themselves from that person.
You thus take away a bad actor's safety in numbers. You show disapproval. You discourage others from behaving the same way. You comfort the victim by showing him or her that the pain caused them by the bad guy matters to you.
Is any of that evil?
It's just a way of discouraging the harm the bad guy is doing others by showing that you want nothing to do with someone who hurts others like that.
Where is the sin in that, pray tell? Sounds like fine, upstanding conduct to me.
Jesus of Nazareth spoke of this when he said that "indecent conduct" is a special case and justification for divorce even. At the time, the terms "indecent" or "lewd" conduct simply meant "lowdown" or "despicable" conduct of any sort.
And that statement of his, qualifying his disapproval of divorce, is just common sense.
Why? Let's say you are married to a Mafia boss. Is it right for you live in his big fancy house, being waited on by his hired staff? Is it right for you to PROFIT from the crimes he commits and ther damage he does to people?
To the contrary: it is immoral for you not to divorce him when you find out what he is.
The same people who make a virtue of "accepting" abusive narcissists, relentlessly persecute anyone for any hint of racism or sexism. THAT they won't tolerate. They wouldn't DREAM of tolerating anything politically incorrect like that.
But though they know and believe that the narcissist has brutally abused you, they see no reason to show any disapproval of that.
Hmmm. Whom do they think they're fooling?
They make nothing of that narcissist's abuse of you. They countenance it.
If instead they rejected the narcissist, they would be doing the one small thing they could to get on the right side, the victim's side.
But they abandon the victim and smile in the abuser's face.
Not so holy as they pretend.
(note: Kathy Krajco passed away on May 9, 2008 - she will be DEEPLY missed)
Bad Date Excuses
I have to go shopping for my mother.
I'm sorry, I have to rotate the strings on all of my shoes.
I'm reading with my widower
I have to brush my teeth.
Alf comes on soon
I've had a better offer, someone is coming round to set fire to my head
I'm busy cleaning the blood off my axe
My dad said I can't date till I am married
I'm shaving my dog.
My grandma is on fire.
I'm getting married tonight.
I'm engaged.
I don't want to ruin our friendship.
I have family in town.
I just washed my hair.
It's that time of the month again.
My father's grandmother's aunt's mother died.
I have to take down the Christmas lights.
I have to go to a surprise party for my grandma's birthday.
I left my tolerance in another coat.
I just got back together with my ex
I don't like people.
I have to alphabetize my CDs. (Hey, is that supposed to be insulting to me? -- dan)
I might see someone who knows me.
I have to teach my pig to sing.
My dog is too tired.
I never said I'd go out with you, that was my evil twin.
I would go out with you but my waiting list is full.
There's a four hour TV special on trimming shrubbery.
I'm washing the sofa.
I have to milk my cow.
I have to teach my frog how to croak.
I'm too busy watching the paint dry.
The "Rocky" marathon is on that night.
I need to clip my nose hairs.
I have to read the labels on all of my food.
I'm gay.
My goat broke a horn.
I have to go to the dentist.
I have to brush my dog's teeth.
I'm going to the moon.
My water wings are flat.
I have to stay home and give my goldfish a bath.
I'm going to be playing with my mental blocks.
I have to wax the driveway.
I'm not into dating right now.
I'm teaching my goldfish how to play the electric guitar.
I'm teaching my dog to meow.
I have to go shopping for my mother.
I'm sorry, I have to rotate the strings on all of my shoes.
I'm reading with my widower
I have to brush my teeth.
Alf comes on soon
I've had a better offer, someone is coming round to set fire to my head
I'm busy cleaning the blood off my axe
My dad said I can't date till I am married
I'm shaving my dog.
My grandma is on fire.
I'm getting married tonight.
I'm engaged.
I don't want to ruin our friendship.
I have family in town.
I just washed my hair.
It's that time of the month again.
My father's grandmother's aunt's mother died.
I have to take down the Christmas lights.
I have to go to a surprise party for my grandma's birthday.
I left my tolerance in another coat.
I just got back together with my ex
I don't like people.
I have to alphabetize my CDs. (Hey, is that supposed to be insulting to me? -- dan)
I might see someone who knows me.
I have to teach my pig to sing.
My dog is too tired.
I never said I'd go out with you, that was my evil twin.
I would go out with you but my waiting list is full.
There's a four hour TV special on trimming shrubbery.
I'm washing the sofa.
I have to milk my cow.
I have to teach my frog how to croak.
I'm too busy watching the paint dry.
The "Rocky" marathon is on that night.
I need to clip my nose hairs.
I have to read the labels on all of my food.
I'm gay.
My goat broke a horn.
I have to go to the dentist.
I have to brush my dog's teeth.
I'm going to the moon.
My water wings are flat.
I have to stay home and give my goldfish a bath.
I'm going to be playing with my mental blocks.
I have to wax the driveway.
I'm not into dating right now.
I'm teaching my goldfish how to play the electric guitar.
I'm teaching my dog to meow.
Drama
so on thursday I danced with another trumpeter --Jared-- hes a year younger and kind of nerd looking but hes so nice and funny. Anyways chris found out i danced with jared and apparently was not happy about it; apparently afterwards on thursday chris told jared he didnt 'like that and to not do it again'. Needless to say friday night when I went to dance with jared and was told that I almost went up and screamed at chris while he was playing. but i didnt. afterwards in the car on the way to the after party i asked chris about it and thankfully he told me the truth. he apologized and said it was because 'he was jealous that he couldnt dance with me'. ok i understand that but wtf he should have told me that not jared! so that kind of ruined the after party. he could tell something was bugging me and i just said nothing when finaly when we were leaving he grabbed me and made me look at him and asked what was wrong. I flat out said "that jackass move of yours wasnt fair" he didnt know what i ment until i said jared. and then he started apologizing....
and then today on msn he tried explaining it to me but im still not happy about it. but i guess i forgave him and hes going to aplogize to jared on monday. But i think he's mad at me for wanting him to do that because he doesnt like jared at all (not just because of the dancing thing)....o then today he was supposed to come to the football game (the city championships, which we won) but he didnt end up coming cause him and cimone and deboer had to go shopping. wow w/e. and then tonight he was supposed to call me. but he didnt so at 8:30 i called him and he had some excuse about family and stuff im like uhh k...thanks for taking a minute to let me know...
this is gay. last night i told him i loved him and now this is what im getting. wow. oh and to top it off its our 2 month anniversary. yay...
wow maybe im over doing this? maybe its not a big deal...
oh ha last night my wrestling sweater went missing. i was so freaked/pissed/upset... but i later found out another guy took it by mistake.
k well im done bitching hopefully things will be better tomorrow...
Miller
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