Broken Love @ MindSay

Words cannot express the grief one feels when one loses love. Then again, wise words can heal wounds and help us reflect on the tragedy. If you have undergone a personal loss -- the loss of love or of a loved one -- you will find this list of lost love quotes very relevant:

From Alfred Lord Tennyson's poem In Memoriam:27, 1850:

I hold it true, whate'er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
'Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.

Margaret Mitchell- "I was never one to patiently pick up broken fragments and glue them together again and tell myself that the mended whole was as good as new. What is broken is broken -- and I'd rather remember it as it was at its best than mend it and see the broken places as long as I lived."

Washington Irving-Love is never lost. If not reciprocated, it will flow back and soften and purify the heart.

Anonymous-Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, and ends with a teardrop.

Helen Keller-The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart.

Melai-Sometimes we tend to be in despair when the person we love leaves us, but the truth is, it's not our loss, but theirs, for they left the only person who wouldn't give up on them.   Henry Ward Beecher- What the heart has once owned and had, it shall never lose.     Anonymous- You will never know true happiness until you have truly loved, and you will never understand what pain really is until you have lost it.   There is no remedy for love but to love more. ~Henry David Thoreau

Ah, when to the heart of man
Was it ever less than treason
To go with the drift of things
To yield with a grace to reason
And bow and accept at the end
Of a love or a season.

~ Robert Frost

Unknown-How can I forget you when you're always on my mind? How can I not want you when you're all I want inside? How can I let you go when I can't see us apart? How can I not love you when you control my heart?      Kezia-Oftentimes we say goodbye to the person we love without wanting to. Though that doesn’t mean that we've stopped loving them or we've stopped to care. Sometimes goodbye is a painful way to say I love you.     Believe in the power of tears to heal the wounds and wash the pain away. Love will come again. In real love you want the other person's good. In romantic love you want the other person. ~Margaret Anderson~     The wind is tossing the lilacs, The new leaves laugh in the sun, And the petals fall on the orchard wall, But for me the spring is done. Beneath the apple blossoms I go a wintry way, For love that smiled in April Is false to me in May. ~Sara Teasdale   There can be no great love without great pain. ~Anonymous   Noelle P.-The worst thing is holding on to someone who doesn't want to be held on to.     If someone you love hurts you, cry a river, build a bridge, and get over it   Being strong sometimes means being able to let go.   A good-bye is never painful unless you’re never going to say hello again.   Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened     You never leave someone behind, you take a part of them with you and leave a part of yourself behind.     Letting go of someone dear to you is hard, but holding on to someone who doesn't even feel the same is much harder. Giving up doesn't mean you are weak! It only means that you are strong enough to let go!       Watching you walk out of my life hasn't made me bitter or cynical about love, but rather, it has shown me that if I wanted so badly to be with the wrong person, how beautiful it will be when the right one comes along.        Amanda-I may regret the way we ended, but I will never regret what we had.     And finally the greatest, when Scarlett O' Hara Butler realizes too late that she does love Rhett and not Ashley!!   Scarlett: What are you doing? Rhett Butler: I'm leaving you, my dear. All you need now is a divorce and your dreams of Ashley can come true. Scarlett: Oh, no! No, you're wrong, terribly wrong! I don't want a divorce. Oh Rhett, but I knew tonight, when I... when I knew I loved you, I ran home to tell you, oh darling, darling! Rhett Butler: Please don't go on with this, Leave us some dignity to remember out of our marriage. Spare us this last. Scarlett: This last? Oh Rhett, do listen to me, I must have loved you for years, only I was such a stupid fool, I didn't know it. Please believe me, you must care! Melly said you did. Rhett Butler: I believe you. What about Ashley Wilkes? Scarlett: I... I never really loved Ashley. Rhett Butler: You certainly gave a good imitation of it, up till this morning. No Scarlett, I tried everything. If you'd only met me half way, even when I came back from London. Scarlett: I was so glad to see you. I was, Rhett, but you were so nasty. Rhett Butler: And then when you were sick, it was all my fault... I hoped against hope that you'd call for me, but you didn't. Scarlett: I wanted you. I wanted you desperately but I didn't think you wanted me. Rhett Butler: It seems we've been at cross purposes, doesn't it? But it's no use now. As long as there was Bonnie, there was a chance that we might be happy. I liked to think that Bonnie was you, a little girl again, before the war, and poverty had done things to you. She was so like you, and I could pet her, and spoil her, as I wanted to spoil you. But when she went, she took everything. Scarlett: Oh, Rhett, Rhett please don't say that. I'm so sorry, I'm so sorry for everything. Rhett Butler: My darling, you're such a child. You think that by saying, "I'm sorry," all the past can be corrected. Here, take my handkerchief. Never, at any crisis of your life, have I known you to have a handkerchief. Scarlett: Rhett! Rhett, where are you going? Rhett Butler: I'm going back to Charleston, back where I belong. Scarlett: Please, please take me with you! Rhett Butler: No, I'm through with everything here. I want peace. I want to see if somewhere there isn't something left in life of charm and grace. Do you know what I'm talking about? Scarlett: No! I only know that I love you. Rhett Butler: That's your misfortune. [Rhett turns to walk down the stairs] Scarlett: Oh, Rhett! [Scarlett watches Rhett walk to the door] Scarlett: Rhett! [runs down the stairs after Rhett] Scarlett: Rhett, Rhett! [catches him as he's walking out the front door] Scarlett: Rhett... if you go, where shall I go, what shall I do? Rhett Butler: Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn. [Rhett walks off into the fog]

I developed a theory.

I set myself unrealistic expectations and standards you see, and there is a reason I believe.

See I've suffered heart ache with relationships all my life.

With the girlies before I knew I was gay.

And definately with the guys.

So nowadays I find myself falling for straighties.

You can see where those infatuations lead.

No where.

So you see, I reckon I fall for them fully knowing I will never have them, thus I will never be in a relationship and therefore will not get heart broken.

The only problem is that with falling in love with straight guys, I end up getting hurt anyway.

Staying up late at night wishing I wasn't so alone.

Feeling empty and cold in my heart.

Having enough love to share with the world, but no one who returns it to me.

Sure I love all my frinds like family. And they love me back.

But the love between two people when they are in a relationship is different and I crave it.

I hunger for it.

And I find myself feeling the equivalent to an third world country in my starvation for love.

So perhaps the answer to my problem is simple.

Stop being scared of getting hurt.

Stop avoiding the possibility of hurt.

Perhaps take some of my own advice...

"If you do not try you set yourself up for failure before it begins.

If you try, at least you have a chance."

And the age old classic.

"You gotta be in it to win it."

I think It's time I did a self-overhaul.

Sit down and work myself out (again) and get over this fear of rejection and pain.

Because I have discovered that this fear is holding me back.

And that also ties in with something I have always said.

"Don't let your fears hold you back from your dreams."

So the moral of this story, and the lesson or piece of advice I give is that.

"Don't let your fears hold you back from your dreams."

As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back. Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.

~anonymous~

A wonderful woman posted this for me because she knows that I am facing tough times right now and losing sight of what is important to me. She helped remind me to live my life to it's fullest, that hearts are going to be broken, but we can't dwell on the heartache and pain suffered. We have to move on, smile often, hold those dear to you close by letting them know you love them. Forgive those who have hurt you in the past, start anew before it's to late. We face many rough spots in our lives, we need people to help us through them.

What do you do when Love gets away?  What happens now?  Am I too old to find Love again?  Is it too late to try to fix a broken relationship?  What happened to me?  Did I become so involved in the things that dont really matter that I lost sight of what really did?  How can a person love you for 7 years then not love you anymore?  Is that possible?  So many questions.  What about the Love that never was?  The one that got away?  I stand here looking at what has become of my life and I question how I got here.   I know the answer.  I couldnt see past my self.  Its funny how clearly we see things in hind sight.  Everything in my life wasnt always about me.  I was not the center of the Universe.  She was the center of mine.  I just didnt take the opprotunities to show her that.  I wanted more from life than what I had.  When, in fact, I had everything that I could have ever needed.  Or wanted.  She filled a place in my soul that I never knew was empty.  She showed me more about myself  than I could have found on my own.  How do you thank a person that does that for you?  Do you ask them to marry you?  How can you tell them how you feel?  After 7 years with no reciprication, do they even want to know?  Do they even care?  Do I deserve one last chance?  One last attempt to make it right?  How is it that we always hurt the ones we love?  Is it because they are the ones closest to our hearts, our emotions, maybe our souls?  I believe that people that close to one another share those things because they are connected in those places.  The places that are most important.  What do you do if you hurt someone in those places?  How can you mend a wound that runs that deep?  Can Love really fill in the spots that pain has occupied for so long?  Is time the answer?  Or distance?  Are any of us really brave enough to set Love free and see if it returns?  I dont think that this is a choice that anyone can make.  I dont believe that we set Love free voluntarily.  I believe that descion is always made for us.  It is made by our actions, our emotions, in the way that we hold the ones that we love.  If we do not recipricate Love then this choice to let it free will be made for us.   The one that we love will make that choice for you and all you can do is have Faith that Love will come back.  I am trying to hold on to Faith.  I am Hoping that Love will return.  Why did I let this happen?  Why was I so afraid of doing the right thing?  What was so important that I failed to see how good my life was?  What could have been more important than the Love that I had?  I failed to see past myself.  I Hope that Love will return.  I have Faith that there is a chance.  I dont want to live my life with regret.  I stand looking down life's path and wonder; Do I deserve another chance, and where do I go from here?

I would love to hear anyone's thoughts.  Your oppinions are very much welcome.

Greg