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Does it work Better for Boys or Girls?
Who says you need to discipline boys and girls differently to get them to listen? The truth is that you DON'T. However, some differences are important to understand. One of them is how boys are usually encouraged to repress their feelings in the modern society more than girls are. Regardless of these differences, Democratic Parenting includes parenting and discipline strategies that equally apply to both genders.
Does it Work with Teens?
We developed this program as a way for parents to learn how to control the hidden triggers of misbehavior, and how to respond to the needs without resorting to authoritarian or permissive discipline.
Although the current edition of the Democratic Parenting book is focused on kids from one to twelve, parents of teenagers can apply the exact same principles and methods with teens. Communication, limit setting, family meetings and natural consequences are some of the key chapters parents of teens can use to enhance open dialogue and respect with their teens. In fact it even works with misbehaving adults!
Does it Work with Babies?
The principles and methods apply to children of all ages. We developed this program as a way for parents to learn how to control the hidden triggers of misbehavior, and how to respond to the needs without resorting to authoritarian or permissive discipline. Although the current edition of the Democratic Parenting book is focused on kids from one to twelve, parents of babies will greatly benefit from the chapters on stress, healing and the hidden triggers of behavior.
Kids grow up so fast! It seems one day they are a sweet little baby and the next they are toddling around the house. Democratic Parenting is invaluable for all parents of babies because within months, right in front of your eyes, they'll morph into little toddlers. If you are a parent of a baby, or you know someone who is, then get this book. It will be the best present the baby will receive.
What if the Parents Disagree?
When parents disagree about how to raise their kids it can be really tough. The stress created by this has even been known to lead towards parent break-up. As challenging as this can be, it's a reality for so many modern parents. Sometiems there are big disagreements, sometimes small ones.
What we recommend for parents in this situation is to immediately stop arguing with the other parent. Stop the conflict as soon as possible (LIKE NOW). If the child's safety is at risk, then intervention should be swift and immediate, to prevent physical or mental harm to the child.
Luckily, a speedy resolution and a total transformation of your family environment is actually possible. Just follow these three steps...
1) In most cases one parent tends to be more authoritarian, while the other is more permissive. Whichever approach you tend to, you must first disengage from the conflict by neither defending your way, nor attacking the others.
2) The second step is to read Democratic Parenting. Order the book, read it, and start to practice it on your own.
3) If you have a history of butting heads with your partner over your parenting styles, then whatever you do, do not try and stuff Democratic Parenting down their throat. This will only make them more defensive and more resistant to any change. The best method is to simply leave the book lying around the house where they can see it. Allow them to open and flip through the book on their own. Let the book itself do the speaking, and you just focus on practicing the methods yourself with the kids.
If you are no longer with the other parent of your child, then the same thing applies. Do not argue or engage in any conflicts with them. Instead, give them Democratic Parenting as a gift. You don't even have to say anything with it. Wrap it up and say: "Here's a gift for you."
If the disagreement is pretty minor and the parents still have a positive dialogue, then the other parent may be quite open to the principles in Democratic Parenting
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How do Normal Kids Benefit?
This book contains principles of behavior that apply to all children. Normal and Special. It's not just for families with behavioral challenges, this book is for all parents. It's a useful reference for all caregivers of children who want to raise a truly empowered next generation. Grandparents, babysitters, nannies and teachers will all find this book of great value and encouragement.
The methods in the book works to increase the cooperation of any child, even children who are already mostly well behaved. Among other skills, you will learn ways to improve your child's communication skills, and how to improve their concentration abilities.
What have other Parents said about it?
Over 60,000 parents follow Democratic Parenting, and quite a few have written to us to tell us their story. You can read some of them on the left side of the page or on our facebook page.
You can read some of our testimonials here
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Are your Kids Driving you Nuts,
or Setting you Free?
The terrible twos, trying threes, fearsome fours, furious fives, scary sixes, all the way to the rebellious teens! With so many "difficult" ages, are there any years when parents get to enjoy their kids?
We believe these are overused stereotypes. We believe that the time to enjoy your kids is now. Make every day magical, every week memorable and every year a treasure.
But our busy lives gets in the way. Our careers, work, bills, obligations and other duties demand so much of our daily attention. Modern parenting is an adventure in juggling a ga-zillion details. This stress affects us - and it affects our children!
Raising kids is not easy - it takes effort, patience and inner strength. Occasional clashes between you and your child are normal. But when it becomes a daily power struggle it can drive even the most patient parents over the edge.
The skills taught in Democratic Parenting have been described as a powerful "cooperation button." All you ahve to do is read it, apply its lessons and you can press that button any time you need to. The book teaches a core set of parenting skills -- real life, real world, practical skills. That you can apply when your child acts up.
At first, this "cooperation button" appears far off. But it's not. You quickly realize how many of the Democratic Parenting methods you're already using. Just one little piece of information can make the difference between a tantrum and laughter. You'll find Democratic Parenting filled with these nuggets, that act like missing pieces to the puzzle of happy parenting.
Often, just a slight shift, just a small action, or a little twist in your reaction is all you needed to get it bang on. This book helps you find that balance. It helps you be more firm and confident where you're too permissive, and more flexible and understanding where you're too authoritarian.
Behavior is not a "Stage in Life,"
it's a Response.
We all understand this intuitvely, but we can easily forget it. There is always a REASON for behavior issues. Behavior can be misleading and confusing sometimes though. Because most of the time the "trigger" of the behavior, is not the true "cause" of it. The cause is either a deeper unmet need, a stress, or an outside influence that makes kids misbehave, act distracted, distant, whiny, upset or even angry.
Children think and feel differently than adults.This is obvious, however it's so easy to find ourselves getting frustrated because our kids are acting like kids. Um... isn't that what they are? The way we see the world and the way they do is rarely the same. Expecting kids to think and act like us is a frustrating mistake. If you really want to get access your child's "cooperation button", you need to understand what makes your child tick. It's simpler than think.
Using the chapters in the book, you learn a whole new way of connecting with your child. You develop a bond so deep and love that it transforms your life.
What You will Learn in this Book:
- The difference between authoritarian, permissive and democratic discipline. What are the effects of using each method? Is there a time to be authoritarian and a time to be permissive? Find out.
- The effects of bribes and rewards, and how these short-term solutions can result in worse behaviors later on-and what to do instead.
- What causes children to become frustrated, distracted and over-stimulated? When they are upset, you'll learn how to help them express frustration in a healthy and safe way.
- Fun games that melt frustrations, sibling rivalry and resistance, and how to play them with one child or many.
- How methods like Self-Directed Play and Play Attention Time can transform even the most defiant, distracted and upset child into the sweetheart you know is hiding inside.
- Five magic words and phrases used in our Connective Communication method to help your child listen, pay attention and behave.
- How to Set Limits that children respect and follow, without raising your voice or using punishments.
- What to do and what not to do during Family Meetings, with important pointers-from beginning the meeting to closing the meeting-on how to make this time so special your kids will look forward to it.
- Guidelines for how to use Natural Consequences, which foster clear thinking and good judgment in your child. You'll no longer need to use harsh discipline methods.
- How to peer-pressure-proof your children, improve their communication and give them the best opportunities for social success in life through specific ways of relating and listening to them.
- What you need to know about television, video games, sugar, sleep and exercise. The balance is easier to reach than you may think.
What Kind of Child Behavior Problems can Democratic Parenting Help with?
This book is not just for families with major child behavior challenges. This book is for all parents. But if you are having major issues with your child's behavior - this book is definitely for you. You will discover gems and methods to deal with virtually any kind of behavioral problem.
What makes Democratic Parenting so effective in resolving challenging behaviors is the approach. The methods focus on the root-cause of the behavior. This is the only way you can make permanent and swift change in your child's behavior: by focusing on the root-cause.
How to Deal with Sleeping Issues.
It can be so frustrating when children avoid going to bed or downright resist it with bedtime dramas or tantrums. Other children don't stay in their own bed and wake you up at night. Do your kids wake up at night? Chapter 17 in Democratic Parenting deals exclusively with Smart Sleeping Habits.
Tantrums, Defiance, Backtalk, Lying, Rebellion, Power Struggles, Fighting, Butting Heads and Arguments.
In Democratic Parenting you will learn dozens of different ways you can respond to your child's rebelliousness, resistance or trouble-making. All of which include no punishments and no rewards. How is this possible?
By using the methods of Connective Communication and Setting Limits, described on pages 115 to 164 in the Democratic Parenting.
Bullying, Peer Pressure,
Self-Esteem and Confidence
What do bullies prey on? Low self-esteem and poor self-confidence. Children raised in the oppressive environments of authoritarian parenting become at risk for not only being the victim of a bully, but sometimes for becoming the actual bully.
One of the risks of using a reward or incentive system with your child is that they will become more easily manipulated by the prospect of material or social gain. In high school, social belonging or bullying can become a real problem. Some children or teens may feel so outcast that their values can be easily corrupted by the need to feel like they belong. Children raised with Democratic Parenting will develop a healthy confidence, good judgement and clear thinking that makes them immune to peer pressure and an untouchable to would-be bullies.
Democratic Parenting peer pressure proofs your child through nourishing their needs for attention, connection, participation, affection and information within the home. If these needs are not met within the home, then it is only natural that the child, or teen, will seek them elsewhere.
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder [A.D.D. & A.D.H.D.]
Although it's not a cure, children who have been diagnosed with attention deficit disorder (A.D.D.) or attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (A.D.H.D.) can benefit the most from using using the methods in Democratic Parenting. Children with attention and excessive energy thrive in democratic environments. You should order this book immediately.
Autism, Asperger's, Social,
Learning and Adaptive Difficulties
This book is no cure to these issues, but these children can really make huge improvements in their social and emotional skills with these methods. Children who have been diagnosed with autism, aspergers, learning disorders or adaptive difficulties all show symptoms of disassociation, strong emotional reactions and difficulties with social interaction. The principles of Democratic Parenting can have a tremendous effect on these children because they will soon feel much more connected when you use the communication skills taught in Chapter 10 of Democratic Parenting.
What if my Child on Prescribed Medication for Psychological Problems like A.D.D., A.D.H.D., O.D.D., Autism, Asperger's, Anxiety, etc.?
If your child is on prescribed medication, then you definitely want to order this book. Democratic Parenting will not only help with some of the behavioral issues your child is having but it will also help them feel better about having these problems. It's very common for children who get diagnosed with these disorders to begin to feel isolated or disconnected because they feel like something is "wrong" with them. This can further negatively impact their personality development. Democratic Parenting will greatly help by giving your child a healthy voice through which they can express their true inner greatness with less stigma about their differences and challenges.
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How Long Before I See Improvements
in my Child's Behavior?
Depending on your own situation and your child's needs, Democratic Parenting generally takes anywhere between 14 to 30 days before you start to see changes in your child. Some children need more time than others to transition into new behavior. It may take up to 3 months is some cases. While other seemingly impossible kids may have a dramatic shift within the first week.
In most cases, you'll start to see results fairly quickly after you begin this program, within months you will see a total transformation in your child's behavior by following the guidelines in Democratic Parenting.
What are the Free Bonuses
that are Included with the Book?
To make sure that the efforts you put towards building a strong and beautiful relationship with your children work, we are offering you six free bonuses. These bonuses complement the book, significantly helping you achieve your goals by reinforcing the lessons in this guide.
The bonuses are a comprehensive set of e-mail based e-courses, audio mp3 exclusive interviews and reports. Get true, practical advice from world-famous parenting experts and doctors such as Naomi Aldort, PhD, Dr. Haiman, Dr. Robert Brooks and more.
These bonuses are amazing; you do not want to miss out. One mother told us that as she was listening to one of the bonus interviews, a switch flipped inside her and she just "got it." Within a week her relationship with her daughter blossomed! Motherhood became what she had always dreamed it would be!
These Free Bonuses that come with every purchase of Democratic Parenting include:
- 7 Effective Alternatives to Punishment
- 11 Super-foods That Kids Love
- Teaching Children Respect
- Post-Natal Depression
- 5 Reasons to Stop Saying "Good Job"
- Teaching Through Love Instead of Fear
- How to Raise a Happy and Cooperative Child with Half the Effort
- What Every Parent Needs to Know about Discipline, Punishment and Rules
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Make sure you become a parenting expert too by signing up to get the bonuses, sent directly to your inbox. All for free when you order Democratic Parenting.
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Life is Good!
Life isn't always easy, but it's good. Children are a manifestation of that goodness. This is one of Democratic Parenting's primary principles: "Life is good, and we want to teach our children that."
It's a balance. This book gives you some practical methods to achieve this balance more easily - and it's up to you to put it all together.
Children make us hyper-sensitive to the speed at which time flies. It's a race just to keep up with them! And like all parents, you probably want nothing more than to just enjoy every special moment with your child. Like when your four year-old asks you; "Why is the moon following us?"
These moments are their gifts to us - to remind us of the meaning of life. But too often, we miss them, distracted by our day-to-day chores and responsibilities, which make us miss out on these special and profound moments our children's innocence give us.
Are you ready to start down a new path on your journey as a parent? One with more cooperation and less head-butting? Then it's time to get started with Democratic Parenting.
"A Mother Holds her
Children's Hands for a While,
and their Hearts Forever."
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Underoath + As cities burn + Since by man + Poison the well =
concert on my 16th birthday!!
I am very excited about this. What a way to bring in
sweet sixteen! This is what I need.
The only thing is, it's not until May.
While I am on the subject of concerts, I must say that
I am very distraught because Showbread's black unicorn tour has
no dates posted for anywhere near me, so far.
I guess there will be more tours, but I just love me some showbread.
He is legend, too!? ... So sad.
I really want to see The honorary Title play a show sometime,
but I guess I'll have to wait for that, too.
I must confess that I have ripped off F.F.T.L. by
downloading some of their yet to be released CD.
I also burnt it onto a disc.
I know I'll buy it when it comes out though.
Oh, Heroine.
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He still doesn't get it. I am starting to get a little
upset. Last night he was trying to hold my hand and
touch my legs, and finally I just said "DON'T TOUCH ME".
He's not my boyfriend.
Natalie... I have no updates on Natalie.
Please keep praying for her.
It's kind of annoying sometimes because
Roxanne and I are like the same person.
Well, it's weird because we are both VERY alike,
and yet VERY different at the same time.
Well ... we think the same way on alot of subjects.
Normally stupid subjects, but subjects nonetheless.
Like, the weekend before last I went shopping and bought
a cheap denim mini skirt and got footless tights and flats
to wear them with, and then I was talking to her on the
phone and she told me that she was planning on getting
the same thing (without the flats ... she doesn't wear those),
before I even mentioned it. Funny stuff.
I don't know if I've told you guys yet, but I have a new best
guy friend. His name is Albert, he's hispanic, and we get along
very well. But not like ... romantically well. No way Jose.
Anyway, he reminds me of Pedro from napoleon Dynamite.
Actually he doesn't. I just like saying that he does.
The people in my town are so idiotic. I'm just so over
most of them. I have no desire to know most of them. EVER.
So, my supposed old friend, Jonathan (the druggie one... remember?)
hates me now, and no one knows why. Some
people think it's because I'm "changing" this one guy,
and so now Jonathan keeps getting online and
saying things like
"F*ck off B*tch"
and other things along that line, and then he
just gets off. He is so dramatic, and it's actually
quite funny to watch him be this way - but i'm still
confused as to why he is so pissed at me.
I need new clothes.
Badly.
now.
Well, i'm going to end this crappy entry.
I do like writing random ones though.
Always have, always will.
Fill me in on what's going on with you.
-karolyn-
EDIT: This guy "Albert" ends up being my first real relationship. He is the one I will write about for the next.. 2 years. -1/30/2012
I guess it is summer now and I have been amazingly unproductive with my life. Let's separate things into: boys, work, friends, and weight
Boys: My ex boyfriend and I dated from about January to March and broke up. I was pretty upset at first, but cut off all communication immediately so got over it quickly. Around 3ish weeks ago he said he wanted to be back together. We hung out a couple of times, but neither of us were really out there, minimal effort on both of our parts. I was confused because him being the one who wanted to get back together, I thought he would be putting in a lot of effort. It was hard to put myself out there without anything coming from him. We addressed this and so now I'm playing the waiting game. He left yesterday for Jamaica for his sister's wedding for one week. When he comes back we're both going to decide what we want to go. Do we want to jump back in (with effort and hearts)? orrrrrrrr Is it just going to end again? I could really go either way for multiple reasons. I'm going to be moving an hour away in August, then who knows where I go after graduation in December! I also don't know if I want to be with HIM or if I just want a summer companion. So that's where I'm at with that....
Work: Ohhhhhh work. How I love you and despise you so. I work in a youth drug rehabilitation center. It has been frustrating lately because there is a boy there who is just does not care about one single thing. He disrupts EVERYTHING, is insanely disrespectful to females (including staff as myself), he always puts clients down and does not follow one single rule. He is exhausting and is making working difficult right now. Admin won't kick him out because they don't have to deal with him on a daily basis, and although he has had a crazy hard, rough life, he is just bringing the whole house down. Staff and clients. I also have to get my June and July availability in so I have been attempting to relatively plan out my summer. So far, so good.
Friends: My best friend just moved two states away and it makes me sad. I miss her so much! On the other hand, I am very happy for her because she's being a grown up with a big girl job and doing what she set out to do!
Weight: I started taking an anti depressant about 2 months ago. My first two weeks on it I was seriously eating uncontrollably!! Then I gained about 10 pounds and maintained that until last week. Now I am finally back down to my normal weight and it feels nice:-) No super tight jeans that make me feel self conscious and muffin-toppy.
I'm really looking forward to this summer! Both for personal and mental growth. Both are much needed at this point in my life. A point of transition that can only happen once! College into the real life. Or semi real life if I go back to school. But if I go its going to be on my own terms-- being a big grown up with it. Paying for it, moving far, far away, etc. I want to be a big bad grown up, and be independent because that's what runs in my veins. The other side of things feels like I'm never really going to know what I want to do because I have sooooo much ADD with things I do in my life such as where I want to live, hobbies, music, etc.
Wow. Long Post. Chocolate chip cookies are so good.
So i was kinda seeing this guy for the past 6 months..and by seeing i mean we had a physical relationship instead of an emotional one. 2 weeks ago, he decides to tell me that he met a girl in the city and really likes her...which is totally fine with me, it wasn't like i was in love or anything remotely close to it, but we decided to have one last sha bang for old times sake. i was left out in the rain and cold for almost 30 mins waiting for him to open the door. i texted, i called i did everything i could do until i had had enough and i left....
its now 2 weeks later and he is blowing up my phone and texting me.. and im loving it because i refuse to answer the phone or the texts.... give him a piece of what he did to me that cold night. my plan was working until i, like an idiot, went online and saw someone and messaged them...i didnt know why i did it i just did. it turned out to be him! i ask him how he is doing and he replies asking for a physical favor, which i immediately turn down and i realize its him so i write "wait...[name]?" and he has the audacity to reply "im actually still dating her and cant cheat"... as if anyone asked him to
meanwhile im sitting here thinking, the asshole didnt have the decency to call me or txt me to say sorry for not coming to the door and leaving you out in the cold. and now he is bringing her up? as if i asked...
this is why i refuse to get involved with anyone claiming they are bisexual, most are greedy only wanting what they can get and then once they find the new thing ur last weeks news. and my plan for him was to wait till feb 2011 and then call him and be like "oh hey, its been a while wats up?" cuz by then my body will be "sitting" as a result of me going to the gym..and i feel like i messed that plan up, and i feel like an idiot for even sending him the initial message, i wish i didnt even go online tonight, but whats done is done. im still gonna not answer his calls or texts if they continue [he probably feels as tho ive ben pining over him these 2 weeks, which i havent been btw] i hate losing the control and power of a "relationship"
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