Black Women @ MindSay

• Today I had to work with 15 hyper kids from the ages of 2 - 8.  All I can say is thank God for Veggie Tales!
  

• I am pleased as punch!  My kiddo is turning out to be a die hard Trekker.  She's been watching episodes of Star Trek: The Original Series on YouTube.  She even made her version of the Enterprise out of a toilet paper roll and popsicle sticks.
  

How could I not be proud? She's also been imitating the characters.  She's been walking around with her hands behind her back with a serious look on her face while trying to raise one eyebrow and uttering, "Fascinating". LOL!

• The chocolate trifecta will be in full effect in two weeks!  My friend tristaprez aka videovixen will be coming to Houston and I can't wait! She, Environgirl and I were a force to be reckoned with back in the day.  We try to get together at least once a year because tristaprez  moved Las Vegas and then to Oregon.  Like a lot of women, the three of us feel like we've lost a little mojo due to the daily grind of life. Tristaprez and I joke with our husbands by telling them to watch out! We were dangerous when we went out because we were totally HAWT! The three of us would walk into a club or a bar and get loads of attention.  Personally, I think that we were alluring because often we'd be the only black women there in addition to being attractive! LOL! We liked to hang out at places that didn't seem to have a lot of black patrons.  Once in New Orleans we went to a club where a the band played 70 and 80's hard rock.  Not only were we the only black women in the club, we knew all the words to almost every song!  We all got hit on several times that night and the drummer was trying to get my attention throughout the entire set.  He was cute, but I flashed my wedding ring BIG TIME.  It was nice to feel like a desirable woman again.  Sometimes working, being a mom, a wife and in Environgirl's case, being a full time student and working full time sucks the life right out of you. I find it ironic how some of the most feminine roles like motherhood and taking care of the household can make you feel less feminine.

Houston 2006



New Orleans, spring 2007



Vegas, summer 2007 - That was SOME hookah bar!



Portland, OR - 2008

• The car is finally in for surgery.  It's going to cost me $737, so now that I will soon be mobile and free from my prison, I won't be able to go anywhere because I'll be broke! I don't mind though, I miss my Angel! She's been a good car.  When I got her she was a year old and had 33,000 miles on her.  Now she's 10 years old and she's got 97,783 miles on her.  She gets fantastic gas mileage, too.  When Environgirl, Tristaprez and I took her to New Orleans, we didn't even have to re-feul.  We still had an eigth of a tank left when we got into New Orleans.  We probably would have had more gas left if we didn't have to sit in really bad traffic for an hour.

 

• It has come to my attention that some of us are so self absorbed that we tend to make everything about us even when it clearly isn't.  On three separate occasions either Environgirl or I attempted to blog about some issues within the black community that we as the black community should address. The first issue was brought up by Environgirl.  It was the issue of why some black men who date white women or women of other races do so not because they just happen to fall in love with someone of a different race, but because they consciously decide not to date black women. OBVIOUSLY THERE ARE MANY CASES WHERE THEY JUST HAPPEN TO FALL IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE OF A DIFFERENT RACE, but there are some black men and black women who say, "I don't date black men / women because they are ___".  Egirl also wanted to address the issue of why black women are so angry about this phenomenon.  For some reason many of the white people who replied were offended. Why?  She specifically stated in her post that she didn't blame white women for any of it, she said that the problem existed within the dynamics between men and women in the black community.  Never-the-less, she got some angry responses from white women. No matter how many times she stated, "I'm not blaming white women for any of this." It fell on deaf ears or blind eyes.

The second issue was the issue about how some black children consistently chose a white doll as the "good" or "pretty" doll in a repeat of an old experiment done in the 1950's.  Her point was if black children still had a bad perception of themselves over 50 years later, then we (meaning the black community) have not been doing a very good job of raising our children to value themselves.  Oh my Lord, the responses she got about that experiment and that post!  For some reason a few people felt she was somehow blaming white people for this.   How could she blame white people for black parents not giving their children a better sense of self?  They were blasting the experiment itself, criticizing the young 17 year old film maker, and insisting that all kids felt bad about themselves in some way. Yes, most kids feel bad about themselves in some way, but a kid with a big nose or curly hair can change it. You can't stop being black. Do we honestly need to internalize everything?

 

Finally, the latest issue was an issue I brought up on another post that was about how shoddy and unscientific measuring intelligence was.  I wrote that my brother refers to himself as "Wesley Snipes black" meaning he's very dark skinned. The whole point of writing that sentence was to point out that you wouldn't know by his phenotype that we had a half Irish great-grandfather and a Creek Indian great-grandmother. Therefore, the whole idea of racial differences in aspect to intelligence is difficult to measure in a country where no one is pure anything. Someone innocently replied that she didn't know what "Wesley Snipes black" meant. I explained what it meant and that there was an age old rift between light skinned and dark skinned blacks. I told her is was a ridiculous rift and that most people who aren't black don't even make the distinction between dark and light skin tones when it comes to black people, because to them black is black.  For some reason even that issue was taken personally and another big misunderstanding emerged. Somehow even though the problem was intraracial, it appeared to some people that I was blaming it on white people, therefore one person tried to go out of their way to prove that issue didn't exist.  It was absolutely absurd! It would be like someone saying, "Ya know, red heads are looked down upon because it is a throw back to how people discrimated against the Irish." and then me discounting the notion by saying, "Oh yeah? What about Lucille Ball or Conan O'Brian?".  What in the heck does that even accomplish? How does the fact that Lucille Ball or Conan O'Brian have red hair negate the fact that "ginger kids" were and in some cases still are looked down upon?  The whole phrase "I was treated like a red-headed stepchild" didn't just come out of the blue. 

 

Usually when I get this pissed off, I step back and look at a situation as if I were studying a case study.  I guess, there is a tendency for people to try to insert themselves into your problems and make your problems about them. How often do you find yourself talking to someone about something that bothers you and find that the person you're talking to ends up talking about themselves instead?  You want to say "Hello? I'm talking about me here!"  I guess that's what happened in those cases. 

 

• GO AWAY GOOGLE BOT!

Savage! Shocking! That's what it says on the cover and that's what you get, gentle reader. Kyle Onstott is the author of Mandingo and for those who have read the book or seen the movie, you know what to expect.

Falconhurst Fancy takes place several years before the events of Mandingo and is the story of the Verder family of Dove Cote and The Patch plantations. Dovie Verder, our heroine, after tragic events, buys a "pure black stud" for her plantation. Named Colt, he is called a "fancy" because of his rare beauty and strength. Instead of breeding him with her "wenches", hot pants Dovie decides she wants him for herself and everything goes to hell at a quick pace.

I am not sure how to categorize this novel. It fits best as southern gothic horror, if anything. The twisted southern morals of the time are revolting and cruel. One can hope that most of this is exaggeration, but there is a large grain of truth to all of this that leads the reader to really examine the institution of slavery and what led up to race relations as they are today. Why is it when a Black man dates outside his race, it's thought of as a move up, like a weird racial promotion, while Black women are looked down upon for dating outside of their race? The issue is deeper than this type of novel can explain, but the fundamental truths are there.

Stereotypes abound- the pure, gentle southern woman who knows nothing about sex and becomes a fornicating fiend capable of every type of debauchery once she is deflowered; the crafty white-trash scoundrel who hires himself out to plantations as a stud (!!) to produce "yeller" skinned children who are more prized on the slave market; the genteel southern gentlemen who hold their women in the highest esteem, while satisfying their lust with their Black slave women. 

Falconhurst Fancy is exploitative trash through and through. That's what makes it such a compelling read! I finished it in 3 days!! Admittedly, I am a fan of this type of garbage. I am collecting all the books written by Kyle Onstott, Lance Horner, Ashley Carter, and Saliee O'Brien (O'Brien's works are more tasteful, but just as explosive and macabre.) Fearless readers, dig in!

Book club members, our next book is The Night of the Moonbow by Thomas Tryon. More racism, yay!

You know what I figured out......? White women are too what's the word I'm looking for? ......Boring......Cliche......Obvious....I don't want a white woman anymore...Who says just because I am white that I have to date someone white?

    From this point on I am desiring me a black woman............ooooooooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhhh   yyyyyeeeeeeeeaaaahhhhhhh

They are so hot.....yeah they are!!!!! That's at the top of my list of women I wish to desire and here it is

 

1. Black women-Oh my God! Anything but boring and so hot
2. Asian women-Just somethin about those girls....
3. Hispanic women-Fiery and it doesn't hurt to have a partner if you run in to a fight...lol...j/k
4. white women- Too long with them, not sayin' they're all crazy but.....it's time for a change

So there is my list....... and I hope ur happy about it, and if ur not....too bad I'm not changin' it, so I am gonna go find me a sister and have some fun, bye!!!!!!!

Well I only saw about 3 comments on the regal beauty of Sudanese stunner Alek Wek. I guess I am not so shocked about that. Interesting thing that I want to point out is that the responses that were recieved were in defense of white women which was not the aim of the last post. 

Okay to clarify the post was not an attack on my fair-skinned sister-femmes. It was however an observation on a practice that is pervasive throughout the black community. Black Men who refuse to date/marry black women.  What does this say to an entire race of women? What does it say about the standard of beauty in our collective culture? These are the questions that we (black women) are left to deal with in the wake of our ever growing invisibility.  The black male body is feared but at the same time heralded as a form of beauty.Check out Boris

 

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What of his sister counterpart? /

 

Surely there is room for us in this dance of love.

 

Sound off, French a sister and be as safe as one can!p>