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RAD: Rape Aggression Defense
On July 10, 2009, Conversations with American Heroes at the Watering Hole will feature a discussion former parole officer and RAD Instructor Kimberly Cheryl Elliot.
Program Date: July 10, 2009
Program Time: 2100 hours, Pacific
Topic: RAD: Rape Aggression Defense
Listen Live:
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/LawEnforcement/2009/07/11/RAD-Rape-Aggression-Defense
About the Guest
Kimberly Cheryl Elliott spent 17 years and parole and probation officer for Missouri State Division of Probation and Parole. She “is a seasoned marketing professional with 18 years experience in pharmaceutical sales and management. As a victim of crime, she is very passionate about her career as founder and managing partner of Executive Defense Technology, LLC, an anti-victimization education firm. As a speaker, author, consultant and Nationally Certified RAD (Rape/Aggression/Defense) Instructor, she helps clients optimize their personal safety. As a seminar leader, she provides a comprehensive course that begins with awareness, prevention, risk reduction and avoidance, while progressing on to the basics of hands on defense training. Her clients include everyone from elderly church group members and housewives to employees of law firms, TV / Radio Stations and other Fortune 500 Corporations.”
Kimberly Cheryl Elliott is the author of Escape From The Pharma Cartel: My Life as a Member of the Pharmaceutical Drug Cartel; Take This Pill and... Sell It!: A Guide To Getting A Job In The Pharmaceutical Industry; Shattered Reality; and, Are Your Habits Killing You? A Complete Personal Handbook Of Safety Suggestions to Incorporate into Your Everyday Life: Because the Best Defense Is a Good Offensive Plan!
About the Watering Hole
The Watering Hole is police slang for a location cops go off-duty to blow off steam and talk about work and life. Sometimes funny; sometimes serious; but, always interesting.
About the Host
Lieutenant Raymond E. Foster was a sworn member of the Los Angeles Police Department for 24 years. He retired in 2003 at the rank of Lieutenant. He holds a bachelor’s from the Union Institute and University in Criminal Justice Management and a Master’s Degree in Public Financial Management from California State University, Fullerton; and, has completed his doctoral course work. Raymond E. Foster has been a part-time lecturer at California State University, Fullerton and Fresno; and is currently a Criminal Justice Department chair, faculty advisor and lecturer with the Union Institute and University. He has experience teaching upper division courses in Law Enforcement, public policy, Government Technology and leadership. Raymond is an experienced author who has published numerous articles in a wide range of venues including magazines such as Government Technology, Mobile Government, Airborne Law Enforcement Magazine, and Police One. He has appeared on the History Channel and radio programs in the United States and Europe as subject matter expert in technological applications in Law Enforcement.
Listen, call, join us at the Watering Hole:
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/LawEnforcement/2009/07/11/RAD-Rape-Aggression-Defense
Program Contact Information
Lieutenant Raymond E. Foster, LAPD (ret.), MPA
editor@police-writers.com
909.599.7530
Program Date: July 10, 2009
Program Time: 2100 hours, Pacific
Topic: RAD: Rape Aggression Defense
Listen Live:
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/LawEnforcement/2009/07/11/RAD-Rape-Aggression-Defense
About the Guest
Kimberly Cheryl Elliott spent 17 years and parole and probation officer for Missouri State Division of Probation and Parole. She “is a seasoned marketing professional with 18 years experience in pharmaceutical sales and management. As a victim of crime, she is very passionate about her career as founder and managing partner of Executive Defense Technology, LLC, an anti-victimization education firm. As a speaker, author, consultant and Nationally Certified RAD (Rape/Aggression/Defense) Instructor, she helps clients optimize their personal safety. As a seminar leader, she provides a comprehensive course that begins with awareness, prevention, risk reduction and avoidance, while progressing on to the basics of hands on defense training. Her clients include everyone from elderly church group members and housewives to employees of law firms, TV / Radio Stations and other Fortune 500 Corporations.”
Kimberly Cheryl Elliott is the author of Escape From The Pharma Cartel: My Life as a Member of the Pharmaceutical Drug Cartel; Take This Pill and... Sell It!: A Guide To Getting A Job In The Pharmaceutical Industry; Shattered Reality; and, Are Your Habits Killing You? A Complete Personal Handbook Of Safety Suggestions to Incorporate into Your Everyday Life: Because the Best Defense Is a Good Offensive Plan!
About the Watering Hole
The Watering Hole is police slang for a location cops go off-duty to blow off steam and talk about work and life. Sometimes funny; sometimes serious; but, always interesting.
About the Host
Lieutenant Raymond E. Foster was a sworn member of the Los Angeles Police Department for 24 years. He retired in 2003 at the rank of Lieutenant. He holds a bachelor’s from the Union Institute and University in Criminal Justice Management and a Master’s Degree in Public Financial Management from California State University, Fullerton; and, has completed his doctoral course work. Raymond E. Foster has been a part-time lecturer at California State University, Fullerton and Fresno; and is currently a Criminal Justice Department chair, faculty advisor and lecturer with the Union Institute and University. He has experience teaching upper division courses in Law Enforcement, public policy, Government Technology and leadership. Raymond is an experienced author who has published numerous articles in a wide range of venues including magazines such as Government Technology, Mobile Government, Airborne Law Enforcement Magazine, and Police One. He has appeared on the History Channel and radio programs in the United States and Europe as subject matter expert in technological applications in Law Enforcement.
Listen, call, join us at the Watering Hole:
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/LawEnforcement/2009/07/11/RAD-Rape-Aggression-Defense
Program Contact Information
Lieutenant Raymond E. Foster, LAPD (ret.), MPA
editor@police-writers.com
909.599.7530
Irrational Aggression
Today was rather uncool.
As far as I can tell, this came out of NOwhere. Had a full shift at work, and before it was half-done, I just got hit with this whong! of aggression. Anger. Everyone was a cause for irritation. People who came into my lane too slow. People
People who know how to do my job better than I do are always welcome, oh, yes. Also, people who feel that their lives are too out-of-control for their standards, so they respond by trying to control anyone in a 'lower' position.
Anyone either under twenty or over forty-five who wears too much makeup. (For some reason, adult women don't seem to have this issue - but once you're stooping for attention, your maturity is called into question.) Honestly, you're beautiful. You don't need that, and you look ridiculous. What is wrong with you??
People who say things like, "Excuse me," and "Could you please," when they sound like they're saying, "What is wrong with you?!" Parents being mean to their kids. Kids being rude to their parents. Me not being able to be me. Things for not working the way they're supposed to. The guy acting like nothing's changed and we're still pals.
Yep. Today probably should have been a Midol day.
Which is a shame, because it was a lovely day. It's as though we've finally been released. Yeah, we still have piles of snow everywhere, it's Minnesota, but the wind is blowing warm and free, the sun is out, the sky is cloudless and blue once more (perhaps if you're from somewhere else, you are unaware that, through winter, the sky is actually gray the whole time).
I went out to my car for all my breaks, munched in there with the windows open. It was slightly too chilly to sit on the trunk and munch (that, and my car is filthy, and I probably won't wash it until April anyway), but enjoying the sunlight once more...oh, yes. Life is good.
On that note: Knuter spent five hours skiing yesterday. Knuter did not wear sunblock, but he did wear his ski helmet (which makes us all very happy, as it's saved his life in the past). Knuter is now quite red, except for a wide swath along his chin, which remains untouched. Ariane is amused.
Must remember this for the future. Driving home listening to Kutless helps SO much. Reese and I both have quarrels with our aggression, but mine is a very rare thing. His, not so much. When I do have issues with it coming up irrationally, I just want to get away from everybody and run it out. Literally - most of my more passionate emotions are slackers and can't keep up, so after about a half-mile or something they let go and drop out of the race. And then I can keep going however I want - there won't be any more damage wrought by these. Reese's approach is to try to stamp it down, or drown it out and lose himself in his music.
Kutless is ideal because the instrumentation appeals to the aggression, but the words are going back to what's important. You can focus on it instead of it annoying you like everything else is, and somewhere in there the real you, and your normal perspective, emerge from the monster that's gotten 'hold of you.
I'm afraid, in some ways, because I don't know where this aggression comes from. I can find all sorts of excuses for it once it arrives - my teacher, not having enough time to practice, the guy (not Knuter), feeling unfulfilled at my job - but none of those are what started it. My theory is that it's something pre-period related, coupled with the changing seasons that have a hey-day with my hormones, but I don't have any conclusive evidence, just suggestive.
I want to figure out where this comes from, and fix it, but it's rather rare. Occurs more during the winter, but that means maybe three times in five months, instead of one in four. Difficult to keep track of. And since I'm usually more focused on getting past it and getting it out of me, I don't take the time to analyze it.
Difficult to say.
As far as I can tell, this came out of NOwhere. Had a full shift at work, and before it was half-done, I just got hit with this whong! of aggression. Anger. Everyone was a cause for irritation. People who came into my lane too slow. People
People who know how to do my job better than I do are always welcome, oh, yes. Also, people who feel that their lives are too out-of-control for their standards, so they respond by trying to control anyone in a 'lower' position.
Anyone either under twenty or over forty-five who wears too much makeup. (For some reason, adult women don't seem to have this issue - but once you're stooping for attention, your maturity is called into question.) Honestly, you're beautiful. You don't need that, and you look ridiculous. What is wrong with you??
People who say things like, "Excuse me," and "Could you please," when they sound like they're saying, "What is wrong with you?!" Parents being mean to their kids. Kids being rude to their parents. Me not being able to be me. Things for not working the way they're supposed to. The guy acting like nothing's changed and we're still pals.
Yep. Today probably should have been a Midol day.
Which is a shame, because it was a lovely day. It's as though we've finally been released. Yeah, we still have piles of snow everywhere, it's Minnesota, but the wind is blowing warm and free, the sun is out, the sky is cloudless and blue once more (perhaps if you're from somewhere else, you are unaware that, through winter, the sky is actually gray the whole time).
I went out to my car for all my breaks, munched in there with the windows open. It was slightly too chilly to sit on the trunk and munch (that, and my car is filthy, and I probably won't wash it until April anyway), but enjoying the sunlight once more...oh, yes. Life is good.
On that note: Knuter spent five hours skiing yesterday. Knuter did not wear sunblock, but he did wear his ski helmet (which makes us all very happy, as it's saved his life in the past). Knuter is now quite red, except for a wide swath along his chin, which remains untouched. Ariane is amused.
Must remember this for the future. Driving home listening to Kutless helps SO much. Reese and I both have quarrels with our aggression, but mine is a very rare thing. His, not so much. When I do have issues with it coming up irrationally, I just want to get away from everybody and run it out. Literally - most of my more passionate emotions are slackers and can't keep up, so after about a half-mile or something they let go and drop out of the race. And then I can keep going however I want - there won't be any more damage wrought by these. Reese's approach is to try to stamp it down, or drown it out and lose himself in his music.
Kutless is ideal because the instrumentation appeals to the aggression, but the words are going back to what's important. You can focus on it instead of it annoying you like everything else is, and somewhere in there the real you, and your normal perspective, emerge from the monster that's gotten 'hold of you.
I'm afraid, in some ways, because I don't know where this aggression comes from. I can find all sorts of excuses for it once it arrives - my teacher, not having enough time to practice, the guy (not Knuter), feeling unfulfilled at my job - but none of those are what started it. My theory is that it's something pre-period related, coupled with the changing seasons that have a hey-day with my hormones, but I don't have any conclusive evidence, just suggestive.
I want to figure out where this comes from, and fix it, but it's rather rare. Occurs more during the winter, but that means maybe three times in five months, instead of one in four. Difficult to keep track of. And since I'm usually more focused on getting past it and getting it out of me, I don't take the time to analyze it.
Difficult to say.
."I could be your two-legged bandit."
.I am of the opinion that, in today's world, Freud is largely underappreciated. Although many of his ideas may seem extreme, he most likely wrote them with the intentions of seeming more far-gone than he actually was. Going farther than you intend often best gets the point across.
.The truth is, so many people look at Freud and say, "What an old pervert! He just wanted to have as much sex as he could!" The fact of the matter is, Freud was an old, married doctor who enjoyed working in his garden. True, he was young at some point, but that's a different story. The point I'm trying to make is that Freud was not making these theories because he wanted them to be true. He made them because some of them really were... and some of them he simply believed were.
.Freud saw discontent arising from a person's sexual problems. And, really, most discontent could be traced back to sex related issues. Most divorces are sex-related. Many splits in unmarried relationships are sex related. Much of the homosexual population struggles with religious affiliation because of their sexual orientation. Many parent-teen conflicts arise from sexual issues. Even the terrorist attacks in recent years can be traced back to sex (They viewed America and other similar nations as immoral--mostly in the sexual sense).
.Really, people can't help but make sex a big deal without even realizing it. We immerse ourselves in it. We can't get enough of it. Sex controls advertising, television, films, the fashion industry, and the multi-million-dollar porn industry. Yet we can never stop talking about how bad it is. High Schools can force teens to watch films of mutilated corpses for the purpose of scaring them away from drunk driving (even though the corpses often have little to do with the subject). Yet, a high school would be sued out the wazoo if they tried to show the nude form or an artistic expression of a sexual act in school. And what is sex to be such a big deal? Fifteen minutes to an hour-and-a-half of moving about in a sweaty, awkward postition, uncomfortably close to another human being, working your way toward the common goal of a short, fleeting bliss. Not that sex is a bad thing, but... I'm just saying...
.Aggression, Freud said, was biological. Everyone has aggression. Aggression and discontent go hand in hand. When the level of discontent gets too high, our aggressive tendencies can become violent. Husbands kill their wives lovers over sex. Wives will kill their cheating husbands. In some cultures, adulterers and homosexuals are still executed for their actions. Speaking of homosexuals, the level of violent hate crime against them is very high. I think we've all heard of Mathew Shepard. And, once again, there are still those terrorist attacks.
.Ultimately, I'm of the opinion that Freud is not exactly wrong on these issues. The way he sees them is very much plausible. So, excuse me if I don't make fun of him with you.
.Basically.
.The truth is, so many people look at Freud and say, "What an old pervert! He just wanted to have as much sex as he could!" The fact of the matter is, Freud was an old, married doctor who enjoyed working in his garden. True, he was young at some point, but that's a different story. The point I'm trying to make is that Freud was not making these theories because he wanted them to be true. He made them because some of them really were... and some of them he simply believed were.
.Freud saw discontent arising from a person's sexual problems. And, really, most discontent could be traced back to sex related issues. Most divorces are sex-related. Many splits in unmarried relationships are sex related. Much of the homosexual population struggles with religious affiliation because of their sexual orientation. Many parent-teen conflicts arise from sexual issues. Even the terrorist attacks in recent years can be traced back to sex (They viewed America and other similar nations as immoral--mostly in the sexual sense).
.Really, people can't help but make sex a big deal without even realizing it. We immerse ourselves in it. We can't get enough of it. Sex controls advertising, television, films, the fashion industry, and the multi-million-dollar porn industry. Yet we can never stop talking about how bad it is. High Schools can force teens to watch films of mutilated corpses for the purpose of scaring them away from drunk driving (even though the corpses often have little to do with the subject). Yet, a high school would be sued out the wazoo if they tried to show the nude form or an artistic expression of a sexual act in school. And what is sex to be such a big deal? Fifteen minutes to an hour-and-a-half of moving about in a sweaty, awkward postition, uncomfortably close to another human being, working your way toward the common goal of a short, fleeting bliss. Not that sex is a bad thing, but... I'm just saying...
.Aggression, Freud said, was biological. Everyone has aggression. Aggression and discontent go hand in hand. When the level of discontent gets too high, our aggressive tendencies can become violent. Husbands kill their wives lovers over sex. Wives will kill their cheating husbands. In some cultures, adulterers and homosexuals are still executed for their actions. Speaking of homosexuals, the level of violent hate crime against them is very high. I think we've all heard of Mathew Shepard. And, once again, there are still those terrorist attacks.
.Ultimately, I'm of the opinion that Freud is not exactly wrong on these issues. The way he sees them is very much plausible. So, excuse me if I don't make fun of him with you.
.Basically.
violence is always the answer!
I think i just need to take a really big stick and hit some one. That always makes me feel better. Now, who to hit...hmmm, there's really no one here who lets me take out my aggression like Chris did back in high school.
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