Hey Elyse, just wanted to say sorry about your grandma, I know it is off topic, just I know it has been a year already and I genuinely hope you are doing okay. *Friendly hugs*

 

Take care.

Oh, has it been a year already? I hadn't noticed. My memory is still as horrible as ever. Thanks though. 

Hiya I admit, I think all guys are somewhat naturally addicted - I find that going more than 2 days without doing a bit of DIY and I start getting withdrawl sympons, like headaches, and an inability to think about anything else, I'd go as far as to say it's the only real way to keep it under control, there's nothing obvious I can do to permanently lower the drive. It is always our choice whether to act on it, and what we say, but I think women are good at picking up on the stuff we subconciously can't help expressing (i.e. erratic behaviour/reaction if a girl is on our minds + nearby).

I am what I am, a guy, which means I'm naturally (and helplessly) sex-crazed at least in my head (as all are, and they're probably lying if they say they aren't), the real truth why I can still speak with women (who I know) on a more human level is when I don't feel it's possible anytime soon to... do more, I don't have more control or less drive, and I would find it difficult to hold back otherwise (I do have illogical fears of women though that might restrain it), but still it'd be obvious that it was going through my mind by how I subconciously acted. These guys are trying to pull you because, as you said, they have hope that they can get you, if you took that hope away, and they still stayed with you, it must be out of frienship - that although they were hoping for that, there was more to it - that is providing they really did give up hope (don't know really, but I suppose time would tell).

I was thinking also, on the internet you can be anonymous, they don't have to know you're female - depends whether you'd still feel able to connect to them - lol I was just thinking, you could pretend you were really a guy all along to get people off your case in a way that wouldn't really hurt them much

Also I don't blame them for trying lol
I dunno, I suppose with the above I just wanted to say I do have that side of me, and it controls me a bit if I'm honest, there is more to me+other guys than that, as you know, but it's hard to put instinct to one side unless we can completely disconnect from it. You're both a friend and (from what you say) a guy magnet, both elements are there in the back of our minds, I think over the internet, because we don't see+hear you, it's easier to take any lust (based on that) out of the equation and talk to you straight as a person than it would be physically

I know you have both sides of you and thank you for controlling it. I do sometimes pretend that I'm a guy, but with these guys - they already know I'm a girl so I guess I could just tell them to shut up. lol And I don't think I'm a guy magnet - I seriously doubt it. haha 

Ah come on, you said it yourself, "they all want to hang out"
Even though you know what they want it must be a boost anyway to think that you've got guys chasing you

Well, the site was called Anonidate, which is a place to meet up with people, but I was looking for friends more than potential dates. I guess that is partially my fault. 

Nevertheless, they wanted you
C'mon, feel good about yourself... I bet a lot of people wish they could pull guys like that

lol Oh, you're flattering me!