i am sad to see this blog leave. i enjoyed learning with you. thanks for all the education and letting us into your 'intimate' world.
good luck good luck good luck =)
Can I be Uncle Scott either way? 
I do have a great worry, though... As an adoptee, I can say from personal experience that I think it would be a grave matter for you to not tell your child of his/her origins. Sure, if nothing goes wrong and you never have to tell the child, all trust is held intact. What if, after many years of thinking he's your biological child, you have to tell him the truth? Do you have any idea of how painful that would be? Do you have any idea how much trust you will break with your child?
I hope you will find some time to read some adoption stories from people who found out later in life that they were adopted. Most felt a great sense of betrayal.
I'm not saying I don't understand your choice to make this child 100% yours. I just think about what I've found out about my maternal medical history that I didn't know until recently.
I just want you to think about things from all avenues. I swear I'm not standing in judgement. Please don't misunderstand.
I wish you luck in whatever way you get the baby you so want.
The only way a child of an egg donor would find of his/her origins is if something else interfered such as a disease or medical complication in which if the child was old enough to understand ??? blood compatibility- or if something from the outside interfered with our lives. I don't know what that could be, but Lane and I have no intention of letting anyone know besides ourselves that we used a donor, if it comes to that...
If we adopt we will most likely adopt in Russia. I am Russian and would want a child with my features if we had to go that route...
But as it stands, my husband has healthy sperm. I may not have my own egg but between my excellent health and the excellent 'condition' of my uterus- there will be no reason I couldn't hold a pregnancy with another egg if mine are gone/no longer 'good'...
We would use an egg donor only if I can't concieve with my eggs, and we'd adopt only if I couldn't carry a baby to term with my husband's spearm and a donor egg.
We so much want a child of our 'own', but that may not be in the cards for us...
As for adoption I am well schooled in this. I have seen on television the horror stories, but I also have a few pals who were adopted and had no 'bad' residual feelings. So I don't agree that most feel a sense of betrayal. I know not one person who is adopted that has a bad feeling or bad feelings about it. I feel it is in the way you raise the adopted child and such. Though I feel for you...
In any case we are on our way. Either I will conceive before my 40th birthday with my own egg, or in the fall we begin IVF with donor eggs and my husband's sperm.
I have my daughter;my own biological daughter and my husband would also like a child of his biology. I have no problems or issues with this. I love him after all, and we married in part to begin our own life with a child...
Hope this reply wasn't too rambling... Thank you for taking the time to type our your reply!
