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I'm such a dawg, though
sorry
My parents have been married 58 years and are such a good team; that's how I always thought it would be for me. But God had different plans for me, and I'm trusting in Him to handle the rest!! For a number of reasons, I do feel that I'm right where He wants me for now.
Does that answer your question?
Ouch ... Mine situation was much different ... It just sucked from the start, and I should have known better ... Now, I'm trying to deal with my 3 single & alive kids! Girls are more difficult than my son!
But, if your ex's job was anything like my last two, I can totally relate...
9-1-1 operator & office manager...
Ya get so tired of dealing with other people and their problems, ya just want to go home to peace and quiet and not talk to anyone - often for fear of lashing out at a loved one. Which is one of the reason's I seldom answer the phone at home - I don't get paid for it/it's not my job - over 30 years of answering the phone... I HATE IT! Though there was the occasional caller where they just wanted to chat and see how you were doing - those calls were greatly appreciated.
He was a wheeler-dealer executive who spent a lot of time on the phone. But part of this time I worked in a doctor's office with 4 incoming lines - we'd turn off the answering service and bam, all 4 lines lit up and they never stopped all day long. Before that I worked for the personnel security/employment office for a large utility as a supervisor. We had 6 incoming lines and they were frequently all lit up - and because I was the unit supervisor, many of them were for me....so I can relate.
But I just wanted to come home and talk about something other than work. Obviously there were a lot of other factors here. He is a European and finally went back there. The house & kids in the suburbs just weren't for him. Long story, but we're friends again now.
I can imagine that a 911 operator would NOT want to talk or answer the phone at all at home. So what do you do now?
I retired at age 55.
One advantage to that 911 dispatch job was a descent retirement program!
Second: Get yourself a good shrink - you'll need one!
Third: Make sure the job comes with a comprehensive mental illness package - a minimum of 30 days in-patient treatment!
FWIW, I had an excellent mental health program... it fully covered the 3.5 - 4 months in-patient, shrink & social worker @ approx. $1000/day at one of the top 5 Psych. Hospitals in the USofA!
Fourth: Apply at your local Police Dept or Sheriff's Office for Dispatcher or 9-1-1- operator - usually a civil servant position, though some departments have "sworn" dispatchers/operators... which means you're an actual Law Enforcement Officer ( LEO ).
Fifth: BUY SEVERAL A MONTH ( or weekly )!
Seriously, TRY to last over 15 years!
17.5 years was good enough for me.
Errrr, ummmm...
What was the question again? 
Actually it lasted well over 6 months - it was the 45 minute drive each way that was the killer, and we did part on good terms.
cute reply! 