What happens when perception is reality, but it's distorted? 

 

I've lived in a neighborhood where I'm a minority.  My school district had less than 5.9% Hispanics in 2004.  Blacks, Native Americans and Middle Easterners were even less.  So, I've been battling racism since I moved here.

 

I've been pulled over so many times, I lost count.  Why?  Well, because they can.  Have I gotten tickets...no.  I make sure I cover all the bases.  I don't give them ammunition. 

 

My sons are dark skinned.  My daughters are fair.  My son's have gone through hell from both students and staff.  My son has been physically assaulted.  Were the kids that were guilty brought to justice?  Nope.  Not even detention.  This has been happening since kindergarten.  Is there anything I can do?  No.  They say that they are being fair.  How?  Especially when my son didn't fight back.  One time in the Middle School, a boy wrapped a chain around his hand and punched my son in the middle of his chest.  The nurse was so alarmed, she called me at home.  She told me she was directed not to call me, but he was really hurt.  What happened?  He got an asthma attack.  I took him to his doctor and the ER.  Did the boy get any disciplinary action?  Nope.

 

Now he's in the high school.  He is 5"10" and 200 lbs.  He is shy and currently has 90 and above in all his classes.  He got thrown out of class yesterday.  He asked her why.  She said..."you were looking at me".

 

On Monday, I went to see the assistant principal.  Why?  He addressed my son disrespectfully, screamed at me on the phone and proceeded to do the same to Little One's father.  He actually pushed his chair back, got up and started shouting at him, pointing his finger at his face.  I feared for our safety.  No wonder my son was afraid.  The principal passed by the office and kept going.  Someone told him we were in there.  He came in and said:

 

"I thought he was in here with students, someone told me that there were parents...so I decided to see what was going on...."

 

My jaw dropped!  Can you agree with me?  If he passed by and heard him yelling irrationally and it didn't phase him...it's safe to say this is the assistant principal's normal behavior.  We couldn't get a word in edge wise.  He told us he was finished with the conversation and we could leave.  Guess what?!?!  The principal told us...he didn't see anything wrong with the asst. principal's  behavior.  He said that it was our perception!  We were being treated in a rude and unprofessional manner and he stood up for him. 

 

Yesterday, my son was thrown out of class by the teacher.  He asked why.  She said..."I don't like the way you were looking at me."  That was why she sent him to the principal's office.  My daughter couldn't believe what she witnessed.  She told me he wasn't being disrespectful or anything.  It leads me to believe that she is afraid of him... because he is a large Hispanic male.  He told her he didn't want problems.  He told her I had been there already and that she wouldn't want me to go again...since I had such a bad experience.  She said.." Tell your mother she is welcome anytime." 

 

I called at 9:19 am and left her a very pleasant message in a Snow White tone of voice.  She still hasn't called back.  It's 11:38am.  I don't think she's going to call.  She's probably scared of me too...

 

I'm tired of the racism in this district.  Let me break it down...$1800.00 mortgage-$900.00 goes to escrow for school and property taxes.  I have the right to be heard and feel safe even if it wasn't costing us $900.00.  Everyone should be treated fairly.  We all breathe the same air and bleed the same blood.  Why should someone's distorted perception of reality dictate how some students and parents are treated?

 

I'm still waiting for a call.  I think I'm just going to show up wth my ex-mother-in-law.  She's a school social worker for another district.  I don't feel safe entering the school alone.  Mondays' visit taught me one thing.  Justice in this school is not blind.  It's about the color of your skin.  Being a parent doesn't mean I'll be treated with respect.  I'm the wrong skin tone... 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
   

 


 
 
niassa on
Re: Your Perception is Your Reality
I think it is time you got  a hold of the State Board of Education or at least your REgional represenitve and have a chit chat with them.  Also I would be calling the police and reporting abuse and neglect towards your children at that school.  Maybe even put in a few hate crime charges. 

 

But I would really be calling your regional reprsenitive of the state board of education.  If they don't want to do anything, you really might want to get incontact with a lawyer or even a civil libierties group.  No child should have to put up with that and no parent should have to be talked down to because they are concerned about their children!

 

I know what your going through only our skin tone is white.  My kids get picked on, called names, and have been in their fair of fights because they have had to defend themselves because they weren't dark enough.  I finally got them into a school where it doesn't matter what skin tone they are and I let the new superintendent of the old school they finished out last year with that you best be glad my kids aren't at your school this year.  I have informed our regional school board about the elementry school principal and the practices of a once decent school.  I also have a lawyer on stand by for racial discrimination if needed.  I suggest you clean up your staff before you start honing in on any of these students.

 

After I raised some hell with the teachers, after school prog director and threatened lawsuite on the principal at the end of the year .......and I also called the county cops for abuse and hate crimes on her...............she is walkign a fine line even after she got herself a big fat raise this year.  This year she stopped going after the whtie kids (and she is white) and is now going after all the kids that have parental involvement.  A lot of my friends who have hcildren up at that school and keep an eye on their kids and their kdis do well are treated like crap and so are their kids.  So a lot of letters, emails, and phone calls are being put into the state board of education and the state school board about how this town's school has gone down hill.  Again I am sooooooo glad I have my kids in a decent school now!

olokun on
Re: Your Perception is Your Reality
i am so sorry that you are having this experience. i hope that things get better
supermom2005 on
Re: Your Perception is Your Reality
Thanks.

 

Me too...

olokun on
Re: Your Perception is Your Reality
i am so sorry that you are having this experience. i hope that things get better
supermom2005 on
Re: Your Perception is Your Reality
Doesn't it suck to go through something like this?  The superintendent is no help.  They're trying to get rid of her.  She has helped cover up some major stuff from drug possession to an alleged rape.  They are supposed to report to the troopers within 24 hours.  They never did, the parents reported it to the authorities...thats' how they found out they tried to cover it up.  Guess what the parents did?!  Went to the paper. 

 

The principal I saw was suspended.  Here's what I've heard.  For some strange reason...I can't find it in the paper, but it was front page news.  

 

A kid from a prominent family was caught with an illegal substance.  They asked for some leniency...he held on to the drugs.  Kids told their parents, they told the cops, he got in trouble and was ousted.  He's been back since the VA tech shooting.  (There was a student from our district that was killed).  I've tried every possible search and can't find it.   Yesterday, I found some other crazy stuff that happened in September 2007.  Geez...I wish I wouldn't have because now I'm really afraid.  A bus driver left a 4 yr old at a bus stop....the wrong one might I add.  He was picked up by a stranger that ...Thank God took him home to his grandparents house.  The parents were frantic looking for him, the bus depot didn't know his whereabouts. 

 

One of our bus driver's allegedly hurt a 9 yr old girl by squeezing her cheeks so tight she made her mouth bleed.  She had ongoing issues with the mom.  When the mom got no where with the school and the proper channels she tried to confront the driver.  She was stepping on the bus and the driver started the bus and dragged her along.  This all happened in  front of parents, the kids and the bus load of students. 

 

This is supposed to be one of the top 3 schools in my county! 


 
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