fall in love
"people don't just stay in love forever unconditionally. when you choose someone to spend your whole life with, you will fall in and out of love with that person a million times. but if you can still best freinds during those rough times, then you will always stay together."
it's one of the most true statements uttered out of red-wine stained lips.
sometimes i want to throw something at my husband. we are as different as we could possibly be. i want to dance, sing, shout, scream, twirl, excite, explore. he cautiously waits for me to lead so that he can follow.
i will spend my last dime on a bottle of cheap champaign and a pair of hot pink leggings. he saves every penny as if his pennies were cantines full of water and he was heading out on a 3 month hike through the sahara.
i want to know everything that's happening in the world around me, i want to save everyone i can, i want to look past thier "labels" to help each person i meet be the best person they can possibly be. he categorizes them in his own mind and leaves it at that.
i get so frustrated with him on so many levels that if i were a violent girl i would have puched him out a window a long time ago.
and yet, i still fall in love with him.
he is loyal to me to a fault. while i notice every beautiful creature that walks by, he could be 5 feet away from a group of victorias secret models and still think i'm the most gorgeous thing in the room. i have absolutely no idea why.
he is calm. i flip out about the weather, my client dinner, the presidential election, the possible effects of hurricane gustav, whether or not i'm having an allergic reation to the bread i just ate, while he sits there calmly and listens to my ranting, and then gives me the simplest answer.
he is the most amazing father. henry adores him. we are 100% equal in our parenting duties.
he encourages me to suceed in my career. he is supportive of my ambitions and never tries to turn me into a "housewife" like so many men expect of thier wives once they have children. he knows i would be miserable without my own goals and income.
he is the cutest thing ever. he never even tries and he is still handsome. he says cute things without hinking about them. a few days ago i asked him what it's like to have a child that's the same gender as him. i was all pissy and sad and jealous because everyone i know is having/has had a daughter in the near future or recent past and he just said "i always think he's just like a mini little me." and then i looked at them both, he was holding henry upside down but his ankles and swinging him around, and he was right. henry is a miniature him.
i think the person your are supposed to be with forever isn't the person who is exactly like you in every way. i think, rather, it's the person that you can love and accept, and be best friends with for life. i think that it's okay to have little to no similarities in political views, spiritually, spending habits, work goals.
as long as you have humility, acceptance, and enough insight to forgive the small things, your love will last, in one form or another, forever.
who gives a shit about who pays the water bill anyway?
