I was on misterskank  blog and one of his recent postings was a student’s retelling of an abortion.

 

One of the things the girl said stuck with me.

 

"I didn’t know why I was so upset with him. It really wasn’t anything that he had done."

 

The whole time I was trying to put myself in her shoes.  I thought if I were her I would be blaming him for everything.

 

I thought about it my whole trip up north looking for a place to live (traveling can give a body so much time to think).

 

Then I began to wonder:  how many relationships survive after an abortion?

 

Would I be able to trust a guy who couldn't lead and guide me?

 

I did a Google on relationships & abortion and the first hit was this web site.

 

http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/post_abortion_syndrome_character.asp

 

The full document is below.  But the information that I was wondering about is at the end

 

“For most couples an abortion causes unforeseen problems in their relationship.  Post abortion couples are more likely to divorce or separate.  Many post abortion women develop a greater difficulty forming lasting bonds with a male partner."

 

Oh gracious, does anyone let the girls who walk through the doors of those clinics see any of this pain in her future?  A piece of paper with a bar graph and numbers rattling off statistics can't adequately communicate this pain, but shouldn't a girl at least be informed in some manner of the possible repercussions of her decision?  I hear the yell of, "it's my body, it's my choice!"  Well, OK, now take into consideration of what might happen to your body and your mind and your relationships as a result of that decision.

 

REQUIREMENT OF PSYCHOLOGICAL TREATMENT:

POST-TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER (PTSD or PAS):

SEXUAL DYSFUNCTION:

SUICIDAL IDEATION AND SUICIDE ATTEMPTS:

INCREASED SMOKING WITH CORRESPONDENT NEGATIVE HEALTH EFFECTS:

ALCOHOL ABUSE:

DRUG ABUSE:

EATING DISORDERS:

CHILD NEGLECT OR ABUSE:

DIVORCE AND CHRONIC RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS:

REPEAT ABORTIONS:

 

At first I was consumed with pity for the babies, but now I believe that no one wins from these decisions: not mother, not father, and not child.  In my new conception, it isn't only the act of abortion itself that is the issue; that is to simplify it far too much, for it is so much more.

 

Is anyone out there considering abortion? 

 

 

A LIST OF MAJOR PSYCHOLOGICAL SEQUELAE OF ABORTION (1)


REQUIREMENT OF PSYCHOLOGICAL TREATMENT:

In a study of post-abortion patients only 8 weeks after their abortion, researchers found that 44% complained of nervous disorders, 36% had experienced sleep disturbances, 31% had regrets about their decision, and 11% had been prescribed psychotropic medicine by their family doctor. (2) A 5 year retrospective study in two Canadian provinces found significantly greater use of medical and psychiatric services among aborted women. Most significant was the finding that 25% of aborted women made visits to psychiatrists as compared to 3% of the control group. (3) Women who have had abortions are significantly more likely than others to subsequently require admission to a psychiatric hospital. At especially high risk are teenagers, separated or divorced women, and women with a history of more than one abortion. (4)

Since many post-aborted women use repression as a coping mechanism, there may be a long period of denial before a woman seeks psychiatric care. These repressed feelings may cause psychosomatic illnesses and psychiatric or behavioral in other areas of her life. As a result, some counselors report that unacknowledged post-abortion distress is the causative factor in many of their female patients, even though their patients have come to them seeking therapy for seemingly unrelated problems. (5)

POST-TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER (PTSD or PAS): A major random study found that a minimum of 19% of post- abortion women suffer from diagnosable post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Approximately half had many, but not all, symptoms of PTSD, and 20 to 40 percent showed moderate to high levels of stress and avoidance behavior relative to their abortion experiences. (6) Because this is a major disorder which may be present in many plaintiffs, and is not readily understood outside the counseling profession, the following summary is more complete than other entries in this section. PTSD is a psychological dysfunction which results from a traumatic experience which overwhelms a person's normal defense mechanisms resulting in intense fear, feelings of helplessness or being trapped, or loss of control. The risk that an experience will be traumatic is increased when the traumatizing event is perceived as including threats of physical injury, sexual violation, or the witnessing of or participation in a violent death. PTSD results when the traumatic event causes the hyperarousal of "flight or fight" defense mechanisms. This hyperarousal causes these defense mechanisms to become disorganized, disconnected from present circumstances, and take on a life of their own resulting in abnormal behavior and major personality disorders. As an example of this disconnection of mental functions, some PTSD victim may experience intense emotion but without clear memory of the event; others may remember every detail but without emotion; still others may re-experience both the event and the emotions in intrusive and overwhelming flashback experiences. (7)

Women may experience abortion as a traumatic event for several reasons. Many are forced into an unwanted abortions by husbands, boyfriends, parents, or others. If the woman has repeatedly been a victim of domineering abuse, such an unwanted abortion may be perceived as the ultimate violation in a life characterized by abuse. Other women, no matter how compelling the reasons they have for seeking an abortion, may still perceive the termination of their pregnancy as the violent killing of their own child. The fear, anxiety, pain, and guilt associated with the procedure are mixed into this perception of grotesque and violent death. Still other women, report that the pain of abortion, inflicted upon them by a masked stranger invading their body, feels identical to rape. (8) Indeed, researchers have found that women with a history of sexual assault may experience greater distress during and after an abortion exactly because of these associations between the two experiences. (9) When the stressor leading to PTSD is abortion, some clinicians refer to this as Post-Abortion Syndrome (PAS).

The major symptoms of PTSD are generally classified under three categories: hyperarousal, intrusion, and constriction.

Hyperarousal is a characteristic of inappropriately and chronically aroused "fight or flight" defense mechanisms. The person is seemingly on permanent alert for threats of danger. Symptoms of hyperarousal include: exaggerated startle responses, anxiety attacks, irritability, outbursts of anger or rage, aggressive behavior, difficulty concentrating, hypervigilence, difficulty falling asleep or staying asleep, or physiological reactions upon exposure to situations that symbolize or resemble an aspect of the traumatic experience (eg. elevated pulse or sweat during a pelvic exam, or upon hearing a vacuum pump sound.)

Intrusion is the re-experience of the traumatic event at unwanted and unexpected times. Symptoms of intrusion in PAS cases include: recurrent and intrusive thoughts about the abortion or aborted child, flashbacks in which the woman momentarily re-experiences an aspect of the abortion experience, nightmares about the abortion or child, or anniversary reactions of intense grief or depression on the due date of the aborted pregnancy or the anniversary date of the abortion.

Constriction is the numbing of emotional resources, or the development of behavioral patterns, so as to avoid stimuli associated with the trauma. It is avoidance behavior; an attempt to deny and avoid negative feelings or people, places, or things which aggravate the negative feelings associated with the trauma. In post-abortion trauma cases, constriction may include: an inability to recall the abortion experience or important parts of it; efforts to avoid activities or situations which may arouse recollections of the abortion; withdrawal from relationships, especially estrangement from those involved in the abortion decision; avoidance of children; efforts to avoid or deny thoughts or feelings about the abortion; restricted range of loving or tender feelings; a sense of a foreshortened future (e.g., does not expect a career, marriage, or children, or a long life.); diminished interest in previously enjoyed activities; drug or alcohol abuse; suicidal thoughts or acts; and other self-destructive tendencies.

As previously mentioned, Barnard's study identified a 19% rate of PTSD among women who had abortions three to five years previously. But in reality the actual rate is probably higher. Like most post-abortion studies, Barnard's study was handicapped by a fifty percent drop out rate. Clinical experience has demonstrated that the women least likely to cooperate in post-abortion research are those for whom the abortion caused the most psychological distress. Research has confirmed this insight, demonstrating that the women who refuse follow-up evaluation most closely match the demographic characteristics of the women who suffer the most post-abortion distress. (10) The extraordinary high rate of refusal to participate in post-abortion studies may interpreted as evidence of constriction or avoidance behavior (not wanting to think about the abortion) which is a major symptom of PTSD.

For many women, the onset or accurate identification of PTSD symptoms may be delayed for several years. (11) Until a PTSD sufferer has received counseling and achieved adequate recovery, PTSD may result in a psychological disability which would prevent an injured abortion patient from bringing action within the normal statutory period. This disability may, therefore, provide grounds for an extended statutory period.

SEXUAL DYSFUNCTION: Thirty to fifty percent of aborted women report experiencing sexual dysfunctions, of both short and long duration, beginning immediately after their abortions. These problems may include one or more of the following: loss of pleasure from intercourse, increased pain, an aversion to sex and/or males in general, or the development of a promiscuous life-style. (12)

SUICIDAL IDEATION AND SUICIDE ATTEMPTS: Approximately 60 percent of women who experience post-abortion sequelae report suicidal ideation, with 28 percent actually attempting suicide, of which half attempted suicide two or more times. Researchers in Finland have identified a strong statistical association between abortion and suicide in a records based study. The identified 73 suicides associated within one year to a pregnancy ending either naturally or by induced abortion. The mean annual suicide rate for all women was 11.3 per 100,000. Suicide rate associated with birth was significantly lower (5.9). Rates for pregnancy loss were significantly higher. For miscarriage the rate was 18.1 per 100,000 and for abortion 34.7 per 100,000. The suicide rate within one year after an abortion was three times higher than for all women, seven times higher than for women carrying to term, and nearly twice as high as for women who suffered a miscarriage. Suicide attempts appear to be especially prevalent among post-abortion teenagers.(13)

INCREASED SMOKING WITH CORRESPONDENT NEGATIVE HEALTH EFFECTS: Post-abortion stress is linked with increased cigarette smoking. Women who abort are twice as likely to become heavy smokers and suffer the corresponding health risks. (14)

Post-abortion women are also more likely to continue smoking during subsequent wanted pregnancies with increased risk of neonatal death or congenital anomalies. (15)

ALCOHOL ABUSE: Abortion is significantly linked with a two fold increased risk of alcohol abuse among women. (16) Abortion followed by alcohol abuse is linked to violent behavior, divorce or separation, auto accidents, and job loss. (17) (see also New Study Confirms Link Between Abortion and Substance Abuse)

DRUG ABUSE: Abortion is significantly linked to subsequent drug abuse. In addition to the psycho-social costs of such abuse, drug abuse is linked with increased exposure to HIV/AIDS infections, congenital malformations, and assaultive behavior. (18)

EATING DISORDERS: For at least some women, post-abortion stress is associated with eating disorders such as binge eating, bulimia, and anorexia nervosa. (19)

CHILD NEGLECT OR ABUSE: Abortion is linked with increased depression, violent behavior, alcohol and drug abuse, replacement pregnancies, and reduced maternal bonding with children born subsequently. These factors are closely associated with child abuse and would appear to confirm individual clinical assessments linking post-abortion trauma with subsequent child abuse. (20)

DIVORCE AND CHRONIC RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS: For most couples, an abortion causes unforeseen problems in their relationship. Post-abortion couples are more likely to divorce or separate. Many post-abortion women develop a greater difficulty forming lasting bonds with a male partner. This may be due to abortion related reactions such as lowered self-esteem, greater distrust of males, sexual dysfunction, substance abuse, and increased levels of depression, anxiety, and volatile anger. Women who have more than one abortion (representing about 45% of all abortions) are more likely to require public assistance, in part because they are also more likely to become single parents. (21)

REPEAT ABORTIONS: Women who have one abortion are at increased risk of having additional abortions in the future. Women with a prior abortion experience are four times more likely to abort a current pregnancy than those with no prior abortion history. (22)

This increased risk is associated with the prior abortion due to lowered self esteem, a conscious or unconscious desire for a replacement pregnancy, and increased sexual activity post-abortion. Subsequent abortions may occur because of conflicted desires to become pregnant and have a child and continued pressures to abort, such as abandonment by the new male partner. Aspects of self-punishment through repeated abortions are also reported. (23)

Approximately 45% of all abortions are now repeat abortions. The risk of falling into a repeat abortion pattern should be discussed with a patient considering her first abortion. Furthermore, since women who have more than one abortion are at a significantly increased risk of suffering physical and psychological sequelae, these heightened risks should be thoroughly discussed with women seeking abortions.
 

 

 
   

 


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sandyquill on
Re: abortion
This is a great post.  Reminded me of something I saw at a Women's Conference in Arizona. There are ministries out there that focus on the post-abortion woman. Here is one of them: Healing Hearts

I remembered being struck by the rare compassion shown by their literature, which I looked at because I had never seen or heard of this kind of ministry before. 
myrrh on
Re: abortion
I am more informed.  Thanks.
misterskank on
Re: abortion
I've never met a woman who was la dee da about having an abortion. To many women, for some reason, the world just does not look baby-and-mother friendly.
SaikotikGunman on
Re: abortion
Perhaps theone good thing that has come about as a result of the culture of death is the rise of both Catholic and nondenominational pro-life organizations that provide medical care, financial and spiritual aide, and therapy to both women who have had abortions and women who are considering one.
misterskank on
Re: abortion
Maybe so. Ending unplanned pregnancy would obviously be a big help; and I'd like to see an objective of analysis of all the reason why unplanned pregnancy is so often seen as a condition so negative that women want to terminate it.
myrrh on
Re: abortion
Interesting.  If you find one please let me know.
velvetdreams on
Re: abortion
Great post!  The subject is generally avoided although, as you point out, abortion has brought about a whole bunch of ailments and conditions that are directly related to the abortion.  The argument is always centered around the womans' choice, but that is not how abortion plays out.  There is never just the mother involved ... NEVER!  And if it was so victimless, would there continue to be so much controversy around it? 
SaikotikGunman on
Re: abortion
Amen to that!
myrrh on
Re: abortion
I am waking up to this reality.
shiny on
Re: abortion
It's an interesting position. But I offer this: you're looking at more frequent divorce  and relationship problems as a symptom of a woman choosing to have an abortion. But what if it's the other way around?  What if a woman feels instability in her relationship and support mechanisms, and she realizes that she simply is not able to stay mentally and physically healthy through the trauma* of bringing a pregnancy to term?  It would be interesting to see a study based on abortion levels for women who are involved in stable vs. unstable relationships and their choices whether or not to have abortions.

Just a thought...

-- S

* I use the word "trauma" not to indicate that a pregnancy is a terrible thing which should be avoided. Not in the least. I use it, however, because a pregnancy does involve a significant amount of stress to a woman's body throughout the gestation through delivery, and the delivery is akin to a surgical procedure whether performed by a medical practitioner or not.
SaikotikGunman on
Re: abortion
I can relate to trauma.  I've busted 2x4 pine boards birthing stubborn calves.  It's interesting that cows have the same gestation period as a human.  The head's just a whole lot bigger.
myrrh on
Re: abortion
When you said,

"pregnancy does involve a significant amount of stress to a woman's body throughout the gestation through delivery"

It made me wonder what is worse for a woman’s body, having a baby or having an abortion.

The Google searches are eye-opening.

What I found is that having an abortion doubles the risk for breast cancer.  Women that have babies are much less likely to have breast cancer.

 

http://www.abortionbreastcancer.com/

 

 . . . what else would I find.

 

Here is a web site that says that saying there might be any negative side to an abortion is not reported or under reported.

 

http://www.columbia.edu/cu/augustine/arch/frear/brind.htm

 

- Janet Daling is a highly regarded researcher with the Fred Hutchinson Cancer Research Center in Seattle. She has studied the effect of abortion on various forms of cancer, including cervical and ovarian cancer. She found no link until she studied breast cancer, and discovered an increased risk of 50 %. Daling, who had had no difficulty publishing her earlier studies, was puzzled by her inability to publish her findings concerning breast cancer, and was hurt by the professional and public rejection she encountered in her attempts to do so.

It is sometimes said that studies finding a positive correlation between abortion and breast cancer are done by pro-life researchers who are presumably biased. I myself am pro-life, but it should be noted that Daling has no personal objection to abortion, nor do a number of researchers who have found a link. Daling complimented me on the quality of the study that I did.

 

When I was very young I had my tonsils out.  They made me sit in front of a T.V. in which was a man telling me all the complications that could arise out of my parents and doctors decision to have my tonsils out.  The worst case being death.

 

I wonder, do they make these little girls sit in front of a T.V. while women tell of what it was like, to have an abortion.  Would they show the insanity and guilt, depression and perhaps death?

 

What does this tell me?  That having my tonsils out was more serious and informed than having an abortion.

 

Does that seem right to you?

 

shiny on
Re: abortion
What does this have to do with my comment?

-- S
shadeofgray on
Re: abortion
Sometimes it may not be so much what the man said, but what he did not say... or hasn't said. And I can't think of anything we do that does not have consequences. As I've said before, I love babies, I have had babies, I was a baby. But I don't believe I should impose my feeling of the day on everyone else regarding egg, sperm, embryo, or fetus.
shadeofgray on
Re: abortion
... it's called right to privacy
SaikotikGunman on
Re: abortion
The question ultimately becomes whether the fetus is an individual.  If it is, then abortion is murder, and exits the umbrella of privacy.

Pro-life libertarian.  Go figure.
shadeofgray on
Re: abortion
Remember, hormonal birth control pills can prevent a FERTILIZED egg from attaching to the wall. We're going to have to write up a lot of rules for women. What rules are we adding for men?
SaikotikGunman on
Re: abortion
Isn't it bad enough we can't smack you around anymore without fear of legal consequences?

And that's not the worst of it!  If women had their way, it'd be a capital offense to leave the toilet seat up.

(The first was sarcasm, if you hadn't guessed.)

Men don't have a uterus.  No matter what anyone tells you, men and women are NOT equal.  We're very different creatures, wired and plumbed differently.  But sure, I'm all for prohibiting men from having abortions, too.
myrrh on
Re: abortion
"But sure, I'm all for prohibiting men from having abortions, too."

oh my, I didin't think I could laugh about this issue but that was funny.

SaikotikGunman on
Re: abortion
I have a knack for finding humor in the most gruesome things.
myrrh on
Re: abortion
 "impose my feeling of the day on everyone else"

 

What I am calling for is TRUTH and INFORMATION.  As I said above I was more informed about my tonsils being out than these little girls are about their abortions.


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