Sometimes there's a kid in a classroom that seems to live to wreck yours and everyone else's day.  They start fights with the other kids, they talk back to the teacher and when they are asked to participate in class, they respond by making snide, obnoxious remarks about the stupidity of the subject matter and the class (and the students included) in general.

 

Most of these things are done by the snotty kid with a smile because he knows he's getting to the other students and the teacher.  This is a temporarily satisfying feeling to the child. The child may feel, after all if he or she has to be in pain, so should everyone else!  Why should he or she be the only one hurting?

 

Nine times out of ten, this bane to everyone's existence is hurting and suffering.  This kid is sad and lonely and angry at the world.  You often find they have well-meaning, yet unattentive parents or in the worst case scenario a horrific home life. Sometimes the only time they feel like they exist is when they are hurting others and getting reprimanded for it.  Negative attention is better than no attention, right?

 

These kids often grow up to become sad and bitter adults and these sad and bitter adults often find a psuedo social life on the internet. On the net they have an even bigger voice and an even larger venue to pester others.   The internet gives them the opportunity to say things behind the safety of their computer monitors and anonymous handles that they know they wouldn't have to testicular fortitude to say to someone in real life. The sad thing is that these people are still in pain, still suffering, still have poor social skills and are still angry at the world.  They haven't developed the ability to positively confront their pain and overcome it. Instead, they've fallen back on old habits; picking fights, making snide remarks and proclaiming that everyone else is an idiot.  It's hard to ignore these people. I know it's really hard for me to ignore them, because while I have patience beyond patience with children, I have absolutely no patience with childish adults.  However, ignoring them is the best way to demonstrate that you understand that their need to annoy others and their need to say something offensive is their way of acting out.  It's the virtual temper tantrum and as most parents and teachers will tell you, the more you pay attention to a tantrum, the worst it gets.

 
   

 


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Andreux on
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Sounds like a few people on MindSay that I know about
myclette on
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It DOES?
Andreux on
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Shockingly, yes! Rather, a few people on MindSay that we know about!
eyesthefuture on
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What do you mean I am snotty  lol. I voted.
Hope you wanted that attention, this blog should be read by all   It heps me to understand some people better.
Andreux on
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Ohh, voting, now there is a good idea =) Gonna vote too!
myclette on
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LOL! You are not in the least snotty. I'll bet you were even teacher's pet at one time or another.

 

 

eyesthefuture on
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Creative Teachers liked me, colour by the borders teachers did not.

Grade 8 report card said  "Excellent work, if and when we can read it.
myclette on
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LOL! You'd be one of my favorites! LOL!
Fairydustings on
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*vote*
myclette on
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Gracias mami!
lizardbeth on
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Why do you keep getting snotty comments? Jeesh! I'm glad you are able to ignore them. Sometimes I am not quite so evolved =)
myclette on
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I don't always get snotty comments from people, but that doesn't mean I haven't seen a lot of them lately/
kitte on
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ive dealt with kids like this through the years and yes, most do turn out to have a horrible home life. others simply have parents that have no time for their kids. in one particular case, there were three little brothers that attended our center. they were dropped off in the morning, we took them to school. they stayed with us in the evening until 10 or 11 o'clock in which their mom picked them up and either took them home or to another sitter. these kids wrecked hell in our center, but would play the harp for you for something as simple as a hug or a little attention.
myclette on
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I've dealt with a kid who was so neglected by his rich, affluent parents that he literally spoke Spanish better than English! He'd spent so much time with his nannies who barely spoke English, that he was basically ESL. At first he was diagnosed as having auditory processing problems by the people at Texas Children's Hospital.  Whenever you said something to him he'd look like he was concentrating really hard to understand you. Even though he appeared to speak fluent English, he would stammer a bit. One day I noticed how fluidly he was talking to the Spanish teacher. He didn't even have to look at her when he was answering her. His Spanish seemed more fluent than his English!  I was shocked. It explained why he had such a hard time understanding mathematical procedures and direction.  At one point I had a Mexican student who was older and in high school repeat instructions and math procedures in Spanish after I gave the initial instructions.

 

Believe me when I say this kid was hell on wheels. The worst part was that his father was a child psychiatrist!

kitte on
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lmao! those kids are the worst when they have the parents that think that they know everything!

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