I got a promotion at work.  I am now the head teacher in my room.  I feel very happy to have the promotion, but I also know I will have some challenges along the way.  I have been told I am too nice.  I let people walk all over me, so I need to be comfortable delegating tasks, and being ok with having the final say on things.  I had our first meeting tonight, it seemed to go well. There are good and bad sides to this job.  I know I will be working even harder and having a lot more to do before, even though I didn't think it was possible to have more work to do, but it is.  The good side is, it's finally nice to have someone realize that you are able to do something.  It's nice to see some realize your talents.  I get to interact with the parents more and having a leadership position is good for balancing assertiveness.  This position will hopefully help me be a stronger person.  We will see anyways.  I feel so much better now that I am teaching Pre-K.  I love being in that classroom, and I love the other teachers.  I enjoy working with everyone, but I just don't ever want to over step my boundaries.  I have an issue with saying sorry for the dumbest things, I thought I got over it, but it seems to never go away, because I give in to everything and say sorry. I say sorry for breathing at times, not really but it feels like it.  I did once run into a pole and apologize for it.  wonderingsoul was there to see it happen.  I don't want to be a push over, but I don't want to be aggressive either, I have to find the balance in between. 

I am glad I got promoted though, Mark was always saying how much he didn't like me working on things for work when I was home, because it wasn't my job or my responsibility and I was being used.  Now that I have the title, it is my responsibility and I have a reason to bring work home once in awhile.  I know work can be one of the big reasons relationships have problems so I want to make sure I am balancing my time at work/home.  Life is all about balance.  work. vs. home  give vs. take  war vs. peace  saying yes vs. saying no

change vs. consistency   right vs. wrong   love vs. lust

 

I need to make sure that work never gets so far into my marriage that it starts to fail.  I vow to never let it get that far.  I am too happy where I am at to let work go that far. 

 

 

 
   

 


 
 
CallmeRoger on
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Wow, congratulations on your promotion!

I have that problem, people say, about being to nice and having people walk all over me.  But there's always that one day where I snap, but I don't go postal.

My girlfriend and I deal with the balance of Spontaneity and Organization.  That's a balance worth noting, I think.  Some people are spontaneous, and some people plan things out.  Somewhere, there's a midpoint that is hard to even fathom.
lustorlove on
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That's a great one.  I agree it's worth noting and so true. 

wonderingsoul on
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No, I wasn't there to see you run into a pole and apologize....that was Katie.  It happened before I knew you, at OLP, I think, but it was something Katie mentioned in her toast at your wedding!    It's true though, you are too nice, you have to stop saying I'm Sorry, and be able to delegate firmly without following it up with "if that's not too much trouble" or something like that.  As long as you work hard, you will do fabulous.  If they didn't have faith in you, they wouldn't have promoted you!  Having them recognize your talents and potential and abilities is a major compliment, and you should be proud!  Congrats hon!!

lustorlove on
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There was a time when I ran into one my Junior or Senior year at high school, the other male counselor saw me do it and commented on it, but I swear you were there.  I don't know, but I will never forget how much I really said sorry when that happened.  I am just clumsy and apologetic.  LOL!

How are things with you?

wonderingsoul on
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Yes you are clumsy and apologetic, lol!

 

I'm okay.  Stressed about school/work, but okay.  I'm alive so things could definitely be worse, lol.  I just want a vacation somewhere relaxing.

patchesmom on
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Congrats Honey!!!  I'm so proud of you!  I have never doubted that you'd succeed...but now...you must show that you have that beautiful backbone and stand up for what you believe in.  If you make your decisions for the right reasons, do things with the best of intentions, and always do things with the intent of not harming anyone, you should not have any reason to apologize unless you really hurt someone!  Got that????

On a happier note...some of my "stuff" *said cryptically* is turning out ok.......so I can sigh with relief.  And you can NOT worry about me ok?

lustorlove on
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Thank you!  I will try not to apologize unless I really hurt someone.  I am trying, but it's a hard habit to break that's for sure.  I am glad that some of your "stuff" is turning out ok, but I will always worry, because I care about you.  I think you and Kimmy need a vacation, ever thought of seeing Colorado. 

Love ya,

Angie

patchesmom on
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yes, actually we have talked about coming for a visit...it's the $$ that gets to be a problem.

habits are very hard to break (believe me, I know this)

 

in regard to my issues...I'll email you.

lustorlove on
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I hear ya, Once we get a bigger place, if you ladys can save enough to get out here, you can stay with us.  We are in a tiny one bedroom right now, but in the winter are looking for at least a two bedroom for when company comes. 
I will look for the email.  I love ya,

Angie


 
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