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I just wanted to post the eulogy that I'm going to read at my dad's service..........  here's his obit/story as well, if you're interested.....  he made the front page of the county newspaper, which gives me mixed feelings... :-/

http://sdbeta.timberlakepublishing.com/article.asp?article=7258&paper=1&cat=1


Let me just say that I consider myself one of the most fortunate people in the world, because I was blessed enough to be Mark’s only child.  He was the best father I could have asked for, and I’m thankful for the close relationship that we had, and the years we had together-although they were much too short.  Like most people here, I was convinced that my father would live forever, and the loss of him has been devastating to me, as I know that it is to this entire community.  He loved this community dearly, and as I’ve seen over the past week, this community loved him just as much.  I know that most of you are just as shocked and heartbroken as I am.

 

My father loved life and everything in it.  He was a lifetime student as well as a lifetime teacher.  Whether the subject matter was organic or mechanical, he wanted to take it apart to see what made it tick.  He would rather understand a person than judge them, and would do whatever he could to help someone out, whether they realized they’d been helped or not.

 

My father and I shared many a night at Pizza Hut, usually Mondays, because that was 2 for 1 pasta night.  Other nights we would rent a movie from the library or off the dollar rack at Video Scene and pop some popcorn.

 

I really wish that I could tell you all of my dad’s interests, but they were so numerous that I wouldn’t want to leave anything out.  There’s really not much that my dad wasn’t interested in – except for pop culture, of course, and I never knew him to go skydiving, either.  He was always on the go; always everywhere and into everything.  I can’t tell you how many people I would run into who had just seen my dad recently – most frequently at the library, of course. 

 

My friend told me of one sighting last year – she was driving through town when she heard what she thought was a lawnmower.  She was trying to figure out where it was coming from, but then she saw my dad driving down the road in one of his little MR-2’s.  I think that it was probably the same one that he was driving when he was late to my company picnic last year – the muffler fell off on his way there.  A normal person would have just said “Forget it, it’s not worth the trouble!” – but not my dad.  He turned around and just brought his other car.  If he said that he would be somewhere, you could count on him.  I certainly wish that I would have inherited his punctuality, but timeliness is not one of my qualities.

 

My dad took me trick-or-treating for Halloween each year.  One year, he painted my face like a witch… he did such a good job that when I looked in the mirror, I started crying.  He washing it all off of my face and made it a little less scary.  Since no one else would be home, he decided to leave the candy in a bowl on the porch.  He looked through all the cabinets and could only find the big stainless steel bowl that he used to make his homemade granola (which he would pour apple juice over and eat for breakfast every morning).  So he put the bowl out with the candy on the front porch.  When we returned from trick-or-treating, the bowl had disappeared.  My father was so upset that those ‘little hoodlums’ had taken his bowl!  A few months later, he saw his bowl under the community center by our house.  It was all dented up and dirty, but my dad was so happy to have his bowl back.  I said, “You aren’t going to use that, are you?”  To which he replied, “I can still use it – I’ll just wash it and bend it back into the best shape I can.”  My father was the same way with people – they held the same value to him, even if they were a little dirty or beaten up; if they weren’t particularly shiny.  If they were uneducated, he would teach them.  If they’d fallen down, he’d give them a hand up.  He was able to see the potential in them, even if they couldn’t see it themselves.  My father was a great man, and he tried to find the good in people, and he would put forth all of his effort into making his community a better place.

 

I want to just take a minute to read something that I gave my dad close to 10 years ago for Father’s Day – and please excuse the liberties that I apparently took to make things rhyme:

 

Happy Father’s Day!

Featuring a poem as the next thing in the series of “Best Dad in the World”.  I know that I haven’t been the best daughter, but you’ve been the best dad.  I love you!

 

A day like today

Is just like any other

Except that it’s special

And full of mush-all

You’ve been there for me

When I needed you most

And it makes me feel good

When to others you boast

About me.

But you’re my dad

And you’re doing a great job.

When I thought the world

Was coming down,

You braced it with your back

And with me, I know that I’ve

Put you on the rack-

A lot.

But in the end I know

That you only want the best for me

And I’ve learned so much from you –

If you only knew…

How much I love you!

 

In closing, I’d like to say that if one day, I can have even half of the impact that my father had in this world, that I will have achieved great things.

 

 

 

 
   

 


 
 
tess on
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My heartfelt sympathies to you.  Losing a parent is very difficult.  I too have lost my dad so I know your pain.  You've written a wonderful tribute to your dad and I'm sure he will be smiling down upon you as you read it at his service.  Hugs to you.  
bloggermouth on
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When it is my turn to go, I would go happy knowing that my children love me in the way you certainly love your father. You both were really lucky.

A few days ago my brother-in-law called to tell me that his father was in the hospital and won't be coming home. It was difficult for him to come to terms with the reality of the situation and a flood of memories have come back. This morning he called me and asked if I could give him and my sister a lift to the hospital. The last I saw of him was walking into the hospital to say goodbye to his father. I am still undecided if today is a sad day or if the Irish are on to something. There is an attraction to celebrating the life of a loved one with smiles and fond memories.

wendyinchicago on
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Lauren, those are beautiful words you've written.  It is a fitting tribute to your Love for your Dad.
pinkpookiebear on
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Sorry to hear about your dad. I know exactly what you are going through. I lost my dad to cancer on July 4th. Just take one day at a time! It will get tough at times, but it will get better!!
littledosie on
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Lauren,

I am so sorry to hear this news.

I feel so awful, and I wish I could have been here for you while you were dealing with all of this.  I am still here, and please e-mail me for my home phone number if you don't have it anymore.

sue@dosiedance.com


LOVE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!  ***HUGS***

loveshoe on
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Thanks, Sue...  I'll be getting to Boston before the end of the year to visit my cousin.  She actually lives in Wellesley, not Weymouth... I got confused with the W's. 

You can still be here for me while I'm dealing with all of this... I imagine that I'll be dealing with it for a while, especially since I'm the personal representative for my dad's estate.  :-/  Something I didn't think I'd have to do at only 25. 

littledosie on
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E-mail me for my phone number!

 
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