Here is a topic that is seldom discussed in Christian circles but certainly one very applicable to the single life. I do not find a “black and white” answer in the Bible, but there are some elements that we can draw out of it. Let me share some personal perspectives first.

Sex feels good, there is no denying it. Little infants when discovering their genitalia will let their hands travel back there over and over, simply because it feels good.

I as a woman have a pretty intense sex drive...and I do believe there are many women out there that share my overdrive.  I was also single by default for a good portion of years as I am married to a Truck Driver. Gone for weeks at a time. 

The Bible tells us not to lust after another even by looking at her with the intention to have sex . Masterbation is one form of sexual activity.  I don't feel that masterbation in itself is sinful or wrong.  But its our heart and mindset that can go off into areas that it can become out of control.

Nearly all  begin to masturbate regularly during their teenage years. There is a balance that must be learned to keep this a positive activity in your life. All of us during puberty, get a strong interest in other peoples' bodies. Lust needs to be controlled.

Some scripture:

Matthew 5:28 God tells us not to look upon a woman to lust after her, for to do so is to already commit adultery in our hearts. The scriptures are very clear in how He feels about adultery.

1 Corinthians 6:19-20 tells us that our body is the temple of God (for those who have become His children) and that whatever we do we should glorify God.

So how does a single not lust, glorify God and handle the sexual urges that are “natural” in his or her body? Oh, you want me to give you the answer? I suggest that it is a moment by moment, thought by thought process – and ongoing. It is not something to be answered once and for all. How we handle any thought is part of our Christian living and should be approached and carried out differently than others who are not adopted by Him.

You will need to develop your own understanding in how to handle this subject for your single life. God made you – sexual drives and all. Ask Him to lead you in honoring these drives in a healthy and pure way.

Note: The answers provided in this site are intended to be as one provided by a personal individual. It is NOT intended to take the place of a licensed counselor or Dr.. Dawn encourages all who are seeking to resolve deeply rooted psychological, emotional or behavioral needs to seek the services of a trained and licensed counselor. The answers provided in this web blog are intended to be words of encouragement and spiritual guidance as well as the sharing of Dawn's personal experience.

Love and Laughter,

Dawn Marie

©2005 Daybreak Ministries. All rights reserved.


(Thank you for nominating my blog again!! I appreciate all of you :) )

 
   

 


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superbreak2005 on
Re: Is masterbation ok? -A christian perspective (Adult Language)
And you are nominated once again! You always have wonderful, spiritually uplifting, helpful and informational posts.

I'm glad you gave the answer that you gave because there is no way I'd be able to stop cold turkey. I mean it's very hard to control and there are temptations all over the place. But I don't think I really outwardly lust for any woman. I mean I'll look and see what they look like. But I usually don't stare and start drooling. Sometimes, even when I'm not looking at anything thoughts will pop up. It just happens. I know we've discussed it before so you don't have to reply or say much. I just wanted to share that thought. Great post.

lightofchrist on
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I dont think there is anything wrong with looking at women/men... admiring their beauty and attributes, its when it becomes lustful that it falls in to that danger danger danger zone! LOL

superbreak2005 on
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I don't even know what lust feels like really. I don't understand lust or love. Lust seems like something where you look at someone with on intention with being with that particular person. One just want to have fantasies of them all the time and/or grope them in some kind of way. I guess that's what it is. There's got to be more to it though.
lightofchrist on
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and here i was wondering what to blog next about..maybe this ??
superbreak2005 on
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Perhaps. It's a subject that could use a little clarification. At least for me anyways. But it could help someone else too.
jestar on
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someone asked this question at church one time, and the answer was that there wasn't anything in the bible about masturbation...however, it's the fantasising while masturbation that can be wrong.
lightofchrist on
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I agree.... .so its a fine line, just like anything in life
MsDania on
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top blog #6!!!

DM... you're popping them out!!

i love it!!!

lightofchrist on
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I guess so! How about that?

Ty all!

MsDania on
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you're welcome

and it was greaT

lemaly on
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ok, just a note here....not everyone masturbates. I personally have never done so, and I don't understand the point. I have never wanted to and hopefully never will. I'm not a Christian, and I don't belong to any particular religion...i just don't think it's fun.
lightofchrist on
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I wouldnt think that everyone does.. but it is a subject that many wonder about...

lemaly on
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very true. i used to be into christianity...i learned a lot of stuff...so most of these "christian perspective" things kinda catch my attention....so i have to say something (sometimes!)...
lightofchrist on
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would love to add you to my 'list'.. i am open to many perspectives
whitechapel on
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Rev. Nicky Gumbel says there's nowhere in the Bible that actually condemns it, but we have to be aware that it can become obsessive, it depersonalises sex and it's associated with lust.

Since the Holy Spirit filled me, my sex drive has decreased - which is a good thing when i reflect on my former life.  However, last night the Enemy must have snuck into my dreams because when i woke up i wouldn't have been able to sleep again without masturbating.  That was a sin because the fantasy was angry.  Fortunately when i prayed for forgiveness i felt lifted and today's been a really awesome God praising day. 


Your blogs are so cool

lightofchrist on
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Hey there!


Yes.. please be careful about angry fantasy's.. by angry I am not sure you are referring to a 'rape' or aggressive style fantasy or not..Next time that urge comes over you to masterbate, try to think of loving things..loving yourself.. .and that its ok..not a guilty thing to do at all....

Hugs!

Dawn Marie

whitechapel on
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No, no, no definitely not angry in that way.  Maybe angry's not the word i need.  But it wasn't a loving one.  Since God i've been so much better than what i used to be.

Cheers


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