I read post after post, reality tv after reality tv, advice columnist after advice columnist, Oprah after Oprah and the topic NEVER changes.  Women wanting to know why a man/men aren't into them.  Well, who finds desperation, degradation, dependency and depression attractive?  Other than the obvious, psychos.  I don't get it. 

I don't understand how the womens movement that was to bring equality got interpreted as women can act just as piggish as men.  (Some men, not all men, I am a man lover).  And the really sad part of it is men don't apologize for their piggish ways.  We've decided that piggishness for men is a species trait and can't be helped.  Which is another great blog topic.  However, back to the point, women act like pigs but we still internalize piggishness and wonder why they aren't into us.  We're not acting piggish for the sake of piggishness like a man.  We're acting piggish, key word "acting", to ATTRACT a man.  Doesn't that seem kind of strange?  These same women who are sexting strangers, sending nude pics to strangers, wearing clothes with their breasts falling out, and making out with women in bars are the same women who are asking "why isn't he into me?"  Where is a sense of pride?  Where is a sense of entitlement to be honored as a human being, not a sex toy? How does a reasonably intelligent woman reconcile in her mind her behavior with the kind of man she'll attract? 

I argue that women are as dependent on men as ever before.  Even more so.  We as women have lost our value as women.  We have succumbed to an adolescent boys wildest wet dream.  Voluntarily!  That's the most disturbing part!  How unbelievably sad.  How did this happen?  How did we lose our identity as anything other than our genitalia? 

We like to think that WE'RE empowered.  We can do whatever we want to do.  We are sexually liberated.  Whoo hoo!  Well, again I argue that isn't working for us.  Case in point, if it were, why would we women be flooding any available medium with the eternal question of why isn't he into me?  Instead what we are saying is I've done every possible act to degrade myself for his benefit and he still isn't into me.  What else can I do?  I've already done all his friends, I've produced a porno, I've made out with my friends at his party, I'm pole dancing to his music calling women ho's, bitches, and gold diggers.  And he's still not into me.  I would feel gloomy as well.  What else is left? 

Don't get me wrong.  This issue has NOTHING to do with men.  This issue has EVERYTHING to do with women.  Think about this.  Why are women willingly living a male fantasy?  Why don't we require men to fulfill OUR fantasy?  Why aren't men taking the kids to the park, cleaning the house, making dinner, doing laundry, going shopping, all while rubbing our feet, feeding us chocolate covered strawberries while drawing us a bubble bath?  Why isn't that happening?  Why?  Because we don't require it!  We don't even ask for it. 

Please, I have a son.  I want him to find a healthy, secure, intelligent, thoughtful woman who doesn't sell herself so short.  Come on.  Make him work for it at least a little. 

Have a great weekend!