Well written; well said. 

 

My mother and father always told me I needed to act like a lady, and it wasn't until I had a daughter of my own that I finally did.  I'm now the mother who constantly reminds her little girl "sit like a lady", "don't talk with your mouth full", and in a few years, I know I'll be saying "a lady doesn't use that kind of language."  And I believe that.  Now, I won't pretend there aren't times when I'm riled up enough I can let 'er rip, but that's the exception - an I always get the pretend gasp from hubby who says something like "goodness gracious, Doll!" 

 

There was a standing rule on the "Doot" blog, NO CURSING.  I've let little ones in here and there with "alwaysdoot", but I still detest words like that which rhyme with truck, blunt, and a couple more - especially when they're being hurled at me simply because a read doesn't like my opinion -- and I think that's the biggest offense of all.  Someone doesn't like that I'm a republican?  fine - but don't call me an idiot, or an ignorant moron because I have a different point of view than you - ya know?  I have no patience for that.

exactly my point.  i thank you.

  I think we would totally get along if we met in "real" life.  I can see us chatting the day away in Barnes and Nobles over a latte.   LOL

of course we would.  I am sure of that.

This is very true, very true. 

I was always taught that a well-read, educated person doesn't have to resort to crass, disgusting language to express their anger or frustration or whatever.  They can find more appropriate words.

(Of course, there was that one time my own mother --the last Edwardian Lady on planet Earth -- stepped in a pile of feline fecal matter before dawn and, yes, she did say "it" out loud.  But then...you know...it was true!)

Where have the ladies gone?  They are a vanishing breed, it is true. They've been laughed to the marginal sections of society, and young ladies today do not always appreciate the value in that particular label.

Of course, the value of being a gentleman has also declined.  I don't know if the classic standards will ever regain their popularity, but they will be preserved by a handful of those who  know it matters.

Like you.

and i like you.

Aw, shucks.  <smile>

good point, Sandy -- the ladies have dissapeared, but so have too many of the gentlemen.  I miss Sadao being on base, becasue I loved it there.  I was called "ma'am" and they would always hold the door for me, never let me carry anything heavy or large and always were willing to help, willingly.  I think we need to send more of our young men into the armed forces, and more of our young ladies to ... hmmm ... where is they go?  Oh wait -- silly me, it's the parents who are supposed to teach that kind of thing to their boys and girls.  

 

We're doomed. 

perhaps its because i have been in the military . . .

Hah!   Did I call it, or what?!? 

Active for 10 years. In the Reserve now.  All told (including enlisted time), right about 15 years.

which branch? 

 

Sadao was active for 8 years and in the guard for 7, then retired.  USAF

Army

coolness.  What kind of work?  Sadao was a civil engineer when he was in. 

Artillery

cool! 

So, you judge everything negative of me, based on my saying, "Sh*T"?.... when someone told me that my private question to you, "Are you partofme, too?", wasn't a private post? 

 

I really am sorry if that bothered you that I used "sh*t" on your blog, if it bothers you that much. 

 

But, you need to grasp there is more to a person than a small curse word.    If you judge someone so harshly, then so you shall be judged harshly deemed ignorant of substance beyond the good character that lies beneath. 

 

Besides, anyone who leaves no room for flaws, is a truly frustrated closed person who will receive no warmth from the good of someone, simply because they shut them out over sillyness.

 

In other words, I don't really care about what you think of me. 

I have my standards.  Perhaps you would be kind enough to allow me that freedom.  Truth of the matter, I wasn't at all thinking of you when I wrote this. I suppose it takes a certain kind of arrogrance for you to think that this "song is about you".   It is not.

 

As for judging. Aren't you the one who is judging me right now? Fact is, we all "judge" each other --  each by his own measuring stick. I am fine with it because I have taken measures to be the best that I can be.  If you are offended by this post, I would submit that you have not. Am I allowed that opinion?

 

As for "partofme", I am not he/she. But I could not care less if you continued to believe that we are the same person.

I'm sorry, I was terribly wrong.  Of course, I'd allow you your opinion.  I admit, I cared what you thought. I enjoy your site.  I thought the song was about me.  I'm so vain. 

 

Thank you for explaining.  I'm glad you can be the best you can be.  It's nice to shoot for. 

 

I was thinking you were making a big deal about my comment, yes.  I think it just scared me a little to think my slip of the tongue would be judge as the sole person I am.  I'm sorry I was wrong.

 

No, I felt you were not partofme.  I just wanted to rule it out.  Thank you for putting up with my lack of perfection.

"Thank you for putting up with my lack of perfection"

 

It's hard but I try. lol.

 

Dude, your comment was ages ago. It didn't even cross my mind and I could not find it now if I wanted to.

LOL!  See, who would make fun of me?! 

 

 It's so true, it was a while ago.  I walk back in here, like it was yesterday, every time.

no harm done, friend.

Good thing, I'd lose out, bud!

humanity would have been lessened indeed.

LOL! !

I didn't realize he was a highschool dropout. (sorry, I'm always late, I'm not always online)

Yeah.  I read it in his archives.  The reason he is only online during the day is because his mother won't let him have internet at home.  Dude, he is like 30 years old!  I have found that bringing this up is the best way to shut him up.  Try it.  it works.  Notice he doesn't reply to me when i say it.

Yes, but, usually there are "issues" with that type, I'm thinking.  Hear what I'm saying?  Unless he is just leeching off his parents.  I know they make over 100K a year.  Perhaps, that is the way to go these days. Who knows.  It's not for me.  I was living in my own apartment at 16.  I really really tried to be that 30 year old-- easy living at home ---with the folks.  It just never panned out for me. LOL. Ever.

Yes, I did notice he avoids talking to you about it. 

 

Deep inside, I hope he gains confidence in himself to realize he doesn't have to treat people this way.  I, also, hope, deep inside, he goes to college someday (doesn't matter how late he is).  He will always act like this, if he's doesn't feel confident in his education.  Imagine that mouth, with an education!  He may be able to move people somehow.  Still, the end result, I don't even recall his topics.  I remember the comic abusive way he verses himself.

"Deep inside, I hope he gains confidence in himself to realize he doesn't have to treat people this way.  I, also, hope, deep inside, he goes to college someday (doesn't matter how late he is).  He will always act like this, if he's doesn't feel confident in his education.  Imagine that mouth, with an education!  He may be able to move people somehow.  Still, the end result, I don't even recall his topics.  I remember the comic abusive way he verses himself."

Same here.  but sometimes I really don't care.  I think he might be in more need of psychiatric care (honestly)

Gray, perhaps, you are right.  Sadly.

yes.  it is sad.

I have always thought that part of being a man was being self sufficient.  I was out of the house when i was 17.  I think I would rather live on the streets than admit failure and move in with my parents.  It is a part of character.  It is a part of being a man. 

I just find it odd that someone would come across as high and mighty when they couldn't manage to graduate from highschool and can't find the wherewithal to graduate from living with mommy like a seven year old boy.

But I do understand why he hates women and people in general so much.  He is frustrated by his mom (step mom) and by having to live at home which basically proves that he can not cut it in the real world.  Sad really.

 just find it odd that someone would come across as high and mighty when they couldn't manage to graduate from highschool and can't find the wherewithal to graduate from living with mommy like a seven year old boy.

 

It's not so odd, I don't think.  It would imagine it be typical of this type of person.    The fact that he is suppressed/oppressed gives him the violence (fear).  I would imagine.  My uncle, never graduated from high school-he had to help with the farm back in the day.  It wasn't his fault.  But, he never forgave himself and the man was a freakin genious because of his lack.  He always felt insufficiently educated.  So, the man, on his own, became this super genious inventor.  I have only seen such greatness come from those who feel insufficient. 

 

The same thing happened to a very close friend of mine.  He dropped out.  But, it was because school just bored him to death.  Trust me, he'd be bored with us and he'd fall asleep.  He gets super bored.  But, hand him trigonometry puzzle and he is wide awake and winds up being a super genious in the field, all because of a natural drive of overcompensation to make up for his lack of education.

 

But, my uncle was gently handled in his primary years.  He was, also, not given everything-he had to make his own way. 

 

I think you hit the key element here to his angerj/volence= (fear)...regarding his stepmom's treatment of him.

 

I'm sure his stepmom is a witch.  But, I'd be pretty witchy, if I saw someone not even able to try to make it on his own.  It must be hard to have a decent family fortune and be spoiled.  But, the family truly wasn't able to care well enough to make sure he learned to walk on his own.  These days, those that spoil their kids, ruin their survival skills.  You are right.  It is sad.   But, it doesn't have to be his be all end all result.  He can change his route.   I hope his vocals are able to boot him in the can- to move where he would be able to survive better and happier. 

 

His overcompensation must really be bringing him further down.  I was once told this and I'll never forget it because it's true.  You can be vile to someone.  Yes, you may "give them a dose of their own medicine".  But, you, also, take yourself down a notch.  You will stress yourself over what you said and what he said, when it shouldn't matter this much.

 

If that makes any sense.

 

"If that makes any sense."

it does.

phew.

Very well written! There are still a few of us ladies out here. I can be a lady when I need to be and can be other things as well. lol

lol. I know you guys are out there.