always make time for quick dates.. a  coffee  a  snack, walk in park, a  quick  fuck ;-)
its the smallest things that make the relationships last.
always make time to text, write or just say hi even if 5 min.
and if you all can do a night together..make the most of it.
Life can get hectic and get in the way but if you work, do school and all
just make sure to communicate other wise between being stressed  and all
you two will end up  fighting
hugs!

-hugs back-

then definitely  make time for dates when ever possible..

its what about 2 hr drive to tampa? from there
 chat and text is nice also..
 i think it will work out
hugs

thanks :]

Honestly, I'm not one to give advice about this kind of thing... I just always kinda hope I get one text from my boyfriend everyday...

Sometimes, you gotta do everything in your power to make things work. Talk to each other about your day, calling always helps. Long distance is really hard, but it makes time with that person a bit more special.

I mean... me and Davis watched a movie together the other day... even though he's a cross the country! We used to fall asleep on the phone together...

Thats the kind of stuff you gotta do. But be happy, you guys aren't too far away, you can still see each other.

true im such a bitch about things... haha

Why is that?
I have a question... Do you guys have alot in common?




[Sad fact: I really like the song Toxic by britney Spears]

yeah! we do! we're both really artistic and creative and love music and acting and stuff

Thats good to have. Common interests help relationships ALOT

:]

chris and i had a long-distance relationship for six months before we met the first time...then another month before we saw each other again...then five months before he moved down here.  he was in ny, i was in sc...but we made it work.  if both of you want to make it work then you can.  just try to stay in contact, try to chat/im/etc at least once a day and text throughout the day.  i must say that i am still emotionally hurt by the "long distance" part even though it was 2 years ago.

as for school...hmm.  i dunno, i don't know enough about the situation to feel like i can give you reliable information.  i'm sorry!

yikes.... i feel like such a bitch complaining about this "long distance" thing when hes only 2 hours away and you guys have had relationships with people in other states :/

maybe...i didn't have a car either

ouch

My LDR is within the same state, but he is about five hours away!

thats worse... having them so close but so far away at the same time

& he has no car! lol

but it makes no difference. I once met this guy at a bar, then I found out he lived only an hour away. We both had cars, but I refused to continue any sort of relationship with him lol

Good heavens... one of my friends once put it in perspective for me though. She told me that I really had slim pickings since the percentage of gay-to-straight people in the nation is simply very small. Sometimes, we need that kind of rude awakening =) lol

its very true

just make sure you are keeping AJ happy, otherwise you might meet a pretty drastic fate that I am considering lol

what do you mean...?

I might relocate myself too.

you mean to say you think aj may leave...?

Well, anyone would leave if they are unhappy. What I am not saying, however, is whether or not AJ is unhappy. I have no idea what his circumstances are.

he seems happy when hes with me

If he seems happy, then great!! Keep doing what you are doing 'cause it is obviously the RIGHT thing lol

yes i suppose

=( I hope it is not making you uber-worried, I just want to help!!

it is... i am... but you are

Issue 1) Couldn't you just give them a bill that has been sent to your address? Usually, that suffices for verification of residency. I have a feeling that you may be thinking of a completely different type of verification lol -- ask them what more they need, and get it =)

Issue 2) Oh thank heavens I am not the only one who has these same concerns lol -- are you & AJ texters? How often do y'all do it now? If it is not too often, then maybe y'all can step it up a bit so he knows how committed you are? Damn, I wish I could be giving advice on this issue, but I am just as lost as y'all are =(

If you figure out something for issue 2, please let me know lol

issue 1)  its more like immigration stuff. proof that i am now a legal residnet of the united states

Hmmm... are they looking for a visa? lol

I do NOT text, but I do e-mail him throughout the day, and my e-mails go straight to his phone. I am lucky to have a computer at work lol -- oh boy. It is BAD though, so don't listen to this bad influence.

You know, every time you talk about it, my situation actually sounds way more like AJ's, in all honesty =( BUT that does not mean that I do not value your opinion. Heck, your opinion is probably more valuable than AJ's lol -- just, finally I have a peek of the other side of the spectrum, if that makes sense =)

in the sense that your beau has gone off to school?

& because AJ is the one with the car, and because AJ sometimes does not want to talk lol -- just a little perspective for you: it is not that he does not want to talk. There is so much more going on in his head than I think you realise lol -- not wanting to ruin the last good conversation, not wanting to bother you, not getting his hopes high in case you suddenly have to run off unexpectedly for something he has no clue about, etc. Depending on how open you are about what you tell him, he may want to leave a bit of mystery with you if you are leaving him clueless about day-to-day life. I do that one A LOT lol -- only because I hate when someone has to have tabs on me when I get left in the dark. Pardon the French, but fuck that. I am so pissed, sorry lol

You know what you need to do is call them, ask once more, and if they refuse to tell you, ask for one of their managers & explain why you cannot simply give it to them as well as how ridiculous it is that they ask for your SSN yet they refuse to give you this information. Fly off the handle, that is what managers are for: to calm your ass down lol

-dialing-

I really hope that what I have to say helps!! the sad part of it is that I think I enjoy living vicariously through others' relationships rather than partaking in one of my own lol

i see

concern is good! It means you invest a lot in the relationship which AJ would love to hear. You need to tell him that you are worried too =( Strength is a great attribute to have, but if you let on for too long that you have no worries, it can leave the other person feeling VERY much alone =( Like they cannot discuss their worries with anyone, and who better to discuss their concerns than with the person who is most involved?

however if i tell him im worried he may take it as me trying to break up with him or something... he might try to jump the gun

Then tell him that you are not trying to break up with him lol -- simple as that! fitchster, you really do not strike me as a person with a communication problem. You sound very endearing & genuine, and I bet he would understand if you fully explained what you were thinking.

Just handle things diplomatically. Y'all are adults, and speaking to each other openly & honestly about it is the mature way to confront issues with him. Can you tell I am a fan of the AJ/fitchster duo already lol

haha

I agree, you need to act a fool when it comes to dealing with immigration or any government agency. The bureaucracy is RIDICULOUS!  They will keep giving you the runaround until you say ENOUGH!

haha will do

lol.

Sorry, it's just.. blah.

:/

I need some chocolate friggin' ice cream! >.< Now. 

what!?!?! vanilla is so much better though!

What?! No way! D:
Chocolate ice cream ftw. >.>

haha chocolate ice cream makes me throw up really really bad though

Oh really?? /: why is that?

i have no idea lol

Hah. But that's youuuu.
I like chocolate ice cream. x3