On a Happier Note

I saw Mena today, and needless to say it was very good fun. It was very good fun three times, in fact, each one more fun than the one that preceeded it, even though it started to hurt after.

Anyway, without wanting to go into too much more detail, today rocked. After my little downer a couple of days ago, it was nice to see Mena and kiss and cuddle her, and feel comforted. Shame I won't be able to see her for a fortnight, but nevermind, exams are a higher priority than me, and rightly so. I'd much rather see her pass her exams and do really well, than come see me and risk doing poorly. I'd feel really bad, and guilty, if I was to blame for something like that.

So yeah, today with Mena was really fun. A good six hours of snuggling, with a little bit of pigging out thrown in for good measure. All in all, a really good day, which was nice. I know I only saw her on Saturday, and that was a really good day, but there's nothing that compares with just climbing into bed next to the love of your life, cuddling up and just laying there, doing absolutely nothing at all. It's just simply amazing. Plus, she's great in bed :D Seriously, I'd love to tell you how much, but I'm not one to kiss and tell, I'm afraid. You'll just have to make do with the occasional mention here and there, if you dive through blogs looking for that kinda thing. And if you do, SHAME ON YOU!

Something else I love about Mena which I realised again today, is just how considerate she is. I don't think she likes to show it often, and I'm not really sure why, but she should. For those of us who are privilaged to be close to her, we can be 100% sure that Mena's gonna look after us, so long as we do the same to her. I don't think I've ever known anybody who cares so much about their friends, or rather I've never been friends with anybody who's like that. It's a great feeling, and I always wanna keep it close to me, because it's amazing.

Prior to my amazing day with Mena, though, my driving lesson this morning didn't go too well. I'm not gonna go into great detail about it, but after two weeks of good lessons, this week felt like a step backwards. Hopefully things'll go better next week, and I can start going back in the right direction.

And now to the meat of my blog entry: One of Mena's "best friends". I'm using quote marks because, even though she thinks she's Mena's best friend, she couldn't be further from the truth.

You see, just before Christmas she decided she wouldn't talk to Mena anymore. There wasn't any provocation involved, they just kinda drifted apart to the point where Mena never got a Christmas greeting. I never really condonded this kind of behaviour, and told Mena this.

Around the beginning of January, they had a heart-to-heart chat and rekindled their friendship, with Mena mentioning that her friend had to put more effort into their friendship, as it was clearly obvious to all involved that Mena was putting more effort in. They agreed, and everything was fine, though I must admit I was a bit apprehensive. It seems I was right to be so.

No fewer than four months later, the same thing has happened, and I don't think her friend is entirely aware of it. If I'm being honest, and I should be, it horrifies me. Her friend is being very cheap, even going so far as to put off buying a book for £5. It's not a lot of money, yet Mena is still waiting for it, nearly 6 months or so after she was told she'd get it. It's a book that her friend had borrowed off Mena, and then promptly decided to destroy whilst reading it. I've only heard what Mena's said, and not actually seen it myself, but from what I've heard I don't think I'd want to accept a book back in that sort of condition. Add this to the fact that she's still missing her birthday present from last year, and you can see where I'm coming from.

Yesterday, I was speaking to her and said that Mena would like the book for her birthday (I was wrong on this part, but I wasn't fully aware of it), along with her present from last year. I was told to stop being clever and sarcastic. I'm sorry, but I was being neither, I was simply telling somebody who is clearly unreliable that she should really stop letting everybody down.

To further enforce this point, for the past two years she's tried to arrange something for Mena's birthday, as a surprise. The first year, when we had a get together, she arrived 90 minutes late and didn't even apologise. Then, last year, she mentioned that she was planning a picnic and a trip to Legoland. This was the last we heard of it. We didn't even get told why these plans had fallen through. And this year she's wanting to arrange something again. I told her it was up to Mena, and almost had my hand bitten off because Mena shouldn't know about these things. I'm sorry, but you should know Mena better than me. The fact that I know she won't want to do anything special and you don't...well, I don't even know how you can't know that.

Finally, she's never around when Mena's wanting her to be there, yet she always expects Mena to be there for her when her relationship with her boyfriend breaks down (and it frequently does). Her friend claims that she's always at fault, but never seems to want to do anything about it, instead deciding it's better to just kiss, make up and then argue again three or four days later. To make matters worse, this has been going on for around 2 years, or thereabouts. You would've thought that she'd get the message (YOUR RELATIONSHIP ISN'T WORKING OUT!!!!), but she doesn't. Hope you get the message now. If you're worried about him cheating on you, and you can't trust him, why the fuck are you still with him? You don't have anything without trust, and the sooner you realise this the better.

However, first you need to fix your relationship with Mena, and put in the same effort she puts in. If you don't, then you're gonna lose her forever. She won't be there for you the next time you fuck your relationship up. She won't be around for you to claim to be arranging a birthday party. You won't even get invited to one if we decide to arrange it. Furthermore, I doubt you'd get invited to our wedding, an event you claim you're definately turning up to. Hate to break it to you, but unless you treat Mena the way she deserves to be treated, after all she's done for you, no, you're not. I'll make sure of it.

Get your fucking priorities right, and get them right fast. Mena's starting to get sick and tired of it, and you have no idea how much fun we have at your expense.

That'll do for now. Cheers for reading.
-=Gavvie=-