Howdy Howdy all! (Black Friday is Behind me and my feet are killing me! Strangely enough I still dig retail)
Someone asked me why  I blog. I thought about it for a minute and then the answer hit me. To unload and for perspectives other than my own. I have learned so much from other bloggers in the time I have been sharing my life online. I am thankful for that.
Today Myclette and I went to dinner and talked. We talked about the randomness of privilege and opportunity. I was forced to go over some of the particulars of my childhood. It took everything in me not to cry. My childhood was very difficult for me. I have worked since I could (16) and was literally burned out by the time I was 20 years old. I had no control over the circumstances of my birth and so here I am. I have read a lot of blogs lately that blame the downtrodden for their situations. That is some hard shit to read because I remember having NO control over whether or not I ate on any particular day. I was kid. I cant even keep writing about this. Mis-fortune is so fucking random.
A husband dies and there it is. Mom works non stop to keep things afloat. I remember wanting things all the time. The answer was always "no, baby, we cant afford that." I had perfect attendance because for a while if I didn't go to school I didn't eat that day. How was any of that my fault? It wasn't. But you can believe when I hear about another person going without I ache for them because I know what people think of them without even knowing their situation. We have to slow down on them sweeping judgments friends.
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To be honest there is a reason that I don't post here much lately. Mindsay sometimes disappoints me. Well some of the bloggers disappoint me. I cant believe the kinds of things people will say and allow to be said on their blogs about other groups of people. It was really starting to get to me because I am lame enough to believe in other people. I actually think that most people aren't racist (I'll be damned if some of the people in this community didn't set my ass straight on this one), I even believe that most people care about the poverty stricken, that people want to help the displaced. Mindsay opened my eyes in a lot of respects on these topics.
It was breaking my heart and so I couldn't even write anything here.
*******
My blog is public because I encourage discourse from other people with other points of view. I don't want a bunch of yes-men or a peanut gallery of like minded people who second every single thought I have.
Where is the growth in that? Of course it is nice to have someone reinforce what we say and think.
 but do we really want this all the damn time? I don't.
It is why you don't even have to be a member of mindsay to read my blog.
I want to know if others have had different experiences because to be honest we each bring to the table unique life experiences. So anyone reading here, should know that I encourage discussion even and ESPECIALLY if my views are counter to yours. If I have an opinion you can bet that my stance can stand up to scrutiny.
Why hold a view you can't defend? What is the point? If you stand for something then surely dissenters can't shake your faith, and on the flip side if you open your mind and your heart you may even learn something from another point of view that you never entertained before.
The point is that as an AMERICAN you do have the benefit of free speech but you should know that free speech is not an invisible force field that deflects other AMERICANS (who ALSO enjoy the SAME free speech as you) from saying something that contradicts what you say or think. Be an adult. Own your shit and when someone disagrees with you either clarify if they don't get it or just own the knowledge that they simply disagree. I suppose the alternative is to only talk to people who think exactly like you. And if you do that then you can pretty much forget about growth. To each his own, right?
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You know I meet a LOT of Pagans. The majority are empathetic and highly spiritual. They are able to place themselves in the shoes of others and recognize how RANDOM privilege and/or opportunity can be. When they see others in pain regardless of the their color, gender or sexual orientation they hurt for them and work to aid and help their brothers and sisters in need. This isn't to say that other groups don't do this but I am talking about Pagans in particular right now (I am a Pagan).
I am always confused when I see a Pagan claiming to be such with little to no empathy for anyone who has not had the same life as they have. Quite a confusion for me. It also pains me because I believe in people (even when folks tell me that I shouldnt).
No matter what your faith I think that we HAVE to rely on one another.
We have to give a damn about injustice for others because we know that injustice can be random.
We have to give a damn when other citizens are hungry because Poverty can be random.
We have to care when someone is in pain because unfortunate circumstances can be random.
We did nothing special to be born in the US, this was random. Who would we be if we were born (remember that newborns are infants and cant work for a living and so are at the mercy of their circumstances) in a Third World Nation. What if our lives and traditions were antiquated and deadly to our health and survival based on the fact that we were born in a country older than The U.S.? Step outside of yourself. When you negate the suffering of others you are building a Karmic stockpile that you wont want to deal with. If you can laugh at injustice and hate speech then you should recall that fact when you are facing a similar injustice .
But know that when someone does mis-treat you that I will be front and center fighting for you as hard as I would fight for myself and That is what makes the difference.
We have to be better people to one another.
What if we are all that we have?
We have to be better to one another.
Feel free to disagree but  remember that I don't allow name-calling on my blog and I don't allow  derogatory terms to describe groups of people and so neither will you on this blog. PERIOD.
That said I care about what you have to say, even if you disagree with me. I'm an adult I can take it...
I love you all.
Goddess Bless
 
   

 


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myclette on
Re: Mis-Fortune Is RANDOM. Be Careful With Your Karma.
We have to slow down on them sweeping judgments friends.

Well if we don't use sweeping judgements and generalizations how else would we be able to emotionally distance ourselves from people who aren't exactly like us? We have to group people together. It's easier to hate them when we give them all similar attributes. Geez!

 

We have to give a damn about injustice for others because we know that injustice can be random.

No fucking WAY! When bad things happen to us, it's ALWAYS our faults. There's no such thing as injustice. Justice is blind. duh!

 

The point is that as an AMERICAN you do have the benefit of free speech but you should know that free speech is not an invisible force field that deflects other AMERICANS (who ALSO enjoy the SAME free speech as you) from saying something that contradicts what you say or think.

Uh, excuse me. I have the protective force field of free speech. That means I should be able to say what I want to say without reprecussions! I should be able to blog about how much my boss sucks cock and still keep my job if he happened to read it! I should be able to tell someone that they have an ugly baby and not expect to get punched in the face or cursed out.

 

environgirl on
Re: Mis-Fortune Is RANDOM. Be Careful With Your Karma.
You so crazy! Dont be putting your boss on blast up and through here! LOL
snuggs on
Re: Mis-Fortune Is RANDOM. Be Careful With Your Karma.
i think many people (unfortunately not enough) who have suffered misfortune, whether it be poverty, grief, etc become "empaths" when it comes to dealing with people who have or are going through hardships.  it's like being a sponge....having been there yourself, you tend to absorb other people's pain because you *have* been there, and you know what it feels like.  but people like that have some other things going for them....like amazing, tender hearts, an openness to the entire human experience and a strength that often defies description or belief until seen in action.  you are one of these people, honey.  your inner child is still wounded but it's turned you into a beautiful adult.  (and i'm not just kissing your ass, here).

 

re: blogs....i generally don't read blogs that are argumentative 95% of the time, or someone who's pov is radically different from mine...not because i don't want to learn, but....my blog is a comfort zone.  my friends support me, lift me up, kick my ass as necessary, celebrate the highs with me and commiserate over the lows.  which means there tends to be a lot of agreement (or at least divergent paths that come together for a common cause) but it's not lip service, so to speak.  and fortunately, while many of my friends have basic characteristics in common, there are plenty of differences to go around.  so stick around hon....you're *not right* and we can't start the revolution without you.

 

now, go soak your poor feet in epsom salts and sleep well.  (((((((((eg)))))))))

environgirl on
Re: Mis-Fortune Is RANDOM. Be Careful With Your Karma.
I aint leaving chile! I am just saying why I havent had it in me to post here. I do miss the interaction but reading people who wont even attempt to place themselves in someone else's place is mind boggling to me.

You have a great point about your blog being a comfort zone! I can dig that. Honestly I think that a person can feel for others even if they havent had a lot of mis-fortunes. Some people are earnest in their growth and enlightenment and take the time to learn about others and care about them through that learning experience.
Cant soak my feet now, Gotta get to work! LOL.
snuggs on
Re: Mis-Fortune Is RANDOM. Be Careful With Your Karma.
i don't read as carefully so late at night (unless i sneak in an afternoon nap) so i'm relieved to know you're just getting your yaya's out.

 

as archie bunker said and i'll paraphrase:  "rigidiness will warf your mind." 

 

re: soaking your feet.....buy you some epsom salts on the way home and have a foot fest...i'm thinking you are seriously gonna need it.  *pets you*  (((((((eg)))))))

mamajo on
Re: Mis-Fortune Is RANDOM. Be Careful With Your Karma.
I can so identify with your childhood. That's all I'll say on that subject here.

I voted for this post because, as usual, you have a valid point and a wonderful way of expressing it.

On a completely different note...I appreciate your mother's generosity of spirit and including me in your wonderful Thanksgiving day. Please tell her for me once more how wonderful it all was and how much I appreciated being included. I had wonderful time. She is a lovely lady and I will treasure the memory of the day.

Blessings, MamaJo/Jo's mama Smiley

environgirl on
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awww Hey Jo's mamma! LOL I will tell her! She told me to tell you that you are welcome anytime and that she had a great time with my closest friends and their families!
mamajo on
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She was the most gracious of hostess'. And a lovely lady that did a great job of raising you under trying circumstances.

Blessings, MamaJo

bluejeanqueen on
Re: Mis-Fortune Is RANDOM. Be Careful With Your Karma.
Well, I can't give you the contridiction that you asked for here because I agree with you wholeheartedly on every point that you have made here.  While I can't remember ever having gone without a meal when I was a child, I can remember quite vividly some of the things I did without & I remember the ugliness of other children because I was chubby & my clothes weren't the beautiful name brand ones that they had.  I especially remember after my parents separated and I went to work at a local fast food joint because my toes were literally popping out of my shoes & my mom couldn't afford to buy me new ones.  And then when I had made enough money to buy shoes, I had to help pay the phone & light bill - and so my mom went to K-Mart & bought me a pair of McGregor tennis shoes & I was teased relentlessly about them.  I know other kids I grew up with in similar circumstances who are bitter about all of that now, but I try to view it with compassion and empathy for my mom and dad. 

 

I have not posted on mindsay much lately either for similar reasons.  I haven't seen as much of the stuff that you mentioned, but what I see is negativity - everywhere - and drama over the most silly, trivial little things.  I used to love writing here & bearing my soul, really releasing the things that are pent up inside my heart, but I don't want to anymore because of the negativity. 

 

We all do need to come together & think about someone besides just ourselves - and not just say it but actually do something about it when we can.  No one can control their childhoods, but for most of us (at least in the part of mindsay I participate in) - childhood is long over.  And while we cling to the innocence & good-heartedness of those childhoods - we should grow up & act like adults - with some compassion for our fellow human beings, because like you said - it only takes one quick second for all of our good fortune to be taken away from us - without us having any say so at all.

 

Excellent post!

environgirl on
Re: Mis-Fortune Is RANDOM. Be Careful With Your Karma.
aww! What you wrote in that first paragraph is so similar to one of my roommates experiences. It is hell to be poor and really wish that people would think about that before they went off on how the poor dont do enough to fix their situation!
Thanks so much for sharing! and you are right, things are so random that we have to act like a real community so that we all live well and our kids live even better...
kingzjewel on
Re: Mis-Fortune Is RANDOM. Be Careful With Your Karma.
I'm an adult I can take it...
I disagree
not really
but I can't argue with you
your logic is undeniable
and robots arent coming to wipe us all out
and will smith wont have to rescue us

but seriously. I feel you 100% and I am sending you a thousand hugs to comfort an inch of your pain.
environgirl on
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hahahaha
Thanks miss!

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