I don't know if I have enough energy to blog about this today...my mother and my uncle were two of five children. My two aunts died of cancer. Leaving behind my mother, and two uncles. Anyhow to make a long story short...my mother and her youngest brother had a falling out about 2 years ago and didn't speak anymore. I continued to speak to him. Then my mother who had done everything for her mother, her laundry, got her food. Everything. Even when she was in an assisted living facility. They had a falling out also because my grandmother raised my cousin since her mother, my mother's sister died when she was four. Pay attention this gets confusing if you arent already confused. One day my mother's youngest brother, the one she isn't speaking to, got my grandmother a lawyer and she signed everything over to my cousin.Oh and the capper was they didn't tell anybody. So only my uncle and my cousin and my grandmother knew. Now I never liked my grandmother much, she was evil and vindictive, but she was still my grandmother. Needless to say, this caused my mother to feel very hurt, and rightly so. My mother had done everything for her and she goes behind her back and doesn't tell anybody. So my mother told my cousin that since she was getting everything in the will she should have the responsibility of everything else. My mother stopped talking to her mother and my cousin consequently didn't like the fact that she had actual responsibility in her stoner child like existence. Anyhow, so my mother doesn't talk to anyone except her older brother. I still kept open communication with all of them. I didn't want to get involved with all the bullshit. Anyhow so I find out this morning, by way of an obituary...my grandmother died on Friday and was buried on Saturday. That's right. You read that right...she died. Nobody called me. Didn't hear a thing. Neither did my mother or my uncle. And when I confronted my cousin she said it was my mothers fault because she didn't want to know. And she was sorry if I couldn't see the truth. So my day has been filled with anger and I have very bad heartburn because I am sick to my stomach that these vindictive fucks didn't want my mother to know she died, so they didn't call ANYBODY. And by that I mean anybody. Not her friends, her remaining family members. Nobody.

 
   

 


 
 
itsjustheather on
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I don't even know what to say. This is awful. It's hard to believe someone would take such hate to their grave. I'm sorry you're going through this.
doriangray on
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The thing that kills me is the fact that they didn't tell anybody at all. Just the two of them and my other two cousins that live out of state. They are trying to make use out to be the monsters in all of this. All because they think my mother was upset about not getting money when she died. It wasn't even about that. It was about the fact that my mother did everything for her while my cousin lived a care free existence. So when my mother gave her something to do she resented her for it. If there is a hell the rest of my mothers side of the family has their own special place reserved.
medream09 on
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OH MY GOD

 

That bitch.

 

I'm sorry.

 

<<HUGS>>

 

I'm here to vent if you need me.

 

How can anyone possibly be that vindictive and selfish?  My thoughts and prayers are with you, your mom, and uncle.  They say blood is thicker than water, but sometimes I wonder...

 

<<HUGS>>

doriangray on
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Well I wrote them off. My uncle and 3 cousins. I never mentioned my mother's other sister who died of cancer had twins who are just as vindictive. The whole family is all about secrets. They have always been shady.
tchmymnd on
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What crap!! Sorry this has happened, It's aweful the way family can be to eachother sometimes, and they continue it, or it gets worse when it comes to death, funerals, and wills.
doriangray on
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Thanks. It is pretty shitty.

 
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