Its one of the hardest phenomenons in the world, that if given the choice of staying or leaving- your significant other choses to leave. As bad as it sounds, it would almost be better if perhaps they had passed away, because then in your mind, you know they didn't abandon you by choice. I know how you feel, as cliche as that sounds. And I know you probably don't want to hear it (again for cliche soundings) but it does get better. And who knows, maybe you will come to the conclusion that you two really weren't meant for one another as you had thought, and that theres someone better out there for you. The older I get, the more I realize that things happen for a reason. You will figure out soon enough. It just (unfortunately) takes time. Be safe, xo.

Wow, you have no idea how much I've been thinking some of the same things.  A friend of mine lost her husband over the summer to a rare disorder, and I've actually thought that it might be easier to be in her shoes, for the exact reasons you named.  Obviously, I don't want my wife to die, but the situation itself does seem like it would be easier.  And, in the 3 weeks since this happened, I've taken many steps toward getting better, but there's a long way to go.  I can only hope you're right, that I will find someone else who's even better for me than she is.  Of course, at this point, I'm still holding on to the chance that she'll still come home.  Thank you for your comments

Feel better, don't worry. Things will look up, just gotta have faith. 

Thank you for writing.

I am going through a divorce too. But in a different view. My parents are the ones getting a divorce, and your point of view gives me an idea of what my dad is thinking.

My mom just decided one day that dad was not it, and that she had to rip us all apart, just so she could be happy. And they were married for over twenty years.

I don't get it...

 

I'm sorry you have to be going through this situation.  I can only imagine what it must be like from your perspective.  I guess I'm lucky in that we don't have any kids and we're just a little over 2 years into our marriage. 

 

I've been saying the same thing a lot lately.  I don't get it.  Nothing about it makes sense, and it sounds like your family is dealing with the same emotions.  I wish you the best.  Take things one day at a time, they will get better.